Why do Scorpio's act like nothing happened?
This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by cullenaffair on Saturday, April 25, 2009 and has 22 replies.
I broke it off ...well not really cause we weren't officially "back together"
and i told him that we only end up hurting each other.. in the past if i said something like that he would respond ..but this time he didn't.
Then days later he texts me, like nothing happened? Why is this?
and i told him that we only end up hurting each other.. in the past if i said something like that he would respond ..but this time he didn't.
Then days later he texts me, like nothing happened? Why is this?
Yeah, I don't like to deal with my emotions, especially visibly in front of someone else. So I'd imagine that he's hoping to just skip that whole conversation and not show how upset he was by it. I know, personally, I don't like to show emotion at all other than anger. I rarely show I'm hurt or upset about something ever. So I will just pretend like nothing happened, like I wasn't hurt by something. I don't know if this is what's going on in his situation or not, but that would be my guess.
Also, if you kept saying this to me repeatedly and then continuing the relationship, I'd feel like you were playing games and I'd be really pissed.
Also, if you kept saying this to me repeatedly and then continuing the relationship, I'd feel like you were playing games and I'd be really pissed.
yeah. the problem is that we internalise things way too much. it's like a form of denial really - by ignoring it, we don't have to deal with it. just bury it away and hope that it goes away too. it's not good though - this inability to confront issues, cos internalising it is only bad for ourselves in the long run. that's one of the ways we sting ourselves.
i regret not speaking up when i needed to in the past but it doesn't happen now i'm older. i think you can sometimes learn to take the risk of appearing 'weak' and to let someone know how you feel because it's the fastest way to dissolve a bad situation without causing too much emotional damage.
scorpios must learn to talk about their fears. that is one of our lessons. in doing so, we can confront them but we can't if they are just stuck away at the back of our minds somewhere.
i regret not speaking up when i needed to in the past but it doesn't happen now i'm older. i think you can sometimes learn to take the risk of appearing 'weak' and to let someone know how you feel because it's the fastest way to dissolve a bad situation without causing too much emotional damage.
scorpios must learn to talk about their fears. that is one of our lessons. in doing so, we can confront them but we can't if they are just stuck away at the back of our minds somewhere.
"yeah. the problem is that we internalise things way too much. it's like a form of denial really - by ignoring it, we don't have to deal with it. just bury it away and hope that it goes away too. it's not good though - this inability to confront issues, cos internalising it is only bad for ourselves in the long run. that's one of the ways we sting ourselves."
I don't think internalizing emotions is a form of denial at all. Scorpio is the sign of truth, and ignoring problems, not admitting them, is not characteristic of our nature. I internalize my problems/strong emotions because they are just too much to show publically; they might scare people away. But I don't ignore my problems, I take care of them right away privately. But I guess it depends on the Scorpio (pure/cusp). I was born on the 19th of November, so I have a bit of Sagittarius in me, therefore I might not know how a pure Scorpio (say, the 26 of Oct. to 17th of Nov) usually would react.
I don't think internalizing emotions is a form of denial at all. Scorpio is the sign of truth, and ignoring problems, not admitting them, is not characteristic of our nature. I internalize my problems/strong emotions because they are just too much to show publically; they might scare people away. But I don't ignore my problems, I take care of them right away privately. But I guess it depends on the Scorpio (pure/cusp). I was born on the 19th of November, so I have a bit of Sagittarius in me, therefore I might not know how a pure Scorpio (say, the 26 of Oct. to 17th of Nov) usually would react.
i'm 2nd november. i definately internalise things - or at least, i used to.
ive welcomed him back too many times with open arms.. hes came back too many times to me.
this time.. i just ignored it
how do they feel when you ignore them?
this time.. i just ignored it
how do they feel when you ignore them?
If you set up a pattern where you guys "break up to make up", then he figures that this is the same situation. So he waited a few days for you both to cool off, then tried to act like nothing happened.
I do this, only because I am a positive person and do not like conflict, believe it or not. I usually don't want to point my finger at someone's negativity, so I pretend it didn't happen.
I do this, only because I am a positive person and do not like conflict, believe it or not. I usually don't want to point my finger at someone's negativity, so I pretend it didn't happen.
If you broke it off because you mean for it to be over ... then what difference does it make what he is thinking or feeling?
If you broke it off just to see how he is going to react to you .. then you're a player, in which case it doesn't matter what you are thinking or feeling because you aren't worth it.
If you broke it off just to see how he is going to react to you .. then you're a player, in which case it doesn't matter what you are thinking or feeling because you aren't worth it.
i broke it off because he cheated on me. he says it was because i always made him feel like crap
(i did this because he was always flirting with girls)
he came back to me & i thought i would get past the cheating, but i couldn't let it go.
in a sick & twisted way, i though that i deserved him doing it.
so yeah, i would definitely say i'm not a player.
i still care because i still love him.
(i did this because he was always flirting with girls)
he came back to me & i thought i would get past the cheating, but i couldn't let it go.
in a sick & twisted way, i though that i deserved him doing it.
so yeah, i would definitely say i'm not a player.
i still care because i still love him.
"Why do Scorpio's act like nothing happened?"
to show you how easy it was to let you go. they want to be seen as the one who is not fazed by anything.
to show you how easy it was to let you go. they want to be seen as the one who is not fazed by anything.
"So - he's at fault and blames you? Keep walking, sistah!"
hehe if only it was easy, sigh.
i just honestly believed him when he told me he was in love with me
he spilled out all his feelings (at this point he was already done with the other girl he cheated on me with, but he had no idea that i knew)
and he just told me why he does things towards me.. like things guys wouldn't reveal..
he opened up to me at that point
hehe if only it was easy, sigh.
i just honestly believed him when he told me he was in love with me
he spilled out all his feelings (at this point he was already done with the other girl he cheated on me with, but he had no idea that i knew)
and he just told me why he does things towards me.. like things guys wouldn't reveal..
he opened up to me at that point
cullenaffair, this is no scorpio issue, this is a man's stuff. once the damage 's done, he will do it again. and again, and again.
I was raised by one. only my two cents.
watch him out
I was raised by one. only my two cents.
watch him out
He does this because you allow him to.
If he's cheated multiple times and you keep taking him back then he thinks he's getting away with it. He knows that texting you like nothing happened works. You respond right? It's a test. Next time don't respond.
If he's cheated multiple times and you keep taking him back then he thinks he's getting away with it. He knows that texting you like nothing happened works. You respond right? It's a test. Next time don't respond.
Posted by ladymacbeth
cullenaffair, this is no scorpio issue, this is a man's stuff. once the damage 's done, he will do it again. and again, and again.
I was raised by one. only my two cents.
watch him out
what if they meet someone who changes them?
Posted by Gingerscorp
He does this because you allow him to.
If he's cheated multiple times and you keep taking him back then he thinks he's getting away with it. He knows that texting you like nothing happened works. You respond right? It's a test. Next time don't respond.
i didnt respond when he sent that one message.. but now he hasent tried to talk to me since.
Posted by nihilist
ignoring a scorp !!! dangerous ! we fill our head with all kinds of darkness when we feel someone is avoiding us in any way. confrontation is a way of life for us unfortunately *exhales* the nothingness will create space physically + emotionally + we will detach completely
oh man! thanks for this piece of info...
**what if they meet someone who changes them?**
cullenaffair, are you hoping that you could be the one who would change his cheating ass?
First of all, he cheated on you and then he blamed you for his cheating. Now you are worrying your head about him? It's a good thing you didn't reply his text. don't let your guards down. Unless you stop putting up with his crap and show him that you are not a push over, i believe he will still do it again once he knows that you go creamy on him again.
versuvirus..
i know that, but in a way i kind of think it was my fault.
throughout our whole relationship, every time we argued i always acted like i didnt care.
when he would break up with my to test me, i let him. i didnt try to chase him.
i was very stubborn, and he knows this.
he would be pouring his heart out, and i would just give him one word replies..
i would also sometimes act like i didnt want him
not because i really didnt. but because when he would say certain affectionate things towards me, i would get uncomfortable.
sigh im a cancer.. i have trouble letting go.
i know that, but in a way i kind of think it was my fault.
throughout our whole relationship, every time we argued i always acted like i didnt care.
when he would break up with my to test me, i let him. i didnt try to chase him.
i was very stubborn, and he knows this.
he would be pouring his heart out, and i would just give him one word replies..
i would also sometimes act like i didnt want him
not because i really didnt. but because when he would say certain affectionate things towards me, i would get uncomfortable.
sigh im a cancer.. i have trouble letting go.
out of curiousity, which year are the 2 of you born in?
I'm just going to make some wild guesses here.
You dont' have a whole lot of deep feelings for this guy to begin with.
When he's pouring his heart out, and you give one word reply, it just means you are not really into this guy.
You see him more as anything else (ie.friend) than a bf/lover.
when he says affectionate things, you get uncomfortable? I think if you love him enough, you shoot up into heaven immediately.
You dont' feel the same way about him the way he feels for you (before he cheated). I totally get the "trouble letting go" part. Too many things has happened between you two and i see you have guilt in you and that makes it worst in letting go.
I don't know how badly a guy has to hurt you to completely dump him. Apparently cheeating is not hurtful enough for you. Maybe you have to find some other distraction in life to move on.
I'm just going to make some wild guesses here.
You dont' have a whole lot of deep feelings for this guy to begin with.
When he's pouring his heart out, and you give one word reply, it just means you are not really into this guy.
You see him more as anything else (ie.friend) than a bf/lover.
when he says affectionate things, you get uncomfortable? I think if you love him enough, you shoot up into heaven immediately.
You dont' feel the same way about him the way he feels for you (before he cheated). I totally get the "trouble letting go" part. Too many things has happened between you two and i see you have guilt in you and that makes it worst in letting go.
I don't know how badly a guy has to hurt you to completely dump him. Apparently cheeating is not hurtful enough for you. Maybe you have to find some other distraction in life to move on.
he was born in 1990, me in 1991
the reason why i got so uncomfortable when he said affectionate things is because i have trouble showing how i feel.. and being affectionate.
its like i have these feelings.. but i have no idea how to express them verbally.
he was also my first boyfriend.. so i have no idea how i was supposed to act as a girlfriend.
when i mean he was pouring his heart out.. i mean because we were about to break up.. and i was just so angry with him at the same time.. i dont know what to say back
i just think im a socially awkward person who hasnt come out of thier shell.
"I don't know how badly a guy has to hurt you to completely dump him. Apparently cheeating is not hurtful enough for you."
oh, i would never take a cheater back.
the only reason why this is different is because i still believe it was somewhat my fault.
the reason why i got so uncomfortable when he said affectionate things is because i have trouble showing how i feel.. and being affectionate.
its like i have these feelings.. but i have no idea how to express them verbally.
he was also my first boyfriend.. so i have no idea how i was supposed to act as a girlfriend.
when i mean he was pouring his heart out.. i mean because we were about to break up.. and i was just so angry with him at the same time.. i dont know what to say back
i just think im a socially awkward person who hasnt come out of thier shell.
"I don't know how badly a guy has to hurt you to completely dump him. Apparently cheeating is not hurtful enough for you."
oh, i would never take a cheater back.
the only reason why this is different is because i still believe it was somewhat my fault.
Help! I have been reading up on scorpio men. I have recently met a scorp and have been talking to him for about 1 month 1/2 and I am having so much trouble understanding them. I keep reading we will never understand them but maybe guidance would be nice. Do they like to be complimented all the time? He will say things like do you like my shirt or how do I look. He moves very slowly is this common? We have only made out (no sex) why is he holding out? This is good in a way because it shows me that he is very respectful. How long before I start seeing signs that he is really into me? He has been a challange, maybe that is why I am so intrigued.
I find it incredibly astounding that everybody is making the excuse in telling her that there is somethign wrong with him, in that he's a cheater ... when in fact, the real issue is her sense of self-value and self-worth.
She has openly admitted that his cheating was her fault and that she deserved it.
Any person, I don't care who they are ... will gladly side-step in a situation where they knew they erred if another person is willing to take the rap for them .. this is human nature to do this, regardless of sun sign.
His acting like nothing is wrong is because he did nothing wrong according to her, she's the one who did something wrong ... and she is even taking the blame for it. So, if she's at fault for it, then naturally, this man is going to behave as he is.
Everybody just brushes past that and keeps saying that he's a cheater, like she is suppose to hear you ... all you all so engrossed in your own opinion of what a cheater is, that you missed the real dynamics of HER situation. It appears to me that people hear something, and then immediately attempt to apply advice as if it is directly related to their own experiences.
cullenaffair: "oh, i would never take a cheater back.
the only reason why this is different is because i still believe it was somewhat my fault."
Did anyone actually hear that?^^^^^^^^^
She isn't applying the condition of "Cheater" to him as being one ... so, why in the fuck are you people still talking about him being one in the context that she is suppose to understand what you are counseling?
::::: shakes head ::::::
She has openly admitted that his cheating was her fault and that she deserved it.
Any person, I don't care who they are ... will gladly side-step in a situation where they knew they erred if another person is willing to take the rap for them .. this is human nature to do this, regardless of sun sign.
His acting like nothing is wrong is because he did nothing wrong according to her, she's the one who did something wrong ... and she is even taking the blame for it. So, if she's at fault for it, then naturally, this man is going to behave as he is.
Everybody just brushes past that and keeps saying that he's a cheater, like she is suppose to hear you ... all you all so engrossed in your own opinion of what a cheater is, that you missed the real dynamics of HER situation. It appears to me that people hear something, and then immediately attempt to apply advice as if it is directly related to their own experiences.
cullenaffair: "oh, i would never take a cheater back.
the only reason why this is different is because i still believe it was somewhat my fault."
Did anyone actually hear that?^^^^^^^^^
She isn't applying the condition of "Cheater" to him as being one ... so, why in the fuck are you people still talking about him being one in the context that she is suppose to understand what you are counseling?
::::: shakes head ::::::
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