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Hello Reka. Sorry my last post on the other board wasn't helpful. I tried. If you don't mind, keep us updated. Well, I can't speak for everyone else, but, I'm interested in updates. As for your question about the dynamic between Aries and Virgo in a relationship, there's a book by Linda Goodman entitled Love Signs. She gives her take on relationship combinations between all the signs, even delving into the man and woman of each combination. Okay, that was clear as steel. Let me give an example. She'll give an overview of Aries and Virgo relationship. Then she'll give her take on Aries Woman and Virgo Man, then Aries Man and Virgo Woman. I stress, take what she says with a grain of salt. Using only sun signs, purely stereotypical images of the signs without regard to other factors that make up a whole person, I find the book to be an expansive excursion into naivity and unbridled presumptiveness, BUT, it's keeps interest. I like her writing style . Take what fits and leave the rest. VirgoSquared
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Hi Reka, VirgoSquared is on spot with a great explantion of the signs by Linda Goodman and a fascinating writer she is! Check it out forsure...in the meantime I pulled this info. off another site...hope it helps in someway - again with using the advice of VS...this pertains only to the sun signs so take it with a dash of pepper Enjoy, Freebird
I am Aries, My Lover is Virgo Do your friends keep telling how very different you are from your Virgo? You've known this all along. If your relationship seems to be working, it is a testament to your good nature and determination to succeed. There are some things to be aware of. Your Virgo lover is very industrious, just as you are, but you both assert your energy in different ways. Virgos wake up in the morning and know what they expect to accomplish by the end of the day. If they don't finish, then just like the little Energizer bunny, they keep on going, and going, and going 'till they're done and satisfied with their performance. They don't need a boss to push them; their ambition is strong enough on its own. They wouldn't dream of disappointing others (or themselves) by not coming through on what they've said they'll do. Living up to promises is a big deal to Virgos. While you see the big picture, have more courage, and are better at networking, your lover is a wizard at details and organization. With your sweetheart at your side, you can become stronger. You will have a better chance of seeing your dreams come true -- task-oriented Virgo will remind you of things yet to do and support your efforts 100% of the time. They are also more flexible and can present you with options when you face an obstacle or a crisis. Yet Virgos see flaws where you may see none and, of course, they have a way of always being right. Sometimes you may feel like you're with a taskmaster and feel like nothing will ever be perfect enough to please your sweetie. Realize that your lover is not challenging your abilities but polishing up your style . Your lover wants to make sure you shine out there in the world! Keep your ego in check. If you take note of your Virgo's advice, you'll soon be very, very successful. I am convinced that behind every phenomenal Aries is a caring, attentive Virgo. In bed, you are the take-charge type, while your Virgo is more reserved and willing to let you set the pace. This description is not tied to gender. Aries women can be downright thrilling in bed because they know what they want and go for it. Virgo is an ideal partner for Aries because they not only speak up (ruled by talkative Mercury, how could they not?) but they describe gently, with care, what they need you to do. If communication is nine-tenths of compatibility, you two have it made. Still, the chemistry between you could use some tempering. Your Virgo needs to be soothed a little after that long day of work in order to get in the proper mood. You can't get lazy with the task of soothing them down, even if you've been together for decades. Your impulse to jump right in will leave your lover a wreck. The seduction tactics you choose are going to be very important -- if you get it right, the result will be a delectable dance as you each try your very best to please the other.
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Hi Virgo Sqaured, My friend your advice can never go wrong... i have made my decision ... will not call him (it hurts when i say this)... but heart keeps going bad to old memories where we had some good time... may be he is over it.... he didn't call me ever since the last time that was 12th of Nov (hehe i rem he date too)... but then yes not every thing ends the way you want it to end. the only fact that keeps bugging me is what must have happened for him to take such a sudden decision... i try hard to forget everything then i am back to day when the desire to know the answer is strong... i feel like calling him and asking what has happened ... we were never in a relation ... damn it why the hell didnt he expain it ... may be some part in me still want him.. But as you said my friend he has the right to make his decision... if it has to end it has to ....... though i will have my emotional bout at times... and the quest to understand virgo's will go on Reka
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Hi Reka. You're going to hate me after this, but I've done the same thing with friends when I've felt neglected, wronged, or when I thought the friendship was more stress than it was worth, and perceived the relationship as being unsalvageable. If it helps any, one of them I actually missed. Ignoring ordinary, I actually told her I missed her before fading away. It may have been subtly put, but for me that was significant, I've never said that to anyone before or since. I said it mildly because I would've picked up on it if someone expressed it . . . oh damn. Maybe not. It just hit me that she did express it. A few times in fact. It shunned overtness, but still, the sentiment stood there forlorn and questioning. She's not one to put herself out their either . . . insecurity's jumping up and down with the trophy on this one. Thanks Reka. I'll call her. In my case I can explain this behavior, I don't know if it'll apply to your Virgo, but here it is. I'm an invincibility buff. Impervious to wear and tear, fatigue, stress, the elements, the need for food, air, water; from the outside looking in I could live in space absent the suit. The catch is the "S" on my chest is plastic, hell, biodegradable paper even, but I'm not comfortable in letting it flake and crumble when illuminated by reality, letting deep seeded insecurity shine unabashed. Vulnerability isn't fun. Don't worry, I'm getting to the point. "Need" falls in this category, it's a vulnerability. To tell someone what you're perceiving as wrong, what's missing in a relationship with another, shows a "need." Missing something implies you need it to suffice, to be content, to be happy. I'm not comfortable expressing that, so given a choice between talking about what I'm feeling, be that neglect or hurt or even stress, it's easier to take my coat and hat and leave without noding "good day." Leaving the other, if they actually care that I'm gone, wondering what happened. No one has ever asked what happened, and barring one person, I probably wouldn't explain so . . . I may miss aspects of the relationship, but stubbornness has to suffice. Reading some of the post here, taking note of the effect this has on people, I'm actually trying to change this. Even realizing the effect it has on me; loneliness. Earth school; life is learning, understanding, and growth; I'm trying. Be happy, Jamarl
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hey Virgo Sqaured, You sound so much like my Virgo....For a moment i thought its him.... yeah may be he was not able to express what he wanted to and the times when he said it ... i thought he was lying to me... You know what, I dont know if this is with all virgo's but there was a way of him saying bye... he used to make me feel so special you would feel that ur the only person on his mind and then reality would strikes again...... It was not that i liked him at the fisrt go... it was developed when he used to speak earlier he always came out to be a caring person... he wanted to know small details in my life... i never told him but i liked the attention.. I am not a person who can speak my feelings.... if i like someone i would not take the initiative to tell that person i like him. The problem with me is i just cant forget that good side to him... its easy to hate (you jus have to remember all the hurt that person has caused to you ) but with him i cant even do that.... may be i can never ever hate him... Time is the best heal.. this would heal too.... When we first met i was not meeting him he persuaded me for almost 15days and i said yes.. may be that was a wrong decision ... and there would a lot many maybe's At times i feel i should forget all this and call him... ask him now as he must have been in a better state of mind (its been 2 week since we last spoke), but then im scared atleast now i have left it on a good note. what if he again say there is no issue and start ignoring me again ... i would be back to sqaure one. I dont see him online these days ... may be he has removed me from his messenger or he is really busy... the earlier seems to be more likely. Even when im writing this post i feel like just calling him and asking him what happened... its just the arien in me who wants to have a answer no matter how ... we just cant let go. Also he called me last and i didnt return his call ( the same call where he said i will call you over the weekend) and knowing that he has hurted me he must not be feeling like going back on his word Believe me this sucks.... Im in state of constant confusion... Keep writing... I like reading your post... Do send me a reply on my current state of mind and how do i tame it Take care Reka
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Hey Cancebuddy, I really admire the way you can take hold of your life and move on.... i want to do it too... but with me there was never a major fight which could have made him take this decission..... You know how it is.... just a day before that we were ok talking to each other and the next day again on chat he asked me where am i (I had not told him that i am coming To US). May be i didnt want to get into my routine of calling him and all... also he is never open as to what is happening in his personal life with me ... He was like if you are in U and if you havent told me... I will be really upset with you.. and then he just stopped talking and the whole saga... As i told you i will get there too may be it will take some time ... but i will get there
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Hi Reka. You know, people keep telling me I sound like their particular Virgo, which is kind of scary, since they follow with how the feel their Virgo screwed them over. I hang my hat on the notion that to think a certain way doesn't necessarily predetermine a particular action. Like, you can have ten people that all hold the same thought, but the way each act on that thought may be different. Thinking the same way, different responses. At least that's what I'm hoping any way. It would hurt to be the spark that has some crimson Pisces or Scorpio female drizzling their tears and tempers on these boards, peppered with "that a**hole" and "that insensitive bastard." Guilt would be a shark. As for you, your vibration feels better. I mean I can sense a distinct difference between the first post of yours I read and this one. Don't get me wrong, I'm feeling a sadness about it, but it's, an optimistic sadness, if that, makes, any sense at all. I don't know, it's just the impression I get. You can't hate him? Why would you want to? Be glad there was a good side, that's kind of the point of relationships. You say he used to make you feel special, for him to make you feel that way, I'm sure you made him feel the same way. To note, wanting to know what happened has nothing to do with you being Aries, it's just human nature. I can think of a few times where I wanted to show up at someone's door at 3:08 AM in the rain, banging on the door, "What happened, Man! Talk to me, what I do!" A neighbor yells, "Shut up!" I yell an explicative, the cops come, it gets bad. Or send the needy single line email, "Talk to me. Please?" It's odd the way people connect and get so familiar with those connections they essentially need the other. This band, Silverstein, there's a lyric in one of their songs, "You're giving up on me. I blamed, myself to sleep tonight. . ." It applies, because when someone leaves, it feels that way. Whether you've did anything wrong or not, if feels like they've given up on you, and when you don't know why, you blame yourself . . . well, I do anyway. So, I believe you. I know it sucks. You know, I'm a Virgo, but I do have my moon in Aries in the eighth, so I do understand a lot of what you're feeling. In fact, I have few emotional propellants in my chart, the twin Virgins just mute their external expression. The cosmic joke of balance, like mixing pillows and nails. Yeah, there maybe a dynamic balance, but it's not like the warm balance of caramel and chocolate. Another thing with me is my focus is singular. I'm not good at multitasking. If I'm working on a project, or exploring a curiosity, that's my focus. Conversely, if it's a person, again, that's my focus. When that focus goes awry from absence, it's difficult to deal with, BUT, that need isn't going to be expressed outwardly at all. Going to feel it, not going to show it. I put this part in to answer your question as to how to tame it, which is, I don't have an answer. I don't think people can control what they feel, only how they respond to those feelings. We're pretty much relegated to experiencing them until time blunts the edge. If you call him though, and he ignores you . . . that would be so brutal. You're going to feel like hell. That fire is pushing you to call him, interrogate; but what's the point? Aside from intellectual curiosity, on the off chance he responds, will anything he tell you suffice; make you feel better? I think you're looking for Valid Reason, but that cat . . . seeing him is like someone seeing Elvis eating a Twinkie at the bus stop in biker shorts. Yeah, the bloated Elvis. There may have been a guy there, but it wasn't Elvis. Conversely, you may get a reason, but in all likely hood, you won't see it as valid. As much as it would hurt and suck, if I was you, I'd let him be. If he calls and explains later, great, but outside of that . . . try to channel that Aries fire else wh
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Hey CB, I am posting this info. from a book that I have. I am not sure if this will shed light for you - just thought in some small way it may help. I hope it does as all any of us desire is - Peace of mind.
"Withthin every relationship, there are moments of non-relationship. Smart couples use these moments to take time alone to reconnect with self and to recharge. They don't end their relationship when the energy gets low. They don't have an affair. They give each other room to breathe. It might be for an hour or two, for a day or two...perhaps even for a month or two. Each person must find ways back into Self and that means disentangling from other. Each person must find time to ask the question "Who am I now?" The answer to this question changes from time to time. That is why we must not forget to ask the question. Relationship is both a journey into intimacy with another and a journey into intimacy with Self. We forget that. We think it's all about other, but that is not true. Indeed, if our journey into another's heart does not take us into your own, then our progress on the path is interrupted. We need time to internalize. We need time to breathe and be alone. It is part of the cycle. We move together and apart. If we do not move apart, we cannot come back together. You can't have a relationship with all highs and no lows. You can't have a relationship that is all together. Every relationship must fall apart, not just once but many times. That is how it grows, That is how new intimacy is achieved. Our models of relationship don't allow for his kind of interpersonal transformation within the context of a committed relationship. In our models, people either stay together in a frozen state, or they remain distant and uncommitted. People who stay together "no matter what" stop growing. They cannot even look at each other any more. Life energy leaves the relationship. It cannot abide the limiting patterns and structures. People who fear intimacy take a rocketship out of the relationship at the first sign of trouble. They move from lover to lover, never breaking through to the source of love, in themselves or in the other person. Some relationships have no staying power. Others have no transforming power. Real relationships require both." Taken from DANCING WITH THE BELOVED by Paul Ferrini
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Thanks for sharing that Freebird. Very profound, and oh so true. I think we all need to remember that there is no definition for how a relationship 'should' be. All relationships bring us something and it is up to us to find the good them. ScorpGal
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Hey Cancerbuddy I can relate to the state that you are in as i have myself gone through this phase and thought why does he want it all over again.The push and pull is too difficult to handle.... I still have sleepless nights thinking about it... I think we all pay for whatever harm we do onto others... The fact that he is trying to reconnect only goes to show that he know he has done something wrong... Let it go Reka
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And you're over this Cat!? Cancerbuddy, Duuuuuuude!!!! If this board was a train in the Wild West, you'd be the guy in the black hat with the bandana around his mouth pointing a gun in the air telling everyone, "This is a stick up! Everybody get face down!" Pistol whipping the conductor and getting behind the wheel. (Laughing) You've hijacked her post. (Laughing) This was originally Aries and Virgo, now the War God and the Virgin got the crabs. (LOL!) Aries with the crabs isn't a big deal, 76.4 percent of all the waiting rooms of the free clinics in the United States are filled with them (LOL!), to note, the remaining percentage is composed of Leos, Sags, and Pisces. What about Scorpios you ask? They just live with it, scratching a lot and passing it to Aries, Pisces, Leos, and Sags (LOL). But a Virgin with "the crabs!?" Do you know how sick and perverted that is? It's like Superman getting beat up in a bar fight. Look man, go kick that guy's ass or hire some thick neck brut named Knuckles McGee to do it and let that be the end of it. (LOL) People leave, the guy was an a**hole, give yesterday the finger and tomorrow a kiss; he's gone. He's gone Maaan! Seriously CancerBuddy, all of this is in jest. I'm joking with you. Blame the pain medication I took an hour ago and the Paris Texas rocking in the background. I'm laughing hysterically as I write it. This is going to sound weird, but I hope I find some chick that'll hurt me as much as this guy has hurt you. It makes more sense than you think. Anyway, it's obvious I should be going to be now, so . . . Goodnight world, VirgoSquared PS No zodiac signs were hurt in the production of this post. It's bawdy zodiac humor, laugh! You know it's funny. Worse, you know it's true. (laughing hysterically!!)
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Good morning world! VirgoSquared I gotta say....what a joy it is to read your posts...I am as I am sure others are as well - so glad that you came upon us to gift us with your humor and with the essence of YOU. Such a delight you are Pain? Hmmmm...perhaps pain works for you? or is it the meds? Either way, I hope that you are not in too much pain and on the road to recovery to feeling better. Have a great day! Freebird
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Hey Guys, One of my discoveries, rather an Aries's discovery... Virgos loose their mind, their control under medication .. hehehe (just kidding) ... Hey virgo squared enjoyed reading your post still smiling... so what are you suffering from dude... headache or heartache ... Take care.... Get well soon... Reka
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Hey Virgosquared! Hope You are alright. Whatz the medication for? Must say your sense of humor shinneth the most under the most difficult circumstances. Can't say keep it up because i dont want to wish any pain on you... But yes keep up the smile which always comes through all your posts regardless. My dear you are genius at giving it with "iron hand in velvet gloves". loonybird
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Hi Everyone, Thanks for brightening our morning VirgoSquared, I'm still grinning... Hope this isn't at your expense though - I echo everyone else's sentiments in hoping that you are OK?? What is that you are on! I'd love to get some - hmm, either for myself or to slip in someones drink (kidding!). I hope you took that right Cancerbuddy? Remember that your Virgo guy is the one with the problems and you were the innocent bystander that got sucked in!! You may have let the guy go physically, but it's gonna take a while to let the hurt go. Have a good day everyone. ScorpGal
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Hello everyone. Thank you everyone, the concern brings a single shimmering blue tear. Which for me is an ocean. Seriously, it's nothing, I'm fine. When I haven't slept in a while, even minor meds, Tylenol and Benadryl, can make me kind of . . .well, goofy, as you can see. I am so glad you all didn't take that wrong. Thanks again for the concern, VirgoSquared
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Hey Virgosquared, I have realised one thing we all come here talk about our problems and your there with a solution, at times you try to make the situations light. But as every virgo we havent seen a personal side to you. I mean u havent discussed any of your problems ever. Your personal life is closed in a secret box.I dont know if anyone on this board have realised that. So buddy throw some light ... let this board know ... if the smart/detacched Virgohead has gone through any emotion upheavals ever. By the way
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Sorry this was posted before without completing here i go again. By the way Virgosquared try this with a sip of Tylenol or Benadryl ( this time for a emotional result) Ps:- I am sure your hawk eye by now must have picked up the spelling mistake detached "Virgosqaured" Take care Reka
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Reka, I'm not going to bore you all with me. My life is trivial, you guys are the excitement. By the way. You never said in what country you live. A secret? VirgoSquared
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VirgoSqaured That was a typical virgoish answer .... For you to enlighten the world with your wonderful and precise analysis there must be lot of experiences... common let us know something about you too.... Anyway hope your doing well ... we need posts coming from our subject matter expert Reka
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Hello Reka. All right. Well, I'm a guy. I breath air. I tend to eat food when I'm hungry. Despite the "S" on my chest, I lack the ability to fly. I am so ashamed of that. Let's see, what else . . .oh, oh yeah. Dig this. I, am a mammal. Yeah baby!!! Mammals so rock! Laughing Reka, I think I've told a lot about myself through my post. A tibit here, a smiggen there. I wrote somewhere that in all my interactions with people, I invariably learn way more about them than they do about me. It's not intentional, communication just seems to work that way. You all are people, except for Parallax, I'm not sure what he is , but, the typical suffices. For fairness's sake, I'll try to answer whatever you want to ask, but keep in mind, these boards are like a subtle escape. My 27 years has prodigiously sucked, I don't really want to stain these boards with them, it'll make me feel weird. Believe me, you all seem to be exceptionally cool and these boards seem quite sturdy, but I wouldn't dare drip . . . okay. This is getting depressing. Ask, I'll try an answer.
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Hey VirgoSqaured, I was just kidding.... Your presence on this board has got so many of us smiling Im sure your a wonderful person... Anyway i liked the honest ending ....(Ask, I'll try and answer) Reka
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Hello Reka. Well, putting in the "anyway" at the beginning of the second thought kind of implies you weren't kidding. It almost feels like you felt rebuffed. That along with the ". . .I'm sure you're a wonderful person" insinuates you wanted to know something which wasn't conveyed, and you resisted putting yourself out there for another potential nonanswer. You're right. Who's is this presumptive know it all that compulsively adds his meager two cents into everyone's business? I'm a perfecting human nature buff, trying to grow, and part of that is breaking my traditional closed character model, so, a blitz bio. I'll deal with the awkwardness. I was a fat kid, lost 100 pounds in high school arriving at my current weight, 160; at 17 an illness developed, it was medically managed, college came, during which I hit a rebellious patch that probably should've killed me, it accentuated the illness; surgeries, back home for recovery, started writing: poetry, prose, opinion pieces, whatever struck interest; more school, a lot more sick, a lot more recovery, got my own apartment, started studying herbology and nutrition, then to physics; after my dad died, contact with him prompted studying New Age, met my spirit guide, well guides, two of them; all of last year I was really ill, came way too close to dying, a bunch of surgeries, procedures, drugs, a total of about a six month stay in four or five hospitals in the city, spiting me out to the past three months where I'm quite the picture of health. Like an ox baby. Working and planning to finish my last two years of school starting next year. Empty in a heavy serving of chess tournaments and a few fulfillments of the male imperative and you have a lot of me, at least flat facts me anyway. Keep in mind this is heavily edited, but that's what a blitz bio is. I've been told I'm quite striking, I say that to say no one can look at me and tell any of it, and if my lips were the sun, all this stuff lives in perpetual moonlight. Eighty percent of my insides will never spill, but what I care to impart shines through my post. I write the way I think and talk so, there you have it. You all know more about me than anyone I know, barring family (the flat facts part anyway), so . . . take if for what it's worth. Jamarl
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Well Jamarl....everything that you have written is worth A LOT - thank you for sharing yourself with us. Whew, you have been through quite a bit...you my dear have been participating in life and finding out how strong you really are You have an incredible gift of the spoken word and your words and you as well are here to share those gifts with us. Keep writing, keep getting healthy, keep living life and loving every bit of it...as it is creating you. Thanks so much Freebird
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Hey Virgosuared, Its really a pleasure knowing a wonderful person who has gone through so much in life and still can give so much to the world....A person who can make others smile. Your a tough cookie... I admire you for this. We would have never been able to guage this side to you had you no talked about it. Reka
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Hello everyone. All right, first thank you everyone, BUT, you all are weirding me out with the comments. LonnyBird, a "hero;" oh, that is so way off base. Guys running into burning buildings to save 15 year old cats are heroes, sick people are just, sick people. I'm feeling immensely awkward here, so favor me this. Comment on anything else but my previous post, even the awkward feeling, but the past illness thing . . . let that be the ignored cow in the room. I thought I could deal with this, but feeling like glass isn't my bag. I really should've listened to the voice in my head screaming bloody murder as I was typing it. I created a complication where one need not have been. Sorry about this. Can't say I understand it, it's just the way I feel. VirgoSquared
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Hey Virgosquared! Cheer up & Sorry. Didn't mean to embarrass you. was just admiring(am a humble virgo admirer guarding virgo interests with a stealthframe, frimly feet entrenched on the secret service post) ...well i think you wanna be left alone on this. OK. Anyway thanx for sharing the most sensitive part of your life. it is not easy. loonybird
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Hi Loony. No, you're fine. This is purely me on this one. I've always been this way. In fact, I use to be worse. I see each scar as a banner of strength, but, it makes me feel awkward when other people acknowledge it. I know it's odd, it's just the way I feel. BUT, let's get back to Reka's topic. Virgo man and Aries woman. Reka, do you have any other Virgos in your life, men or women? If so, how do you relate to them? I only know of one Aries woman and with five planets in fire signs, I doubt she's the standard. At least I hope not. We get along half the time, she's just so high strung and inappropiately aggressive. It's hard to be around her. VirgoSquared
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Hey Virgosqaured, Well to answer your question this was the only virgo man i ever knew on personal basis..... If they are all like this i dont wish to meet any more virgo's. He may be an exception though ..... Well about the Aries in your life.... is this the same girl whom you stopped calling suddenly??... You said you were gonna call a friend with whom you lost touch ... did you ??
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Hi Reka. It's nice to hear from you. No, the Chick who I lost contact with was a Virgo, and yes, I called her. See, I'm trying (laughing). As for me, I know three Aries. One, a guy, use to be a friend of mine, yadda yadda yadda (laughing), we don't talk anymore. I don't argue with anyone, yet he used to be able to pull me into them. The other is my aunt; we've had some bad arguments when I was younger, but we get along fine now. The other is my boss, and . . .oh God. We get along sometimes. Most of the time. Outside of work though, I don't know. She would drive me crazy. She has this innate need to control and though I don't care to lead, I'm not going to be controlled by anyone, so . . . she's cool when she's high. She was on pain medication the other day, and she was actually pretty cool in a loopy, adorable way. I kind of felt protective, it was so odd. So, has anything else happened with your Virgo? Regardless of your answer, how do you feel about it? VirgoSquared
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Hey Virgosquared, Good to know you are changing... so how did she react was she happy to hear from you.... or was that another virgo ego who was hurt at the other end..... About me...im not feeling anything (emotionless)...maybe its a part f various emotions that you go through regreting the fact that i made a mistake in knowing some1.... i should have heard what my heart and brain said and not have got into the mess. Im feeling better though (but the confusion still persists) The million dollar question .... why did he do it (Laughing)........Anyway i think i should be selfish just like him and think about myself.... why should i care ... You know what it was not that i was in love with him... but the fact that it takes ages to make a relation/ freindship and a minute to break one.... so its over... and so is my respect for him (i really respected him a lot).... Anyway life moves on .... Reka
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Hi Reka. As far as I could tell, she nothinged it. She seemed interested I guess. It's like, as we drifted, I did miss her. We got along very well. At this point though, I call her twice, I talk to her once. I can't say I have this overwhelming drive to rejoin. I'm not overextending; the rest of the world has already collapsed that hole. I would like to have a friendship with her, but truth be told, in the words of Counting Crows, "I am not worried. I am not overly concerned." Nuff said. As for you. I'm really sorry, but I have to be honest. I think it's for the best. I mean, reading some of your post, they felt like pain. You care for this guy, definitely, but I don't think you really want to persist that way. Not if happiness constantly gets the black eye. You're getting over it, which is great. At least I think so. You're feeling something though, you may not be able to define it, but it's coming through. Resentment, anger . . .I can't place it. Questioning what happened is human nature. I don't think that's something you can consciously control. And to note, you should be concerned about yourself, that's not being selfish. If you're not concerned about yourself who is? Even doing that though, you're still going to question what happened. You say you respected him a lot. Explain that. Not to intrude, but what was it about him that earned your respect? Okay, I realize I'm harping on this when you probably want it to die down. If this is too much, just tell to me let it rest. I'll definitely understand. Talk to you later, VirgoSquared
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Hey Virgosquared, Im happy for you things are looking good for you, if you are interested in this girl... About me, it doesn't matter anymore.... i tired my level best to save this ... but if its not working, its not working. About analysing the state that im in .... Im really angry about someone being so irresponsible and selfcentered (may be im saying this beacuse im angry.. but i think justified in thinking this way).... He was such a coward..he ended things without giving an explanation. May be he didnt have one... everytime i tried talking things out with him ... he would just get angry... If he was so right he could have talked about it and given me reason why he feels like this. He said we fight a lot and the truth was we had not spoken for a month so where does the question about fighting comes. He could have been a man enough to say i no more feel he way i used to and then end it.... why this drama. If he was seeing some1 he could have said that... I wouldnt have stoped him ... there was no commitment between us. There are ways of ending things... this could have died its natural death... there was no need to bring a melodramatic end. Forget it... it was my foolishness to expect something good from a person like this....for whom life is just fun. Thanks Virgosuared, I really like talking to you... my frustrations get a vent somewhere. At times i feel like calling him and giving him a piece of mind, but i really dont want to end any of my relations on bitter note. I dont want to be like him. Keep me posted on whats happening on your front. Take care Reka
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Hi Reka. Venting helps. Definitely. As for me, no interest in her. She was purely a friend. We got along really well. I don't like to lose connections to people that I think are genuinely cool. VirgoSquared
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Hi Reka. No, it's not the time difference. I'm a hardcore insomniac. For instance, I got in at 3:30AM from a hang out spot. It's 8:00 AM here in Virginia, and I've yet to even see my bed. I've just finishing emailing some newly important people, and I'm actually going to lay down now. Reka one question. You don't have to answer, just tell me none of my business, I promise I won't take offense and I won't ask again. My curiousity is flaring red though. You're not in the United States, right? So what country are you from? You never tell anything about yourself Reka. Has anyone here noticed that. How about you shed some light on that? (laughing!!!) I'm just joking, if anyone understands privacy I do. Genuinely, no pressure. VirgoSquared
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VirgoSquared - As usual - I REALLY enjoy reading your posts - a virgo with detail and able to shed so much light - Its great!! REKA - Have to respond to this one.... Virgo and Aries - is truly makes for an interesting combination - Ultimately though- the persuit for happiness, as reading your posts, really depends on maturity and how much one is will to grow - and cleary this virgo has not evolved or perpaps is not mature enough to share with you why things have gone the way they did. Virgos are Notorious for communication, and are especially good at it, if they know how to express it. Then again, I know virgos who do not like to communicate with Aries becuase of their aggressivness that can put many virgos off. I hope you meet nice virgos in the future - if you have no patiance for them, they are best kept as friends - if you fall for one.. take time out to try and understand them... and guaranteed, you'll have them hooked! All the best Sharma
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Hey Virgosquared, I was just wondering how did you forget about it.... and believe me... i somewhere knew this ques would come up ....i am good at analysing too... its your company/post thats working wonders About me coming to US thats for some work .... i am here for work ... will go back after the project is over...hey some latest news for you ... I spoke to Mr. Virgo today... had some really good news to share with him... he was his normal self.... (also i had no expectations at this point) About your question me not speaking abt myself..." I think I've told a lot about myself through my post. A tibit here, a smiggen there. I wrote somewhere that in all my interactions " hahahah This conversation gets interesting by each passing day...s whts your hangout spot today.... hope to have a post tonight too Enjoy Reka
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Hi everyone. Reka my dear, I didn't furget . See, I don't even know how to spell the word (laughing). I asked like three times where you were from. Unless you meant, you answered where you were from and I forgot the answer, more like I may have missed the post. My hang out spot tonight, is home, sitting between four white ogres listening to this new artist, Elefant, while waiting for ER to come on. This guy is . . . this Cat is amazing, his voice provokes a trance. His poetic, human experience style writing . . .I think it's great anyway. Your Virgo. I'm glad to hear it went well. Even better, you didn't take vulnerable. There was no expectation. You so rock!!! Did he explain anything? What he was thinking, feeling? I'm not talking about you asking, which providing you're detached as to not trigger alarms, probably would be okay, you know how he'll respond better than I do. But did he bring anything up about his absence? Also, sorry about the interrogation, I'm interested in your perception of this combination. I may understand the guy's side, being a Virgo; not that I agree, and I emphasize that. Sometimes people mistaken my understanding the other person as me taking their side. It's not that, I just try to see the other point of view so I can gauge my response accordingly. Understanding someone doesn't make what they're doing right though, it just gives insight into their point of view. It makes it easier to address the problem. I've said before, I work with and Aries female, and initially, where we didn't get along. She has seemed to soften her approach to me. When she was sick, I bought her a card and had it placed so it'll be the first thing she saw when she got in. Also, I think she noticed I was concerned when she was on pain medication, she wasn't her normal self. It was kind of funny actually, but I really didn't feel comfortable with her driving home like this. The concern may have did it; just trying to understand her, which oddly enough, facets of her, I think I do. What were you thinking and feeling when you finally talked to him? I know you said you had good news to tell him which probably mitigated any heavy emotion, but looking back on it, did you feel anything. How about now, thinking about it after the fact? You're right, this conversation is interesting. I've found that conversations tend to be interesting when the people are interesting. Smile. That's a compliment. Talk to you later, VirgoSquared
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Hey VirgoSqaured, Thanks a lot ... im still smiling (strange but unknown ppl can also make ur day... u did)... You have a way of making people feel special About how i am feeling.... Im ok.... You know what the problem with me is I allow very few ppl to enter my life and believe im very choosy about who should know the personal side to me... (that is me crying, brooding,geting senti etc) and somehow i had shown this side of me to this person .... I dont know how it happened but it did ... Also with whatever little i knew him ... i always thought he is a lost person...and a very misunderstood person.... and the Aries in me thought may be i understand him .... He would freak if he showed his emotions to me.... I remember him showing his emotions and then suddenly after few days just cutting off (either he would be doing it deliberately or he didnt want anyone to know him).... At times he would talk thing which normally freinds would not talk to each other and then suddenly he would keep emphasising that we are just friend... and i never expected anything more from him... nor did i want anything more than friendship from this relation...He would not call for days and when we would talk he would talk very sweetly (if i ever questioned him about why he behaves so strangely .. he would say... im a emotional desert...Last time when i went back he was so insistent that we meet... This time i asked him can we meet he said he is busy (i think that should be enough for the day) As about our conversation today... i was busy telling him the news i wanted to tell him he was just listening.... no explantion about his behaviour nothing... and spoke few things about how thing are at his end asked me when im going back... and then the call got disconnected .. damn his battery (he had told me even before we stared our conversation that he was low on charging) About how im feeling ... the way i reacted like i did was not beacuse i wanted something more out of this relation but it was because it happened so sudden we were taking perfectly well till that day (dont know wht pissed him off... or may be he was thing about doing this from a long time).... I really cared about him.. I seriously dont know why he kept saying that we are just friends.... (dont know if i gave him a impression that im expecting something more ... which i never did). We were too individuals poles apart to each other. Anyway let me cut this short... or the story will go on.... Didnt expect to write such long posts... See a virgo taught me Hope your having a goodtime and you sleep early today Take care Reka
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Hello Reka, I'm glad you're doing good. It shines through. You know, the disparity between what I feel from you now and then is drastic. I don't know you, but oddly enough, it feels good to feel that change. Cool. Since we're changing topics, I'll take the reins. Interesting thing happened to me earlier today. It has nothing to do with Aries women and Virgo men, but . . . actually, you're an Aries woman; providing you're listening and will comment, your added perspective slides this story home safe . All right, someone actually pissed me off earlier today. I went to a metaphysics bookshop in town, I had this impulse to get my chart redone, which is odd, since I know I can get it free on the Internet. The woman behind the counter, bubbly, gave me the impression of being a free spirit. She typed in the information and all, and while it was printing, showed me her chart. An Aquarius with Venus and a Moon in Pisces and something significant in Scorpio, I don't remember, it's not important. When the chart was finished, there was some discrepancy as to where my part of fortune should be, every other chart had it in Aries in the eight, there's had it in Capricorn in the fifth. Initially I didn't get it until I could figure out the reason for the discrepancy, but I had this impulse to go back to the store to get it. So I did, but before I left, I was kind of curious about her, and asked if I could have her birth date to review her chart. She told me she was adopted, which was one interest to see if it'll show in the chart, but also, I like interesting charts, it's a learning thing. An expressive person should have an expressive chart, it helps the comparison. Now not, I stress, there was no attraction to this woman. She had a cool personality, but my interest was purely curiosity based. A so called psychic, trust, this chick isn't psychic; was sitting nearby waiting for someone to swindle out of their hard earned money. She asked why. I told her what I just wrote above, minus the adoption tibit, and I got this feeling from her that I was lying. My Mom and I have had a reading, better yet, a nonreading with this chick, if she is psychic, she was having a hell of a bad day that evening (laughing). I knew she was thinking I was trying to learn something about the clerk in some attempt at astrological macking. Like I was going to use her chart to hit on her. Part of me was kind of flattered in a back handed way that she took me for some type of playboy, but still. As I inquired as to the feeling, she wouldn't say, but I kept getting the exact same feeling. I told her, I'm curious by nature, it's my way of learning. Comparing charts to my impression of the people. She was like, "Well, I'm curious to. I just don't see why you can't ask her what you want to know." Whereas my curiosity had wings and a glowing halo, her's had horns and a tail. It was the innuendo within the curiosity. Now the girl had already let me see the chart, the fact I asked again should've told her something. The clerk was going to let me have it, but at that point, I didn't want it. Charts are personal, she could've said, "I don't feel comfortable with that." Fine, I get that. I understand "believe she's a psychic chick" was being protective. She doesn't know me, she didn't feel comfortable with her friend giving a stranger her chart. That's cool, it was innuendo of perversion (laughing). I'm laughing at the way that sounds, but I actually got offended at that. She didn't say what was on her mind allowing me to address it. And I can't address an interpreted feeling. I know for sure what she was thinking, but without her bringing it up, I can only address it so far, prodding her to speak her mind, which she didn't. It's like empathic black mail . . . think of it as two psychics in a room (not psychic, I'm observant; when I feel something from someone, it comes from some observation, those observ
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Hey Virgosqaured, The end doesnot always justify the means. Do you think getting even would help. She was right give her the credit ..why sulk thinking otherwise... May be she didnt open up to you, for you were a stranger to her... and she did give you the chart, if you didnt want it then ....meant you were even with her........You should not care as to wht they think about you... no matter what you do... you cant stop or change there thinking process So go for it .... do what you want.... give a damn to what they think... you are what you are, if they think otherwise so be it. Back to starsigns, why do Virgo's like to get even in every situation... jus kidding Reka
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Owwwww Reka, you suck (laughing). Why do Virgo like to get even in every situation (laughing). That's real funny Reka . By the way, that was a question. Where's your question mark? Why don't Aries use question marks when they ask rhetorical questions??? (laughing) I'm joking with you. You're right, I know I shouldn't care what they think, but I go there a lot. And I didn't care she didn't give me the chart, those are private, I genuinely understand that. It was actually in bad taste for me to ask. It was the psychic chick not saying what she was thinking that got me. If felt like she was implying I was perv (laughing), but since she didn't say it, I couldn't respond. She didn't let me defend myself for those hurtful allegations . And when I say getting even, I said those thoughts flood my mind, I've never acted on them. I do want to go back and clarify though. Any way. I hope your day was sunshine and chocolates. Keep in touch, VirgoSquared
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Hey Virgosqaured, Its not me, but its your attitude that sucks ... jokes apart...hurtful allegations interesting...unsaid words hurt you. I think if you feel you should clarify go ahead and clarify... its better to clarify than to be a misunderstood person. Well it rained here today... but talking to you made the sunshine.. Keep me posted.. Take care, Reka
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