Did he get the hint? (Page 2)

"So I sent my Scorpio interest a text today asking how his day was. His reply was "you scared of me?"
"Hello .. come in .."

Sorry, but I dont understand this....expand please....Come in and what? "PLAY"

In Scorpio language - "you scared of me?" = phone me, speak to me...

"This man is toying around, tickling her fancy, and probably finding it quite humorous .. and because she keeps throwing herself at him, he sees her as desperate."

ummmm how? I havent slept with him and I dont make myself available everytime he calls or wants to do something.

"1) If I feel lonely, I may play !!!
(not sure if Southern's scorp guy is doing the same thing)."

I had a conversation with him one night and I asked what he was doing. He said he was playing a video game. I asked "what game are you playing?" His reply: "A game called "X"" (the "X" being MY name.) I kept it in the back of my mind but laughed it off while on the phone with him.

"I would take it one day at a time. I studied astrology a long time ago so I can tell you there's probably more to him than just a scorpio sun. Do you know his b-day??"

27th of Oct.

Trust a virgo to go into psycho-analysis mode...lol

You have to tap into which ever side he is exhibiting .. for instance, at the moment, he is just keeping you on a string, but, not letting you go .. so, pull that string to give you the slack.

Make the Scorp think you are a hot commodity, you are in demand AND you are currently consider who will win you.

Let him chase YOU .. the Scorp man wants to chase and conquer, however, he does not want a loose woman, so don't act promiscious

However, all the while you do this (making him think that there are tons of men wanting your attention) .. make sure he knows that he has your attention too, that you think he's sexy and a viable contender.

The Scorp man does not want an easy catch .. make him work to snare you, just make sure you give him little hints that he's in the competition. If you ask him if he's on the same page .. in his eyes, you've already been captured with little effort.

However, you have to be classy about it .. don't appear slutty .. appear regal, proud, self-assured, compitent (sp) .. you have in your mind that sex is the deciding factor as to whether he will take you seriously and think you're a lady and this is in error. He won't be judging your virtue by withholding from him .. he will be judging it by the way you can get ANY man you want without giving your sex to them, because you can capture those men with your power of this femininity.

As you can see, with the X game, he's trying to get you to open up your sexuality .. but, this isn't so you will give it to him. A Scorpio man has the sexual prowess to get ANY women he wants, so, what you have (vagina) is nothing that he can't get from another .. he wants you to be confident in your sexuality, not the sex itself.

He's looking for sexy ... without putting out.

My favorite analogy of Scorpio's (which I've adopted after raising one), is .. slick Muther Fukcers .. though, they are very cordial, warm and friendly .. they are also 10 paces ahead of everybody else. My point in saying this, he already has you figured out ..

.. so mix it up, give him a mystery, be complex

It's about power, southernT .. POWER

It's with the "power" of your womanhood that makes you a great catch .. not the sex itself.

Everybody is different, of course .. but, from listening to Scorpio's in here, for the most part .. this is what they are attracked to.

Put them on the tugging end and they will pull .. give them all the slack and they will wrap it around your neck.

I don't mean this in a bad way .. this is how they are. I know watching my son, my brother (both Scorps) .. easy women are disrespected and by easy, I don't mean sexually, I mean readily available.

Perhaps, Blingy could be of most value since he's on this cusp .. isn't he?

27th is not a cusp....22/23 Oct is a cuspian..but I guess October ones are a little more on the cheery side and well a bit more libra like..

puke!..

"I notice a lot of guys today just aren't aware of how stupid they get, or listen to people who try to tell them."

lol

It's about listening to the meaning of the unsaid, or reading between the lines ...

Perhaps, a lot of people get bored with the chase .. I know I would, but, he is keeping her on a string and not letting her go ..


So, she has to gather that string to give her the slack and make him pull

Severing the string isn't a bad move in this scenerio .. sometimes, people don't realize exactly what they had until it's lost.

"In addition, he said scorp girls chased me more than I chased them. However, once they figured what they caught.... that's another story...."


hahahaha ...


It appears that V-men go well with S-females .. but, does it work the other way around? How many S-men in here have experiences with a V-lady?

southernT .. maybe you should go to the Virgo board and see what they say. There are a few Virgo women in this community who might have some insight and they may not come to this board regularly.

I'm ashamed to admit that I sent him text 2hrs ago saying that I was looking foward to snuggling with him yesterday. I know I shouldnt have, but I couldnt help it. Of course he hasnt resonded. We've known eachother for a year now, I see the point in playing games and I feel I should be able to express my true feelings. I just dont see the point in playing the "chase" game. If a dont like a girl, then stop the chase. Why chase me for almost a year now? Arrgggg.

"Virgos tend to be a little absent minded and shy. Something a scorp will probably get tired of since they can't stand subtlety, which is a virgo trademark."

I can be shy, but I have no problem speaking my mind. Actually this is something that I've learned to tone down within the past year. I can shy, but very direct in my opinion or getting my point across.

I want to thank EVERYBODY for helping me through my mini-crisis. 🙂 I'm sure I'll be posting plenty more about this guy over the next few weeks. And given his previous pattern, my clock says that right about now, he should be pulling away and disapering for a couple of weeks. Thing is, I dont expect him to resurface after this time. We'll see...

You ladies say you want the guy who is affectionate and all over you, yet the ones that don't, drive you absolutely insane to the point of obsession.

It DOES suck when your feelings aren't returned though. This guy obviously has some interest, otherwise you just wouldn't hear from him at all.

"He's either retarded, a player, or... there's something about you that he likes and wants."

Would he hang around this long if he just wanted sex? This is my biggest fear. Surely a guy would not hang around for a year just to get the goods would he?

"She had the lady point me out to her, and then she started gathering info on me -- I had no idea this was going on"

Yep...this Scorp guy did the same thing. He actually had a few friends that went to the same college that I went to and he got info about me that way. (And he went to college a few states away.) So it blew my mind that he was able to get info on me. Probably just wanted to make sure I wasnt the campus H0 $ ...LOL

What sucks right now is that I'm at work and I just spent 30 minutes in the bathroom crying. I'm confused. I know that I have feelings for him and I know that they are genuine. Half of you guys are saying that he would have asked me out by now if he WAS interested...And the other half of you are saying that he wouldnt continue to come around if he WASNT interested and that he is just unsure at the moment. Is he not interested or is he waiting for me to put my feelings out there?

(That was your Q, SouthernT, to smile)

Awwwww.....believe it or not, That actually made me smile. 🙂 That was very kind of you. I feel a little better now. And I just spent 1 1/2 on the phone with my dad about this even though I'm supposed to be working right now. Funny thing, I'v never told my dad about this guy until today. But for the past year, whenever my dad comes into town to visit, he's been randomly out of no where ask me "OK, so who is he and what's his name?" Even though I've never said a word about him to my dad until today. Daddys have some good intuition I guess. My dad said that he wants to see if I chase him (to give some indication that I care), BUT he wants to see if I am going to chase with dignity and in a tasteful way. In other words, will I throw sex out there at an attempt to keep his attention, or show up banging on his door crying and wanting attention. Dad says NOT to do any of that and to stand my ground. (Then of course he went into the religious aspects of dating, which I won't bother to bore you guys with right now.) But, in a nutshell, that was his take on the situation.

"I think the problem here is that Southern is young...well...at least she sounds young...and I don't think any amount of advice is going to help."

LOL....I'm 28. So I'm not THAT young. But my problem is more so inexperience in dating. I've never dated before. My last relationship lasted 5 years and that was in college.

"Freeeeeeeeeeeedom
I won't let you down
Freeeeeeeeeeeedom
I will not give you up
Freeeeeeeeeeeedom...

::Applaude. Thankyou George Michael...thankyou very much::"

LMAO 🙂

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That's the best I can do.

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Alright, this is better.

OMG!!!!

SouthernT, I think we were seperated at birth. 🙂

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"This guy has been trying to get intimate with you and you've been exhibiting Virgo coldness. He will keep pulling away until you start relaxing and warming up."

Wrong....people thing that Virgo's are so cold and that is only a facade. We APPEAR to be that way on the outside. We are the warmest most affectionate poeple that you will ever meet. We just dont show it until we trust you. And we are very intimate and warm on the inside. The only people that will come to know this about Virgo's are the ones that care to put in the time and effort to REALLY find out.

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Oh, how I love Judge Judy, court adjourned. The Great Oz has spoken. That "Wrong" statement is SO very true. I could NOT have said it better myself. 🙂

Ok, I have read the entire thread. Scorpio men are very confusing. Its definitely my same situation all over again as far as behavior patterns with communicarelating. I think I will pluck some gray hairs from my head in your honor ST. 🙂

"Oh, how I love Judge Judy, court adjourned. The Great Oz has spoken. That "Wrong" statement is SO very true. I could NOT have said it better myself."

"Ok, I have read the entire thread. Scorpio men are very confusing. Its definitely my same situation all over again as far as behavior patterns with communicarelating. I think I will pluck some gray hairs from my head in your honor ST."

Why Thank you. (Bowing) 🙂


So any of the Scorpio's want to tell me why this guy invited me to come hang out with him and his mother while we were leaving the gym earlier this week? BUT I will say, that he put the invitation out there and when I followed up on it Thursday, he said that the two of them where out and about and asked what time I wanted to come over. I told him a time and guess what—? NO response.

Calling all Scorpio's now....

I don't understand why Scorpio men are viewed as confusing people. I see myself as consistent but why not others? It has dawned on me that maybe we are just different and that doesn't come naturally to people. The definition of stress is "the body's reaction to change" and perhapps people don't react very well to such a diverse persona.

"I don't understand why Scorpio men are viewed as confusing people. I see myself as consistent but why not others? It has dawned on me that maybe we are just different and that doesn't come naturally to people. The definition of stress is "the body's reaction to change" and perhapps people don't react very well to such a diverse persona."

Here's the thing: YOU are the only one that knows what is going on inside your head. Just because you know what you are thinking, Scorpio's expect everyone else to know what they are thinking also. Everything is clear to YOU because it's inside of YOUR head. It's not clear to anybody else because it hasnt crossed the point of being known outside of your head. In other words, the only reason some people have difficulties with scorpio's is because they have everything going on inside their head and refuse to comunicate it to the outside world.

Prime example: When I asked my Scorpio guy what his intentions where. His reply "I'm a good guy and I have good intentions" I asked a specific question and he continued to go by what he had in his head and refused to let it be known to somebody outside of his head. (i.e.....ME) Scorio's DO NOT communicate. I asked WHAT his intentions where and he replied by saying that they were good. Ok, well that didnt answer my question. I asked him WHAT the intentions were, NOT whether they were good or bad. I asked a DIRECT question and he gave an OBSCURE answer. Scropio's communication is terrible. (and to the scorpios on this board, these statements are not directed at all of you. I am making theses statements based on my personal experience with my particular scorpio guy.)


And then on top of that, a Scorpio will just keep on going going whether somebody understands their actions or not. And then they sit and wonder why people don't get the point. The FIXED WATER sign. And this is why Virgo and Scorpio go well together. Scorpio is FIXED and Virgo is ADAPTABLE to change and we are patient...but smart.

You sound angry about this. I want to focus on one phrase you said before we move on. You said that we don't communicate well. This is only true unless we are asked. I'll admit that it is like pulling teeth, but you must understand that if you are trusted then we will reveal. It's hard to argue that. You just need to know how to ask a question without making us feel insecure, honestly. Sensativity is our main trait.

Then again, no one says you are required to bend for anyone. It is simple though. You mentioned we need someone able to adapt. Well, you are right.

"You sound angry about this. I want to focus on one phrase you said before we move on. You said that we don't communicate well. This is only true unless we are asked. I'll admit that it is like pulling teeth, but you must understand that if you are trusted then we will reveal. It's hard to argue that. You just need to know how to ask a question without making us feel insecure, honestly. Sensativity is our main trait."

OK, I can swallow that like a big girl...LOL. What you just said actually helps me out a little. So, when he trusts me, then he will reveal....Interesting. So, he has not told me WHAT his intentions are because he doesnt trust me quite yet. And he is experiencing my coldness still, because I dont quite trust him yet.


Whats unique about Scorpio's & Virgo's is that they are EXACTLY alike. Both are brutally honest yet sensitive to a fault.

So lets get to the main issue. How does one build trust with a scorpio? I'll probably start a new thread with that question.....

"So, he has not told me WHAT his intentions are because he doesnt trust me quite yet."

No, there are plenty of reasons why he wouldn't answer it right away. For example, he may be curious about your reaction to his reticence, to see how badly do you need to know, and why. He may not have good intentions, or any intentions in particular and doesn't feel like divulging. He may like feeling like he has the upper hand. Those are just reasons off of the top of my head(btw, I think #1 is the most likely).