How do I make a taurus man want me more?

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how do I make a taurus man want/miss me more? Distance?
Him -



Sun - Taurus

Moon - Capricorn

Mercury - Aries

Venus - Gemini

Mars - Cancer

Jupiter - Leo

Me -

Sun - Leo

Moon - Sagittarius

Mercury - Leo

Venus - Virgo

Mars - Virgo

Jupiter - Leo

You can't make anyone want you.
How to make him crazy about me?
Dab bacon grease to your second chakra.
Posted by juliette
Feed him, sex him and be rich.
So they like to use women for their money?
Posted by juliette
Feed him, sex him and be rich.
He needs a maid! Lol. I've done all these things (instead of rich I'm independent) & hes still not crazy about me(so I think).
He's looking for those core traits in a woman.

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They're not looking for rich women. We're Venusian species with a great deal of morals. Not opportunistic robots.


as for the Mars and Venus....

You will need to keep communication lines open, and be spontaneous, just make sure this is in moderation. A little too much spontaneity will leave him feeling insecure.

Good Luck!

Posted by TaurusBull1977
He's looking for those core traits in a woman.

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They're not looking for rich women. We're Venusian species with a great deal of morals. Not opportunistic robots.


as for the Mars and Venus....

You will need to keep communication lines open, and be spontaneous, just make sure this is in moderation. A little too much spontaneity will leave him feeling insecure.

Good Luck!

I'm just now kind of getting an understanding about the other planets. Can you elaborate on the Mars & Venus?

Venus is how he expresses himself in relationships.

Mars is the 'action-riented' approach to relationships (esp, sex, attraction).


Welcome aboard!
I meant *oriented.*
Posted by TaurusBull1977
I meant *oriented.*
Also, why would spontaneity leave him insecure?
Too much spontaneity will leave him feeling insecure.

A little spontaneity is good. It has to be in moderation.

Why would too much spontaneity be a threat and leave him feeling insecure?

It disrupts the natural order of things.

His Sun/Moon indicates some level of high conventional standards.

Conduct yourself like a lady.

BEHAVE yourself.
@RedOctober-

I thought the 'gigolo' assertion was BS too.

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LMAO!
Posted by Redoctober2000
Posted by Inquisitivemind
Posted by TaurusBull1977
I meant *oriented.*
Also, why would spontaneity leave him insecure?
If you have to ask a stupid question ie the title if your thread and this question here, u have already lost the battle twice over.

U might as well pack up and go home.

I'm not surprised his interest in you in waning. Iv only read your post for a couple of minutes and I'm bored already!! ?
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Well I was not trying to entertain you...so theres that... & no one asked for your opinion so if your bored there are plenty other post to comment on. :-)
& for me asking a question about why would spontaneity leave him insecure is because.....

No one is the same and all a person really knows is what is normal to them and the morals & values they were taught in how they were raised. So if personally I like spontaneity I would unconsciously assume that people I deal with would like the same.

Posted by Feral_doe
At the end of the day, if he still doesn't want you, you can pat yourself on the shoulder for trying.

Haha!
I've been knowing this man for years and I just cant figure out why he hasn't went "crazy" over me yet.... & I know Taurus are more of the calm and collected type so..... Do Taurus go crazy over people? Or maybe we have two different approaches when expressing love?

How do Taurus express love? Just by being there for you when you need them?

I have cousins and close friends who are Taurus & even though they go crazy over certain individuals they would rather tell me and deal with emotions on their own than tell the person that they're crazy over them.
Posted by TaurusBull1977
Too much spontaneity will leave him feeling insecure.

A little spontaneity is good. It has to be in moderation.

Why would too much spontaneity be a threat and leave him feeling insecure?

It disrupts the natural order of things.

His Sun/Moon indicates some level of high conventional standards.

Conduct yourself like a lady.

BEHAVE yourself.
I hope this answered your question.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
Posted by TaurusBull1977
Too much spontaneity will leave him feeling insecure.

A little spontaneity is good. It has to be in moderation.

Why would too much spontaneity be a threat and leave him feeling insecure?

It disrupts the natural order of things.

His Sun/Moon indicates some level of high conventional standards.

Conduct yourself like a lady.

BEHAVE yourself.
I hope this answered your question.

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I'm sorry, yes it did! Thank you! Can you answer the question I asked in my above reply too?

I didn't see a question.

Just a statement.
Posted by TaurusBull1977
I didn't see a question.

Just a statement.
Do Taurus go crazy over people? Or maybe we have two different approaches when expressing love?

How do Taurus express love? Just by being there for you when you need them?
Posted by Redoctober2000
Posted by Feral_doe
At the end of the day, if he still doesn't want you, you can pat yourself on the shoulder for trying.

Because he won't be!!!!!! Lol lol lol lol lol lol

Taurus hates attention seekers and the OP's Taurus is giving her none so she is desperately seeking us to give her some!!!
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Sorry your wrong, he gives me attention. I just wanted to know what would make him fall in love and be crazy over me. But seing that Taurus are slow, patient and calm it more than likely wont happen.

& just because I want him to be crazy over me does not mean I'm being extra dramatic, clingy and assertive... It was just a question.
Posted by Redoctober2000
Posted by Inquisitivemind
I've been knowing this man for years and I just cant figure out why he hasn't went "crazy" over me yet.... & I know Taurus are more of the calm and collected type so..... Do Taurus go crazy over people? Or maybe we have two different approaches when expressing love?

How do Taurus express love? Just by being there for you when you need them?

I have cousins and close friends who are Taurus & even though they go crazy over certain individuals they would rather tell me and deal with emotions on their own than tell the person that they're crazy over them.
What makes you so special that he should go crazy over you..

Perhaps he senses your HUGE ego is bigger than your personality! Taurus hates vanity especially if it's not discrete. ...
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Because I am special. You going crazy over me in this thread so maybe it is possible. :-)

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Posted by Inquisitivemind
Do Taurus go crazy over people? Or maybe we have two different approaches when expressing love?
You have two different approaches to love.

Fire =Excitement + Temporary

Earth= Realistic and Grounded + Permanent


Posted by Inquisitivemind
How do Taurus express love? Just by being there for you when you need them?

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The best description?

This will vary depending on the Mars and Venus.

But if you're referring to the core traits....

It lights, up, and then burns slowly....and then the match is out.

It starts off euphoric, and then the love transforms to a different type of love, unconditional, and this feeling leads to a sense of permanency.


We want 'now and forever' with a lifelong partner.

Not just for current romance and excitement.

I hope this helps.

Posted by Redoctober2000
Posted by Inquisitivemind
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Posted by Feral_doe
At the end of the day, if he still doesn't want you, you can pat yourself on the shoulder for trying.

Because he won't be!!!!!! Lol lol lol lol lol lol

Taurus hates attention seekers and the OP's Taurus is giving her none so she is desperately seeking us to give her some!!!
Sorry your wrong, he gives me attention. I just wanted to know what would make him fall in love and be crazy over me. But seing that Taurus are slow, patient and calm it more than likely wont happen.

& just because I want him to be crazy over me does not mean I'm being extra dramatic, clingy and assertive... It was just a question.
It sounds as if you are extra dramatic, clingy... If he gives you attention why is that no enough for you? Cool down your ego or the Taurus will think you are too high maintenance and walk.... U sound really insecure. A Taurus will never give you the upper hand by going "extra crazy over you"...

Get over yourself and stop tripping on yr ego.
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Actually I'm none of those things. Its just You're not going to come on my post & talk shit & when someone comments on it now you're the victim?

Typical Taurus.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
I found it...

Posted by Inquisitivemind
Do Taurus go crazy over people? Or maybe we have two different approaches when expressing love?
You have two different approaches to love.

Fire =Excitement + Temporary

Earth= Realistic and Grounded + Permanent


Posted by Inquisitivemind
How do Taurus express love? Just by being there for you when you need them?



The best description?

This will vary depending on the Mars and Venus.

But if you're referring to the core traits....

It lights, up, and then burns slowly....and then the match is out.

It starts off euphoric, and then the love transforms to a different type of love, unconditional, and this feeling leads to a sense of permanency.


We want 'now and forever' with a lifelong partner.

Not just for current romance and excitement.

I hope this helps.

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How do you know when you've found that now & forever person?

I've known him since 2007... but were 25 so growing pains & learning experiences.

I dont want temporary excitement either. I just think its majority a miscommunication thing. He's not big on expressing frelings & communicating. Even when he says hes done with me(as the downs in any relationship) he's right back.
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Posted by Redoctober2000
Posted by Feral_doe
At the end of the day, if he still doesn't want you, you can pat yourself on the shoulder for trying.

Because he won't be!!!!!! Lol lol lol lol lol lol

Taurus hates attention seekers and the OP's Taurus is giving her none so she is desperately seeking us to give her some!!!
Sorry your wrong, he gives me attention. I just wanted to know what would make him fall in love and be crazy over me. But seing that Taurus are slow, patient and calm it more than likely wont happen.

& just because I want him to be crazy over me does not mean I'm being extra dramatic, clingy and assertive... It was just a question.
It sounds as if you are extra dramatic, clingy... If he gives you attention why is that no enough for you? Cool down your ego or the Taurus will think you are too high maintenance and walk.... U sound really insecure. A Taurus will never give you the upper hand by going "extra crazy over you"...

Get over yourself and stop tripping on yr ego.


Actually I'm none of those things. Its just You're not going to come on my post & talk shit & when someone comments on it now you're the victim?

Typical Taurus.

Huh? U lost me at the " victim " part.

Can't you see how pathetic and egoistic you sound? A Taurus will never go for that.. They are too down to earth for that...

If you are not in a relationship with him already, good luck trying to get him in one with you with that ego you have.. A Taurus will not feed it.

If you need that much attention, get yourself another Leo.
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Ok... thanks for your commentary good bye.

People always point the finger onto what others are doing wrong but they never self & reflect check themselves onto where they went wrong. I hate unnecessary negativity ignorance & cursing.
You've been friendzoned.
Posted by jeane
You've been friendzoned.


Haha maybe.

Why is she still here? Lol.

Same thing he does. Just doesn't want to leave.
....still here.
Posted by KittyKnitter
challenge taurus to think in a different way. stimulate him intellectually, make him laugh and help him to laugh at himself. surprise him.,encourage him to surprise you, do new things together, do your own thing too, that way you have more to share when you come together. sex is play. talk about it. be imaginative. have variety. he might be shy. take the initiative. and sometimes let him take the initiative. sometimes you will want to push him and that might work but there will be many times you have to let him go at his own pace. i don't know if there is any set formula, all i know is that my guy is conventional about many things, mostly because he likes security so much but underneath, he is a rebel and he is always happy when he has the chance to break out of the box. i am his playmate. and you can believe it's not all about sex. although i read somewhere that a taurus will stay with the woman who fulfills him sexually,. it is way more complicated than that.

the challenge for my taurus and me was to learn how to get along in a relationship when we were so used to being loners. we have similar sex drives and were physically attracted but working out what we both like took time. we had common values so we became great friends. that helped us through rough patches. we give each other space and time when we are upset. and there is no all or nothing talk. usually we like to see each other every day but we might only get to say hello and goodbye. doesn't matter. all those little things that don't seem to matter, they do matter. because they build the bond. show taurus that you respect and like him for being different. that he can be free to be himself. he usually likes to do his own thing at his own pace in his own way. taurus is very sexual but you can let him know you are interested in him for more than his body. i have been telling my guy i am with him for his mind for years and he still laughs and cracks a sexual joke. never fake it with taurus. be authentic you. not an easy match for some, worth every effort.


Thank you!!!! I agree they are very difficult. The only real problem between us is what you said when hes mad you two give each other space. I'm more of a lets communicate like mature adults & fix it type of lover.

Tell me how you feel, cry if you have to etc... & i hate being ignored. I feel if you're in a relationship you should want to be around each other everyday even if you're mad. I react to being ignored but I'm learning to just give him space & not overthink.

Posted by Inquisitivemind
Thank you!!!! I agree they are very difficult. The only real problem between us is what you said when hes mad you two give each other space. I'm more of a lets communicate like mature adults & fix it type of lover.

Tell me how you feel, cry if you have to etc... & i hate being ignored. I feel if you're in a relationship you should want to be around each other everyday even if you're mad. I react to being ignored but I'm learning to just give him space & not overthink.

I think I missed that. Are you in a relationship?
Posted by Inquisitivemind
how do I make a taurus man want/miss me more? Distance?
Fall in love with a cancer man. Works everytime.
Posted by jeane
Posted by Inquisitivemind
Thank you!!!! I agree they are very difficult. The only real problem between us is what you said when hes mad you two give each other space. I'm more of a lets communicate like mature adults & fix it type of lover.

Tell me how you feel, cry if you have to etc... & i hate being ignored. I feel if you're in a relationship you should want to be around each other everyday even if you're mad. I react to being ignored but I'm learning to just give him space & not overthink.

I think I missed that. Are you in a relationship?
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It's complicated. Lol. I'm confused. I bet if we were compatible sun signs I would understand. We treat each other like we're in a relationship, we break up then make up... I go to families house every holiday. His mom calls me everyday.

Long story short I know I have this mans heart its just the hot/cold nature that throws me off. I was moreso needing a opinion from other tauruses to figure out how I could make him be hot over me all the time? Or is this just a personality trait I have to deal with?

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how do I make a taurus man want/miss me more? Distance?
Fall in love with a cancer man. Works everytime.
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Distance gets a cancer?

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Posted by Kodak
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how do I make a taurus man want/miss me more? Distance?
Fall in love with a cancer man. Works everytime.
Distance gets a cancer?

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Sure probably.


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Posted by jeane
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Thank you!!!! I agree they are very difficult. The only real problem between us is what you said when hes mad you two give each other space. I'm more of a lets communicate like mature adults & fix it type of lover.

Tell me how you feel, cry if you have to etc... & i hate being ignored. I feel if you're in a relationship you should want to be around each other everyday even if you're mad. I react to being ignored but I'm learning to just give him space & not overthink.

I think I missed that. Are you in a relationship?


It's complicated. Lol. I'm confused. I bet if we were compatible sun signs I would understand. We treat each other like we're in a relationship, we break up then make up... I go to families house every holiday. His mom calls me everyday.

Long story short I know I have this mans heart its just the hot/cold nature that throws me off. I was moreso needing a opinion from other tauruses to figure out how I could make him be hot over me all the time? Or is this just a personality trait I have to deal with?

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If you have their heart they are not hot and cold. They are consistent. It is hot hot hot all the way.
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Thank you!!!! I agree they are very difficult. The only real problem between us is what you said when hes mad you two give each other space. I'm more of a lets communicate like mature adults & fix it type of lover.

Tell me how you feel, cry if you have to etc... & i hate being ignored. I feel if you're in a relationship you should want to be around each other everyday even if you're mad. I react to being ignored but I'm learning to just give him space & not overthink.

I think I missed that. Are you in a relationship?


It's complicated. Lol. I'm confused. I bet if we were compatible sun signs I would understand. We treat each other like we're in a relationship, we break up then make up... I go to families house every holiday. His mom calls me everyday.

Long story short I know I have this mans heart its just the hot/cold nature that throws me off. I was moreso needing a opinion from other tauruses to figure out how I could make him be hot over me all the time? Or is this just a personality trait I have to deal with?

If you have their heart they are not hot and cold. They are consistent. It is hot hot hot all the way.
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I thought if you've been with someone for a long time you'll eventually grow cold sometimes. I didnt know you can be in a hot relationship for 5,10,20 years.

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Thank you!!!! I agree they are very difficult. The only real problem between us is what you said when hes mad you two give each other space. I'm more of a lets communicate like mature adults & fix it type of lover.

Tell me how you feel, cry if you have to etc... & i hate being ignored. I feel if you're in a relationship you should want to be around each other everyday even if you're mad. I react to being ignored but I'm learning to just give him space & not overthink.

I think I missed that. Are you in a relationship?


It's complicated. Lol. I'm confused. I bet if we were compatible sun signs I would understand. We treat each other like we're in a relationship, we break up then make up... I go to families house every holiday. His mom calls me everyday.

Long story short I know I have this mans heart its just the hot/cold nature that throws me off. I was moreso needing a opinion from other tauruses to figure out how I could make him be hot over me all the time? Or is this just a personality trait I have to deal with?

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Poor thing you're in a relationship trap (you being the emotionally trapped one) called an imaginary relationship.

These kind of situations feel real b/c everything you do with him from meeting the family, dates, him initiating attention and sex and maybe he even says "I love you" from time to time but through it all the woman whose becoming emotionally trapped never gets a verbal confirmation that she's in a committed monogamous relationship.

He's not that into you so he blows hot and then cold to reset the situation back to the beginning therefore the sex continues to flow without him having to sacrifice his freedom. If he's not being consistent with you and has one foot in and one foot out then you may not have his heart. Try not to project your love for him onto his feelings for you b/c men that give their hearts are not this wishy washy hot cold types.

You cannot make him love you more, !Ike you more, want you more, you can't turn yourself into what he wants b/c that would mean you just being yourself is not enough, trust that you're enough, you're a beautiful Leo.

Consequently being in these type of situation ship eventually make women feel bad about themselves, not pretty enough or good enough.

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Thank you!!!! I agree they are very difficult. The only real problem between us is what you said when hes mad you two give each other space. I'm more of a lets communicate like mature adults & fix it type of lover.

Tell me how you feel, cry if you have to etc... & i hate being ignored. I feel if you're in a relationship you should want to be around each other everyday even if you're mad. I react to being ignored but I'm learning to just give him space & not overthink.

I think I missed that. Are you in a relationship?


It's complicated. Lol. I'm confused. I bet if we were compatible sun signs I would understand. We treat each other like we're in a relationship, we break up then make up... I go to families house every holiday. His mom calls me everyday.

Long story short I know I have this mans heart its just the hot/cold nature that throws me off. I was moreso needing a opinion from other tauruses to figure out how I could make him be hot over me all the time? Or is this just a personality trait I have to deal with?

If you have their heart they are not hot and cold. They are consistent. It is hot hot hot all the way.


I thought if you've been with someone for a long time you'll eventually grow cold sometimes. I didnt know you can be in a hot relationship for 5,10,20 years.

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That's not been my experience. The longer you are together the less cold there is. I don't mean hot as in passionate, I mean hot as attentive, committed, communicative, devoted and loyal. From those things a Taurus man is crazy about you because he is always there, right by your side. Passion subsides yes I suppose, although I have yet to cross that bridge with my partner. We are as passionate as the first day.
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Thank you!!!! I agree they are very difficult. The only real problem between us is what you said when hes mad you two give each other space. I'm more of a lets communicate like mature adults & fix it type of lover.

Tell me how you feel, cry if you have to etc... & i hate being ignored. I feel if you're in a relationship you should want to be around each other everyday even if you're mad. I react to being ignored but I'm learning to just give him space & not overthink.

I think I missed that. Are you in a relationship?


It's complicated. Lol. I'm confused. I bet if we were compatible sun signs I would understand. We treat each other like we're in a relationship, we break up then make up... I go to families house every holiday. His mom calls me everyday.

Long story short I know I have this mans heart its just the hot/cold nature that throws me off. I was moreso needing a opinion from other tauruses to figure out how I could make him be hot over me all the time? Or is this just a personality trait I have to deal with?

Poor thing you're in a relationship trap (you being the emotionally trapped one) called an imaginary relationship.

These kind of situations feel real b/c everything you do with him from meeting the family, dates, him initiating attention and sex and maybe he even says "I love you" from time to time but through it all the woman whose becoming emotionally trapped never gets a verbal confirmation that she's in a committed monogamous relationship.

He's not that into you so he blows hot and then cold to reset the situation back to the beginning therefore the sex continues to flow without him having to sacrifice his freedom. If he's not being consistent with you and has one foot in and one foot out then you may not have his heart. Try not to project your love for him onto his feelings for you b/c men that give their hearts are not this wishy washy hot cold types.

You cannot make him love you more, !Ike you more, want you more, you can't turn yourself into what he wants b/c that would mean you just being yourself is not enough, trust that you're enough, you're a beautiful Leo.

Consequently being in these type of situation ship eventually make women feel bad about themselves, not pretty enough or good enough.

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Thank you. ❤️

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Posted by jeane
Posted by Inquisitivemind
Thank you!!!! I agree they are very difficult. The only real problem between us is what you said when hes mad you two give each other space. I'm more of a lets communicate like mature adults & fix it type of lover.

Tell me how you feel, cry if you have to etc... & i hate being ignored. I feel if you're in a relationship you should want to be around each other everyday even if you're mad. I react to being ignored but I'm learning to just give him space & not overthink.

I think I missed that. Are you in a relationship?


It's complicated. Lol. I'm confused. I bet if we were compatible sun signs I would understand. We treat each other like we're in a relationship, we break up then make up... I go to families house every holiday. His mom calls me everyday.

Long story short I know I have this mans heart its just the hot/cold nature that throws me off. I was moreso needing a opinion from other tauruses to figure out how I could make him be hot over me all the time? Or is this just a personality trait I have to deal with?

Poor thing you're in a relationship trap (you being the emotionally trapped one) called an imaginary relationship.

These kind of situations feel real b/c everything you do with him from meeting the family, dates, him initiating attention and sex and maybe he even says "I love you" from time to time but through it all the woman whose becoming emotionally trapped never gets a verbal confirmation that she's in a committed monogamous relationship.

He's not that into you so he blows hot and then cold to reset the situation back to the beginning therefore the sex continues to flow without him having to sacrifice his freedom. If he's not being consistent with you and has one foot in and one foot out then you may not have his heart. Try not to project your love for him onto his feelings for you b/c men that give their hearts are not this wishy washy hot cold types.

You cannot make him love you more, !Ike you more, want you more, you can't turn yourself into what he wants b/c that would mean you just being yourself is not enough, trust that you're enough, you're a beautiful Leo.

Consequently being in these type of situation ship eventually make women feel bad about themselves, not pretty enough or good enough.

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Whats the best way to say you just want to remain friends & deal with other people?

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Posted by jeane
Posted by Inquisitivemind
Thank you!!!! I agree they are very difficult. The only real problem between us is what you said when hes mad you two give each other space. I'm more of a lets communicate like mature adults & fix it type of lover.

Tell me how you feel, cry if you have to etc... & i hate being ignored. I feel if you're in a relationship you should want to be around each other everyday even if you're mad. I react to being ignored but I'm learning to just give him space & not overthink.

I think I missed that. Are you in a relationship?


It's complicated. Lol. I'm confused. I bet if we were compatible sun signs I would understand. We treat each other like we're in a relationship, we break up then make up... I go to families house every holiday. His mom calls me everyday.

Long story short I know I have this mans heart its just the hot/cold nature that throws me off. I was moreso needing a opinion from other tauruses to figure out how I could make him be hot over me all the time? Or is this just a personality trait I have to deal with?

If you have their heart they are not hot and cold. They are consistent. It is hot hot hot all the way.


I thought if you've been with someone for a long time you'll eventually grow cold sometimes. I didnt know you can be in a hot relationship for 5,10,20 years.

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Relationships do tend to have a cool down period but both people feel safe and feel secure with one another. They respect one another by consistently demonstrating how much they care for one another, love one another by showing up for one another.

The blow hot and cold types have a consistent pattern of out of sight out of mind type of behavior. When he's with you he blows hot and then the cold cycle begins were you literally don't exist until he blows hot again.

I call it the bill payment cycle, you know when you don't think about a bill until it's time to pay it. They don't think about you until it's time to blow hot again.

Instead of sitting around conjuring up ideas on how to turn him on more go out and enjoy your life and forget about him for awhile as well.

Take that cold cycle down time to figure out what YOU need in a partner, weigh it out and if he's not meeting yous standards, measuring up to your expectations without having to coerce him or talk him into it then you might consider moving on or at the very least taking a big step back.

"Whats the best way to say you just want to remain friends & deal with other people?"

I personally love Rori Raye's no boyfriend speech

http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/instructions-for-speechmaking-when-hes-stalled-and-not-ready-to-commit-to-you/

You actually get yourself out if a situation where he's getting all of you all to himself whereas you're getting him sometimes which is causing you to be relationship needy which by the way is not an attractive look and actually pushes a man away further from you.

So really you're just setting the scales right so you won't lose yourself nor turn yourself inside out trying to prove your relationship worthy. This gives the relationship balance and could potentially strike a sense of panic in his heart that he must show up for you or risk using you.

He's not demonstrating his love and desire for you because he recognize there is no fear of losing you, he recognize you're so into him, in love with him you'll accept his crumbs , accept his half added need and make a whole relationship out of it while he does hardly any of the relationship work which works out great for him but leaves you over worked.

I'm not saying leave him but you can't keep doing what you're doing and expect to have his heart b/c right now you don't.

One thing I know for sure is fear of loss, fear of losing will make a man move in a woman's direction.
Sorry for the typo's

Meant to say "risk losing you'
you'll accept his half assed--ness and make a whole relationship out of it
Deal withother people and remian friends.

Say nothing.
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