Heart vs. Head

Posted by GemJenn
GemStar im not nagging him im talking to yall for an outlet and im not trying to do anything to "ruin it" your kinda rude....just sayin'
Eusive thank you sweetie!

Posted by GemJenn
Im so down tonight and been feeling it for about a month. Still with Cap bfriend but still have not gotten a i love you. We are in a exclusive committed relationship but i cant stop myself from analyzing everything to death!
Why is it that we share every intimate details of our lives us, our kids, sexually etc...after getting out if a 18 year marriage i told myself i wouldnt let my gaurd down so easily that i wouldnt give away enough of my heart that someone could hurt me or break me every again. Thats all good in theory but i have always been a person that wears my heart on my sleeve.
He says cares about me deeply and that hes working towards being abke to say those words but he will not until he truly means it. He says he thinks futuristically about us, etc...My problem is that i feel that after 11 months of dating the natural progression would be that he coukd say i love you...My head keeps screaming to pull back but my heart cant stand to that....
I told him all this...My mom committed suicide in 2003 and my dad died in 07 and i have felt "left" by alot of people in my life. I knoe this had alot to do with this. I want to hearthe words then i feel like i could breathe and not stress out about why i might not be good enough ....
Feeling lost and dont know which obe i should be listening to....I just dont know anymore....

Posted by Stinger Baby
understand one thing about caps - THEY ARENT VERBAL. one has to damn near teach these ppl how to express what they are feeling in words. dont expect a shower of words or 'i love yous'. one day, maybe he'll say it, but it's not in cap's nature. these ppl are DOERS. if they love you, they SHOW you. they go out of their way for you, be there for you, and are dependable. they make sure they secure you as best as they can. that's a keyword for capricorns - SECURITY. because security is love to them. i think you're much better off with a person that shows you how they feel about you every day but hardly says a word, rather than a person that has only words for you but does nothing to back them up.
this isnt something to get upset over. just tell him how you feel instead of getting emotional. tell him that you appreciate how he shows you his love, and it would be an extra gift just to hear him say it. it's not hard to get them to say 'i love you'. they may feel weird, but it wont bother them too much, especially when they really do love you.