Do Cancerian Men Cause Women to Become Psychotic?

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by Bollyhips on Sunday, December 17, 2006 and has 119 replies.
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Is this true? What is it about you guys that cause women to go nuts? I want to know because I have this woman who keeps tabs on my every move because the Cancer guy that we both know, shows apparent interest in me. I do admit, I am in love with him, but I have my own interests. I think that they fool around, but she hates it when he speaks, flirts, and comes over to my workstation. It has gotten to the point where she copies my style of dressing. She watches me like a hawk, and it is really creepy! Can you wonderful people tell me what is happening here?
WHAT EXACTLY IS YOUR QUESTION?
WHAT EXACTLY IS YOUR QUESTION?
I don't understand what was so hard to understand about the question.
Libra (September 23-October 22)-
If you're loose with the flattery this weekend you might be surprised at how some of it comes back to you. In addition, stay as far away as possible >from anyone who is in a negative mood.
ROTF @ bolly...
at any rate, cancers often treat the people we are with very well....even dysfunctional cancers are good at making someone feel like they are all that matters...this kind of treatment can be very addictive....and if after a while things change and the relationship just isn't what it used to be a cancers attention and energy will immediately change force in direction, which yes has been known to cause hysteria in some individuals.....its like a pulling a crack pipe away from a fiend...plus the fact that cancers tend to just act without saying much about what we are going to do and why can do even more psychological damage to someone because it is so easy to be completely surprised and taken off your game by a sideways walking crab...
she seems kind of nutso... i don't think i would want to mess with that situation.
man, my cancer male friend has taken me for a ride for over 6 years now..... and i jus cant let go...... yah, its true, he made me fucke dup. its like he throws fresh bait in my face, and as soon as i go in for a bite, he takes it away.
and he keeps throwing bait at me, and i keep going for it each and every time to see how much closer to the prize i can get.. if there is one.
I would like to be a Cancer male in my next lifetime.
I can only say that i try, as for succeeding, i do not know.
My Cancer Man drives me crazy with all his attention. An aota of lack of it ; and I go completely nuts. They make women addicted to their unique brand of love.
I know my cancer man drove me insane, I was psychotic. I was never like that in any of my relationship only with him I will cry and scream and tell him I would come to his job and his house i lost it!!! people who know me would not believe that I can do these things but he made me crazy his hot and cold behavior really took me to a whole new level. so yes they do drive you psyhotic!!!!
Hmmm, never went crazy over a cancer guy. One had me really clueless about our relationship though :O
i dont think you want to be a cancer male in your next lifetime Peanuts
Thanks to all of you! Your answers has helped me cope with my Cancerian guy. I do understand the way he thinks and am more wise to it now.
i am a cancer and so was the man i was married to for 14 years. i divorced him because he could make me so angry i could have snapped. didn't like the idea of going mental..lol
not saying all cancer men are like this..but my was a total button pusher..still is..
we are still good friends, but he still knows how to push my buttons.
Cancer Men are the absolute worse as far as mind games go. They are loving and affectionate but they could use a tune-up in the pyschological area.
lol...i am a cancer female and i have dated 3 cancer men in the past and all 3 of them caused me to be psychotic!!! no joke...
Not only am I on the brink of insanity, but my moods suck! I am always bitchy. Why, because I am frustrated. Too many mixed signals, hesitation and clamming up.
You just have to let them be, they come around soon enough with no pressure.
Wow, does this describe my relationship with the Cancer guy. He's hot, cold, all over the place all the time. And yes, good at manipulation, good at showing he cares - when he wants to care.
Have to say, though, I'm really getting to the point in life where the Taurus guys seem to pull me in more. After all that Cancer wackiness, the earthy, sensual, solid as a rock Taurus style really grew on me.
"Karima27 on 12/27/2006 7:15:03 AM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.18
Cancer Men are the absolute worse as far as mind games go. They are loving and affectionate but they could use a tune-up in the pyschological area."
agreed. I was with one for over a year. really glad it's over now...phew. he had too many issues with the girls in his past that he stayed friends with all of them and tried to maintain that emotional connection that they had when he was dating them. i think we ended up together because he was lonely from the girl that moved to a different state a couple months before i met him.
way too immature for me.
i am still trying to recover from all the mind games
My sister was with a Cancer male who was so indirect and sent many mixed messages, who would be clingy but then avoid her... Mum suggested they break up but comething kept drawing them together. I really hope this won't happen when I am with my Cancer
lol "something" not comething
Cancers are aware of their affect on people...thought they'll pretend they aren't...and very often they turn on the charm and the love, then turn it off quick to see how much you are affected. Then they can gauge (yes, it's a strong word) how they can manipulate you...
Yes, this is harsh, but I've actually had a Cancer rising woman tell me this was her technique. The manipulativeness comes from insecurity, but also is just a way of operating for them that works. They crave the security that comes from controlling others..and often the control replaces the love. Sad.
P-Angel, master manipulator, has moon in Cancer. And I'm afraid I know a lot of devious Cancers.
Oh, and totally irrational, vengeful anger is also a favorite tool.
As you can tell, my second husband won't be Cancer. Give me a nice, rational Virguy or protective Leo anytime.
Yeah..mY cancer Ex is something crazy...Me and my sis seen him out and when he saw my sisiter, he was asking her where I was at, like he wanted 2 see me,,,then when I seen him he acted funny, I guess cause his gf had showed up...so his gf ran in the bathroom askingme ?..and I told her that I siply did not want him nemore and there was nothing going on...neways,,he starts texting me telling me how much he hates me and all this,,which I thought was harsh...now last night he was texing me as if he wanted to see me and all this...I just dont understand
Yes
Cancer men do make you go crazy ass hell. I don't necessarily have one but I have met one. Let me tell you how to get his ass out of that shell. Please have a good job when doing this. They love playing mind games with you. Period. If you read there zodiac signs. We are talking about slow moving people here. Ordinary women just don't keep them attracted to them for long. They don't FEED off ordinary women. So just doesn't do it for them. Look up other signs that he is attracted to. Scorpio woman, pisces woman, and cancer woman. All of these are emotionally unattached women. They don't show there feelings well. They do all the sweet things you need them to do. But it is hard to capture them. THEY DON'T SHOW THERE FEELINGS. Big mistake that us woman make. BIG ASS MISTAKE. They don't like women who want to tie them down. Show him some love then back off. Let him do what he want just be his friend. Don't try to be his woman. He uses those kind of women and he needs a strong woman in his life. Not a weak one. Show him affection, but keep it at a distance. GOOD LUCK
I would kill my Cancer. I can't continue to play these mind games. He is skirting on the thinnest ice possible. I don't want to just be his playmate but if he keeps it up. I won't be his anything but a damn enemy!
"Do Cancerian Men Cause Women to Become Psychotic?"

Don't all men?
Personally I don't think a nyone can "make" you psychotic....psychotic people have psychotic reactons....period.
maybe MAKE sounds too "intentional" but typically the reaction is to situations involving other PEOPLE.
A professional astrologer told me my "soulmate" was a cancer. I have also read on here that virgo women are mind game players like cancer men. Hmm... so how would that work out? Haha! Who would be playing who? Are cancer men worse than scorpio men? Scorpio men are bad, bad, bad. Unfortunately, I have no interest in a guy who cannot mentally challenge me. Virgo men seem to fit what I like. Capable to using their brains but not evil. Opinions anyone?
Edit - capable "of" using their brains
Many signs are good using their brains its really just a matter of what they are used for and who's compatible with that....I only like people who can use both their brains AND their hearts.....I've heard that virgos get along well and it makes sense....in the long wrong its best to have someone who is like you in m any ways....opposites attract but don't tend to last.........OMG a libertarian virgo? LOL! Please allow me to chuckle to myself as I appreciate how completely predictable those to energies are....I like virgos though so that isnt' a slight......its like saying..."left wing pisces" lol
Lol; I am sitting here at work reading this and laughing because it's SO TRUE. I have been through so much with my cancer guy I was literally on pills, just to make me relax, or I would drink nyquil to go to sleep because I had so many sleepless nights, crying, stressed etc. And just recently he tried to get me back but once he told me it's hard to leave his ex alone because he feels bad for her, especially after all the things I been through with just her alone trying to attack and kill me. Oh no I had to leave him alone. That hot and cold behavior yes, I know it too well; As soon as I leave him he waits about two weeks then he comes back begging and telling me how much he loves me. After changing my number he contacts my friend(s) one on her cell, the other on myspace claiming he loves me to death, he literally manipulates people, he even used his mom once. A bunch of bull; Then as soon as we get back together he doesn't tell me he loves, he basically pretends as if I don't exist and all the things he did to get me back he didn't do. So yes they do make you psychotic.
A bunch of bull; Then as soon as we get back together he doesn't tell me he loves, he basically pretends as if I don't exist and all the things he did to get me back he didn't do. So yes they do make you psychotic.
Yes, iluvmecancer! They are the worst mindplayers around. Although I find it strange that your Cancer guy did this to you. I thought that Cancer/Cancer unions were one of the most compatible. I do feel your pain. I am also near the point of going back to my anti-depressants too. This one guy that I have been trying to connect with over the past three years, has me like a yo-yo. He is sweet and charming one minute, then cold as ice the next. I am a Libra, so maybe I should just accept that I am an outcast. That is how he makes me feel many times. The terrible thing is that I can't let go of him. I think therapy is in order.
Oh bolly, one libra to another, we have alot to talk about, especially of these cancers...
Hey crudemood! Totally! What's been going on with your Cancer?
We'll sisterhood,
I am back with the rest of U. Last time I posted, my Cancer guy was saying that he wanted me to himself. Me however, I love the mind games to. He is not as good as I am. LOL! However, U know as they say, when Men start expressing feelings...Run the other way! Run, as far as U can and give him some psychological "space." So I did, 3 weeks worth. He came running up on my job, in front of everybody, saying "U R scared of me", I said U R scared too. He says no I am not I'm ready now. He says U find a man that wants to love U, that wants to take care of U and U run from ME. Why don't U call! Whining and SH--LOL! U have my number, I am your man, Y R U going to let another women fill your shoes. I Just looked at him. I showed no remorse. However, I called him and he did not answer LOL! But, that is OK. Because the next time he comes whining. I am going to tell him. I don't feel like talking. Damn! I am not going to lie these men are rough necks. LOL!
I found out cancer's drive themselves insane; all you have to do is sit back and enjoy the fireworks every New moon! lol
A couple well-aimed strikes of the tongue gets' em!
VIRGOEXALTRD,
A couple well-aimed strikes of the tongue gets' em! Explain this a little more in detail! LOL!
"I found out cancer's drive themselves insane; all you have to do is sit back and enjoy the fireworks every New moon! lol
A couple well-aimed strikes of the tongue gets' em!"

Then he found out how to type!!!(Gasp) Yes you did!(Gasp) Yes you did!
Yeap,
Krobe, that is the name of the game. Give it and back off! BIG time. Show him a little love and run the other way. Stay out the way, and wait him chase U. LOL!
I wasn't on pills but the Cancer I dated drove me to seeing RED! lol
LOL! All of the posts here are great! Here I am five years later and still in love with this guy. I guess I love being tortured. I am a sadist.
Hi Moon_eyes,
Thanks for the checkpoints! The thing with me is that I am attracted to Cancers and can't get enough of them. Your post really does make sense and I have been in relationships with non Cancers too. There was this Aquarius guy who I dated and found out that he got married to someone else without me knowing. I was sooo jilted! Yes, men in general can push our buttons and make the worse come out in us all.
But Moon_eyes, why would some Cancer men want to throw the bait?
It's funny because every cancer man I have known has wanted to have a relationship with me and was in love. And I was like hell nah thanks. I do like cancer men tho, very attractive and sexy and smart, caring but I just wanted to be their friend for someone reason..idk why. So you guys can have mine! Haha
Ok, so Cancers throw the bait as a means of testing the reaction of those they may be interested in or just anyone in general? Right now, mine has been withdrawn, but when the mood strikes him, he gets really friendly and is so sweet. When he gets this way, I am easily drawn in. I do keep on mind to keep things simple as I want to see if if is truly my friend and is interested in me for who I am.
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