Hanging Tough on a Virgo (Page 2)

Question is, should I make some kind of contact to show I am thinking of him or send him a message telling him how I really feel (spill the beans!) and let him ponder whilst I am away..

DO IT....I did and I feel so much better. Do it for yourself..put yourself first. I would tell him how you feel and then let it be. Go on your trip with the comfort that you expressed your feelings before you left and if he doesn't respond you won't have the ever present question of what if.....I think a heartfelt email, text or letter so he can physically see your words and reread them as many times as he wants or needs would be best and then if he doesn't respond...be okay with the knowledge you did all you could. Be mindful that he is a virgo and he is going to analyze and go into deep thoughts over your words so it may take time.....but make sure you DO IT and do it for you!

daydreamer25 - regarding your questions:
"Would you say that as a Virgo you value relationships more which have grown steady and through strong friendship first?"

Yes. I would say so. As you probably read, most Virgo men don't let people into their inner circle very easily. Those that make it into the inner circle are treasured and protected. So if a relationship develops out of a friendship, it tends to be very strong.

That said, I am loathed to turn a friendship into a relationship however. As you know - it is a rare circumstance where a failed relationship still retains the friendship. Most relationships don't work out.


Your second question: "And the time thing regarding the confirming and acting on it, is this mainly about trust and truly getting to know someone shares the same values/dreams?"

Partly. There are two thoughts at work. 1 - Is the friendship worth risking for the relationship? 2 - Is the attraction one sided? Answering these questions take boys lots of time...we are not naturally inclined to analyze these things.

tazman,

Virgo's are very deep people and I think very few people would ever understand them as much as fellow earth signs do.

Would you mind me asking that if you really, really like someone, can you go days, even weeks without contact and still burn from within? Just curious!

Many thanks.

DD25 - It certainly is a struggle for me to forego contact when I really like someone. For me to do so, there has to be some good reasons to do. Younger and immature Virgos will likely be inwardly focused and often find insecurities causing them to pull back. The more mature virgos may be more risk averse - warning signs in the other person causing them to take things slow.

Infrequent contact really stokes the fire. The strange part is that that my analytical nature kicks in when there is no contact after a couple of weeks. In those cases, the connection starts to fade, which usually cools the burn.