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Posted by Nathan912It's hilarious. She needs to mommy him to the point as finding him a bride?Posted by WitchmitchAriesI don't think it's rebound relationship, I'm pretty sure he's capable finding and loving another woman without the purpose of getting over you, he'll get over you naturally once he find the right woman for him and capable of loving him.Posted by Nathan912rebound relationships can be tricky. but i have thought that he really needed friends. that would be more helpful. but i do like your tip. thank you.
You don't necessarily to do this cause I'm sure he will another woman by himself for a greater love and greater change but since you want to help him, introduce him to your female friends or at least him help him find another woman.
Do it. He'll smile and thank you later.
Like I said you don't necessary to do it helping him finding another woman because he can probably find another love by himself because love will find him.
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You making man sound like an invalid!
Posted by VenusAquariusOMG! Why are these cliches are always find a person who will use them?Posted by WitchmitchAriesI don't think you've fallen out of love with your husband as much as you haven fallen out of love with yourself. You lost yourself or, being who you are (paricularly in this marriage) is no longer fulfilling.Posted by VenusAquariusyour right thank youPosted by WitchmitchAriesThere you go... a fixer.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowmy virgo told me today that he is letting me go because he loves me. he said he thinks if he hanges on to me that i will come to hate him and he doesnt want that. he knows that i really tired and he could kick himself for not listening sooner. this is what he told me today. i have always had his and have taken care of anything that he was bitching about. i didnt to the point that i got lost in the relationship and he says he knows this and understand that i need to go. he is a very strong man, but i cant help but worry about him. but i always worried about him. he is still me friend. i do know he doesnt handle change very well. guess we will see.Posted by WitchmitchAriesI don't think it's sunk in yet. The mind can play real cruel tricks.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowthank you. he did take off his ring today. i hope thats a good sign. he says know we still be friends helps him. but i know he can fool himself at times. the one problem we faces is that we have to live together for a while to get things like the house and other stuff taken care of. i have no place to go. i was wondering if he might be stalling. lol he does that at times. it drove me crazy. lol put he says his eyes are so open now and he wants to kick himself for not listening to me. he can be soo hard on himself about things.
Yikes. Even with just a Virgo moon, leaving my ex really fucked me up for a very long time. He faces a long dark road and I don't wish it upon anyone.
Unfortunately, I think having you around even as a friend will do more damage than good. I don't believe he's accepted the marriage is over, I think he thinks there's still a slim chance. I think this is him stalling.
He needs to get used to the idea of you not in his life, and you can only help him with distance. Even photos of you should go.
Our relationship thawed over time as I started becoming resentful towards Chris, but at the same time it felt like this was just a phase and that he'd come to his senses about making a decision. It was an extremely mentally draining time for me. But I'm very stubborn and I snapped myself out of it long enough to make Chris' decision for him.
But it fucked me up real good. Lowered my self worth almost to the ground, and forget about confidence. I felt like I gave him everything I had in me, and it still wasn't good enough for him. That's still a problem I have with Jed too, like I'm actually dreaming and I'll wake up and the last 3-4 months never happened. I have to keep reminding myself that Jed is a better man than Chris, and a more appreciative man. Both Virgos, yet so different.
Think about this....
You have no place to go but, worried helping your husband's transition.
Think about this and how this has contributed to your marriage.
Counseling might help you both.
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She said it wasn't fulfilling.
Please, write a fool 'divorcing a man right way' and I will buy it.
However something tells me you don't know much about marriage and falling out of love so...
Posted by WitchmitchAriesPerhaps, because you have difficulty with maintaining an identity, healthy independence, while merging yourself in a union.Posted by VenusAquariusi did loose myself. then has i started to find myself again thats when i started to fall out of love with him.Posted by WitchmitchAriesI don't think you've fallen out of love with your husband as much as you haven fallen out of love with yourself. You lost yourself or, being who you are (paricularly in this marriage) is no longer fulfilling.Posted by VenusAquariusyour right thank youPosted by WitchmitchAriesThere you go... a fixer.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowmy virgo told me today that he is letting me go because he loves me. he said he thinks if he hanges on to me that i will come to hate him and he doesnt want that. he knows that i really tired and he could kick himself for not listening sooner. this is what he told me today. i have always had his and have taken care of anything that he was bitching about. i didnt to the point that i got lost in the relationship and he says he knows this and understand that i need to go. he is a very strong man, but i cant help but worry about him. but i always worried about him. he is still me friend. i do know he doesnt handle change very well. guess we will see.Posted by WitchmitchAriesI don't think it's sunk in yet. The mind can play real cruel tricks.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowthank you. he did take off his ring today. i hope thats a good sign. he says know we still be friends helps him. but i know he can fool himself at times. the one problem we faces is that we have to live together for a while to get things like the house and other stuff taken care of. i have no place to go. i was wondering if he might be stalling. lol he does that at times. it drove me crazy. lol put he says his eyes are so open now and he wants to kick himself for not listening to me. he can be soo hard on himself about things.
Yikes. Even with just a Virgo moon, leaving my ex really fucked me up for a very long time. He faces a long dark road and I don't wish it upon anyone.
Unfortunately, I think having you around even as a friend will do more damage than good. I don't believe he's accepted the marriage is over, I think he thinks there's still a slim chance. I think this is him stalling.
He needs to get used to the idea of you not in his life, and you can only help him with distance. Even photos of you should go.
Our relationship thawed over time as I started becoming resentful towards Chris, but at the same time it felt like this was just a phase and that he'd come to his senses about making a decision. It was an extremely mentally draining time for me. But I'm very stubborn and I snapped myself out of it long enough to make Chris' decision for him.
But it fucked me up real good. Lowered my self worth almost to the ground, and forget about confidence. I felt like I gave him everything I had in me, and it still wasn't good enough for him. That's still a problem I have with Jed too, like I'm actually dreaming and I'll wake up and the last 3-4 months never happened. I have to keep reminding myself that Jed is a better man than Chris, and a more appreciative man. Both Virgos, yet so different.
Think about this....
You have no place to go but, worried helping your husband's transition.
Think about this and how this has contributed to your marriage.
Counseling might help you both.
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You think you found yourself... this is in thought, consciousness... not so much in the actualization in the physical sense. Like you said "started to find myself." I've read your past posts about your marriage and personal desires.
When you fully separate and evaluate who you are, were, and have become with no illusions or self delusions.... from "the marriage" itself, you will be able to take personal responsibility more. And perhaps, have more patience with the overall transition needed for you and him. Instead of feeling unfilled.
Your process is a huge transition that will need adaptation on all fronts, your children and your husband, requiring time for both of you to adapt...
...adapt to your wakening.
Posted by GemitatiYour life is a cliché.Posted by VenusAquariusOMG! Why are these cliches are always find a person who will use them?Posted by WitchmitchAriesI don't think you've fallen out of love with your husband as much as you haven fallen out of love with yourself. You lost yourself or, being who you are (paricularly in this marriage) is no longer fulfilling.Posted by VenusAquariusyour right thank youPosted by WitchmitchAriesThere you go... a fixer.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowmy virgo told me today that he is letting me go because he loves me. he said he thinks if he hanges on to me that i will come to hate him and he doesnt want that. he knows that i really tired and he could kick himself for not listening sooner. this is what he told me today. i have always had his and have taken care of anything that he was bitching about. i didnt to the point that i got lost in the relationship and he says he knows this and understand that i need to go. he is a very strong man, but i cant help but worry about him. but i always worried about him. he is still me friend. i do know he doesnt handle change very well. guess we will see.Posted by WitchmitchAriesI don't think it's sunk in yet. The mind can play real cruel tricks.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowthank you. he did take off his ring today. i hope thats a good sign. he says know we still be friends helps him. but i know he can fool himself at times. the one problem we faces is that we have to live together for a while to get things like the house and other stuff taken care of. i have no place to go. i was wondering if he might be stalling. lol he does that at times. it drove me crazy. lol put he says his eyes are so open now and he wants to kick himself for not listening to me. he can be soo hard on himself about things.
Yikes. Even with just a Virgo moon, leaving my ex really fucked me up for a very long time. He faces a long dark road and I don't wish it upon anyone.
Unfortunately, I think having you around even as a friend will do more damage than good. I don't believe he's accepted the marriage is over, I think he thinks there's still a slim chance. I think this is him stalling.
He needs to get used to the idea of you not in his life, and you can only help him with distance. Even photos of you should go.
Our relationship thawed over time as I started becoming resentful towards Chris, but at the same time it felt like this was just a phase and that he'd come to his senses about making a decision. It was an extremely mentally draining time for me. But I'm very stubborn and I snapped myself out of it long enough to make Chris' decision for him.
But it fucked me up real good. Lowered my self worth almost to the ground, and forget about confidence. I felt like I gave him everything I had in me, and it still wasn't good enough for him. That's still a problem I have with Jed too, like I'm actually dreaming and I'll wake up and the last 3-4 months never happened. I have to keep reminding myself that Jed is a better man than Chris, and a more appreciative man. Both Virgos, yet so different.
Think about this....
You have no place to go but, worried helping your husband's transition.
Think about this and how this has contributed to your marriage.
Counseling might help you both.
She said it wasn't fulfilling.
Please, write a fool 'divorcing a man right way' and I will buy it.
However something tells me you don't know much about marriage and falling out of love so...click to expand
Most of our fulfillment comes from within.
You currently think dick and sexual attention is ultimate fulfillment and your naive, deprived enthusiasm strokes not only his penis but, his ego.
You're not in love.
You're just deprived.
I dont see the problem. You were together for 29+ years, and its only been a week since you've told him. How fast do you want him to get over it? A day? Also, he's already embracing letting go, which is honestly fast. I'm not sure why you are worried about it or why his pace is concerning to you. Sometimes it takes people years to move on. This guy seems to be handling things extremely well.
Since he seems to be embracing it, focus on you. You are STILL trying to fix things, which indicates that you are the one not letting go.
Since he seems to be embracing it, focus on you. You are STILL trying to fix things, which indicates that you are the one not letting go.
Posted by GemitatiI did check my previous post and I can't find telling the op helping him finding him a bride.Posted by Nathan912It's hilarious. She needs to mommy him to the point as finding him a bride?Posted by WitchmitchAriesI don't think it's rebound relationship, I'm pretty sure he's capable finding and loving another woman without the purpose of getting over you, he'll get over you naturally once he find the right woman for him and capable of loving him.Posted by Nathan912rebound relationships can be tricky. but i have thought that he really needed friends. that would be more helpful. but i do like your tip. thank you.
You don't necessarily to do this cause I'm sure he will another woman by himself for a greater love and greater change but since you want to help him, introduce him to your female friends or at least him help him find another woman.
Do it. He'll smile and thank you later.
Like I said you don't necessary to do it helping him finding another woman because he can probably find another love by himself because love will find him.
You making man sound like an invalid!
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I only give the OP an advice that she can probably help him another person to love since she wants to help and I also said she doesn't require to help him.
Posted by VenusAquariusPulled out of your ass? Is there a lot left?Posted by GemitatiYour life is a cliché.Posted by VenusAquariusOMG! Why are these cliches are always find a person who will use them?Posted by WitchmitchAriesI don't think you've fallen out of love with your husband as much as you haven fallen out of love with yourself. You lost yourself or, being who you are (paricularly in this marriage) is no longer fulfilling.Posted by VenusAquariusyour right thank youPosted by WitchmitchAriesThere you go... a fixer.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowmy virgo told me today that he is letting me go because he loves me. he said he thinks if he hanges on to me that i will come to hate him and he doesnt want that. he knows that i really tired and he could kick himself for not listening sooner. this is what he told me today. i have always had his and have taken care of anything that he was bitching about. i didnt to the point that i got lost in the relationship and he says he knows this and understand that i need to go. he is a very strong man, but i cant help but worry about him. but i always worried about him. he is still me friend. i do know he doesnt handle change very well. guess we will see.Posted by WitchmitchAriesI don't think it's sunk in yet. The mind can play real cruel tricks.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowthank you. he did take off his ring today. i hope thats a good sign. he says know we still be friends helps him. but i know he can fool himself at times. the one problem we faces is that we have to live together for a while to get things like the house and other stuff taken care of. i have no place to go. i was wondering if he might be stalling. lol he does that at times. it drove me crazy. lol put he says his eyes are so open now and he wants to kick himself for not listening to me. he can be soo hard on himself about things.
Yikes. Even with just a Virgo moon, leaving my ex really fucked me up for a very long time. He faces a long dark road and I don't wish it upon anyone.
Unfortunately, I think having you around even as a friend will do more damage than good. I don't believe he's accepted the marriage is over, I think he thinks there's still a slim chance. I think this is him stalling.
He needs to get used to the idea of you not in his life, and you can only help him with distance. Even photos of you should go.
Our relationship thawed over time as I started becoming resentful towards Chris, but at the same time it felt like this was just a phase and that he'd come to his senses about making a decision. It was an extremely mentally draining time for me. But I'm very stubborn and I snapped myself out of it long enough to make Chris' decision for him.
But it fucked me up real good. Lowered my self worth almost to the ground, and forget about confidence. I felt like I gave him everything I had in me, and it still wasn't good enough for him. That's still a problem I have with Jed too, like I'm actually dreaming and I'll wake up and the last 3-4 months never happened. I have to keep reminding myself that Jed is a better man than Chris, and a more appreciative man. Both Virgos, yet so different.
Think about this....
You have no place to go but, worried helping your husband's transition.
Think about this and how this has contributed to your marriage.
Counseling might help you both.
She said it wasn't fulfilling.
Please, write a fool 'divorcing a man right way' and I will buy it.
However something tells me you don't know much about marriage and falling out of love so...
Most of our fulfillment comes from within.
You currently think dick and sexual attention is ultimate fulfillment and your naive, deprived enthusiasm strokes not only his penis but, his ego.
You're not in love.
You're just deprived.
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Posted by Nathan912Introducing him to her girlfriends. That's what I was referring to.Posted by GemitatiI did check my previous post and I can't find telling the op helping him finding him a bride.Posted by Nathan912It's hilarious. She needs to mommy him to the point as finding him a bride?Posted by WitchmitchAriesI don't think it's rebound relationship, I'm pretty sure he's capable finding and loving another woman without the purpose of getting over you, he'll get over you naturally once he find the right woman for him and capable of loving him.Posted by Nathan912rebound relationships can be tricky. but i have thought that he really needed friends. that would be more helpful. but i do like your tip. thank you.
You don't necessarily to do this cause I'm sure he will another woman by himself for a greater love and greater change but since you want to help him, introduce him to your female friends or at least him help him find another woman.
Do it. He'll smile and thank you later.
Like I said you don't necessary to do it helping him finding another woman because he can probably find another love by himself because love will find him.
You making man sound like an invalid!
I only give the OP an advice that she can probably help him another person to love since she wants to help and I also said she doesn't require to help him.
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Posted by GemitatiYou can post all the smilies you want. You know you're dying inside. Waste more years aaaaawaaaaayyyyy.Posted by VenusAquariusPulled out of your ass? Is there a lot left?Posted by GemitatiYour life is a cliché.Posted by VenusAquariusOMG! Why are these cliches are always find a person who will use them?Posted by WitchmitchAriesI don't think you've fallen out of love with your husband as much as you haven fallen out of love with yourself. You lost yourself or, being who you are (paricularly in this marriage) is no longer fulfilling.Posted by VenusAquariusyour right thank youPosted by WitchmitchAriesThere you go... a fixer.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowmy virgo told me today that he is letting me go because he loves me. he said he thinks if he hanges on to me that i will come to hate him and he doesnt want that. he knows that i really tired and he could kick himself for not listening sooner. this is what he told me today. i have always had his and have taken care of anything that he was bitching about. i didnt to the point that i got lost in the relationship and he says he knows this and understand that i need to go. he is a very strong man, but i cant help but worry about him. but i always worried about him. he is still me friend. i do know he doesnt handle change very well. guess we will see.Posted by WitchmitchAriesI don't think it's sunk in yet. The mind can play real cruel tricks.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowthank you. he did take off his ring today. i hope thats a good sign. he says know we still be friends helps him. but i know he can fool himself at times. the one problem we faces is that we have to live together for a while to get things like the house and other stuff taken care of. i have no place to go. i was wondering if he might be stalling. lol he does that at times. it drove me crazy. lol put he says his eyes are so open now and he wants to kick himself for not listening to me. he can be soo hard on himself about things.
Yikes. Even with just a Virgo moon, leaving my ex really fucked me up for a very long time. He faces a long dark road and I don't wish it upon anyone.
Unfortunately, I think having you around even as a friend will do more damage than good. I don't believe he's accepted the marriage is over, I think he thinks there's still a slim chance. I think this is him stalling.
He needs to get used to the idea of you not in his life, and you can only help him with distance. Even photos of you should go.
Our relationship thawed over time as I started becoming resentful towards Chris, but at the same time it felt like this was just a phase and that he'd come to his senses about making a decision. It was an extremely mentally draining time for me. But I'm very stubborn and I snapped myself out of it long enough to make Chris' decision for him.
But it fucked me up real good. Lowered my self worth almost to the ground, and forget about confidence. I felt like I gave him everything I had in me, and it still wasn't good enough for him. That's still a problem I have with Jed too, like I'm actually dreaming and I'll wake up and the last 3-4 months never happened. I have to keep reminding myself that Jed is a better man than Chris, and a more appreciative man. Both Virgos, yet so different.
Think about this....
You have no place to go but, worried helping your husband's transition.
Think about this and how this has contributed to your marriage.
Counseling might help you both.
She said it wasn't fulfilling.
Please, write a fool 'divorcing a man right way' and I will buy it.
However something tells me you don't know much about marriage and falling out of love so...
Most of our fulfillment comes from within.
You currently think dick and sexual attention is ultimate fulfillment and your naive, deprived enthusiasm strokes not only his penis but, his ego.
You're not in love.
You're just deprived.
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Posted by WitchmitchAriesI got a bizarre feeling about it.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowmy virgo told me today that he is letting me go because he loves me. he said he thinks if he hanges on to me that i will come to hate him and he doesnt want that. he knows that i really tired and he could kick himself for not listening sooner. this is what he told me today. i have always had his and have taken care of anything that he was bitching about. i didnt to the point that i got lost in the relationship and he says he knows this and understand that i need to go. he is a very strong man, but i cant help but worry about him. but i always worried about him. he is still me friend. i do know he doesnt handle change very well. guess we will see.Posted by WitchmitchAriesI don't think it's sunk in yet. The mind can play real cruel tricks.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowthank you. he did take off his ring today. i hope thats a good sign. he says know we still be friends helps him. but i know he can fool himself at times. the one problem we faces is that we have to live together for a while to get things like the house and other stuff taken care of. i have no place to go. i was wondering if he might be stalling. lol he does that at times. it drove me crazy. lol put he says his eyes are so open now and he wants to kick himself for not listening to me. he can be soo hard on himself about things.
Yikes. Even with just a Virgo moon, leaving my ex really fucked me up for a very long time. He faces a long dark road and I don't wish it upon anyone.
Unfortunately, I think having you around even as a friend will do more damage than good. I don't believe he's accepted the marriage is over, I think he thinks there's still a slim chance. I think this is him stalling.
He needs to get used to the idea of you not in his life, and you can only help him with distance. Even photos of you should go.
Our relationship thawed over time as I started becoming resentful towards Chris, but at the same time it felt like this was just a phase and that he'd come to his senses about making a decision. It was an extremely mentally draining time for me. But I'm very stubborn and I snapped myself out of it long enough to make Chris' decision for him.
But it fucked me up real good. Lowered my self worth almost to the ground, and forget about confidence. I felt like I gave him everything I had in me, and it still wasn't good enough for him. That's still a problem I have with Jed too, like I'm actually dreaming and I'll wake up and the last 3-4 months never happened. I have to keep reminding myself that Jed is a better man than Chris, and a more appreciative man. Both Virgos, yet so different.click to expand
I'm a strong man too but there's only so much assault our minds & hearts can take. It hasn't hit him yet, that it's truly over. When it does, it won't be pretty. I have a feeling that he'll start resenting you for not being with him.
Posted by VenusAquariusNot anymore. Things had changed. I am pretty contained. I am not wasting years. I am learning, changing, hoping and being all that upbeat and positive lately. Because he is awesome to me and I know he is figuring things out for us and I am feeling man in my life. Holding my ass so it wouldn't fall off! ?Posted by GemitatiYou can post all the smilies you want. You know you're dying inside. Waste more years aaaaawaaaaayyyyy.Posted by VenusAquariusPulled out of your ass? Is there a lot left?Posted by GemitatiYour life is a cliché.Posted by VenusAquariusOMG! Why are these cliches are always find a person who will use them?Posted by WitchmitchAriesI don't think you've fallen out of love with your husband as much as you haven fallen out of love with yourself. You lost yourself or, being who you are (paricularly in this marriage) is no longer fulfilling.Posted by VenusAquariusyour right thank youPosted by WitchmitchAriesThere you go... a fixer.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowmy virgo told me today that he is letting me go because he loves me. he said he thinks if he hanges on to me that i will come to hate him and he doesnt want that. he knows that i really tired and he could kick himself for not listening sooner. this is what he told me today. i have always had his and have taken care of anything that he was bitching about. i didnt to the point that i got lost in the relationship and he says he knows this and understand that i need to go. he is a very strong man, but i cant help but worry about him. but i always worried about him. he is still me friend. i do know he doesnt handle change very well. guess we will see.Posted by WitchmitchAriesI don't think it's sunk in yet. The mind can play real cruel tricks.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowthank you. he did take off his ring today. i hope thats a good sign. he says know we still be friends helps him. but i know he can fool himself at times. the one problem we faces is that we have to live together for a while to get things like the house and other stuff taken care of. i have no place to go. i was wondering if he might be stalling. lol he does that at times. it drove me crazy. lol put he says his eyes are so open now and he wants to kick himself for not listening to me. he can be soo hard on himself about things.
Yikes. Even with just a Virgo moon, leaving my ex really fucked me up for a very long time. He faces a long dark road and I don't wish it upon anyone.
Unfortunately, I think having you around even as a friend will do more damage than good. I don't believe he's accepted the marriage is over, I think he thinks there's still a slim chance. I think this is him stalling.
He needs to get used to the idea of you not in his life, and you can only help him with distance. Even photos of you should go.
Our relationship thawed over time as I started becoming resentful towards Chris, but at the same time it felt like this was just a phase and that he'd come to his senses about making a decision. It was an extremely mentally draining time for me. But I'm very stubborn and I snapped myself out of it long enough to make Chris' decision for him.
But it fucked me up real good. Lowered my self worth almost to the ground, and forget about confidence. I felt like I gave him everything I had in me, and it still wasn't good enough for him. That's still a problem I have with Jed too, like I'm actually dreaming and I'll wake up and the last 3-4 months never happened. I have to keep reminding myself that Jed is a better man than Chris, and a more appreciative man. Both Virgos, yet so different.
Think about this....
You have no place to go but, worried helping your husband's transition.
Think about this and how this has contributed to your marriage.
Counseling might help you both.
She said it wasn't fulfilling.
Please, write a fool 'divorcing a man right way' and I will buy it.
However something tells me you don't know much about marriage and falling out of love so...
Most of our fulfillment comes from within.
You currently think dick and sexual attention is ultimate fulfillment and your naive, deprived enthusiasm strokes not only his penis but, his ego.
You're not in love.
You're just deprived.
?
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Considering this is a 29 year marriage.. (I believe it was that many years) if I was him, I would cry. Cry sosososososo much. I don't even know how I'd function. Virgo likes some sort of routine and having a divorce so suddenly would pull the rug right under my feet. Which everyone knows being unprepared is a Virgos worse nightmare.
It takes a while to fully commit to someone, to allow ourselves to fall in love. And once we have analyzed and FINALLY picked our partner, have 29 years of that person in our lives and BAM divorce?
I don't even know what I'd really do. Mourn. A lot of mourning. That's when Virgos negative archetype would come out.
It takes a while to fully commit to someone, to allow ourselves to fall in love. And once we have analyzed and FINALLY picked our partner, have 29 years of that person in our lives and BAM divorce?
I don't even know what I'd really do. Mourn. A lot of mourning. That's when Virgos negative archetype would come out.
Posted by GemitatiThat's what I said she can probably introduce to some of her female friends and I don't see anything wrong with that. Cause sometimes you'll never until you try.Posted by Nathan912Introducing him to her girlfriends. That's what I was referring to.Posted by GemitatiI did check my previous post and I can't find telling the op helping him finding him a bride.Posted by Nathan912It's hilarious. She needs to mommy him to the point as finding him a bride?Posted by WitchmitchAriesI don't think it's rebound relationship, I'm pretty sure he's capable finding and loving another woman without the purpose of getting over you, he'll get over you naturally once he find the right woman for him and capable of loving him.Posted by Nathan912rebound relationships can be tricky. but i have thought that he really needed friends. that would be more helpful. but i do like your tip. thank you.
You don't necessarily to do this cause I'm sure he will another woman by himself for a greater love and greater change but since you want to help him, introduce him to your female friends or at least him help him find another woman.
Do it. He'll smile and thank you later.
Like I said you don't necessary to do it helping him finding another woman because he can probably find another love by himself because love will find him.
You making man sound like an invalid!
I only give the OP an advice that she can probably help him another person to love since she wants to help and I also said she doesn't require to help him.
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I give the op a choice whether to try help him or not.
Posted by DamnataYou are so right D
Waiting for this topic to fill up with BS Virgo answers to the tune of "Oh he will get over it".
He won't get over it. Virgo does not get over it. Relationships are one thing...marriage is another.
If he loved you deeply, it's all downhill now for his health on all levels you can imagine: mental, emotional, etc.
Pls don't take this the wrong way, it's not a guilt trip by any means and you have to do what is right by yourself but if the question is how to help to move on..he won't move on.
Only thing you can do is be caring and keep an observant eye out for his behavior/patterns.
My ex Virgo is still not over our split, even though it was mutual and a few years ago
I sense he never will
The "get over it" thing is glib and insensitive
Is there someone you didn't get over D? Maybe the Aries man?
....and I love what you said about keeping an eye on him
I keep in regular contact with my ex, not just because we co parent but because I want to know if he is okay and looking after himself properly
Please don't just turn your back on him OP, Virgo people are far more sensitive than people realize
I keep in regular contact with my ex, not just because we co parent but because I want to know if he is okay and looking after himself properly
Please don't just turn your back on him OP, Virgo people are far more sensitive than people realize
The best way to help a Virgo move on? Leave him be, we're resilient people and he will heal on his own and move on. And find happiness and growth without you...I wish you both future happiness, good luck!
Posted by NineAvenue
This guy is not moving anywhere. She's an Aries he's a Virgo it's all out war.
The earth sign will smother out the flames of the fire sign here.
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You should go to counseling with him but only if you have kids. Otherwise don't.
LOL at all out war! Been down that road with an Aries with Scorpio moon, it was interesting. It got brutal. That's why I advised her to let him be.
Posted by Nathan912Does your wife has girlfriends you don't know?Posted by GemitatiThat's what I said she can probably introduce to some of her female friends and I don't see anything wrong with that. Cause sometimes you'll never until you try.Posted by Nathan912Introducing him to her girlfriends. That's what I was referring to.Posted by GemitatiI did check my previous post and I can't find telling the op helping him finding him a bride.Posted by Nathan912It's hilarious. She needs to mommy him to the point as finding him a bride?Posted by WitchmitchAriesI don't think it's rebound relationship, I'm pretty sure he's capable finding and loving another woman without the purpose of getting over you, he'll get over you naturally once he find the right woman for him and capable of loving him.Posted by Nathan912rebound relationships can be tricky. but i have thought that he really needed friends. that would be more helpful. but i do like your tip. thank you.
You don't necessarily to do this cause I'm sure he will another woman by himself for a greater love and greater change but since you want to help him, introduce him to your female friends or at least him help him find another woman.
Do it. He'll smile and thank you later.
Like I said you don't necessary to do it helping him finding another woman because he can probably find another love by himself because love will find him.
You making man sound like an invalid!
I only give the OP an advice that she can probably help him another person to love since she wants to help and I also said she doesn't require to help him.
I give the op a choice whether to try help him or not.
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It would be weird like selling unwanted goods to whoever willing to take him.
Also why would she want her good friends to have him?
Posted by GemitatiOh goodness gracious! You're overthinking way too much. Why would you think that she's selling her husband just because she's going to try to introduce to her friends?Posted by Nathan912Does your wife has girlfriends you don't know?Posted by GemitatiThat's what I said she can probably introduce to some of her female friends and I don't see anything wrong with that. Cause sometimes you'll never until you try.Posted by Nathan912Introducing him to her girlfriends. That's what I was referring to.Posted by GemitatiI did check my previous post and I can't find telling the op helping him finding him a bride.Posted by Nathan912It's hilarious. She needs to mommy him to the point as finding him a bride?Posted by WitchmitchAriesI don't think it's rebound relationship, I'm pretty sure he's capable finding and loving another woman without the purpose of getting over you, he'll get over you naturally once he find the right woman for him and capable of loving him.Posted by Nathan912rebound relationships can be tricky. but i have thought that he really needed friends. that would be more helpful. but i do like your tip. thank you.
You don't necessarily to do this cause I'm sure he will another woman by himself for a greater love and greater change but since you want to help him, introduce him to your female friends or at least him help him find another woman.
Do it. He'll smile and thank you later.
Like I said you don't necessary to do it helping him finding another woman because he can probably find another love by himself because love will find him.
You making man sound like an invalid!
I only give the OP an advice that she can probably help him another person to love since she wants to help and I also said she doesn't require to help him.
I give the op a choice whether to try help him or not.
It would be weird like selling unwanted goods to whoever willing to take him.
Also why would she want her good friends to have him?
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It's not like the op is going to introduce her husband to her mom or sister, that would be more weird than introducing him to her friends. Besides there's no guarantee they will get along and into relationship right away, I already said she can try to introduce him to her female friends or help him find another woman other than her friends or not help him at all.
Posted by VenusAquariusPosted by WitchmitchAriesI understand.Posted by VenusAquariusi am a fixer. he bitched about anything i fixed it. i even quit college for him. i have even put my health like doctor appointment on hold so i could fix what up set him. when i car about someone i put myself to the side and just suck it up and do what i could for the person i love. but my health can handle that no more and my mind says its soo done. the only way for my to take care of me is to be on my own. he says he understands thats but he is in pain. he said he knows i have always been there for him and he understands that i need to go.Posted by WitchmitchAriesAnd, I know what you mean by doing "it his way." But, I take responsibility for my choice to do so. So, that wasn't a problem or, the problem for us. If it was a problem, I would just do things my way.Posted by Tom_Sawyeri am not pulling any shit. i fell out of love with him. it does happen. where did you get the idea that i was pulling shit? i have been by this mans side and did it all his way for 29 years. 29. there is no bull shit here. i care about him and love him but not in love with him. please tell me what shit i am pulling? i really want to know you would think that.Posted by DamnataHe will get over her once he fully realizes the shit she's pulling.
Waiting for this topic to fill up with BS Virgo answers to the tune of "Oh he will get over it".
He won't get over it. Virgo does not get over it. Relationships are one thing...marriage is another.
If he loved you deeply, it's all downhill now for his health on all levels you can imagine: mental, emotional, etc.
Pls don't take this the wrong way, it's not a guilt trip by any means and you have to do what is right by yourself but if the question is how to help to move on..he won't move on.
Only thing you can do is be caring and keep an observant eye out for his behavior/patterns.
I'm not buying it.
And, while trying to explain the health thing, they turn around and talk about their pain.
We have to teach people how to treat us. They think everythings okay. I feel like for men, posession really is 9/10 of the law. It seems they only listen when you're walking out the door. By then, you need a couple of years break.
Re - teach him how to love you. Start a list of all the things you need in priority.
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QFT.
Posted by Nathan912We don't dig each other.Posted by GemitatiOh goodness gracious! You're overthinking way too much. Why would you think that she's selling her husband just because she's going to try to introduce to her friends?Posted by Nathan912Does your wife has girlfriends you don't know?Posted by GemitatiThat's what I said she can probably introduce to some of her female friends and I don't see anything wrong with that. Cause sometimes you'll never until you try.Posted by Nathan912Introducing him to her girlfriends. That's what I was referring to.Posted by GemitatiI did check my previous post and I can't find telling the op helping him finding him a bride.Posted by Nathan912It's hilarious. She needs to mommy him to the point as finding him a bride?Posted by WitchmitchAriesI don't think it's rebound relationship, I'm pretty sure he's capable finding and loving another woman without the purpose of getting over you, he'll get over you naturally once he find the right woman for him and capable of loving him.Posted by Nathan912rebound relationships can be tricky. but i have thought that he really needed friends. that would be more helpful. but i do like your tip. thank you.
You don't necessarily to do this cause I'm sure he will another woman by himself for a greater love and greater change but since you want to help him, introduce him to your female friends or at least him help him find another woman.
Do it. He'll smile and thank you later.
Like I said you don't necessary to do it helping him finding another woman because he can probably find another love by himself because love will find him.
You making man sound like an invalid!
I only give the OP an advice that she can probably help him another person to love since she wants to help and I also said she doesn't require to help him.
I give the op a choice whether to try help him or not.
It would be weird like selling unwanted goods to whoever willing to take him.
Also why would she want her good friends to have him?
It's not like the op is going to introduce her husband to her mom or sister, that would be more weird than introducing him to her friends. Besides there's no guarantee they will get along and into relationship right away, I already said she can try to introduce him to her female friends or help him find another woman other than her friends or not help him at all.
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You just suggesting weird thing and denying it's weirdness.
'Introduce him to your friends' - what for?
Posted by GemitatiThe OP is asking people how to help her husband or soon to be ex-husband to get over her and I gave her an answer help him find another find another woman that he can love.Posted by Nathan912We don't dig each other.Posted by GemitatiOh goodness gracious! You're overthinking way too much. Why would you think that she's selling her husband just because she's going to try to introduce to her friends?Posted by Nathan912Does your wife has girlfriends you don't know?Posted by GemitatiThat's what I said she can probably introduce to some of her female friends and I don't see anything wrong with that. Cause sometimes you'll never until you try.Posted by Nathan912Introducing him to her girlfriends. That's what I was referring to.Posted by GemitatiI did check my previous post and I can't find telling the op helping him finding him a bride.Posted by Nathan912It's hilarious. She needs to mommy him to the point as finding him a bride?Posted by WitchmitchAriesI don't think it's rebound relationship, I'm pretty sure he's capable finding and loving another woman without the purpose of getting over you, he'll get over you naturally once he find the right woman for him and capable of loving him.Posted by Nathan912rebound relationships can be tricky. but i have thought that he really needed friends. that would be more helpful. but i do like your tip. thank you.
You don't necessarily to do this cause I'm sure he will another woman by himself for a greater love and greater change but since you want to help him, introduce him to your female friends or at least him help him find another woman.
Do it. He'll smile and thank you later.
Like I said you don't necessary to do it helping him finding another woman because he can probably find another love by himself because love will find him.
You making man sound like an invalid!
I only give the OP an advice that she can probably help him another person to love since she wants to help and I also said she doesn't require to help him.
I give the op a choice whether to try help him or not.
It would be weird like selling unwanted goods to whoever willing to take him.
Also why would she want her good friends to have him?
It's not like the op is going to introduce her husband to her mom or sister, that would be more weird than introducing him to her friends. Besides there's no guarantee they will get along and into relationship right away, I already said she can try to introduce him to her female friends or help him find another woman other than her friends or not help him at all.
You just suggesting weird thing and denying it's weirdness.
'Introduce him to your friends' - what for?click to expand
If you think my suggestion is weird that's fine, but at some point her husband needs find a woman who can actually loves him doesn't matter who is it and since she doesn't love her husband anymore as a partner simple as that I don't see any point sticking to the person who doesn't love you anymore but since they want to remain friend then "cool", I already said it she doesn't need to introduce husband to her female friends or other women or her husband alone are capable finding another love without the op's help.
Posted by magma2yea i know. it was soo stupid of me.
Unbelievable that you've been with a man 29 years and you're asking strangers what's best for him.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeedont go there
29 years why the fuk would he hang on, he should be so happy it lasted this long and thankful for it.
shiet.
i love broken virgos,but this isnt' even a real break, 29 years....if it was five that would have been better
break them when they're young, give them a lifetime of misery
Posted by starwarsHahaha I sense that the other day but I didn't realize until now, now it makes sense. I think you this user better and your my fellow Virgo, so I believe you.
cant believe Gemitati is trying to take the piss out of Nathan ?
If you've been married for 29 are you really sure you want to be a single un-married woman at your age?
It'll be real easy to find a man to sleep with you but not one that wants to make a commitment.
Your husband on the other end can find a woman in a week and move her in the house and she be ready to settle down and get married.
So things must be really really really bad if you want to be a single divorced woman at your age. So if you feel like you must go ahead but a man is not going to be alone too long. So the best thing that you can do is move out because another woman will be there very soon men don't take being alone too well even if they're madly in love with you.
It'll be real easy to find a man to sleep with you but not one that wants to make a commitment.
Your husband on the other end can find a woman in a week and move her in the house and she be ready to settle down and get married.
So things must be really really really bad if you want to be a single divorced woman at your age. So if you feel like you must go ahead but a man is not going to be alone too long. So the best thing that you can do is move out because another woman will be there very soon men don't take being alone too well even if they're madly in love with you.
One week ...... after 29 years ... just one week she gives him
It's almost as if she's starving for attention and thought this would bring her some kind of sick satisfaction .... I mean, what kind of ridiculous do you have to be to have expectations like this after one week.
But, if she plays it up, like moaning about his happiness and about counseling ... then she has all kind of sympathetic ears in here, doesn't she?
Witchy...what did you do?...
Posted by IamTheRamwas stupid and a stupid post
Witchy...what did you do?...
Posted by ShrewdsharpHmmm, what is wrong with her being a single, unmarried woman at her age?
If you've been married for 29 are you really sure you want to be a single un-married woman at your age?
It'll be real easy to find a man to sleep with you but not one that wants to make a commitment.
As far as I can recall her telling me, she doesn't want to be with anyone at all. She wants to be on her own to pursue her other goals.
Not every woman wants to get a divorce because they want to be with other people.
Posted by Ram416Exactly! If she can't stand his guts anymore - out!Posted by ShrewdsharpHmmm, what is wrong with her being a single, unmarried woman at her age?
If you've been married for 29 are you really sure you want to be a single un-married woman at your age?
It'll be real easy to find a man to sleep with you but not one that wants to make a commitment.
As far as I can recall her telling me, she doesn't want to be with anyone at all. She wants to be on her own to pursue her other goals.
Not every woman wants to get a divorce because they want to be with other people.click to expand
Btw there are tons of single men of our age who are looking for relationships.
20+ years is a huge breaking point. A lot of men are divorced. And they need a partner.
Seems like 'age' is justification to stay in dead marriage!
If he fell sick - it's a bummer to watch after sick man you don't care for.
Or if she stays - she cuts her chances for happiness to zero!
IMHO
Time heals all wounds not zodiacs.
From a virgo .. He will move on permanently eventually. I move on quick but cutting off is the best way that friendship sh#& is a hell no. Forcing sombody to move on, maybe the best option.
But what caused the split. Detail detail
From a virgo .. He will move on permanently eventually. I move on quick but cutting off is the best way that friendship sh#& is a hell no. Forcing sombody to move on, maybe the best option.
But what caused the split. Detail detail
if say anything more you all will just twist it around instead of listening. most of you are not here to help me out. just to bitch and moen. it was stupid of me to make this post and think anyone would really want to help. my husband read your posts and said ' they dont know shit about me'. i am sorry i wasted everyone time.
Posted by DwellingOnMove
@Shrewdsharp,
people are egoistic enough to consider if divorce is destructive for them or not. despite all they go for it.
I guess they go through a few episodes:
- doubt and overthinking
- initiating the divorce and being excited about the liberation and future opportunities
- missing the old structure and falling into depression
- resurrection
- new enjoyable life, new partner.
for some life is too short, for some too long. so you need to improvise new challenges to get your talents/brain/heart invested.
So what was the exact question when you pulled the 10 of Wands? It's very confusing.
Posted by DwellingOnMovePosted by WitchmitchAries
if say anything more you all will just twist it around instead of listening. most of you are not here to help me out. just to bitch and moen. it was stupid of me to make this post and think anyone would really want to help. my husband read your posts and said ' they dont know shit about me'. i am sorry i wasted everyone time.
- lots of us are sadistic and impolite
- to people of different opinion? any OP needs to be open.
- your original question is comical. he is an adult. he has to face this pain all alone (+ how to build his new empire). and if your history together makes you committed to his feels (as an old friend), then you know more than any of us about him. we know sign desciptions. you know "him".
- anyway everything has a good side to it too. this pervet brain storming here might have given you flashes of insight.
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Even during separation proceedings you are still implementing caretaking enabling behavior. You are not responsible for somebody else's emotional well-being. Adults are responsible for their own thoughts their own feelings and their own behaviors and processes.
You are codependent, and it's not your husband's fault and the divorce is not going to resolve your codependency issues.
For whatever reason you made the adult decision to put your needs, your wants, your desires, your health and your goals last !!!
Co-dependents have a compulsion to take care of those around them and then they blame the recipients of their enabling Behavior for their own lack of self-care.
He's a grown ass man! And yes your thread is rather bizarre for people who are not enablers.
But it sounds like you were raised old school.
Instead of focusing on him you might want to get into counseling so you can learn how to stop compulsively pleasing another person.
Look into co-dependents anonymous also look at the book called Codependent No More by Mellody Beatie. I believe that you can find somebody reading the book on YouTube codependent no more it's a powerful book.
Posted by WitchmitchAriesI don't know if there is much you should do anymore. Sounds like your split will be amicable. Good.
i let my virgo husband know that i was not in love with him any more this week. but that i do love and care for him. at first he didnt want to let me go, kept hoping he could change my mind. i soo hated to see him hurt so much. he told me that he knew it was his falt for not listening to me that things were wrong. it was not all him. its a long story how we got to this point. but today he excepted that he needed to let me go. i know that was very hard for him to do. he did it because he didnt want to lose the friendship we have by hanging on to me. i know this is very hard for him. maybe some of you virgos might give me some tips to help him deal with it. or maybe there is nothing more i can do to help him. i am glad he wants to keep the friendship. i am a little lost about how to go about this so it is not harder for him.
It's going to take him a while. Even though you two must live together, I agree with another poster who said friendship right now might not be the best thing. In the long run yeah, but for now it may be better to let some distance come between you two. Live your own lives while you're living together. Once you two move, I think you could keep in touch on a limited basis. Maybe a couple of times per week. Let him just grieve and mourn and come out of it however he will. I think maybe, you can tell him that you two will get together on HIS schedule, so that he's the one deciding if he's up for seeing you whenever that time comes.
Posted by WitchmitchAries29 Years is a very long time...it's even more Time then the actual age of the majority of users on this forum...Posted by IamTheRamwas stupid and a stupid post
Witchy...what did you do?...click to expand
I think i understand how you feel...i think you feel *trapped*...like life is passing by you and you didn't took some of the chances that maybe you could have due to the fact you were in your rship...
But listen...*we* can't put the *blame* only on our partner...maybe there is something that *we* can also do to change things...maybe you can also change him...maybe he will also realise that he needs to change himself after you had this talk him...
And i think your husband Loves you...the fact that he said he needed counseling tells me that he is willing to accept your choice...but this won't be easy for him...and trust me....accepting your choice is something far more precious then a moment of fun..
I once showed you *doors* and what was beyond them...what i am trying to show you now it's nothing more then your House and all that you both built.
And don't be to harsh on yourself...the only thing we can't fix is death...
So Chin Up Aries ! You are going to make the right choice, just don't do anything too hasty ^^
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