My Scorp is leaving me for a Scorp... (Page 3)

Posted by OmagaIII
You are right. And I understand what you mean. I am just scared of what might happen if I go full taurus on her ass.

But I am now at a point where she has been waving that fucking red cloth long enough.

I didn't fully understand what was meant before about using that part of me, I do now!

hmm very interesting. it's probably your gemini mars. Or the opposite mars to moon aspect that's making you question yourself.

Even some young bulls are very headstrong and take charge types, especially with your venus and mercury in aries.

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Posted by OmagaIII
You are right. And I understand what you mean. I am just scared of what might happen if I go full taurus on her ass.

But I am now at a point where she has been waving that fucking red cloth long enough.

I didn't fully understand what was meant before about using that part of me, I do now!

hmm very interesting. it's probably your gemini mars. Or the opposite mars to moon aspect that's making you question yourself.

Even some young bulls are very headstrong and take charge types, especially with your venus and mercury in aries.

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I don't know what it is but you are very right. I do question myself a lot. Stuff like this also causes me to immediately doubt in myself even though a logical part of me knows it isn't my fault I still can't help but feel that it is.

I am wearing myself down with this and I need to stop it. That is a part that is my fault. But this thing with her, I need to address it and fast. I cannot evolve to the next phase and move on if I don't, and currently I see it as a towering wall right in front of me.

It is so so stupid to be fearful of losing her but also being fearful of telling her I love her. Totally contradictory and I hate how I try and analyze this as anything other than embracing what and who I love and what I want out of life.

i dont know if this rings true for you:
http://astromatrix.org/Horoscopes/Planet-Aspects/Moon-Opposition-Mars<BR>
"Inner tensions and unresolved issues are likely to be projected into social relationships; and this creates difficult experiences and a scene for crises or turning points. Your inner pressures are released within relationships, through arguments, dissension, provocation, and antagonism; you take advantage of even trivial issues to turn them into energy-filled confrontations and clashes. This will obviously affect career prospects and domestic life; and these rebellious feelings will always be stimulated by anyone imposing his or her will on you through authority, orders, or criticism. Anyone crossing this line and irritating your feelings is liable to be confronted by an extremely obstinate and stubborn character. Co-workers will soon lose patience with an emotionally erratic colleague, who can suddenly become aggressive when facing criticism or personal comment; and people will learn to withdraw from contact if you behave in this way. You feel emotionally uncomfortable; and others may find you hard to understand. You need to resolve the difficulty of instincts and emotions co-operating with an active and assertive Martian energy. Sometimes you may favor one of the planets; and, when this is temporarily Mars, you are liable to act impulsively, making sudden decisions which could be irrational, foolish, and lacking in forethought. Yet such actions may sometimes allow you to break free from restrictive situations. Expressing the lunar energy may encourage cautious self-protection, remaining with the status quo, and being afraid to move beyond familiar behaviour patterns. The challenge is to unite both energies, honoring each as equally valid and necessary for a well-balanced personality. Part of this aggressive and assertive nature may be rooted in your relationship with your mother. Childhood feelings may have been denied through a lack of emotional contact, or through having to submit to an oppressive home r?gime of duty and behaviour. In adult life, you refuse to submit to this again, yet unconsciously repeat the pattern by attempting to impose your will on others. Hoping to gain superiority, you may be too assertive in your desire to become a leader and not a follower."

lisabethur8

Some of it not all though.

I just don't know how to let go of the fear and balance these energies and feelings. :/

I do love her so very much and I don't have anything to fear with love, but I can't convince my heart that. ;(

@Omagaiii: :O someone needs to bi+ch slap that spoiled brat into her place (i volunteer) She is WAYYYY too immature for you, no wonder she was shred into pieces by her ex(s) [you mentioned it a while back, i think]. You MUST let go of her shes a big cauldron of drama.

PS: dont even think of going back to her unless you get a serious apology out of her AND she straightens up act/behavior.

;( ;( ;(

She has now removed me from everything.

I guess I lost ;( ;( ;(

This is going to turn out bad for me. ;( ;( ;(

Posted by FrostAndBite
While I have been following this thread for the most part (75% , so I might have missed something) I didn't really comment since others seem to have well rounded responses.

But man, you didn't lose. You just couldn't step up to the plate. This is why I never really advanced my relationships with Libras or Taurs. Venusians take forever to get out of their head and fall into the unknown with me.

It sucks, but you have to take it on the chin and use it to make you a more self aware person. Someone who the woman you fall in love with next understands and desires. Use the experience to know who you are and what you want in a partner.

Thanks friend. Thanks to everyone.

I started the post by saying this was my choice, one of many. I made a good choice in her, bad on the follow through and I guess Saterday night just knocked her and this is how she retaliates. Fck that stinger burns, and when in love, even more so. ;( ;( ;(

She is either pissed hurt because of how I handled the situation or she figured out that it was my jealouse streak that struck a blow.

Posted by fishinamaize
the only thing that is obvious is that you are on two different pages.

But OP... you seem to really hate the people she spends time with. But who a person spends time with is a huge reflection of who they themselves are. Just think about that.

I guess so yes. I see all the good in her but she still ventures to the other side. She deleted me but still has her new stalker on... The writing is on the wall ;( ;( ;(

Fck, you know, she usually has a 'talk' with ppl before she does this, I am not even granted an audience...

It just don't know if this is deliberate, or if it is a rage fit or even if it is some kind of app or platform issue.

Either way I still feel like shit.

I usually apologise if I make a mistake or said something I should not have, and saterday I stuck to my guns, so I really don't know what this is.

Posted by OmagaIII
Either way I still feel like shit...

I see.

Something is missing from that story (Saturday).

Or she's crazy, but given the various ways this thread had unfolded, I'm gonna go with the former.

This is not to suggest you are lying---so let's be clear about that. Simply, everyone has their pov when they discuss a problem. We only have yours and if we are being honest here, your pov has unfolded in such as way you've had many thinking/believing you were actually in a relationship with this women for pages when that was not the case. At all.

I have no problem accepting there are heartless, crazed Scorps out there and if that is the case, then it is. However, her response is too dramatic for someone that has been nonchalant, "everything is cool" up to this point. Especially when you stated she usually talks about these things before cutting someone off. Cold shoulder and ignore you for a few days....yup I can see that. To block you from everything, she is making a definite statement and possibly burning a bridge. That is not something Scorps do easily.


So, out with it. What else happened?

Never mind.

Posted by OmagaIII
So, today feels like disaster.
At some point she tells me she needs to go to the ladies. As jy walks past me she smiles and points to a table a way back behind us.

Here sits a guy and his girl, she walks over, hugs him, which stunned me and his girl and start chatting. Cool.

A fucking half an hour later their food is getting cold, she is still sitting and talking to the guy much to my and his girls dismay. I get so pissed that I get my stuff together to leave.

Then suddenly she is back talking about the guy and the fact the she doesn't know if the girl is his old ex or new girl etc. Now I am really pissed off. So I ask her, 'What does it matter?' And she yaps on about how it does and doesn't.

As I stand up, she clicks, somethibg is wrong. So she suddenly stops me and asks what gives. So I look at her and say you tell me. Immediatly I see she is shocked and floored. So I tell her whay the hell is this, your here with me and you pull stuff like this! She tells me but she went to the ladies and... I stop her abd tell her no. You went and sat with this guy which you just told me is a jerk while he has his girl with him expecting me to do what?

You ~are~ a disaster. I don't know you from Adam and have lost all respect for you. It's no wonder she does what she does, because you allow her to behave this way. Your welcome mat is a blinking light that says..."PLEASE, PLEASE STEP ON ME...WIPE SHIT ON ME" Pathetic.

You waited A HALF AN HOUR? Are you kidding me? No balls fella, none...nada. After five minutes you should have gotten up and walked out. Even AFTER waiting a half an hour you give her a slight brush of a slap on the wrist. smh... Last time I will read this pathetic thread. In fact, please delete it I'm embarrassed for you. I know many Taurus'...I even married one. My ex wouldn't take shit like this for a second. I do not feel sorry for you at all. That's all I have to say.

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Posted by OmagaIII
Either way I still feel like shit...

I see.

Something is missing from that story (Saturday).

Or she's crazy, but given the various ways this thread had unfolded, I'm gonna go with the former.

This is not to suggest you are lying---so let's be clear about that. Simply, everyone has their pov when they discuss a problem. We only have yours and if we are being honest here, your pov has unfolded in such as way you've had many thinking/believing you were actually in a relationship with this women for pages when that was not the case. At all.

I have no problem accepting there are heartless, crazed Scorps out there and if that is the case, then it is. However, her response is too dramatic for someone that has been nonchalant, "everything is cool" up to this point. Especially when you stated she usually talks about these things before cutting someone off. Cold shoulder and ignore you for a few days....yup I can see that. To block you from everything, she is making a definite statement and possibly burning a bridge. That is not something Scorps do easily.


So, out with it. What else happened?

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Nothing. And I swear to this. When we got there she asked me what is going on, again I said nothing... Then things picked up ect... and about an hour or so we where really having fun joking around. Then at just past 8 she would have just went to the bathroom and that is where stuff spiraled. ;(

Nothing else happened. It really was ok with chats, PDA and joking around.

Ok, so something is definitely not right.

Friends of me and her have asked me what is going on since she is wiping all of her accounts and contacts.

Rebirth? Or is the dodgy asshole pushing to breakpoint cause he can't take no for an answer.

Ok, great I get that. We have already established that I fucked this up. Perfect, no problem or disagreement there.

I am asking, why are other people asking me why she is deleting them and all her profiles? Is she that fucked-off with me that she would get rid of everyone else as well?

She told me on Saterday that after telling the new guy that it won't work that he has been starting to harass her and send weird texts and keeps calling every few min till 1am 2am in the morning or till she switches off her phone.

Beat me with a stick because I am worried about this, since others are asking me if she is ok.

Posted by fishinamaize

Posted by OmagaIII
Ok, great I get that. We have already established that I fucked this up. Perfect, no problem or disagreement there.

I am asking, why are other people asking me why she is deleting them and all her profiles? Is she that fucked-off with me that she would get rid of everyone else as well?

She told me on Saterday that after telling the new guy that it won't work that he has been starting to harass her and send weird texts and keeps calling every few min till 1am 2am in the morning or till she switches off her phone.

Beat me with a stick because I am worried about this, since others are asking me if she is ok.

No, what Tiziani said. If others ask you if she's alright, tell them to ask her. If they can't get ahold of her, there's a reason. She might just need space from the world; she's a water sign. Sounds like she has a lot of drama going on in her life, and not just from you- she's probably just backing away from all of it.

Whether you fucked up or not, I have no idea. But you will fuck up if you don't also back away from the drama, and let it die down.

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Understood.

Posted by Infinite8

Posted by fishinamaize
IS, in general I'd support that advice.

But honestly, I think OP is too emotionally compromised to do that WITHOUT expectations, and that will only make things worse. No offense, OP, but I think we've all been there.

+1

IS, I think he's too angry right now to pull that off. He REALLY needs to cool off and take some steps back to approach her again in a healthier way.

If he does approach her now, he'll only dig the hole deeper.

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+1

I need to give her space and myself space. I am too emotional atm, not angry, really not angry. Confused, yes and a bit stunned, yes. I have been talking a lot of this out with friends I can and do trust. But you are all right, now would be the worst time ever to contact her, now would absolutely guarantee a write off of the best thing that has ever happened to me. 🙂

So, I'll back out.

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Posted by IrresistableScorp
Men are weird. lol

But okay. Don't contact her. Personally I would appreciate it. shrug

Even if it promises another argument?!?!

I would appreciate it only if he is kind and loving... But, if he comes just to spill more poison then, it will make matters worse. And my anger will deepen.

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lol, ouch...

Jk, it is ok, I understand you point of view. I have no intent on creating resentment. I just need to shape up. Usually this takes a while... lol but this time around it can't, I need to be objective calm and centered before contacting her again, and hopefully that could be sooner than later.

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Posted by OmagaIII

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Posted by IrresistableScorp
Men are weird. lol

But okay. Don't contact her. Personally I would appreciate it. shrug

Even if it promises another argument?!?!

I would appreciate it only if he is kind and loving... But, if he comes just to spill more poison then, it will make matters worse. And my anger will deepen.

lol, ouch...

Jk, it is ok, I understand you point of view. I have no intent on creating resentment. I just need to shape up. Usually this takes a while... lol but this time around it can't, I need to be objective calm and centered before contacting her again, and hopefully that could be sooner than later.

Sorry OMAGAIII,

Poison was too strong of a word. I wrote in haste.

What I meant was, just another negative experience.

Next time you see her... Make sure sure are the bigger, better person (as IS said). But, just make sure you feel it inside too. Or else, it just won't work.

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Hehehehe, no worries Infinite8, I totally understood what you meant, no harm no foul, and besides, I agree 😛

I will do so. I am starting to feel better after talking to 2 of my close friends about this(Although I do miss her a lot). No sense in bottling it up, and no sense in draining my own energy, I need to be healthy and stable for both our sake. (No matter what the direction of this.)

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
How about you give yourself a time out from this (the scorp and everything swirling around the scorp).....like maybe 72 hours?

For 72 hours....'put her away', including everything that 'touches' her (i.e. facebook, instagram, twitter, turn off your phone, etc) and disperse your energy somewhere else for a bit?

I think you need the break, tbh.

Thanks 😄

Will do! Easy as well since she has already deleted Facebook, WhatsApp BBM ect... lol