Do Virgos change their mind and stick with it? Virgo ended things so suddenly - how?
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by C134 on Thursday, February 2, 2017 and has 8 replies.
After a perfect relationship of nearly two years he suddenly told me he didn't have strong feelings for me anymore and the "spark" had gone so didn't want to be with me. I can't believe or understand this as his behaviour didn't change, we didn't argue, we didn't fall out etc. We met up to speak he said he didn't want to try again - we haven't spoke since.
I have no clear reason for this other than the "spark" has gone.
At the start He tried for 8 months to gain my trust and win me over as I was worried of being hurt - I fell for him, he ticks every box I would ever want in a partner and he ends it and my breaks my heart. Very bizzare.
I am struggling to accept this or understand it's so strange. How can he suddenly block me? We lived together? He couldn't have had it more perfect?
I asked what more he wants from a girl - he said nothing I would be eveverything he would want. But he doesn't feel a spark!
Do Virgo just just change their mind and stick with their decision?
I have no clear reason for this other than the "spark" has gone.
At the start He tried for 8 months to gain my trust and win me over as I was worried of being hurt - I fell for him, he ticks every box I would ever want in a partner and he ends it and my breaks my heart. Very bizzare.
I am struggling to accept this or understand it's so strange. How can he suddenly block me? We lived together? He couldn't have had it more perfect?
I asked what more he wants from a girl - he said nothing I would be eveverything he would want. But he doesn't feel a spark!
Do Virgo just just change their mind and stick with their decision?
Had a similar case..after a year of perfect time getting to know each other he suddenly turned cold and distant. And this happened after a fun weekend together when he told he liked me so much. All this time he was saying I was perfect, smart, something unique but..I was trying to find out what went wrong but got an answer that it was his problem not mine, that he wasn't sure if he was ment to be in a relationship, that he was difficult to deal with bla bla..it's virgo and they always get lost when feelings get involved. The best thing to do is to move on..if he really feels something for you he will come..my first ex used to come back for 3 years until finally decided he wanted to be with me..virgo men just are that way..you can never know what to expect from their feelings
I am a Scorpio
Posted by sumoo
look closely at what went wrong, sometimes virgos don't tell you the exact reason why they left..the spark thing too. it's possible that he's not content with his life or he's figuring something out by himself..
I think it depends on his other signs
I think you should let him go...and make him regret it. that's the best and worst way to get him back
Not many signs to show me he was not feeling him and I. He just literally told me he didn't have a spark and we haven't spoke since. I feel so lost. I really don't understand. I feel like he wasn't able to express his emotions, he has just pushed them to one side and distracted himself with work!
Posted by yupvirgooI am a cancer. I think my first ex finally admitted his feelings and stopped being scared of them. He became serious about us moving in together, wanted to have a family and so on. Virgo men need time inside themselves to figure out their feelings as they can not explain them on rational level so even when everything seems fine they might distract. I heard a virgo man admitting that "we virgos can understand everything that is rational but when it comes to feelings we get lost..as we cannot touch them and explain"Posted by 5any5so what happened to that first ex when he decided to be with you?
Had a similar case..after a year of perfect time getting to know each other he suddenly turned cold and distant. And this happened after a fun weekend together when he told he liked me so much. All this time he was saying I was perfect, smart, something unique but..I was trying to find out what went wrong but got an answer that it was his problem not mine, that he wasn't sure if he was ment to be in a relationship, that he was difficult to deal with bla bla..it's virgo and they always get lost when feelings get involved. The best thing to do is to move on..if he really feels something for you he will come..my first ex used to come back for 3 years until finally decided he wanted to be with me..virgo men just are that way..you can never know what to expect from their feelingsclick to expand
Posted by 5any5So he came back after 3 years?
Had a similar case..after a year of perfect time getting to know each other he suddenly turned cold and distant. And this happened after a fun weekend together when he told he liked me so much. All this time he was saying I was perfect, smart, something unique but..I was trying to find out what went wrong but got an answer that it was his problem not mine, that he wasn't sure if he was ment to be in a relationship, that he was difficult to deal with bla bla..it's virgo and they always get lost when feelings get involved. The best thing to do is to move on..if he really feels something for you he will come..my first ex used to come back for 3 years until finally decided he wanted to be with me..virgo men just are that way..you can never know what to expect from their feelings
Posted by yupvirgooNo. It's not heartbreaking it took HER so long to SEE that. It's heart breaking that jerk, as she said, didn't have the balls to tell her the reason why at the time. He couldn't say "My inheritance matters more to me that what we have, so it's over. Sorry I have to break your heart over money, but..." That was all he had to say.Posted by RindarooMaybe he thought you'd try to fight it you know.. mold yourself into that housewife role. That's what I'd be thinking if I were him. I guess for me... it would be better to just let go and maybe let the person hate me for awhile so long as in the end, I don't regret that I've been selfish by dragging her into a life that she would not be happy with.Posted by yupvirgooYou are right. However, I wish he had the balls to tell me the truth when he broke up with me. I took it wrong & my life didn't go so well anyway. It took me 25 years to decide to deal with this & the rest of my life. understanding it makes a big difference, ah communication.... I guess my point here is sometimes it's just hard for them to talk about the real truth.Posted by RindarooYou would've hated that life and you would've resented him until you hate him.Posted by yupvirgooMom & Dad had money, and he was afraid he would be cut off if he married me. So he lived the life mom & dad wanted. Worked for Dad, perfect Catholic boy, and found a wife who didn't have career ambitions but fit the Catholic stay at home mom and who his mother would approve of. I was about to graduate from college, had big career plans & it's as if he set me free to be me.Posted by RindarooWhat do you mean by "he chose a life he didn't think I could live?"
Similar experience. It was 3 years & we were planning on getting married. Well it wasnt about the feelings or spark, he actually struggled with coming to see me for months. I finally had to stop the torture & tell him to leave me alone. 25 years later I got the real answers. He said it was just a choice. He chose a life he didn't think I could live. That was it. It was over. Love didn't matter.
Look at what he was analyzing, or struggling with.
I suppose he did the right thing. I don't do to well when I feel trapped, that Sag thing.. of course I didn't understand that til I was in my 40's.
It would not have ended well.
It's just heartbreaking that it took you so long to see that.click to expand
And the fact he couldn't be a man and stand up to his parents... COWARD!
I feel bad for you :/ ... I feel that virgo guys and women are completely different !
Personally , when I say I'm going to do something , I do it . I'm very determined and ( maybe moon in taurus / rising ) I keep going .
However when it comes to personal relationship , it might sound weird but I have no issues cutting off friends . If you upset me and I feel like we don't have anything in common , I ll just have to say good bye .
But if I really really loved you my head will say move on already and heart ( venus in leo) will say don't go just yet .
I would say that if they didn't love you or feel that it would go somewhere is enough of a reason to just go . I think we tend to be selfish with our feelings most of the time :/
Personally , when I say I'm going to do something , I do it . I'm very determined and ( maybe moon in taurus / rising ) I keep going .
However when it comes to personal relationship , it might sound weird but I have no issues cutting off friends . If you upset me and I feel like we don't have anything in common , I ll just have to say good bye .
But if I really really loved you my head will say move on already and heart ( venus in leo) will say don't go just yet .
I would say that if they didn't love you or feel that it would go somewhere is enough of a reason to just go . I think we tend to be selfish with our feelings most of the time :/
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