Need advice from female virgos!
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by wondergem on Monday, March 6, 2006 and has 9 replies.
Hello all. I am new to the site and have enjoyed the previous posts.
Here's my situation. I've (gemini male) been dating a female virgo for about 5 months. She is the only virgo I have ever dated. She is so very genuine, warm and attentive when I am with her and our conversations are always interesting. We have become sexually active together and both have agreed that monogamy is the way to go.
She is divorced and has a 4 year old daughter from her previous marriage. At times it seems that she can't get enough of me and then she has days where I am the last thing on her mind. She has, on numerous occassions, apologized because she is so "unavailable" or "undatable" because of the time she spends working and with her child. Yet, she always calls me back and we've gotten to the point where we talk everyday. Why is it so hard to get a read on how she really feels about me?
Is she afraid to take the next step? Should I just be patient?
I've heard that generally, virgos tend to remain closed until they really feel that they can trust. I would be happy to elaborate if needed.
Obviously, some of this is general relationship stuff but I would like to get other female virgo's opinions. Thanks.
Here's my situation. I've (gemini male) been dating a female virgo for about 5 months. She is the only virgo I have ever dated. She is so very genuine, warm and attentive when I am with her and our conversations are always interesting. We have become sexually active together and both have agreed that monogamy is the way to go.
She is divorced and has a 4 year old daughter from her previous marriage. At times it seems that she can't get enough of me and then she has days where I am the last thing on her mind. She has, on numerous occassions, apologized because she is so "unavailable" or "undatable" because of the time she spends working and with her child. Yet, she always calls me back and we've gotten to the point where we talk everyday. Why is it so hard to get a read on how she really feels about me?
Is she afraid to take the next step? Should I just be patient?
I've heard that generally, virgos tend to remain closed until they really feel that they can trust. I would be happy to elaborate if needed.
Obviously, some of this is general relationship stuff but I would like to get other female virgo's opinions. Thanks.
I am not a virgo by sun sign, but have venus/rising in virgo and I can relate to this situation right now. It sounds like she is a busy woman and any man who can respect this may be half way to understanding her. I dunno, just a feeling I get. My advise is to be patient. Continue to get to know her. I'm sure if she wasn't interested she would not be calling you back : )
Thanks Purrrfect. I know that PATIENCE is a virtue. I am trying to practice that with her. But I can see some of the negative Virgo traits highlighted.
I guess there aren't any other virgo females on this site. If so, please let me know your thoughts. Thanks.
I guess there aren't any other virgo females on this site. If so, please let me know your thoughts. Thanks.
Wondergem,
Continue being patient. You can't rush a Virgo woman. She is probably very busy with a job AND a four year-old. And she takes both her job and motherhood seriously.
How long has she been divorced? That may be a facror. Perhaps she is not emotionally ready to jump right into another long-term relationship just yet.
So, the advice to be patient is a good one.
Good luck!!
Continue being patient. You can't rush a Virgo woman. She is probably very busy with a job AND a four year-old. And she takes both her job and motherhood seriously.
How long has she been divorced? That may be a facror. Perhaps she is not emotionally ready to jump right into another long-term relationship just yet.
So, the advice to be patient is a good one.
Good luck!!
Hello to you Wondergem!
Virgos are very special as you say - they leave us with warm fuzzies
I am presently involved with a male Virgo so I know what you are feeling. I really do not think that this is a "sign" thing but more of an opportunity for growth for both of you.
Have you shared with your Virgo Lady how you feel when she gets too busy for you? She may not be aware of this or how it affects you. If this continues without you sharing your feelings you may eventually build up resentment towards her.
Hey, go ahead and ask her how she feels about you - nothing wrong with that! If you desire a relationship with open communication...then one must be that. Now, your ID reads, wondergem...are ya gonna "wonder" your life away or get the facts? Up to you Mr. Gem - it's your call.
My best wishes to you and your very special Virgo Lady
Virgos are very special as you say - they leave us with warm fuzzies
I am presently involved with a male Virgo so I know what you are feeling. I really do not think that this is a "sign" thing but more of an opportunity for growth for both of you.Have you shared with your Virgo Lady how you feel when she gets too busy for you? She may not be aware of this or how it affects you. If this continues without you sharing your feelings you may eventually build up resentment towards her.
Hey, go ahead and ask her how she feels about you - nothing wrong with that! If you desire a relationship with open communication...then one must be that. Now, your ID reads, wondergem...are ya gonna "wonder" your life away or get the facts? Up to you Mr. Gem - it's your call.
My best wishes to you and your very special Virgo Lady
Thanks VirgoLady and Freebird. I guess maybe I should give a little more detail to help in the discussion.
My virgo woman's divorce was finalized in Sep. '05. According to her, they decided to separate a year before that and after I asked whether she was over her ex, she laughed and said that the marriage was basically over a couple years before that.
She had a relationship between '04 and '05 with her self proclaimed "rebound" guy. When that was over, we met.
AND VirgoLady, I do agree with you that she takes work and her child seriously.
Freebird, I believe that she does know that it irritates me at times. That's why she is always apologizing for being "undatable".
PATIENCE - It's certainly a virtue.
I almost see it as if she needs to zone me out when she is attending to work or her daughter because that way she knows that she is concentrating and devoting herself to these important things.
One last thing that you can give me insight on. She has yet to introduce me to her daughter. This is probably one of the reasons why I am concerned about how she really feels about me. In our short discussions regarding her daughter, she indicated that she doesn't want her daughter to meet me if I am not going to be around in the future. I don't know if that means she is unsure about us or if she wants me to reassure her that I am seeing us together in the future.
If/when she introduces her daughter to me, I would see that as a sign that she has opened up more to me. Would you agree? Do you think she wants me to take the intiative?
Again, I appreciate any comments. Wondergem.
My virgo woman's divorce was finalized in Sep. '05. According to her, they decided to separate a year before that and after I asked whether she was over her ex, she laughed and said that the marriage was basically over a couple years before that.
She had a relationship between '04 and '05 with her self proclaimed "rebound" guy. When that was over, we met.
AND VirgoLady, I do agree with you that she takes work and her child seriously.
Freebird, I believe that she does know that it irritates me at times. That's why she is always apologizing for being "undatable".
PATIENCE - It's certainly a virtue.
I almost see it as if she needs to zone me out when she is attending to work or her daughter because that way she knows that she is concentrating and devoting herself to these important things.
One last thing that you can give me insight on. She has yet to introduce me to her daughter. This is probably one of the reasons why I am concerned about how she really feels about me. In our short discussions regarding her daughter, she indicated that she doesn't want her daughter to meet me if I am not going to be around in the future. I don't know if that means she is unsure about us or if she wants me to reassure her that I am seeing us together in the future.
If/when she introduces her daughter to me, I would see that as a sign that she has opened up more to me. Would you agree? Do you think she wants me to take the intiative?
Again, I appreciate any comments. Wondergem.
Well Wondergem - I too am a divorced woman and have been single for awhile (my choice) and the reason being was because I wanted to devote my time and energy to my boys and their well being for what we all had experienced. My goal was to help them become emotionlly stable, independent and loving themselves to that they would succeed in life and their relationships. I did date and had and still have many wonderful male pals. The men that were my "pals" were able to come to my home but the men that I thought that there may be something there - I did not bring to my home. Reason, did not want to add further emotional complications to my life or my boys unless I was absolutely sure of my decisions. Yes, she is being cautious and thinking about her daughter - good for her! Says quite a bit about this lovely womans character doesn't it? Continue to respect her wishes - when she feels the time is right for her and her daughter, she will most definately let you know.
Well wishes to you - you wonder of a Gem!
Well wishes to you - you wonder of a Gem!
I can very much relate to this as well. I am involved someone that I love very much but he is number 3 on my priority list. My son first, then work then when all is well, HIM. He is not always happy about this but for the most part understands. And these two lives stay separate unless I feel at some point my son would benefit from him as well. It does not mean I do not love him or am trying to alienate him. I strongly agree with freebird. Caution is a good thing. It is not a negative trait in any way. . . . btw I know I am not a virgo, I still understand this situation : )
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