Sigh. It's over, and I gave him back his ring (Page 2)

I will concur and state she has issues from the past but by no means should her issues be exasperated by her partner, if a mans behavior is creating crazy making behavior in a woman that is the first sign to get out, some women see marriage and ring as a consolation prize for all the hardship and time put into a man or the ring as a reason to maintain with a man despite his inability to understand what his partner needs in order to feel safe, if you can't trust a man then there really isn't a need to continue on even if the man isn't at fault, if it's not working before marriage it sure won't work after, better to step back look at things more clearly or completely sever ties

lebelier---Isn't this the guy who said he "...wanted you to be more of a challenge"?

What I want to know is ...... why does a woman accept a marriage proposal with a man to whom she can't even figure out how to get along with?

I mean, they do live together, afterall .... what?

Oh look .. a diamond .. purrs .. wake up .. wtf am I doing .. run to sisters ................ oh look a diamond ... purrs .. wake up .. wtf am I doing .. run to sisters ..................... oh look a diamond ... purrs



What the hell? How the hell can you live with a guy to whom you know you aren't compatible with and actually accept a marriage proposal?

Who does that?

Good job at becoming more and more psycho creepy by each profile name change

Furryleo-"and sophie this is the guy who wanted her to be more exciting."

Ahhhhhh....it all makes sense now..

Irishlibra "it sounds like maybe he was the one getting cold feet..."

and...think he is looking for something more "exciting/mysterious/unpredictable"?

HA!

You are so right Irishlibra! And us scorps do: "hint around, don't come out and say it" thing. To come out and say "hey hunny, can you please wax that hairy monster" or "can you please look sexy at the beach today with a bikini instead of the moo moo you usually wear" would be a stretch.

She is just very insecure and he lit that fire more.

Seems like it has been this way for a bit so glad she got out now or the drama would just be 10 fold.

Leb,
you sound like you still need to heal and do what's the best thing you can live with.
We are talking marriage here --- that's not child's play... a lot of advice will come based on what others would do if they were in your shoes. Only you know what you can live with...
even if you both need to heal, there may be someone else for both that can facilitate that healing process without the heartache or feeling of something's lacking on both sides... don't you think?
the mistake has been made, you did not learn fully about yourselves before you got engaged, maybe you need time apart to start again, who knows?
Eitherway, when you think about how much work will be put into this, is it: painful heartbreaking go-no-where hard work or joyous fulfilling hard work?

P-Angel: Until that issue is faced, rather than running to sisters ... this will likely be a reocurring situation.

Yes, because at the root of all this is typical / predictable Aries - Scorpio incompatibility...

A Virgo Man will put up with an Aries Woman's fiery nature because the sex is SO HOT! A Scorpio Man is gonna have great sex with any woman, so his tolerance level for Arian histrionics is much lower. The Aries senses this, and gets even more worked-up, which turns into an incendiary cycle...

Keep the ring. Forget about the Scorp. Find yourself a Cappy Guy who's been married at least once, and has maybe figured how he fucked-up the first few times...

Find yourself a Cappy Guy who's been married at least once, and has maybe figured how he fucked-up the first few times...
LOL...

I think the thing with Cappy is they're very independent in thinking or born with this seriousness, idk and really think they always have it right when it comes to fixing the home relationships and stuff.

Told my Cappy brother his gf was gonna leave him due to his actions but he thought he had it under control by giving me this plan of what he was doing 🙂 it was amazing really, if the gf was a project or object to be acquired, I guess it would have worked 😢

everything (from her postings, at least) seemed to be going well, until he spoke up about some things that were bothering him..and that was only about a month ago...how could everything have gone so downhill since then...
it's slightly better it wasn't after the marriage that this came right? he's had it in mind for a while, otherwise...?

be strong, dont run, and learn from it
this is good advise I think, especially for an aries... but there are others that can address whatever insecurities we have without adding another heap ontop...

the thing is we will all do very different things in this same situation... she may take advice and go back, but is she really equipped to tackle this or will he help her along and she ends up doing things the way he likes? she still has to stand on her own feet, stand her ground, decide who she wants to be or is and no ONE can shake that... before even attempting a relationship with anyone. isnt that whay we're all supposed to do?

I don't think it is up to US to heal ANYONE

I really agree with this... I see it as disturbing as when people depend on others for the reason they're living. If the person's not willing to make a change, it's a delay of the inevitable...

Scorp and Aries have very emotional expression in relationships... I don't know if they can even see from the other's pov if they're not whole to begin with... someone will continuously shake the other the wrong way

lol irish, you'll always have your independence to help you move forward whatever you decide 😛

how come irish?

oh I see, I'm in the 20s stage where my full attention's on moi and familia... so everytime someone asks why I'm not dating, I ask them why they're dating... that usually ends the conversation...

even your close circle can drain... in fact they can drain more than strangers because there's no limit to what is asked.

I also really believe if you're not complete or know what you can spare, you shoudln't give... someone will drain naturally.
idk, if really content, so why rock the boat?

...people have to work for my attention more and the irony is that people are coming to me more (out of the wordwork actually)

🙂 Don't worry I follow... I think I see your POV... you may be radiating your happiness with life. The minute you take time for yourself, give yourself as you want or decide, if that brings you happiness, people around you can see it. They want some of that...

That's what I find... they kinda wanna know how you're able to just say ENOUGH 🙂

no probs - astro site afterall!

your opposite sun 😉

The bottom line to this situation involves two people with major insecurities. Not trusting eachother always questioning the other. Not ready for marriage.

gym for me! see ya