Should I continue to pursue Virgo woman, or is it

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Sorry. 1st time on here. Anyway, Im a Cancer man and I told a Virgo friend how I felt about her a while ago and it seems to be going no where. I've heard that you have to be patient with virgo's, but dayum.....how patient. She is a really busy person and Im sure this interferes with the possibility of us hanging out, and she lives in another city. She's knows how I feel about her and Im just trying to decide to give up or not. I really feel that there is something between us............Virgo ladies....Il need your help.
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Have you made a specific date with her? Make it a day time thing for the first one,so she can get to see another side to you,like a park or outside music thingy. If you keep saying one day we will go out,we want proof of your words.We aren't standing still waiting for you to make that move.
Yes , we are that busy.And after you make the date don't keep calling/contacting her. Don't. Resist. We figure it's cray cray and not being excited/showing interest to be with us.
Yes,Mr Crabby,we get you.We know your mushy under that shell.She has to learn that she can relax with you and feel protected,not suffocated.Good Luck.
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Thanks for your response vulcan. I appreciate it.
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Joshmoe,

What was her response when you told her how you felt about her? Body language included, please. Thank you!
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Vulcanlass-No I havent made a specific date with her. I'll usually ask her when she'll have some time, and she always seems to be busy. she's a full time student,so I know her time is limited. I'll try that though. a specific day and time. Thanks again
Pandemonium-I've been pursuing her for months now. Too many to post :-). its kinda embarrasing. My birthday is July 7th and hers is Sept 20th. thats all I can tell u. Dont know that much about charts. cool name by the way.
VirgoVixxen-She was smiling when I told her, but continued doing her work, like it didnt really affect her that much. I told her that. I couldnt stop thinking about her and that since even before I met her, (we work in the same building,so I would see her alot,but hadnt introduced myself ) I felt some kind of connection or sonething pulling me toward her. like a magnet. I know it sounds weird, but its true. She said I needed to handle my situation at home and I agreed and told her we had time....no rush. I let her know how beautiful she is quite often(not overboard with it though)...got her flowers....she knows how I feel.
Sorry to all of y for responding so late. I appreciate the feedback ladies. Thank u once again. You virgos are interesting beings. Im stoooopid about this girl.
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*Pours self cup o' tea and places a few crackers on plate*
So...err...did I hear "situation at home"? Oh please honey, do continue!
See, if you're going to employ the help of us DXP virgals, we IS gonna need every nook and cranny.
None of that secretive ish you Cancer men like to pull...now spill it!
Oh and uhm, yes, that "magnet like attraction" is SICK. Had the same experience with a Cancer guy myself so, it's real, sugah. It's the pull of water to earth. If this thing goes any further, wait until you start to feel the electrical currents.
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In addition,
Virgals are just as stoopid (lol) about you crabcakes as you are about us. It's ridiculous. You dudes are like kryptonite.
The fact that she smiled and told you to work out your situation at home first, is promising. We don't like messy "situations" so we would prefer for you to "clean up" before we get involved.

*Takes a sip o' tea*
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"Virgals are just as stoopid (lol) about you crabcakes as you are about us. It's ridiculous. You dudes are like kryptonite."
^^ That's an understatement LOL smile
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^^For true.
Dem boys have a way of making us go coo-coo for cocoa puffs. smile

How's the pincer?
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Im getting a divorce.
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And by the way, your killing me with the tea and crackers thing....hahaaa....comedy. Yea, Im going through a divorce.
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Posted by VirgoVixxxen
^^For true.
Dem boys have a way of making us go coo-coo for cocoa puffs. smile

How's the pincer?



Everything is good smile still going slow but that's alright with me
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Posted by Joshmoe
Im getting a divorce.



^^That right there is the reason! She's reluctant because of your situation right now...take care of it and then maybe try again...slowly
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Posted by Joshmoe
Im getting a divorce.


I see.
"Takes a bite of cracker* - as LIMM said (above), that's what she's waiting for. For you to wrap up those loose ends, and then the two of you can proceed.
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Posted by LostinmyMind11
Posted by VirgoVixxxen
^^For true.
Dem boys have a way of making us go coo-coo for cocoa puffs. smile

How's the pincer?



Everything is good smile still going slow but that's alright with me
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Good to hear.
On another note, this may just very well be the slowest match in the zodiac. Sheesh!
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Joshmoe,Joshmoe,Joshmoe*smh*that's certainly a" situation".We're not rebound material and are not up for ex drama.We're not looking for busted windshields or any other type of stalkage.
Frankly,your on the end of a thirty nine and a half foot pole until you get stuff squared away permanently(none of this back and forth business).
@LIMM,how are ya doing???
@VV isn't there always more than meets the eye??
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Thank u for your input good people. We'll see how it goes.
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Virgovixxxen- Slowest match in the zodiac....are u clowning me, or are u serious? Wuts the deal with the triple x's.
Vulcanlass-So your saying, until everything is final, I have no chance? Im taking care of that as fast as I can. Theres nothing crazy going on. Was the more than meets the eye statement about me? sorry, not really sure.
once again, thank u ladies.
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VV??? lol@the crackers save one for me plz.
Josh, I am with a cancer in the beginning I was suspicious because of how attached he was without really knowing me. I think virgos will like a cancer's intensity more a bit later than sooner (but if you stick around we do like it in the end).
Also@your comment to Vulcan Lass "So your saying, until everything is final, I have no chance?" That sounds a bit off to me. How serious are you about this girl if you need to jump into things when you're not even finished being married yet and ready to forget her because she wants to wait until your situation is cleared up?
I don't know about her but for me I always think something that starts to fast will end even faster.
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VulcanLass.....I'm doing pretty good...How are you?
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Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Posted by LostinmyMind11
Posted by VirgoVixxxen
^^For true.
Dem boys have a way of making us go coo-coo for cocoa puffs. smile

How's the pincer?



Everything is good smile still going slow but that's alright with me


Good to hear.
On another note, this may just very well be the slowest match in the zodiac. Sheesh!
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Haha so true
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"Also@your comment to Vulcan Lass "So your saying, until everything is final, I have no chance?" That sounds a bit off to me. How serious are you about this girl if you need to jump into things when you're not even finished being married yet and ready to forget her because she wants to wait until your situation is cleared up?
I don't know about her but for me I always think something that starts to fast will end even faster."

^^I was gonna ask the same question lol
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Virgodreamz- I am extremely serious. Im done with the other relationship, just not legally. But its definately over romanticly(dont think I spelled that right). We have 2 kids, so we have to still interact and everything, but thats it. Our relationship is good. I would say that we're friends therefore no psycho drama or anything. We agreed mutually that it was the best thing to do. I was just trying to get a complete understanding about vulcanlass's comment...thats all. I think my mysterious virgal is amazing and waiting is not a problem. I actually respect her more for it. Im persistant and very patient, so....I'll wait....dont really think I have a choice....Im hooked.
;-D.
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Joshmoe,
I concur with the other Virgo ladies here. Don't give up on her. She is just putting this aside until you get "all" things straighten out. She is being smart at this and she (as it is usually common for most Virgos I know) won't be guided by her emotions only, but also by her logic. She doens't want the emotional things to be cleared only, she wants everything (including legalities) to be in a good place, so that you two can move along, if it's really meant to happen.
I think you posting here, means that you do care. Just be understanding with how she might view things right now and it would be good if you show her, that not only you do understand her perspective, but also that you are doing what you can to keep on moving forward, as you know that is what is needed. You can just send her messages here and there to keep her posted and let her know that you are thinking of her as you keep on moving along with this new chapter in your life.
MissV
p.s. And yes Cancers can be sweet and really great in relationships with us. The emotional and mental expectations are a bit different, but with honest communication, maturity, time...and a good basis for those important aspects for each, I think we can be a good match in the long run.
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I'm working on it ladies. thanks again. I appreciate it.
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MissV123-I respect and love the fact thats she thinks before she acts. Thats one of the things I respect most about her. The last thing I'd want to do is rush her. Believe it or not, I do understand her...I get it.
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Posted by Joshmoe
Virgovixxxen- Slowest match in the zodiac....are u clowning me, or are u serious? Wuts the deal with the triple x's.

once again, thank u ladies.



No clowning over this way.
The typical textbook Cancer-Virgo pairing can literally take ages to get going, but the good thing is that both don't seem to mind as there is usually alot of suspicion, fear, misunderstanding etc., which can lead to a non-stop cycle of "testing". It can be exasperating. Virgos and Cancers are both cautious in love and don't care to rush so moving at a snail's pace feels right at home. This may not be the case with you and your virgal. The two of you may find yourselves moving forward rather quickly (in the good way) once everything on your end is settled.
What do the triple X's stand for? *snickers* well you obviously don't know much about the dual nature of the Virgo woman. Winking
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Posted by VulcanLass
@VV isn't there always more than meets the eye??




That would be a hells yes.
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Posted by MissV123
Joshmoe,
I concur with the other Virgo ladies here. Don't give up on her. She is just putting this aside until you get "all" things straighten out. She is being smart at this and she (as it is usually common for most Virgos I know) won't be guided by her emotions only, but also by her logic. She doens't want the emotional things to be cleared only, she wants everything (including legalities) to be in a good place, so that you two can move along, if it's really meant to happen.
I think you posting here, means that you do care. Just be understanding with how she might view things right now and it would be good if you show her, that not only you do understand her perspective, but also that you are doing what you can to keep on moving forward, as you know that is what is needed. You can just send her messages here and there to keep her posted and let her know that you are thinking of her as you keep on moving along with this new chapter in your life.
MissV
p.s. And yes Cancers can be sweet and really great in relationships with us. The emotional and mental expectations are a bit different, but with honest communication, maturity, time...and a good basis for those important aspects for each, I think we can be a good match in the long run.


Well said, Miss V.
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Joshmoe,You're like an onion me lad.Layers and layers here.I didn't say stop talking to her, but I'm saying don't be surprised if she isn't in a rush to move things along.If she knows the full story and if she is still talking to you then you still have a chance.
Many people tell others that they are getting a divorce and it lags on.I am not saying that this is your deal,but Virgos girls want YOU to be clear about what is going on with your situation.
We can make friends with and guide your children.Mature Virgals can deal with your past, if you are clear with the boundaries that you set in place for your priorities.I don't mean dumb stuff like you can't speak her name in our presence or not talk about your feelings about what is going on.I just mean ,keep your new relationship in the top ten list.Just keep your eyes on the future.
We watch how you treat your children and interact with your ex.It sounds like you are off to a good start in that reguard tho'. I am saying that as far as you,your divorce and she goes,getting deeper involved,the ink needs to be dry.Your mind operates on a different level once the papers are signed.She might want to see how you adjust to the new landscape of singlehood.
Why the hurry to pinch her up Joshmoe???If she has school and work,she's not going anywhere anytime soon,is she??
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Posted by virgodreamz
VV??? lol@the crackers save one for me plz.
Josh, I am with a cancer in the beginning I was suspicious because of how attached he was without really knowing me. I think virgos will like a cancer's intensity more a bit later than sooner (but if you stick around we do like it in the end).
Also@your comment to Vulcan Lass "So your saying, until everything is final, I have no chance?" That sounds a bit off to me. How serious are you about this girl if you need to jump into things when you're not even finished being married yet and ready to forget her because she wants to wait until your situation is cleared up?
I don't know about her but for me I always think something that starts to fast will end even faster.


lol, *hands VD a Kedem Vanilla* - and there's plenty more where that came from. Winking
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Virgovixxxen- lol...I've heard about it. cant wait to experience it.
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Posted by Joshmoe
Virgovixxxen- lol...I've heard about it. cant wait to experience it.


HAHAHA...Did I forget to mention that we Virgals KNOW you cancerian gents are some straight freaks? Ha!
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Vulcanlass-Im clear about my situation. We've been talking alot lately and she's opening up more often. Today was really nice. We talked alot, I had her smiling most of the time we were talking (when I wasn't listening to her..yea...Im a great listener and I could listen to her talk for hours ;-D). Imma pretty funny dude...I have my off days, but Im on most of the time. I helped her find a dress 2 weeks ago(that she liked and bought yesterday), so, Im feeling pretty good about the way things are going.
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Virgovixxxen-Yup.......Thats pretty accurate. When I love somebody,( or have really strong theres no limit.
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strong "feelings" that is.
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Vulcanlass-Sorry, I forgot....just dont want somebody else to swoop in..thats all, but at the same time, if its supposed to happen, it will and I think it will.
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@Joshmoe,It's hard to get a Virgal to laugh.If she is opening up,she's starting to trust you. Go easy there Mr Crabbycakes,but it sounds like you are on the right path.
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Posted by Joshmoe
Virgovixxxen-Yup.......Thats pretty accurate. When I love somebody,( or have really strong theres no limit.



One of my fav quotes of Cancer M/Virgo W pairing.
"Cancer man and Virgo woman can make a surprisingly well-suited couple. There is a gentle sweetness shared between the two which will help this relationship flourish into something beautiful and tender. Cancer man will bring out the best in Virgo woman and she will do precisely the same thing with him. There will be few disagreements of a significant nature because of the genuine shared mutual respect these two have for each other."

*wipes tear from eye* awwwww
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vulcanlass- eh heh
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Virgovixxxen-nice.
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Cool. Thanks for the info bluemoon.
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Posted by Joshmoe
MissV123-I respect and love the fact thats she thinks before she acts. Thats one of the things I respect most about her. The last thing I'd want to do is rush her. Believe it or not, I do understand her...I get it.


Good to know, Josh. I dated a cancer before too so I understand your logic, just know that once things settle down, it won't feel this way.
I would say, just mention your understanding and state of being with the issue one time and then after that just keep on spending time getting to know her better...because if you keep on bringing up such hard issue, it might overwhelme her a bit too much and eventually make her a bit more hesistant because of it. Also, if you do get the divorce make sure you do it for you because if you make her feel like she is one of the primary reasons for it, it won't sound right because it wouldn't be right. I went on few dates a year ago or so with a guy who (unbeknownst to me) was in the midts of a divorce, though he was physically separated for a while, I had no idea about that until the third date. He was in the navy, was very good looking, and was chariming, I was beginning to like him alright, but as time passed by he kept on bringing the issue everytime we would meet and made me feel that I was the ultimate decision he needed to cut all legalities, which I thought was crazy since I barely knew him and was a turn off since I thought he should make such a decision for himself and in relation to his past relationship and not me.
I didn't understand how he was already putting me in the middle of it. So I had to end things shortly. I share this, just as a side note because I know you like this lady.
All the best. Let us know if you need any new thoughts in the future, and above all...get to know her better and keep on moving towards whatever is best for everyone, only you know your story fully well.
MissV
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Thanks missV. Im definately getting the divorce for me. I wouldnt want her to feel like she was the reason for it, because she isn't. We've been friends for a while, so I think she understands my situation to a certain degree (if that makes since). Wutz the 123 for on your name?
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Sooooo, Im waiting for her to call me. I've told her a couple times, like....if you have some time later on, gimme a call.....she hasn't yet...DUN DUN DUNNNNN.........Whatsup ladies?
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Posted by MissV123
Joshmoe,
I concur with the other Virgo ladies here. Don't give up on her. She is just putting this aside until you get "all" things straighten out. She is being smart at this and she (as it is usually common for most Virgos I know) won't be guided by her emotions only, but also by her logic. She doens't want the emotional things to be cleared only, she wants everything (including legalities) to be in a good place, so that you two can move along, if it's really meant to happen.
I think you posting here, means that you do care. Just be understanding with how she might view things right now and it would be good if you show her, that not only you do understand her perspective, but also that you are doing what you can to keep on moving forward, as you know that is what is needed. You can just send her messages here and there to keep her posted and let her know that you are thinking of her as you keep on moving along with this new chapter in your life.
MissV
p.s. And yes Cancers can be sweet and really great in relationships with us. The emotional and mental expectations are a bit different, but with honest communication, maturity, time...and a good basis for those important aspects for each, I think we can be a good match in the long run.


Well said, Miss V.
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VV, you and I share common perspectives here usually and approach to people's questions in similar ways too.
It would be so cool to sit down and get some coffee. smile I hope everything is going so well in your life miss!
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Posted by Joshmoe
Sooooo, Im waiting for her to call me. I've told her a couple times, like....if you have some time later on, gimme a call.....she hasn't yet...DUN DUN DUNNNNN.........Whatsup ladies?


Hi Josh,
Well, when was the last time you said that to her? How much time has happened since then? Also, why would you want her to call you as opposed to you calling her?
MissV
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She's always busy. So, I figured it would work better that way, rather than trying to figure out when she's available. The last time I told her she should call me was friday. Should I call her?
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Joshmoe,
I concur with the other Virgo ladies here. Don't give up on her. She is just putting this aside until you get "all" things straighten out. She is being smart at this and she (as it is usually common for most Virgos I know) won't be guided by her emotions only, but also by her logic. She doens't want the emotional things to be cleared only, she wants everything (including legalities) to be in a good place, so that you two can move along, if it's really meant to happen.
I think you posting here, means that you do care. Just be understanding with how she might view things right now and it would be good if you show her, that not only you do understand her perspective, but also that you are doing what you can to keep on moving forward, as you know that is what is needed. You can just send her messages here and there to keep her posted and let her know that you are thinking of her as you keep on moving along with this new chapter in your life.
MissV
p.s. And yes Cancers can be sweet and really great in relationships with us. The emotional and mental expectations are a bit different, but with honest communication, maturity, time...and a good basis for those important aspects for each, I think we can be a good match in the long run.


Well said, Miss V.


VV, you and I share common perspectives here usually and approach to people's questions in similar ways too.
It would be so cool to sit down and get some coffee. smile I hope everything is going so well in your life miss!
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Ditto Miss V.
I'm doing well. Just enjoying the Summer, hang'n with the fam'. My work schedule also picked up. All good...and you? Any new love interests?
What do you do for fun Miss V?
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