Making a cancer man feel wanted, any suggestions? (Page 3)

Of course he is...he was getting very intense emotions by having you on the side...she looked valuable and attractive b/c you desired him more than she ever could and he kept running to her b/c she's dogging him out but he likes the intense emotions he gets from her, he likes chasing her and fighing with her and then he runs to someone emotionally solid to get balanced again and then off he goes to run and play with his INTENSITY TOY, you helped him to not see her flaws but fawning over his every word and jus you being in the picture kept the intensity between him and her going...now he's going to see her ass for who she is and dump her...mock my words...now he has no energy to fuel the fire with her.

let him go and I mean that...she will be history in less than a year from now...she's an ex for a reason and now your that your out of the way she will be EX'd again.

He will be back and you better make him work for it sister...hear me?

you should remember how you felt when you first found out what was going on. i doubt you wanna go through that again.

but i think the best advice anyone could give you is to do what you feel is right and best, and whatever you think is conducive to who you are. that way you won't have regrets, regardless of what you choose to do.

Ok well him hanging up on me shows clearly that he doesn't feel that I am worth him letting her go, or even proving anything to me. He feels his words are good enough, and it's not.

if you allow him to pursue you cheeky, let him do all the calling, the texting, the emailing, then you will know...if he's making a huge effort for you to be in your life, include you then you know he's interested and will run thru fire with gasoline draws on to capture your confidence, trust and heart.

If your matching his intensity everytime he says I love you's and matching the sentimental things he's doing...in his eyes you are competing with him, NO ONE telss women this...this tires a man out, he will start to RESENT you and then he will soon bore, he doesn't want an easy woman, he wants a woman that every man desires...he was an extraodinary woman that can hold her own. If you never know one thing, A MAN NEVER needs to know how you feel about him...this DRIVES his EMOTIONS and keeps him ont he chase, he will spend all his time fixating and trying to figure you out...he will pursue you and give you your hearts desire if you don't match his emotions right away...

If your calling him back right away, emailing long this is how I feel emails, if your texting right back, if your his beck and call girl...then your saying he's much more important than you and no man wants a woman that values him more than she values herself...yeah he will be lazy and take ALL your giving but eventually you will be dumped...giving too much is a sure way to get your ass pushed out the door.

you girls have to know the rules of being too wide open, you always CHALLENGE a man, you never call right back, you never be too available...you know what gives you power? Ending a call first...you time him, you give him 8 minuts...baby I gotta go, you don't have to say why...you are a phenomenal woman and your time is precious..this is the message a woman should be sending.

Never call a man first...there is power in being pursued

Ok well him hanging up on me shows clearly that he doesn't feel that I am worth him letting her go, or even proving anything to me. He feels his words are good enough, and it's not.

No thats game...HE'S TRYING TO GET THE LAST WORD...having the last word makes a man feel powerful, SO YOUR GOING TO LET HIM WIN...your not going to compete...a woman of elegance and class, of value isn't concerned about it...this is a power play..this is an emotional intensity junkies way of putting you on the hunt but NO this is his job...his job is to pursue and fix it. Your lack of concern will put him on the HUNT/CHASE.

He wants you to afraid but in reality he's afraid...you jus made a WOMANS power play...you said I'm not taking this BS...grow up and get back to me when your ready.

Now go live your life and forget him (for now)

Sorry for the typo's

Its ok but I got it lol.

Im telling u, u guys have been so helpful up to the point of me having the strength to make that phone call a few minutes ago and say to him that "I love me" , and I deserve all that is great and if you cannot give me what I deserve than I can not be your girl".

Thanks so much, I will cry all my tears out while working on moving on for good, and let go.

I understand what everyone is saying but it just seems like a no win situation....your nice your screwed....you ignore him you are screwed....

How do you know if you are making progress?

When he starts BEGGING, WHINING, COMPLAINING Y U DON't GIVE HIM ATTENTION. Y U DON't CALL! WHEN U R OUT IN PUBLIC AND LET'S EVERYONE KNOW THE WAY HE HOLDS U AND IGNORES EVERYONE ELSE THAT U R THE 1. O, by the way don't sell yourself short and give him sex from the deep intense gut level connection, that U Share. After a while U will start being cheap!

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I personally would not ignore ALL his calls. I would listen 2 him. And just cut the conversation real short if he is not talking about nothing I am trying 2 hear. Igorning him will B competing with him, let him win his game, let him win, just don't fall into what he is trying 2 accomplish. Yeah, iluvme, he is trying 2 make U sweat by not giving her up and making U have competition 2 continue 2 do more. I would just dump him and turn the tables back on him. Now, if U say, hey, I don't care about U anymore, I want 2 C Martino, and she can have U, U R not valuable 2 me. C if he does not change that BS! U R still letting him know that U R interested in him being with U, complaining about her and he is using this against U. Just tell him, U decided she can have U, and U want 2 B with blah..blah...It's over! Don't interfere in your life, and U will not interfere in his. C what happens.

So he says this time around he will not contact me, he will leave me alone. He tried to make me feel guilty for my decision as if I was crazy for saying "No I deserve better, and unless you can give me that we cannot be together". He doesn't feel there is anything that he should have to prove to me. I believe that he will leave me alone this time. Let the healing process begin.


Thanks again guys for your input and help, you guys have been there more than my friends. Well hey you guys are my dxpnet friends now : ).

Hey IVMC he did you a favor by leaving you alone. What I learned about cancer men or any man for that matter is that you CAN NOT baby them, and don't make yourself too available!

So very true! And don't keep letting him come back when HE feels like it. I know 4 sure, he will call U back in about 3 weeks. And he will want 2 know Y U R not calling. And DON'T. DON'T CALL AT ALL! LET HIM PURSUE U! He lazy and he does not WANT 2 have 2 do any work when he can get it 4 free. Let her HAVE him. Let her run ALL his adrenaline out. Because once that is gone. He will no longer really want 2 have anything 2 do with HER! U R making it obvious that U want him. Don't pay his arse no attention, give him hot and intense moment and back off, then show him U R STILL not interested. He is lazy and until he can C past Walmart, buy here pay here. He won't C any value in U, because he can tell that U R not respecting yourself by continuing 2 want him 2 leave HER 4 U, when if U really valued yourself, your action will speak louder than your words.