Leo in need of advice(Taurus men help!)

I have been seeing this Taurus on the side for about ten months and i am confused with his behavior six months after dating him he said he didn't want to have sex with because he was not ready for a relationship but we still hook up from time to time i ask him do he care about me and he answer quickly saying no but he still laugh at my jokes and he won't get rid of me what is up with him.

i hate to break it to ya, but if he flat out says "i dont care about you," he's either a real jerk or he's got a VERY weird sense of humor. my guess is the jerk. it sounds like he got a little too used to the ease of just hooking up with you and now he doesnt feel like he actually has to make you feel good about yourself. my advice is move onto someone who laughs at your jokes AND makes you feel like the fantastic person you really are. if he cant see it, its his loss.

well i guess you are right but every time i try to leave him he comes back not begging but throwing me hints. And i meust admit i am so in love with this guy

Your a booty call just as he is.As stated he is "on the side" right?What are your intentions and thoughts on what you want out it with this whole thing?Otherwise it isn't looking so good unless he was hoping you'd break off the other relationship before that six month point.We need details to give us an idea of what may be going on,otherwise it's just the black and white no or yes and he just said it because of whatever reason.It won't be very helpful in otherwords.

Okay well i met himabout nine months ago i had a boyfriend he knew it we agreed we would just have a one night stand but it went further about a month later he went back to his girlfriend he stopped talking to me for about 2 mths then we hooked back up a couple times he would always say to me as soon as i give into you your gonna hurt me because your used to getting what you want . we had an episode where i almost got caught had to run out and leave him mind you he moved out of his girlfriens house and into his moms house.that's when he started acting all funny he said he wasn't ready for a relationship but he couldn't let me go every time we hooked up it was on abuddy type go to the bar thing but he would always get freaky we would have oral sex but he kept stating he didn't want to have sex. i recently found out he got his own crib and asked him why he haven't invited me over he said he didn't want women to know where he lived about two days ago he invited me over (talked, played a little) didn't have any condoms so couldn't get busy. tonight i went to his house unannouced he didn't answer the door (didn't have company) but what's up with that when i talked to him earlier he souned happy to hear from me why would he act this way. (it could be longer but i don't have the time)

i mean how would i know if he loves me or not he may be trying to guard his feelings because i have a man he always acts sincere it's always a pleasure for him to see me but i can't tell if he wants me or not. Are Taurus always forward in these situations?

"as soon as i give into you your gonna hurt me "
He told you what's going on, seems pretty plain to me. He is scared of you. And maybe with good reason. If he got together with you, he is afraid he will come over to find you with someone else. I don't think you will ever convince him that it won't happen, because of the way you two got together. I would move on.

mind you yattayattahey it's been about 5mths that he last said that and how the hell do i move on when i love him so much.

Are you still seeing the other guy?

yes i am we live together.

is their anyway i could make this guy understand that i will leave my man for him. I've tried telling him we are not together and he still did'nt get all happy (let's be together)I went pass his house again tonight and he didn't answer but he was there his lights were on.

How about, just do it? Leave that is. I mean, what is the point of staying? That might make him understand, but as long as you are saying one thing (that you will leave) and doing another (staying), I don't think your Taurus is going to answer his door.

well honey you and i both know that you don't leave a job unless you have something better to fall back how do i know that if i leave my man he will come running into my life especially if he says he is not looking for a relationship that's why i am asking you if you think that he is in love and hiding his feelings

"well honey you and i both know that you don't leave a job unless you have something better to fall back "

Actually I don't go by that at all, If I need to "quit a job", I am capable of being happily "self employed". I have some morals character.

And even if the Taurus doesn't come running, why stay with someone you don't love especially if it has already prevented you from being free to be with the one you claim to love?
Google Taurus sun sign traits and you will read over and over about their possessiveness and how the one thing that will set them off is feeling betrayed.

I don't know how she could be a booty call if he doesn't want to have sex with her.

It's the way it started leopussycat. Taurus want someone they can trust, reliable, faithful is a biggy. You being with someone else and agreeing to a one-night stand doesn't make you too worthy in his eyes. I know it sounds ugly and hurtful but to him you aren't worthy enough to be his girlfriend or for him to have anything serious with you. It's not that he's thinking it but it's the perception of you- the way it all started and that doesn't change. You took on the role of a sL*t and no one wants that.

And I'm not saying that you are one and I know that you're certainly not worthless. I know that we all make mistakes and because we make them doesn't make us any less deserving. It's just the way things are with you two. It's like when me and my girlfriends go out and party with a bunch of guys, get drunk, give every guy a lap dance, we don't have sex with anyone but what's the perception? you think those guys would want us as serious girlfriends? they certainly want something else though...

Anywho my point is that if you want a serious relationship it shouldn't be with anyone you've ever done something questionable with, it should be clean from the beginning, someone who can see the good things in you without having the questionable hanging over their heads.

do you feel me mr.crabby can't be a booty call if i ain't getting any. so what the hell does he want from me please help me understand.

That's exactly what i am trying to make clear how am i a booty call when he don't want it so what exactly do he want from me?

I think Tauruschic nailed it.

I feel you tauruschic and i truly understand but you have to understand it was supposed to be a one night stand no love making just a quick screw but he's the one that took it to another level with the kissy lovey dovey crap. so how do you explain his behavior of trying to keep me when i want to leave.

How is not answering his door to be interpretted as trying to keep you? And how is your seeking advice on how to get back with him to be interpretted as you wanting to leave? I am really confused here.

well i can't give all the details lets just say that i absolutely have to see him for another year and six mths because of my contract i have with his company well when i am trying to end it he makes it impossible for me to do that so considering that he has to see me once a week it's like he looks forward to it i think knowing that i have that contract with him he may feel as though he is going to keep me at arms length just in case i do leave my boyfriend why else would he take so serious keeping me their. he still wants to talk on the phone ,and go out from time to time. we don't have to do that in order to keep our contract he looks like a sad puppy that just lost his home whenever i try to leave.