a virgo girl with major issues. if you have the time to listen to my story,knock some sense into me

Posted by SMC
that read gave me a stroke..

What a long ass way to say you were in a semi thing with someone who is not that into you.

done.

Posted by coldwateryvirgo

Posted by SMC
that read gave me a stroke..

What a long ass way to say you were in a semi thing with someone who is not that into you.

done.

Yea, I'm need to get better at that .

Just because the details are important to me doesn't mean they are to other people.

I honest left out a lot too once i hit a full page. that's why i bought up some things and never got around to explaining why i bought it up.

When I leave out detail you get those few who say, there's not enough to go off of, and then too much it is then redundant.. I need to find a middle ground lol . I am new to forum so i'm learning

I feared people can't truly understand where im fully coming from . From this post, it is true that people only see things from their own experience. Some aligned with mine while some didn't. Was their advice and comment helpful ? definitely . But did many put themselves in a place to consider that maybe im someone who love differently and maybe the guy is weirdo too ? . No, not really, because most of the time it's assumed that this behavior is of someone young, dumb and naive since that's what the majority have experienced. Who am i to be an exception to something everyone fell for once. They aren't familiar someone that could be different nor do I expect them to be.

I hold on to being me because many elders have said to me " Not too many think like you anymore, let's hope you can hold on to that kind of love and not become jaded. We'll talk again when you're older"

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Posted by Already-use
Ok so I didn't read the comment of the others - but I have read YOUR posts and I would like to say thank you for sharing this here .

Astrology concerned or not , we are all humans and we share emotions . I think I can relate to your story a little bit . Correct me if I am wrong :

- you met this guy out of nowhere and not necessarily looking for a relationship

- you guy were hooking up and spending quite some time together talking , chatting etc ...

- however at some point he started to act distant

That's where everything started right ? I can't speak for him because guys usually are not that complicated . However it seemed that he DID care about you and I am sure he appreciated spending time with you. Otherwise we would have stopped texting you or coming back to you every single time . So please don't devaluate yourself on that point . However he seemed that people like him always want back the love they pushed aside . He knew and probably felt you were starting to have feelings for him , and maybe he was not there yet , but he knew you would somehow always be around whenever he would need it .

I think it's the biggest misconception when people think that you need to be in a relationship for a very long period of time to have "true love " or to "love" someone . But is really true love if it hurts that much ? Or has it become more like a "sick attachement "? . Loving him hurts you .What you felt at the beginning ? Was possibly infatuation - excitment , you have to see him or you miss him all the time , being around him makes you feel alive etc ...

But I do believe you when you said that you fell in love with him . I was dating someone from another continent for 5-6 months . Then he moved back to his country . We agreed to not continue this relationship ( it was very intense , loving BUT realistic). We would regularly chat and talk . At first every single day after we both returned to our countries, then less and less and I saw him almost 1 year and a half later - and guess what nothing has changed , I still love him / same thing for him - it's a different type of love for sure . But during that 1 year and a half ; knowing that I could not be with him , when all I ever wanted was him , that boy got under my skin . And moving on , well . I tried EVERYTHING ( that's where I relate) . I deleted him from fb , phone number and every social media . I blocked him . Told him , I was over him etc ... Then unfortunately , few hours later I was back at it , adding him again , talking . I did this so many times that I learned his number by heart ^^. He told me he didn't love me anymore . It broke my heart .

So that was finally what I needed to finally break free so I started to hate him - But then he came back - GIRL , THEY ALWAYS COME BAAAACK - that should be a universal law ^^. So we somehow started talking again. I forgot to mention that we TRULY wanted to be friends - whats important here . Is that HATING HIM wont make you forget him , the more you hate him , the more energy you put in him . And in order to hate someone you need to have feelings . Whether negative or positive . Indifference is the key .

As soon as I have accepted that I loved him and there was nothing wrong with that . That's how the process of moving on started .

I can't tell you a recipe for this to work - I can't say do this and that and you will be over him . What you have been through for all that time , the tears , emotional ( and sometimes phyical) pain caused with heartache , you can't just forget about it , you have invested yourself . But you will be OK . You are in your early twenties , we LEARN . It will take time . However the more you fight against it , the more chance and power you give it to stay .

I still think that cancer liked you and cared about you, but possibly not enough . That does not make you less attractive , smart , funny or kind . The most important thing you need to do in that situation is to LEARN to LOVE YOURSELF . Invest in yourself . I understand that letting go is not easy . But you need to try and repeat to yourself regularly - He does not love me and he moved on . But don't get stuck in a circle of sadness . You WILL find someone else that won't have to make you question whether he likes you or not . But you will miss that if you keep thinking that a person that treats you so terribly is what you deserve . It will all work out in the end

Good luck you can do this !!