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Posted by LunarMaidenPosted by NotYourAverageAquarius
Isn't it funny how the majority of women wear some form of make up.. Either in excess or moderation EVEN THOUGH they apparently aren't naive to the fact that the majority of men don't seem to care too much for make up at all.
A conundrum of sorts wouldn't you say.....
Almost every women you talk to also feels that their eyelashes are inferior or shorter in length than what is supposedly desirable. Women also seem to envy mens eyelashes... as if they are the perfect example of the kind of eyelashes they wished they had for themselves.
All I can say is either the make and/or other compounds used on women's eyelashes are whats actually making them shorter (being the only common denominator difference between the two sexes outside of just being a female or male) OR men were just genetically meant to have longer eyelashes than women. Thus making short eyelashes be what it means to be truly feminine.
I have long eyelashes that frame large almond shaped eyes. Women compliment my eyes all the time. Especially the long eyelashes. And yes even with long eye lashes I wear mascara to enhance and make a more dramatic effect. But its done to slightly enhance. Not over the top. Women look to other women for beauty.click to expand
You would be the first female I ever heard say that!
Posted by NotYourAverageAquariusPosted by LunarMaidenPosted by NotYourAverageAquarius
Isn't it funny how the majority of women wear some form of make up.. Either in excess or moderation EVEN THOUGH they apparently aren't naive to the fact that the majority of men don't seem to care too much for make up at all.
A conundrum of sorts wouldn't you say.....
Almost every women you talk to also feels that their eyelashes are inferior or shorter in length than what is supposedly desirable. Women also seem to envy mens eyelashes... as if they are the perfect example of the kind of eyelashes they wished they had for themselves.
All I can say is either the make and/or other compounds used on women's eyelashes are whats actually making them shorter (being the only common denominator difference between the two sexes outside of just being a female or male) OR men were just genetically meant to have longer eyelashes than women. Thus making short eyelashes be what it means to be truly feminine.
I have long eyelashes that frame large almond shaped eyes. Women compliment my eyes all the time. Especially the long eyelashes. And yes even with long eye lashes I wear mascara to enhance and make a more dramatic effect. But its done to slightly enhance. Not over the top. Women look to other women for beauty.
You would be the first female I ever heard say that!click to expand
Which part?
Posted by capgirl69
As for the OP:
I think it's odd behavior and I agree with the ladies who say it is about control, and to me, would be a huge red flag.
My Scorp likes to see me dressed up and with makeup and he likes it better if he thinks or knows that it's all just for him. He doesn't care if I walk around with makeup or not, he tells me I am beautiful all the time, no matter what. But he does get an extra thrill if I were to put on some fancy stuff right before bed, for example, then he knows it is just for him and not to impress anyone else.
That being said, he is naturally suspicious, it's just part of his nature, and any changes in behavior cause him to raise an eyebrow. When he first moved in here, he had a fit one morning when I got dressed for work, because I was wearing a matched lacy underwear set. I guess he had assumed I just wore that stuff just for him, he was perturbed that I was wearing it all day, lol. But I assured him that I just like to wear nice underwear and he got over it. I don't wear any makeup most of the time anymore, but yesterday I was wearing lip balm and when he kissed me he noticed. He asked me why I was wearing lip balm. Seriously, I just had dry lips. lol. Gotta love him.
But he would NEVER try to restrict me in any way. He's not stealing my underwear or my makeup, sometimes he will make a stink about something, but I do what I want anyway if he is being unreasonable and he gets over it. If I feel like his objection is reasonable then I go with what he says.
damn girl, lol he tells you all the time you're beautiful. See? All this scorpio sun males astrology talk is all wrong. heehee.
I just noticed a comment that I had intended to touch upon.
This is a friendly "for what it's worth" advice concerning makeup and apparel to all you "ladies" out there.
Please note that I am addressing two groups - those in a relationship and those who are not.
Those who are NOT in a relationship, for whatever reason, may doll yourselves up however you wish.
Those ladies who ARE in a relationship, "may" and possibly will have to be conscientious about their man's feelings on the matter of choice make-up and apparel, if they want to keep them at peace.
Ladies, it's hard enough being a man, as it is. We are expected to do things a certain way in the man's world. When it comes to matters of the heart, we are forced to keep it to ourselves in front of other men. Emotions are to be kept in check and undercover. Our masculinity is on the line 24/7. We don't
spend much time babysitting our feelings with each other as women do with other women.
It's a double-edged sword that can leave us appearing cold and heartless, inspiring every filthy
dirty word for a name.
When you doll yourselves up and "IF" your man gets antzy about it, it could be that there's other things
in the background of the relationship that is putting a strain on his security. IF he is feeling
insecure in the relationship, your make-up may send the wrong signal to him that you might be tired
of him and are painting "bait" for some new man on your face. This does not help his esteem and his
behavior may be totally mystifying to you, leading you to think he is a "control freak", when in
fact, you're probably scaring him "shitless", as some might call it and without saying it, he really
doesn't want to lose you, but he is trapped on the razor's edge of that double-edged sword.
You might talk to him about it.
He might deny it at first, but the best thing you can do is to lay truck-loads of reassurances that
you love him, only him, and that you are not interested in anyone else..... and it had better be the
truth. That's if you want to keep him. And the "girl's night out" business can inspire the same
spooky feelings in a man who's relationship might be stressed, as it were.
Again, for what it's worth. take it or leave it, your mileage may vary.
This is a friendly "for what it's worth" advice concerning makeup and apparel to all you "ladies" out there.
Please note that I am addressing two groups - those in a relationship and those who are not.
Those who are NOT in a relationship, for whatever reason, may doll yourselves up however you wish.
Those ladies who ARE in a relationship, "may" and possibly will have to be conscientious about their man's feelings on the matter of choice make-up and apparel, if they want to keep them at peace.
Ladies, it's hard enough being a man, as it is. We are expected to do things a certain way in the man's world. When it comes to matters of the heart, we are forced to keep it to ourselves in front of other men. Emotions are to be kept in check and undercover. Our masculinity is on the line 24/7. We don't
spend much time babysitting our feelings with each other as women do with other women.
It's a double-edged sword that can leave us appearing cold and heartless, inspiring every filthy
dirty word for a name.
When you doll yourselves up and "IF" your man gets antzy about it, it could be that there's other things
in the background of the relationship that is putting a strain on his security. IF he is feeling
insecure in the relationship, your make-up may send the wrong signal to him that you might be tired
of him and are painting "bait" for some new man on your face. This does not help his esteem and his
behavior may be totally mystifying to you, leading you to think he is a "control freak", when in
fact, you're probably scaring him "shitless", as some might call it and without saying it, he really
doesn't want to lose you, but he is trapped on the razor's edge of that double-edged sword.
You might talk to him about it.
He might deny it at first, but the best thing you can do is to lay truck-loads of reassurances that
you love him, only him, and that you are not interested in anyone else..... and it had better be the
truth. That's if you want to keep him. And the "girl's night out" business can inspire the same
spooky feelings in a man who's relationship might be stressed, as it were.
Again, for what it's worth. take it or leave it, your mileage may vary.
Good point. We women forget that we're not the only ones who suffer bouts of insecurity. Such a stupid, silly thing, insecurity, but sooooo damn pervasive and insidious!
Posted by MoonArtist
Good point. We women forget that we're not the only ones who suffer bouts of insecurity. Such a stupid, silly thing, insecurity, but sooooo damn pervasive and insidious!
if you already KNOW you're beautiful, especially from every man looking at you like you're a piece of dessert and you have to run and hide and flip them off. you dont need your significant other telling you day and night how gorgeous you are. It just seems ridiculous. lmao
Posted by CreoleGeishaPosted by capgirl69
he likes it better if he thinks or knows that it's all just for him... just for him and not to impress anyone else.
I've experienced this with my Scorpio boss/mentor. Our office has a relaxed dress code, but sometimes I dress and make up more professionally for, well, professionalism.
During some important interviews with an accreditation team, I wore eye makeup, matched suit, a little extra jewelry...and he was FURIOUS! I was stunned, the anger was just radiating off of him. He wouldn't look at me, his face was just a tight mask. And when I entered the meeting room and started to sit next to one of the team members, he snapped his fingers at me and pointed at the empty chair next to him. It was awful, like a man summoning a badly behaved dog, and darned if I didn't move right away 'cause I was afraid of what might happen if I didn't.
He never looked at me or spoke to me throughout the interview. During a break I finally turned to him and whispered, "Is something wrong, sir? Have I offended you in some way?" He shook his head and offered a vague excuse, but his mood never improved. I was so relieved when the interview finished.
Funny thing...I really did the extra makeup and dressing up for HIM! Not to impress or attract him, but because I wanted to appear polished and professional and a credit to him and to his company. To me, it was a way of showing respect and demonstrating I took the work seriously.click to expand
I swear to god, your stories of your Scorp boss?? It came out of a romance novel!! Love it. More please, for us readers. ^_^
Posted by Rabbit
I'm not at all insecure!!!
*rolls eyes and goes back to kicking his own self esteem in the gut*
Definitely not! No one would suggest it! If they do I'll gnaw their kneecaps. ARRRRRRRR!!
Thanks everyone for the feedback!
Talked to him about it last night, made him give me my makeup bag back, and he admitted to wondering who I'm "dolling up for" since he loves me all natural.
I explained to him that I do it because it's a social expectation, and that I'm much happier with myself if I look presentable. Reassured him that the only guy I specifically care about looking good for is him.
And so we compromised - I'll put on makeup during weekdays, but when spending time with him, minimal makeup, even in public.
Oh, and I made him wear eyeshadow and lip gloss to teach him a lesson for messing with my stuff, lol. I think he kinda liked the makeover, too. 😛
Talked to him about it last night, made him give me my makeup bag back, and he admitted to wondering who I'm "dolling up for" since he loves me all natural.
I explained to him that I do it because it's a social expectation, and that I'm much happier with myself if I look presentable. Reassured him that the only guy I specifically care about looking good for is him.
And so we compromised - I'll put on makeup during weekdays, but when spending time with him, minimal makeup, even in public.
Oh, and I made him wear eyeshadow and lip gloss to teach him a lesson for messing with my stuff, lol. I think he kinda liked the makeover, too. 😛
Posted by RabbitPosted by MoonArtistPosted by Rabbit
I'm not at all insecure!!!
*rolls eyes and goes back to kicking his own self esteem in the gut*
Definitely not! No one would suggest it! If they do I'll gnaw their kneecaps. ARRRRRRRR!!
With your height, that might be as high up as you can get...click to expand
~sigh~ Yeah, I know. BUT....never underestimate the pain of a vicious kneecap attack!!
Posted by capgirl69Posted by CreoleGeishaPosted by capgirl69
he likes it better if he thinks or knows that it's all just for him... just for him and not to impress anyone else.
I've experienced this with my Scorpio boss/mentor. Our office has a relaxed dress code, but sometimes I dress and make up more professionally for, well, professionalism.
During some important interviews with an accreditation team, I wore eye makeup, matched suit, a little extra jewelry...and he was FURIOUS! I was stunned, the anger was just radiating off of him. He wouldn't look at me, his face was just a tight mask. And when I entered the meeting room and started to sit next to one of the team members, he snapped his fingers at me and pointed at the empty chair next to him. It was awful, like a man summoning a badly behaved dog, and darned if I didn't move right away 'cause I was afraid of what might happen if I didn't.
He never looked at me or spoke to me throughout the interview. During a break I finally turned to him and whispered, "Is something wrong, sir? Have I offended you in some way?" He shook his head and offered a vague excuse, but his mood never improved. I was so relieved when the interview finished.
Funny thing...I really did the extra makeup and dressing up for HIM! Not to impress or attract him, but because I wanted to appear polished and professional and a credit to him and to his company. To me, it was a way of showing respect and demonstrating I took the work seriously.
Wow. That's kind of creepy in a work situation. That would make me feel dirty. lol.click to expand
LOL. I actually call this kind of behavior his "creepy Christian Gray crappola."
Posted by MontgomeryPosted by CreoleGeisha
During some important interviews with an accreditation team, I wore eye makeup, matched suit, a little extra jewelry...and he was FURIOUS! I was stunned, the anger was just radiating off of him. He wouldn't look at me, his face was just a tight mask. And when I entered the meeting room and started to sit next to one of the team members, he snapped his fingers at me and pointed at the empty chair next to him. It was awful, like a man summoning a badly behaved dog, and darned if I didn't move right away 'cause I was afraid of what might happen if I didn't.
😕
Sweetjeezus.
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Honestly ... What bugs me isn't that he snaps his fingers to gesture me to move. The REAL "mind twist" is that I obey him. I CAN'T STAND it and I don't understand it. I think if this were any other person doing this, I would give them a cool blank stare, look away in contempt, or just outright ignore them. I value this professional relationship for lots of reasons, but I've never worked for someone where I would tolerate silliness like this.
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by CreoleGeishaPosted by capgirl69
he likes it better if he thinks or knows that it's all just for him... just for him and not to impress anyone else.
I've experienced this with my Scorpio boss/mentor. Our office has a relaxed dress code, but sometimes I dress and make up more professionally for, well, professionalism.
During some important interviews with an accreditation team, I wore eye makeup, matched suit, a little extra jewelry...and he was FURIOUS! I was stunned, the anger was just radiating off of him. He wouldn't look at me, his face was just a tight mask. And when I entered the meeting room and started to sit next to one of the team members, he snapped his fingers at me and pointed at the empty chair next to him. It was awful, like a man summoning a badly behaved dog, and darned if I didn't move right away 'cause I was afraid of what might happen if I didn't.
He never looked at me or spoke to me throughout the interview. During a break I finally turned to him and whispered, "Is something wrong, sir? Have I offended you in some way?" He shook his head and offered a vague excuse, but his mood never improved. I was so relieved when the interview finished.
Funny thing...I really did the extra makeup and dressing up for HIM! Not to impress or attract him, but because I wanted to appear polished and professional and a credit to him and to his company. To me, it was a way of showing respect and demonstrating I took the work seriously.
I swear to god, your stories of your Scorp boss?? It came out of a romance novel!! Love it. More please, for us readers. ^_^click to expand
Just so you know, you really confuse me.
I dont beleive it is a Scorp thing, he is just a control freak....as I have Libra ascendant I like to wear a a tinted moisturizer and mascara everyday....my late hubby was a Libra....he preferred me made up but not over done if we were going out.....my Gemini doesnt care for heavy make-up and would prefer none at all
Posted by munchkin
Thanks everyone for the feedback!
Talked to him about it last night, made him give me my makeup bag back, and he admitted to wondering who I'm "dolling up for" since he loves me all natural.
Uh huh.... just don't let his insecurities turn into your insecurities.
Sounds like you worked it out though. Good .
Posted by CreoleGeishaPosted by MontgomeryPosted by CreoleGeisha
During some important interviews with an accreditation team, I wore eye makeup, matched suit, a little extra jewelry...and he was FURIOUS! I was stunned, the anger was just radiating off of him. He wouldn't look at me, his face was just a tight mask. And when I entered the meeting room and started to sit next to one of the team members, he snapped his fingers at me and pointed at the empty chair next to him. It was awful, like a man summoning a badly behaved dog, and darned if I didn't move right away 'cause I was afraid of what might happen if I didn't.
😕
Sweetjeezus.
Honestly ... What bugs me isn't that he snaps his fingers to gesture me to move. The REAL "mind twist" is that I obey him. I CAN'T STAND it and I don't understand it. I think if this were any other person doing this, I would give them a cool blank stare, look away in contempt, or just outright ignore them. I value this professional relationship for lots of reasons, but I've never worked for someone where I would tolerate silliness like this.click to expand
Well-- you like him.
That much is obvious.
You seem fascinated with the whole thing, rather than angered by it.
Nothing wrong with that, really.
But that snapping has got to go. o.O
And of course lisabeth wants to know how it turns out lol-- so do I. 🙂
aww. Yes true. Scorpio men likes natural look. They said You look more beautiful...
Posted by CreoleGeishaPosted by MontgomeryPosted by CreoleGeishaPosted by MontgomeryPosted by CreoleGeisha
During some important interviews with an accreditation team, I wore eye makeup, matched suit, a little extra jewelry...and he was FURIOUS! I was stunned, the anger was just radiating off of him. He wouldn't look at me, his face was just a tight mask. And when I entered the meeting room and started to sit next to one of the team members, he snapped his fingers at me and pointed at the empty chair next to him. It was awful, like a man summoning a badly behaved dog, and darned if I didn't move right away 'cause I was afraid of what might happen if I didn't.
😕
Sweetjeezus.
Honestly ... What bugs me isn't that he snaps his fingers to gesture me to move. The REAL "mind twist" is that I obey him. I CAN'T STAND it and I don't understand it. I think if this were any other person doing this, I would give them a cool blank stare, look away in contempt, or just outright ignore them. I value this professional relationship for lots of reasons, but I've never worked for someone where I would tolerate silliness like this.
Well-- you like him.
That much is obvious.
I like a lot of people, but I would never dignify this kind of behavior by responding to it.
You seem fascinated with the whole thing, rather than angered by it.
I'm less angry these days, mainly because I feel less afraid most of the time. I think the element that keeps me "on edge and uncomfortable" is his unpredictability. That and my uncertainty about his limitations. If I didn't "jump" when he snapped fingers, what would he have done? It's that uncertainty and fear of consequences that keeps him "in charge."
But that snapping has got to go. o.O
I'm not counting on it. And, truthfully, one thing I enjoy about this man is how eloquent he is at nonverbal communication. I like being quiet with him sometimes. It's not awkward quiet.
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Posted by starlover
I have known a few Scorpio men who look gorgeous with eyeshadow and lippie
😄
oh yea! 😄 No reason for man Scorps to not have "come hither" eyes! 😈
bronzer, however, does not work. he ended up looking like a ceramic vase 😛
Posted by CreoleGeishaPosted by Montgomery
Well-- you like him.
That much is obvious.
I like a lot of people, but I would never dignify this kind of behavior by responding to it.
You seem fascinated with the whole thing, rather than angered by it.
I'm less angry these days, mainly because I feel less afraid most of the time. I think the element that keeps me "on edge and uncomfortable" is his unpredictability. That and my uncertainty about his limitations. If I didn't "jump" when he snapped fingers, what would he have done? It's that uncertainty and fear of consequences that keeps him "in charge."
But that snapping has got to go. o.O
I'm not counting on it. And, truthfully, one thing I enjoy about this man is how eloquent he is at nonverbal communication. I like being quiet with him sometimes. It's not awkward quiet.
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So you see the contradiction, here-- I mean, you must.
You hate it, but it's one thing you enjoy about him.
No offense intended.
Just saying. 🙂
Posted by MontgomeryPosted by CreoleGeishaPosted by Montgomery
Well-- you like him.
That much is obvious.
I like a lot of people, but I would never dignify this kind of behavior by responding to it.
You seem fascinated with the whole thing, rather than angered by it.
I'm less angry these days, mainly because I feel less afraid most of the time. I think the element that keeps me "on edge and uncomfortable" is his unpredictability. That and my uncertainty about his limitations. If I didn't "jump" when he snapped fingers, what would he have done? It's that uncertainty and fear of consequences that keeps him "in charge."
But that snapping has got to go. o.O
I'm not counting on it. And, truthfully, one thing I enjoy about this man is how eloquent he is at nonverbal communication. I like being quiet with him sometimes. It's not awkward quiet.
So you see the contradiction, here-- I mean, you must.
You hate it, but it's one thing you enjoy about him.
No offense intended.
Just saying. 🙂
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Yeah, but I mean I like the nonverbal communication -- being quiet and easy with him -- when he's NOT finger-snapping me to take a certain seat and giving me the silent treatment. There's a difference, you know?
Posted by NemesisPosted by Whatu
I love make up, but you should know how to wear it. Not every girl is going to be Claude Monet. when girls are good artists it shows in their make up. Oh and burgundy lipstick makes me want to pounce.
pounce away or closer?! i don't understand.click to expand
Pounce. Tackle. Jump upon.
Closer-- instantly. 😄
Posted by CreoleGeisha
Yeah, but I mean I like the nonverbal communication -- being quiet and easy with him -- when he's NOT finger-snapping me to take a certain seat and giving me the silent treatment. There's a difference, you know?
Oh, I know. 🙂
Posted by munchkin
Is it common for Scorps to prefer their women to be completely natural, without losing attraction to them subconsciously?
Dumbass, he's telling you that HE KNOWS all the other chicks are wearing it to HIDE something
whereas you are wearing it to look like all the other chicks with makeup.
We see chicks with push-up bras, ass-shapers, arm hair removed, grey hair dyed, dark hair lightened, eyes colored with contacts, teeth straigtened with braces and capped and full coverage foundation and 10 other products. They are all as phoney as a cubic zirconia, a 3 dollar bill, or an Obama promise.
He'd like to be able to show you off. You don't need to be 100% flawlessly perfect.
He's happy he's got someone perfect enough to just be real.
All the others are hiding something - and he knows they're dying inside of jealousy seeing you with no makeup.
Maybe ask him if it would be ok for you do "do it up" once a week and for special occassions.
( or just stop wearing red lipstick and red blush, opting for pink - since that's likely the problem )
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Sweetjeezus.