"Though, I need to re-evaluate my interpretation of the term, "emotional support", from how I originally percieved it, likely won't change my desire for an exit."
It's funny how we (people) ask for advice. Before we ask for advice, we already have it made up in our minds what we want. At the end of the day, regardless of the advice given, we are still going to do what we originally wanted to do.
Point Being:
1) YOU will still exit your marriage.
2) and I still want this man. Although I know what to do differently from this point. And it may or may not turn the sitution around. (and I know you want to absolutley strangle me for saying that and you probably just threw your hands up in the air, 🙂 )
We can only live within what our realities are willing to acknowledge.
It's like parents who try to tell their kids what happened in their youth as an absolute direction to follow .. completely ignorant of the fact that the only thing they can do is just give them an example of a life-experience, for their kids to apply at their own discretion.
Isn't this what makes the sharing of experiences so beautiful? We can pick a point of reference, see how and if it fits .. whereas, we might not have been able to see if for ourselves, for whatever reasons.
Rest assured .. I ponder everything ::sighs:: This is what happens when a Pisces lives with a VIRGO, lol. Though, I may not agree, at this time, I remain open to input from other people when sorting out my life.
It's really not, TB. I have very strong will power. What's better is I'm not even tempted but I guess you have to be the same type to understand it. No wonder why uou don't.
"It's really not, TB. I have very strong will power. What's better is I'm not even tempted but I guess you have to be the same type to understand it. No wonder why uou don't."
I can totally relate to this. Hence the fact that I have been celibate for two years now. No love? NO SEX. I simply dont put myself in situations to where I would be tempted or compromise myself.
Although it doesnt change the fact that I crace it DAILY.....lol
ummmm....Thanks for you input likeBrad, but P-Angel pretty much talked me through this already, as you can see.....
All of us end up liking who we like. It's a gut feeling. Everybody has it towards somebody. I still have that feeling. But I now understand that I should not act on it anymore unless this guy does a total 360. Which I've accepted that he won't. Emotion does not have to equal reaction or action for me anymore.
"Don't be ridiculous. I can tell all the way from here that you havn't changed. This is just a minor lapse."
🙂 lol....As long as I dont initiate anything, then what's the harm? He and I have been going through this cycle for a year now:CYCLE--
-I sit back and dont do anything. Dont call or anything. -then he initiates and calls -then we hang out. I dont ask questions. we enjoy eachother's comapany. -then he wont call for a few weeks. -I sit back and dont do anything. Don't call or anything. -then he initiates and calls -then we hang out. I dont ask questions. we enjoy eachother's company....... .......and so on and so forth.....
this happens over and over and over. I havent met anybody that I'm serious about so I'm free to hang out with him (and other guys) just to have something to do and have another oppurtunity to learn more about him. And each time we hang out, I learn more about him and start liking him a little more and we feel a little more comfortable each time.
It's only been here very recently that I have started to question if we are on the same page. (within the last month)
Are you suggesting that I stop responding to him period?
-I sit back and dont do anything. Dont call or anything. -then he initiates and calls -then we hang out. I dont ask questions. we enjoy eachother's comapany. -then he wont call for a few weeks. -I sit back and dont do anything. Don't call or anything. -then he initiates and calls -then we hang out. I dont ask questions. we enjoy eachother's company....... .......and so on and so forth.....
He's a Scorpio .. he HAS to be embraced .. he has to feel like you're days on this planet will surly end without him.
Not responding, and just sitting back, waiting for him to lead you, won't accomplish that. Quite the opposite .. he's a water person ..
.. he wants to feel desired.
But, don't listen to me because then I'll get started again and don't want to do that. I'll just go fix a late supper 🙂
"Not responding, and just sitting back, waiting for him to lead you, won't accomplish that."
I initiate but not more than what he does. I try to keep it level. Enough for him to know that I'm interested and that enough for him to know that I'm feeling him.
But in this case, anything I do may be a lost cause. If he doesnt like me "in that way", then it wont matter if I initiate or not.
"And I think any woman who knows how valuable her life is, will do it. My scorpio had had girl firends who left him. These women were wiser than me. They were more woman than me. In every corner there is a candidate. A scorpio is not the God's own number one."
I have a really hard time following your thoughts/comments sometimes. Dont understand what you mean.
We are NOT dating. I've just know him for a year and I am interested in dating him. We've just been friends and getting to know eachother for the most part. We havent been on a formal date and havent even kissed.
Welcome to the world of VIRGO. We analyze and think constantly. It's in our make up. We can't help it. It's natural to us but tiring to everyone else. And the thing about it: On the outside, you would NEVER even begin to imagine that all of this is going on inside a Virgo. We cant help it and cant turn it off. It applies to dating, shopping, working....everything.