It Was Only SEX!!
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by arieslatina on Thursday, April 19, 2007 and has 4 replies.
I think I may be in a lil bit of trouble. I met this virgo male at work and one day his first week here we went out for happy hr like the crew usually does 2xs a month. Anyway that day I was off and I came to happy hr looking good! well he noticed me and all he did was flirt flirt flirt. the following week we hooked up 3 times. Oh my GOD!!! I HIT THAT OPERA NOTE!!!! Well we hadnt seen each other for a month cuz then he started school and he switched shifts which was ideal for me. but for the last 6 wks....Weve been kicken it and DOING IT! I know for a fact we should be just friends cuz he's newly divorced and he still cares about his ex. she was an aries as well. There are always two sides of the story and so far he makes her seem like a monster. she and I have the same birthdate. How Ironic....
So now I wana break it off cuz I am starting to like him. besides him being newly divorced he's wrapped in his schooling and work and his passion..Music. No room for a girlfriend there. So I talk myself out of liking him too much by talking to him about other men I like. I'll say things like..."oh man I wish that guy was single, I want him!" all of a sudden he mentions something about us and says things like did you have fun last nite...was I good"
I make him feel like I aint got feelings for him at all. especially when he said himself he dont want a girl friend for all the reasons i mentioned. but the sex is great and our conversations are too. What am I supposed to do? I am trying soo hard to be logical and protect my heart...but he's great and I like having him as a friend. i mean i cud totally spend one nite together just chatting and not have sex...could he though? Does he like me or is it just sex.
He said he refuses to have one nite stands or multiple partners...i agree. but with time spent emotions grow......
He's like the sun and I am the Flower....What do I do????
So now I wana break it off cuz I am starting to like him. besides him being newly divorced he's wrapped in his schooling and work and his passion..Music. No room for a girlfriend there. So I talk myself out of liking him too much by talking to him about other men I like. I'll say things like..."oh man I wish that guy was single, I want him!" all of a sudden he mentions something about us and says things like did you have fun last nite...was I good"
I make him feel like I aint got feelings for him at all. especially when he said himself he dont want a girl friend for all the reasons i mentioned. but the sex is great and our conversations are too. What am I supposed to do? I am trying soo hard to be logical and protect my heart...but he's great and I like having him as a friend. i mean i cud totally spend one nite together just chatting and not have sex...could he though? Does he like me or is it just sex.
He said he refuses to have one nite stands or multiple partners...i agree. but with time spent emotions grow......
He's like the sun and I am the Flower....What do I do????
wow..that's kinda like my situation except..I'm as lost as you are..hehe
I talk to him about every single little thing, like the stuff you're saying right now, I don't post much on DXP about our relationship..because I am always confronting him with the relationship..
I decided from the beginning, I would show all my negative traits, I would just be myself, I would hold nothing back, if anything hindered me I would let him know right away, we talk to each other almost every day..I feel like we're brother and sister. I'm just gonna keep open-minded about what he thinks and feels, but I will always let him know my terms in the relationship. Just dish your guts out to him, virgos like straight-forward people anyway.
So make sure your needs are being met just as well as his.
I talk to him about every single little thing, like the stuff you're saying right now, I don't post much on DXP about our relationship..because I am always confronting him with the relationship..
I decided from the beginning, I would show all my negative traits, I would just be myself, I would hold nothing back, if anything hindered me I would let him know right away, we talk to each other almost every day..I feel like we're brother and sister. I'm just gonna keep open-minded about what he thinks and feels, but I will always let him know my terms in the relationship. Just dish your guts out to him, virgos like straight-forward people anyway.
So make sure your needs are being met just as well as his.
I KNOW SOME MAY CORRECT ME BUT AS FAR AS IM CONCERNED THA SECOND U SHOW FEELINGS OR THAT HE'S GOT U ITS ALLL DOWN HILL FROM THERE....of course i may be wrong....i say enjoy it while it lasts and keep ur cards to urself for a while...
check this out...I told him yesterday that ive been fighting not to like him sooo much cuz i guess in a way im insecure about myself. but when i started tellling him he agreed that nothing deeper is goin to happen. He was pretty blunt about it too. kinda hurt a little. but I guess that is better then him trying to take advantage of my feelings. hope it wont be like that ever. It was fun to flirt with the idea that maybe we could engage into a relationship
but the word relationship has so much baggage. I mean the title sounds like we gota be so serious about it. Maybe it puts pressure on him and on me as well since i have a full plate of responsibilities as well. he says we still goin hang out though. I like that since I know i cant give him anymore time then i do. but the tricky part is not letting my guard down....Men can do it so much easier then women too. wouldnt you agree! and yea the sex is great but I love the person he is minus the insecurities..thus the reason he really dont want a girl friend. I seem to find them types alot lately. wat the hell is it!!!
but the word relationship has so much baggage. I mean the title sounds like we gota be so serious about it. Maybe it puts pressure on him and on me as well since i have a full plate of responsibilities as well. he says we still goin hang out though. I like that since I know i cant give him anymore time then i do. but the tricky part is not letting my guard down....Men can do it so much easier then women too. wouldnt you agree! and yea the sex is great but I love the person he is minus the insecurities..thus the reason he really dont want a girl friend. I seem to find them types alot lately. wat the hell is it!!!
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