NO COMPRENDO...

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by ESCORPIONA on Sunday, March 18, 2007 and has 97 replies.
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I still do not understand my Virgo man, and I have had all the patience and understanding in the world but I am still puzzled by the man. Virgo males are so confusing, at least this one is.

We still do not see each other much, even though like he said, 'He spilled his beans" and told me he loves me 2 weeks ago. Also, we have not made love since 3 weekends ago when we went out of town. We have seen each other in the last 3 weeks maybe 4 times for very short periods of times and we have not done anything exciting, besides gone to see his nephew play ball. The last 2 weeks we both have been under the weather, the flu, me much worse than him, but still the contact has been very limited.

But here it is my biggest complaint. This past Friday nite he was supposed to get together with some coworkers after his work and we texted each other about me going. After I asked him to let me know the details, he never answered back. So after a couple of hours, I texted him back and said well hope you are having a good time and I guess I was not invited after all. He replied saying he never went out and was home in bed because he was tired.

Well, I called him up and told him he should have the courtesy of letting me know and not left me hanging, his excuses was he got distracted and was busy at work and worked over time. I told him that he should have had consideration for me and as soon as he got out of work, he should have let me know. He apologized profoundly and said to please have patience with him, which I told him I do and that I wanted to be on the same page as him. I also told him that I do not understand how he says he loves me and we do not spend any time together. He said he was going to make it up to me. He said that he was off Saturday and he really wanted to see me and spend time together, that he would called me the next day. I said good nite and pleasant dreams...

Yesterday, Saturday, I never hear from him. At 7:30 pm I called his cell and his home and he did not answered neither, I did not leave any messages. Supposedly he is at work today but have not hear from him either. No text message, nothing!

My plan of action is not to call him, nor make any contact with him, and if he calls me or text me I will not answer him. He will get the message. I am tired of the man, I do care for him but I can not continue a "relationship" with a man that says he loves me but then he does not show it.

Do Virgo men keep their word? I guess not!
notso
Amen! Tongue
maybe he has another girl on the side like with my situation. smile do we ever learn. are you an aries too?
He assures me that there is no one else he is dating or seeing, he says he is happy with me. He has not given me any signs he is seeing anyone else, but everything is so confusing now that I just do not know anymore!
BTW I am a Scorpio.
that's what my virgo said and i finally found out that he has a gf.

** throws hands up at thick-headed people and walks away
I wouldn't be surprised if he has a g/f.... the situation seems to be going around lately with these virgo men...its' beginning to seem quite common---for the most part though they've been upfront about being in a relationship(in situations i've experienced and seen)---wait no that's a lie---they were upfront when confronted... and if that's the case pleeease don't become the side chick it goes no where
Varies, I get invited to family functions, I have been to his parents' house twice now. He tells me his family really likes me and he loves that, he is very close to his parents and siblings. I have met them all.
When I call he always answers (except for last nite) so I do not know what is going on...
Maybe there is another woman, who knows, but I do suspect he has a drinking problem. I have not said a thing to him about it, but he did tell me that a lady he was dating last year did tell him he was drinking too much, but he said to me that she was too formal and did not tolerate not even a glass of wine.
I do not know what is going on, but for me its no more contact with him. I hope I am strong enough not to contact him and be sarcastic with him as I am capable of doing when I am pissed off, I just want to get him out of my system.
FYIO we have been dating now for 5 months.
Archer it is not that I decipher everything about my Virgo man, but Friday nite he said he really wanted to see me Saturday and that he would call and he did not. I have not heard from him yet, but I do not plan to answer his calls or mssgs like I said.
No excuse is good enough for me. Regardless even if it was some type of emergency by now he should have called and let me know!
Hands full with me? We don't even see each other once a week... His hands should be busy touching me all over and making love to me! Tongue
I think the two-week break when you were both sick was really draining for you -- whereas for him it was a given you would not be together.
It seems he does love you, but still considers your get-togethers as casual, "see you when I see you" type encounters. Sounds like the need for sex is stronger on your part.
When you guys end up living together, then perhaps you'll feel filled. Until then, it sounds that he is just not as passionate as you...
Men move slower than women!
DearDiary said it so right that is me all right "you hold a lot of passion and energy. You are the type of sign that needs admiration, contact, a life with your partner, a social life with your partner, someone who is fun but can also sit and talk serious with you. You just remind me of the type of women who should be in a relationship as a Power Couple- both powerful, gearing towards success, and makes strives to higher ground."
Indeed I am very powerful and magnetic and passionate and I cannot stand this Virgo man anymore, he took all my patience away. I like my independence and my space as well, but not this much distance this Virgo man keeps.
I have been very clear about my messages with him and he says he understands and he tells me all the time that I am right, so what the heck!!!!
Also I am more sexual but how can a man go 3 weeks with no sex, unless he is getting it somewhere else, which he says he is not, I do not get it! If I have a man in my life I want it more often, I have told him that too, but I guess he NO COMPRENDO nothing... Still no news from him.
It is time for me to move on!
Thank you all for your words of wisdom and encouragement but I am real tired of this man. C'est la vie!
I never told him "I love you" but he sure did and more than once. But anyway who cares! Tongue
boing
P-Angel there are a couple more threads out there that I started, come on bring them up and keep boing them. You got class woman!
Well, fun isn't it? Tongue
Still no news from the man since Friday night, (besides an e-mail he forwarded to me this morning at 10:30 a.m. that contained a video of Fidel and Chavez) but no personal words from the Virgo man... And I am not going to second guess why he sent me that e-mail. He has never before sent me a forward e-mail.
And I have been good, I have made no attempt to contact him. And even better news I hace substituted cigarettes for water. It has been 6 plus days that I have not smoked but I sure have drank plenty of water! Tongue
I am being double strong, double the pleasure, no Virgo man and no cigarettes! smile
Oh dear...I take it things are progressing brilliantly then...
LOL..
Go find yourself someone on the side and have a bit of fun love..it sure as hell aint gonna happen here..You need a distraction..lol..
Still is no comprendo..?
I love the moodiness... up and down.... sometimes HOT... Sometimes Cold..!
He loves me? he loves me not.. I love him .. I don't love him?

Lol..
Mature people..!
Its all good..!
My Virgo man sent me a txt mssg this a.m. saying "U becoming a stranger 2 me" He sent me another txt mssg at noon saying "Do u want 2 go 2 San Francisco?" I have not replied to either... I am moving on!!!
And yes MissM., I am already flirting with a hot Gemini, I know long term we don't get along but for the time being I am having fun!
It is the 7th day with no cigarettes here, but I go to the piiiiipiiiiii room all day long because I have substituted smoking for drinking water, and I used to smoke over a pack a day, so imagine! Winking
Qbone you are so right, my Virgo man is so immature! Tongue
Hey Qbone, my Virgo man is the one that has said "I love you" pas moi! Alors?
So he is the one deflowering the daisy! Tongue
I love her
I don't love her
I love her
I don't love her
I love her
I don't love her
I love her
I don't love her
And I don't care anymore!
Everyone is immature when its comes to love play..
Winking
Hey...
He loves you in his own way..
You'll decide what is wrong or right ? right..??
and I don't care anymore!
Yes you do... Or else you wouldn't mention it in the first place..
Qbone said "He loves you in his own way.."
I guess for my Scorpio intensity is not enough! C'est tout!

Ahh
Cancers says the same.. scorps are not special in this..!
Virgos loves ORIGINALITIES..!
If you have difficult time with your lover's behaviour.. then it is between you two and problem of communications.. don't blame on Virgos in general..

Its all between you two?
Don't make me believe that you are another frustrated and rejected babe.

Comeone... you are better than this..!
Oh mais ORIGINALITY est moi!
I am very tall, blonde, Latin, foreign accent, educated, funny and sexy to say the least and very unique. I do not think it gets more original than me. Of course I am Scorpio Sun and Leo moon, so I am very secured of who I am.
It does not get any better! Tongue
PS Qbone this is the most difficult man I have ever dealt with in trying to understand where he is coming from. Too many mixed messages he has given me and even though I have spoken with him many times and he has said that I am right every time, he still does nothing to change his mixed messages. He is too set in his ways, and he is not going to change.
That is all folks! Tongue
tanya this Virgo man is about to turn 47 years old this year. Entiendes?
Hey...
I've stopped to give any advice long time ago... but look at yourself... if you are smart enough you'll find the answer within yourself... if not.. Then I'll be sorry for you..
So tell me..
Are you naive nough that some asshole telling to you what to do..?..
You like him? You'll stay with him.. you don't.. leave it alone.!
Simple as that..
As a Virgo at 46? I don't accept..(but what if) in my life..
the age of being GF/BF is over for me..! same as your Virguy.. or what ever..
get real instead...
The answer is simple:
Hasta la vista baby! Tongue
I do like him but not enough to go through all this agony!
Qbone I am very real.
PS I am not looking for a b/f but a partner in crime, someone fun that enjoys life to the max and treats me like the queen I am!
Hasta la vista baby!
Then why do you keep taking about past..??
Water creatures and past..?? It's not going to help you in the future developments..??
I am not going to accept that you are scorpion? so what..??
As I am Virgo? so what..??
Are you value the people in your life in this way???
So superficial and shallow..??
PS I am not looking for a b/f but a partner in crime, someone fun that enjoys life to the max and treats me like the queen I am!
honest and good says?

But don't blame on Virgos, its your play..
OK????
"I have not replied to either... I am moving on!!!"
Pffffffft...where have I heard that one before Tongue
Don't blame ya..just do your own thing..
Luv Ya Escorpiona!
Virgo or non-virgo..no man is worth that much trouble...
Period
The last few days I have been in deep thoughts that it is finally over.
I sent a good bye txt mssg to my Virgo man that said:
"______, I do love you and I hate to tell you so for the first time via txt mssg. I LOVE YOU, but what you are willing to give to the 'relationship' is not enough for me. I want a man that it is really into me and does not place restrictions on the relationship"
By this, people, I was referring to a conversation we had as to our contact and him only wanting calls every other day, and seeing each other once a week and yada, yada, yada...
I kept saying:
"I want an easy relationship with a man that makes me feel important in his life."
I finished the txt mssg by saying:
"It means I LOVE YOU and I am letting you go because it hurts TOO much..."
Yes, I was afraid to let him go, but I have and it hurts. I feel a big pain in my heart and in my soul, but I know it is the best for me because down the road would have been so much harder and more painful.
I have not heard from him, nor do I expect to hear from him, but I just wanted to share with the board that I have finally done it. I told him good-bye for good. Finally I was very upfront.
Some of you are going to doubt me because you have read so many wishy washy posts from me, but this time I am serious, it is for real, like it has been 11 days without smoking. I am determine not to smoke ever again, as I am determine to find the man that will love me with all he got and that is not my Virgo man.
Thank you all for being there, whichever way, for the last 4 months.
Goof luck to you each of you in your path of love and happYness!
*Good luck to each of you on your path of love and happYness!
You will be just fine Escorpiona...Somebody who sweeps you off your feet and puts the biggest smile on your face will come along real soon and you'll instantly know the difference between a person who gives you love whole heartedly and then one who dangles it on a piece of string just out of reach.
All the best babes...
I have erased all of my Virgo man's contacts. Phones numbers, text mssgs, e-mails, IM id, everything and since I do not know any of his information by memory, I will not get tempted and contact him...
Uffffffff this so hard, but I know that is what I needed to do!
NEXXT! Tongue
PS I am just here, venting!!! smile
A recap of the latest events...
Saw my Virgo man for the last time Friday night. We had a good time together, but I realized that we have different priorities of what we want out of a relationship at this stage in our lives. I went home thinking very seriously about it.
On Saturday around noon, I texted my Virgo man that I loved him (told him so for the 1st time) and at the same time I was saying good bye to him and to our "relationship."
Sunday, I sent him a few more (total of 3) txt messages and the last one said I was going to delete all his information, phones, emails, IM id, which I did. I do not remember any of the information, so even if I became tempted to get hold of him, I could not.
He sent me a text mssg late Sunday night (Mon. 1:30 am) saying "You have me all misunderstood. Love u" I deleted it right away, so no phone number stayed on my cell.
This Tuesday at 6:28 am, I had a mssg on my IM from him that said "I missed you a bunch my name. Yes I want you in my life... Love You... his name. have to go to work, think about it once again..." I deleted it right away so no IM id stayed on my IM messenger.
I did not replied to neither one of his last two messages... I am being strong. I know I love the man but he is not the man for me. Ufffffffffffff but it is hard!
I just have a feeling that he is going to continue contacting me, via written messages. He is not the type to get on the phone and call me. Well, maybe not, maybe he will never again get hold of me.
Question... What is the style of Virgo men in situations such as this?
If I had a dollar for every time you said "NEXXT", I'd be fucking rich.
It's not THAT you say it .. if WHAT you do is sit back and wait for him.
And If I got .10 cents every time you said "divorce" I be richer than you!
archer, je suis curieux, c'est tout! Je suis ESCORPIONA, ne c'est pas? Tongue
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