Silent Treatment
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by bestwoman on Friday, September 8, 2006 and has 20 replies.
I've started a 'silent treatment' with a scorpio male. I went out with him once and we never managed to reach a second date. He played too many games and I've had it.
Just met him and he's trying to play sweet and seduce me (in dancing and giving me all thoses stares). I'm resisting to the point that I'm not my normal nice.
Will he get tired and leave me alone or will he continue to try to find out why I decided to do so? Ot will this depend on how much he sincerely cares?
I don't plan to give in unless we have an open conversation, which I know he does not like to do.
Just met him and he's trying to play sweet and seduce me (in dancing and giving me all thoses stares). I'm resisting to the point that I'm not my normal nice.
Will he get tired and leave me alone or will he continue to try to find out why I decided to do so? Ot will this depend on how much he sincerely cares?
I don't plan to give in unless we have an open conversation, which I know he does not like to do.
'just STOP thinking of him as an option'
very easy to say, but hoe to apply it?
very easy to say, but hoe to apply it?
May I ask what it is that you really want from him, or what your feelings are for him?
'May I ask what it is that you really want from him, or what your feelings are for him?'
Don't really know. I am attracted to him, like some things about him. He's smart, has a similar sense of humor and managed to trigger some feelings I have not been in touch with for long. I haven't been in a relationship for long and I need someone special in my life. I thought I could give it a shot with him, but I have extreme difficulties communicating with him. I think he's a bit immature. He's so inconsistent. When I feel I can go a step forward, he ignores me. So I get mad and ignore him, then he comes again and tries to get my attention.
I really need to talk to him, but I'm waiting for the right moment. We don't really have a relationship so I can bring it up.
My feelings for him are: love-hate feelings. One minute I miss him and just want to run in his arms and the other I just don't want to see his face. I must admit I have been a bit rude at times cause he makes me mad. Problem is he can read my mind. He knows when I'm vulnerable, when I'm mad. He is quite amused when he sees I'm mad.
So I'm trying to appear aloof and that he's like any other guy. This is when he feels threathened that I won't be giving him attention. So I'm trying to convince him that I don't care any more. ...(Not very easy)
Don't really know. I am attracted to him, like some things about him. He's smart, has a similar sense of humor and managed to trigger some feelings I have not been in touch with for long. I haven't been in a relationship for long and I need someone special in my life. I thought I could give it a shot with him, but I have extreme difficulties communicating with him. I think he's a bit immature. He's so inconsistent. When I feel I can go a step forward, he ignores me. So I get mad and ignore him, then he comes again and tries to get my attention.
I really need to talk to him, but I'm waiting for the right moment. We don't really have a relationship so I can bring it up.
My feelings for him are: love-hate feelings. One minute I miss him and just want to run in his arms and the other I just don't want to see his face. I must admit I have been a bit rude at times cause he makes me mad. Problem is he can read my mind. He knows when I'm vulnerable, when I'm mad. He is quite amused when he sees I'm mad.
So I'm trying to appear aloof and that he's like any other guy. This is when he feels threathened that I won't be giving him attention. So I'm trying to convince him that I don't care any more. ...(Not very easy)
Actually it sounds to me like his behaviour is very consistent. Personally I have three Aqua siblings, two of which are sisters. They are each different but in some ways act from similar natures. My brother for example is able to compromise and self program his own feelings to no end, only to find out that in the end it really doesn't completely work that way. I think they may accept things for awhile eventually, by impulse, pursuing what was missing.
Personally, I'd say to move on since there are parts of him that don't fit well on you. If you insist on driving forward, I'd say being honest with him about this might help him change, but try not to make him feel guilty. If you're willing, bring it upon yourself and he may become sympathetic. Scorps like being needed, so if you were to invite him out saying how bored you are, he may learn to compensate in frequency.
P.S. If you're playing a game with him and he likes you, he's going to play along. He may even be mirroring your efforts.
Personally, I'd say to move on since there are parts of him that don't fit well on you. If you insist on driving forward, I'd say being honest with him about this might help him change, but try not to make him feel guilty. If you're willing, bring it upon yourself and he may become sympathetic. Scorps like being needed, so if you were to invite him out saying how bored you are, he may learn to compensate in frequency.
P.S. If you're playing a game with him and he likes you, he's going to play along. He may even be mirroring your efforts.
"He played too many games"
"I've started a silent treatment."
* Scratches head in bewilderment.
"I've started a silent treatment."
* Scratches head in bewilderment.
P-Angel and GeminiLover...What would you do?
based on all the head scratching, im guessing they'd just confront the guy and ask 'what's up with the games?' that's more or less what i would do... get to the point.
OOOOO I can't stand the silent treatment 
For Pete's sake, that's the worst thing 
For Pete's sake, that's the worst thing **scratches head....scratch....scratch......scratch, scratch, scratch......falling lice...scratchscratchscratchscratchscratch......
"scratches head....scratch, scratch, scratch......falling lice"
lol, eeewwwwwwwww
In your situation, here's P-Angel >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> walking away, with head held high, never looking back >>>>>>>>>>> onward march to my new adventure with enthusiam and pride
lol, eeewwwwwwwww
In your situation, here's P-Angel >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> walking away, with head held high, never looking back >>>>>>>>>>> onward march to my new adventure with enthusiam and pride
>>>>>>>>>> has to stop and scratch head, what's this fallin . . eeeeewwwwwww, thanks a lot stardance,
Having an Open Convo with a Scorpio isn't as hard like teath pulling.
I know a Scorpio for half a year now and he's like one of my best friends. He just need to know you better before he opens himself up. He needs to trust you enough. knowing that you don't blatter everything he say's to everyone else. Win his trust.
I did, and i have great convo's with this Scorpio. Most of the time i can feel that he is much more sensitive than i am.
If you really want to start something with Scorps, win they're trust ( and they're eternal friendship
)
I know a Scorpio for half a year now and he's like one of my best friends. He just need to know you better before he opens himself up. He needs to trust you enough. knowing that you don't blatter everything he say's to everyone else. Win his trust.
I did, and i have great convo's with this Scorpio. Most of the time i can feel that he is much more sensitive than i am.
If you really want to start something with Scorps, win they're trust ( and they're eternal friendship
)That's good advice, JD.. I'd also be just myself. I'm always myself and I never play games, so men who are trying to test me just contact me sooner or later and they get the answer from me and there will be nothing fake ever in my replies.. I have never faked anything with guys and that has been good so far
'walking away, with head held high, never looking back'
Well that's what I'm trying to to, but it's not that easy.
Well that's what I'm trying to to, but it's not that easy.
'Be yourself ! remember that he is not "doing something to you", that is just who he is, but you are "doing something to him", sooner or later you will crack as your nature will always take over and until then you'll be fighting yourself and him, that's a guaranteed lost.'
But that's what I'm trying to do. I stood him up once cause he pissed me off (but I told why I did so) and THAT'S definately not my nature. I have never played games before and I am with this guy. My nature is more to cut things off and just walk away, but sometimes I'm not sure it's the right way, cause I haven't been in a relationship for long. So sometimes I'm not sure if it's me or maybe this time I just made a wrong choice.
But that's what I'm trying to do. I stood him up once cause he pissed me off (but I told why I did so) and THAT'S definately not my nature. I have never played games before and I am with this guy. My nature is more to cut things off and just walk away, but sometimes I'm not sure it's the right way, cause I haven't been in a relationship for long. So sometimes I'm not sure if it's me or maybe this time I just made a wrong choice.
'Having an Open Convo with a Scorpio isn't as hard like teath pulling.'
I have no problems with scorpio females. My mom's one and I'm aquarius (on the cusp with capricorn) and we get along fine (though it took a couple of years before we starting accepting and understanding each other).
First time I deal with a scorpio male (romantically). I used to have a scorpio boss and we were driving each other mad (I can also be manipulative if I have to).
I have no problems with scorpio females. My mom's one and I'm aquarius (on the cusp with capricorn) and we get along fine (though it took a couple of years before we starting accepting and understanding each other).
First time I deal with a scorpio male (romantically). I used to have a scorpio boss and we were driving each other mad (I can also be manipulative if I have to).
bestwoman, it is that easy.
You say, "I have never played games before and I am with this guy"
Think about that sentence, for what it means. You have been reduced to doing something that is out of character for yourself, and I'm getting the feeling that this is what's driving you mad . . not his playing, but, YOURS because you feel so vulnerable, when usually, you feel strong and confident in a relationship.
When everything is done, and everything is said . . you have only yourself to live with, only to yourself do you have to held accountable. People, you, me, all of us have to ask ourselves, "How can I sleep at night when I look at myself?" What is it that you see that will allow you to hold your head up high?
Honor yourself and your own sense of morals and respect, be true to how you believe your behaviour should be in ANY relationship . . and you'll sleep like a baby with no regrets or remorse. IF you know that you've participated in playing the head-game, then you'll be wracked with self-doubt.
It's that easy, once you realize that you're living for yourself and your own happiness. It's just a matter of how you CHOOSE to look at yourself. Is it with dignity and honor for yourself? Or, is your mind and goals focused on the appropriate to interact with him?
Him? or, yourself? Your mind is on him and how to interact with him. If he's a tosser, then what're ya doing even thinking about how to deal with him? Your responsibility is to yourself. He's not there when your soul searching and thinking about your deeds, trying to sleep at night . . you are.
Walk, thinking about your own self-worth, thinking about your own pride and dignity, KNOWING that you deserve to be valued and cherished for your own sense of honor, not letting anyone insult your integrity . . walk and never look back.
You say, "I have never played games before and I am with this guy"
Think about that sentence, for what it means. You have been reduced to doing something that is out of character for yourself, and I'm getting the feeling that this is what's driving you mad . . not his playing, but, YOURS because you feel so vulnerable, when usually, you feel strong and confident in a relationship.
When everything is done, and everything is said . . you have only yourself to live with, only to yourself do you have to held accountable. People, you, me, all of us have to ask ourselves, "How can I sleep at night when I look at myself?" What is it that you see that will allow you to hold your head up high?
Honor yourself and your own sense of morals and respect, be true to how you believe your behaviour should be in ANY relationship . . and you'll sleep like a baby with no regrets or remorse. IF you know that you've participated in playing the head-game, then you'll be wracked with self-doubt.
It's that easy, once you realize that you're living for yourself and your own happiness. It's just a matter of how you CHOOSE to look at yourself. Is it with dignity and honor for yourself? Or, is your mind and goals focused on the appropriate to interact with him?
Him? or, yourself? Your mind is on him and how to interact with him. If he's a tosser, then what're ya doing even thinking about how to deal with him? Your responsibility is to yourself. He's not there when your soul searching and thinking about your deeds, trying to sleep at night . . you are.
Walk, thinking about your own self-worth, thinking about your own pride and dignity, KNOWING that you deserve to be valued and cherished for your own sense of honor, not letting anyone insult your integrity . . walk and never look back.
'feel so vulnerable, when usually, you feel strong and confident in a relationship'
that's right
'Honor yourself and your own sense of morals and respect'.
Believe me I have no problem in that area. I might sound really frustrated (which I am), but my actions are very different. My problem has always been that I take no shit from any guy, buy I find myself single most of the time. I always refuse to surrender or show my vunerable part.
But maybe I make the wrong choices and fall for the wrong people. But how can I control where my heart goes?
that's right
'Honor yourself and your own sense of morals and respect'.
Believe me I have no problem in that area. I might sound really frustrated (which I am), but my actions are very different. My problem has always been that I take no shit from any guy, buy I find myself single most of the time. I always refuse to surrender or show my vunerable part.
But maybe I make the wrong choices and fall for the wrong people. But how can I control where my heart goes?
I can totally relate. My scorp is hard to communicate with sometimes. And when he is ready to, it's a totally different style , or at a time when I know he wants something. Freakin scorps!
I see what goes on & I think he gets frustrated when games don't work well on me or backfire. Sometimes it comes down to the fact that you want to be together & somehow in our prideful / selfish times we need to remind each other of that.
ps. miss u guys!
I see what goes on & I think he gets frustrated when games don't work well on me or backfire. Sometimes it comes down to the fact that you want to be together & somehow in our prideful / selfish times we need to remind each other of that.
ps. miss u guys!
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