SEX ON THE FIRST DATE (Page 2)

Darn it...and I thought the screen name was a play on words!

Now - none of that **eye rolling** stuff with me. That's bratty and reserved for my little sister!

Ok, how about

:😛OUT::

::FLUTTER EYELASHES::

Sorry thats meant to be pout not 😛out

Thats kinda killed the moment..

well maybe a love disconnection...sex does that too you know..LOL

LOL @ dward..

Cute - but that only warrants a peck on forehead. 😉 Comeon, you know you can do better!

dward - you are too funny!

hee hee...ok we have established that sex is not good on the first date...well when is it best...1st date?... 2nd date?...3mos?...

dward - it all depends on your chemistry with your man. There really is no hard and fast rule - other than if you don't know the person that well and it doesn't feel natural, you should NOT have sex on the first date.

It can be different if you've been friends for a while, then start to date. Then you are not strangers. Also, I am a firm believer that a gentleman never push to sleep with a woman on the first date. Now if the chemistry is right and both people feel comfortable, then that's a different story.

Most guys I know who pressure gals to sleep with them the on the first date often are the biggest braggarts in the locker-room/watercooler. So be careful you know your guy well, otherwise your intimate moment will become someone's ego boost, and a notch on the belt. I protect my younger sisters fiercely from these a-holes.

what does it matter if its the first or tenth date? if you feel it with someone then you feel it. personally, i think all this talk about 'respect' and stuff is outdated. today, most older women assured of their sexuality will be straightforward with their wants and desires.

no need to be apologetic or ashamed. i am woman hear me roar.. if you can't handle it then......b'bye!!

Erm,yeah,its a duh question but not in the way you might think.If I don't know the person im not going to be sitting in front of a fireplace,etc. with them in the first place.If I don't already somewhat know them I honestly could care less about getting to know them even if I think they may be physically attractive or has some charm-thats kinda a lame reason to care enough to be interested.Putting myself in that situation would be lying about having any reason to be around them and im a terrible lier🙂Or K,better way to put it,if I don't already know someone,im a bitch that doesn't give a rats butt about em or have any interest in em."Being nice" or social cause its a social norm or whatever isn't my thing and find most people boring if theres nothing work,friend or family related involved.

LMAO @ PL - he'd wait for me to open up...

Literally!..hahahha

Sorry crude..please forgive me...

Pluto - I am really happy for you that you have a fabulous relationship. It's not often you find a mate who will move at the same pace as you so what you have is likely very special.

Everyone has different comfort level when it comes to how quickly they commit to physical and/or emotional intimacy. I am going to guess that you are younger than some of us and therefore have fewer years to experience. That's not to say what you feel is any less intense, but just you've seen fewer things in your time. My wish is for your relationship to become everything you have hoped for so you can stop searching. For the rest of us, it will be a longer journey.

Tiamat - I am guessing that you are also younger. My question is really asking how many of you ladies would let yourself live in the moment as opposed to stopping the natural flow and apply self control.

I am not asking whether it's wrong or right. The reality is that most people think it is not a good idea to have sex on the first date, but many still do. I am just trying to understand the root of the contradition for you ladies.

Us guys rarely have hang-ups about this - there are no negative stigma. The only thing guys are concerned about is whether a woman who puts out on the first date is like that with other guys.

I know what you mean, taz.. I met someone a while ago and had that beautiful moment with him. I didn't have sex with him but that's not what I regret.. I deleted his number when I got home. First I thought it was a good thing to do, but later I've missed those moments and him. Missing those moments made me realize that I have never before felt so good first time when I met someone. That something was missing in all my relationships so far. That connection.. Something so rare and something that felt so good. I wish I knew what I would be missing later. That person who I met only once.. So few beautiful moments in this life..

those feelings rarely come by (sigh!)

Im nearing 27 in november so no,im closer to your age than some other people here.Taking time to "live in the moment" with comlete strangers is a waste of time and isn't special whatsoever.Not being worried about social structures and "norms"(which actually it is the social norm to put unimportant people in front of important people) is what makes my viewing sex or time involved with complete strangers stupid.Its not my natural flow to give a shit about and waste time on people that I don't already know and want to be with.So I guess for your "root" to at least one woman,my personal or business life people offer more than any person in passing could ever manage to do emotionally or logically.

Can you think of any reason logically or emotionally that makes people you don't care about worth wasting time on while not being with people who do??Didn't think so.

lol @ stringsattached..hahah

Tiamat, Pluto - ok ladies, I get it that you two don't see any reason to live in the moment. It would appear that you two prefer to date your circle of co-workers and friends.

To each their own...I personally don't date co-workers and have rarely been involved with a friend. That's why the initial attraction to a woman is important - so I know how to approach the situation.

Personally, most guys I know would have a hard time keeping the distance necessary for a successful friendship if they are also interested romantically in that woman. Eventually, that line gets crossed and it gets awkward.

I am getting off topic now - this post is about Sex on the First Date.

sweet&sour - it's still wonderful that you have experienced that kind of connection with someone. It truly is rare but it will happen again.

When it does, you will now be ready to keep the communication lines open. No everyone is fortunate enough to have the opportunity and the courage to experience that kind of connection. Afterall, we have to be open to receive. So consider yourself a very fortunate woman.

Now you know how it feels...and thanks for pointing out that the connection is not necessarily sex. :-)

thanks guys for your input...i dont know if i mention that I have met this wonderful scorpion...we went out on a date this past friday...he was so seductive that it was very HARD for me not to go there...but thank god I didnt...and he didnt push the issue. This guy is so perfect for me. He is so sweet and we talked on the phone all day for hours...even at work. We are very attracted to each other but I think sleeping with him would probably changed that....so I will take this slow. I can never understand the attraction between an scorpion and aries...it is however electric!