Age has naught to do with it .... it's been expressed that this is an on-going thing, and awareness is present that it's fucked up.
which means .. there is a desire to continue
which means .. there is a desire to continue
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I have found Sag men attractive (case in point: Brad Pitt!) and have met a few sag men but nothing worked out favorably, for even a date.
First, their nonchalance is off-putting.
Then, their sensitivity beneath that nonchalance is worse.
They dislike clinginess, but that means it's a hit-and-run
They fail at intimacy. Most likely guzzlers to hide their inability to express themselves.
Telling you to call is an easy way out for him.. it boosts his ego and then he doesn't need to remember to call.
When a Sag is worth it, he does the opposite..
I have Sag friends who disappear for days. I just assume they found a secret spaceship and have been going to mars and back. Unless you need a jack in the hat, Sags are out for the generally clingy libras.
First, their nonchalance is off-putting.
Then, their sensitivity beneath that nonchalance is worse.
They dislike clinginess, but that means it's a hit-and-run
They fail at intimacy. Most likely guzzlers to hide their inability to express themselves.
Telling you to call is an easy way out for him.. it boosts his ego and then he doesn't need to remember to call.
When a Sag is worth it, he does the opposite..
I have Sag friends who disappear for days. I just assume they found a secret spaceship and have been going to mars and back. Unless you need a jack in the hat, Sags are out for the generally clingy libras.
Sorry to hear about your deal. Im new to this site a Sag female , checking it out.
Id like to say that whenever I was done with a relationship and broke it off, for whatever reason. I never ever wanted to see or hear about it again. I just broke off a 5 year engagement, for good reason. No matter how many good times we had and sometimes how wonderful it was. If I recieved anything from him now a yr later. whether it be a mail, card, phonecall, or god especially a gift. I would freak out, bring up all the bad stuff, it would give me the creeps and I would feel compelled to have some kind of answer or reply. Which would be a situation I would not want to deal with.. Someone just asked me the other day if Id heard from him. God I hope not. Bottom line, I would not like anything at all ever, period its history for a reason. Sorry. Hope you can find a new girl to give all that stuff to.
Id like to say that whenever I was done with a relationship and broke it off, for whatever reason. I never ever wanted to see or hear about it again. I just broke off a 5 year engagement, for good reason. No matter how many good times we had and sometimes how wonderful it was. If I recieved anything from him now a yr later. whether it be a mail, card, phonecall, or god especially a gift. I would freak out, bring up all the bad stuff, it would give me the creeps and I would feel compelled to have some kind of answer or reply. Which would be a situation I would not want to deal with.. Someone just asked me the other day if Id heard from him. God I hope not. Bottom line, I would not like anything at all ever, period its history for a reason. Sorry. Hope you can find a new girl to give all that stuff to.
Are Women Scaring Off Men?
The Washington Post
By: Joy Jones
Have you met this woman? She has a good job, works hard, and earns a good
salary. She went to college, she got her master's degree; she is
intelligent. She is personable, articulate, well read, interested in
everybody and everything Yet, she's single.
Or maybe you know this one. Active in the church.
Faithful, committed, sings in the choir, serves on the usher board, and
attends every committee meeting. Loves the Lord and knows the Word. You'd
think that with her command of the scriptures and the respect of her church
members, she'd have a marriage as solid as a rock. But again, no husband.
Or perhaps you recognize the community activist. She's a black lady, or, as
she prefers, an African American woman, on the move. She sports A short
natural; sometimes cornrow braids, or even dreadlocks.She 's an organizer, a
motivator, a dynamo. Her work for he r people speaks for itself--organizing
women for a self-help, raising funds for A community cause, educating others
around a new issue in South Africa. Black folks look up to her, and white
folks know she's a force to be reckoned with. Yet once again, the men leave
her alone.
What do these women have in common? They have so much; what is it they lack?
Why is it they may be able to hook a man but can't hold him? The women
puzzle over this quandary themselves. They gather at professional clubs, at
sorority meetings or over coffee at the office and wonder what's wrong with
black men? They hold special prayer vigils and fast and pray and beg Jesus
to send the men back to church. They find the brothers attending political
strategizing sessions or participating in protests but when it comes time to
go home, the brothers go home to someone else.
I know these women because I am all of these women.
And after asking over and over again "What's wrong with these men?", it
finally dawned on me to ask the question, "What's wrong with us women?" What
I have found, and what many of these women have yet to discover, is that the
skills that make one successful in the church, community or workplace are
not the skills that make one successful in a relationship.
Linear thinking, self-reliance, structured goals and direct action assist
one in getting assignments done, in organizing church or club activities or
in positioning oneself for a raise, but relationship- building requires
different skills. It requires ma
The Washington Post
By: Joy Jones
Have you met this woman? She has a good job, works hard, and earns a good
salary. She went to college, she got her master's degree; she is
intelligent. She is personable, articulate, well read, interested in
everybody and everything Yet, she's single.
Or maybe you know this one. Active in the church.
Faithful, committed, sings in the choir, serves on the usher board, and
attends every committee meeting. Loves the Lord and knows the Word. You'd
think that with her command of the scriptures and the respect of her church
members, she'd have a marriage as solid as a rock. But again, no husband.
Or perhaps you recognize the community activist. She's a black lady, or, as
she prefers, an African American woman, on the move. She sports A short
natural; sometimes cornrow braids, or even dreadlocks.She 's an organizer, a
motivator, a dynamo. Her work for he r people speaks for itself--organizing
women for a self-help, raising funds for A community cause, educating others
around a new issue in South Africa. Black folks look up to her, and white
folks know she's a force to be reckoned with. Yet once again, the men leave
her alone.
What do these women have in common? They have so much; what is it they lack?
Why is it they may be able to hook a man but can't hold him? The women
puzzle over this quandary themselves. They gather at professional clubs, at
sorority meetings or over coffee at the office and wonder what's wrong with
black men? They hold special prayer vigils and fast and pray and beg Jesus
to send the men back to church. They find the brothers attending political
strategizing sessions or participating in protests but when it comes time to
go home, the brothers go home to someone else.
I know these women because I am all of these women.
And after asking over and over again "What's wrong with these men?", it
finally dawned on me to ask the question, "What's wrong with us women?" What
I have found, and what many of these women have yet to discover, is that the
skills that make one successful in the church, community or workplace are
not the skills that make one successful in a relationship.
Linear thinking, self-reliance, structured goals and direct action assist
one in getting assignments done, in organizing church or club activities or
in positioning oneself for a raise, but relationship- building requires
different skills. It requires ma
I was introduced to this Gem (male) thru my sons Godmother who is dating his best friend. This Gem has his own business (Auto Repair and Sales)well he found out I don't have a car and he asked me "do you want me to find a car for you" I said sure...don't go over x amount of $ so 2 days later I get a call and he says "I found a car for you" oh yea...what type of car did you find? "Acura Legend" how much? x amount of $ oh ok. "when can you give me a down payment" so I told him the date....he takes me to see the car I like it he says he will take it thru inspection and do all repairs free of charge (which is also on the contract). Well we decided that I would make my next paymen in 2 weeks and have the car paid for by the end of Jan 08.
Well we have been hanging out and stuff and this one peticular day his whole converstation was on me making my next payment..he says "so when you gonna make a another payment" "next week I told you every 2 weeks" and "you will have it paid off when" "we decided by the end of Jan 08" he says oh yea...so I say you don't remember all this? and then I said I know what I have to do I think about this everyday...
So later that day or the next I called my sons Godmother and she says to me...that the Gem told his best friend that I was driving in the car already...so I say What the Hell!!! why did he lie like that and for what reason.....
Not to mention the day that he was taking me to see the car I caught him in another LIE....with his age...I was like so how long have you been in business for yourself? he said 20 years he told me he was 45 when I met him....so when he told me how long he was in business I said so you started when you was in your 20's he says ahhhh let me see...I am 47 know so I opend my business when I was 37...so I was like why did you lie you told me you was 45 I hit him on the arm while he was driving not hard but was like hitting him saying why lie....don't do that....he starts smiling and says to me I did not want to appear to old you you look really young or something so I was like I am 46....don't lie .
Well we have been hanging out and stuff and this one peticular day his whole converstation was on me making my next payment..he says "so when you gonna make a another payment" "next week I told you every 2 weeks" and "you will have it paid off when" "we decided by the end of Jan 08" he says oh yea...so I say you don't remember all this? and then I said I know what I have to do I think about this everyday...
So later that day or the next I called my sons Godmother and she says to me...that the Gem told his best friend that I was driving in the car already...so I say What the Hell!!! why did he lie like that and for what reason.....
Not to mention the day that he was taking me to see the car I caught him in another LIE....with his age...I was like so how long have you been in business for yourself? he said 20 years he told me he was 45 when I met him....so when he told me how long he was in business I said so you started when you was in your 20's he says ahhhh let me see...I am 47 know so I opend my business when I was 37...so I was like why did you lie you told me you was 45 I hit him on the arm while he was driving not hard but was like hitting him saying why lie....don't do that....he starts smiling and says to me I did not want to appear to old you you look really young or something so I was like I am 46....don't lie .
So here's my issue...my son's Godmothers says I should not say anything to him about lying I mean it is not a big outrageious lie but it's a lie...and if he is lying know about menial shit what the hell will he do later...so right know I am very cautious...with him and what he says I don't know if I can believe him I don't know if the things he says is the truth or a lie so I can't even take it at face value... It's only been 3 weeks since I met him....My sons Godmother says he said it to make himself look good....so she tells her friend that i am not driving the car..they go to the shop yesterday and she says to him that the car I told you she was not driving....
So she says to her friend why don't you ask him why he lied? and he has not asked him and she is telling me don't say anything.....she also is a Gemini.
What's up with the LIES?
So she says to her friend why don't you ask him why he lied? and he has not asked him and she is telling me don't say anything.....she also is a Gemini.
What's up with the LIES?
WOW!! Did not know these men are so crazy. Thanks. I am out of my leo realm.
Pisceses is one sign I do not get along with. The girls (have never met a guy) are really bossy, controlling, manipulative, and whiny. They are mean, rude, then burst into tears. I work with one who throws temper tantrums on a daily basis. She is rude and angry with everyone then wonders why she is so unhappy. Hello? Way too much for me to handle. I can't relate to them at all.
I tried being friends with another one and eventually she was kicked off the team and no one wanted to be around her anymore. (oddly another Libra, Aqua) She was way too competitive and just plain stupid. I have never met a more selfish self-centered person. Some of the stuff she said to me blows me away. It just outrages me ... how unconcerned she is about others. Not to mention these weird power games. I avoid her at all costs and try to have nothing to do with her.
We aren't on the same page. We aren't even in the same library.
I tried being friends with another one and eventually she was kicked off the team and no one wanted to be around her anymore. (oddly another Libra, Aqua) She was way too competitive and just plain stupid. I have never met a more selfish self-centered person. Some of the stuff she said to me blows me away. It just outrages me ... how unconcerned she is about others. Not to mention these weird power games. I avoid her at all costs and try to have nothing to do with her.
We aren't on the same page. We aren't even in the same library.
"There is not choice here rather he was blowing you off or being honest keep it moving with this, why even question it..."
or
You can just have him satisfy you physically when you are in the mood....
"What I have found, and what many of these women have yet to discover, is that the
skills that make one successful in the church, community or workplace are
not the skills that make one successful in a relationship."
I am so sick and tired of people claiming that it's the women fault that because we are successful, and can carry our own that we have to be at fault for not having a man. What about the women that choices to not have a man but to only have a man to help her make a baby and he can go...would we look down on that women? or the women that don't want a man right know but just want to enjoy the single life (that would be me). What about the asshole men that lie, cheat, on us do we overlook that and still continue to claim or believe that he still love and want to be with us inspite of what he has done....
I don't think Bill Clinton is going to leave Hillary will she becomes president because of her success...
And what we have yet to discover....
I personally have discovered enough stuff about men over the last 10-20 years to know that regardless of what I do for a living and or the community I am going to still hold my own and he needs to be a man and except that and he should look at me as a person that wants to achieve success just as much as he wants it and that maybe if we put our heads together and work towards it we both can achieve success together and not just achieve because society has put in a man heads that he should be the bread winner and not the women.
I think society should stop making us women look like me are the problem and look at the role that men and the women play in keeping the relationship together and the faults with us both and not just one.
skills that make one successful in the church, community or workplace are
not the skills that make one successful in a relationship."
I am so sick and tired of people claiming that it's the women fault that because we are successful, and can carry our own that we have to be at fault for not having a man. What about the women that choices to not have a man but to only have a man to help her make a baby and he can go...would we look down on that women? or the women that don't want a man right know but just want to enjoy the single life (that would be me). What about the asshole men that lie, cheat, on us do we overlook that and still continue to claim or believe that he still love and want to be with us inspite of what he has done....
I don't think Bill Clinton is going to leave Hillary will she becomes president because of her success...
And what we have yet to discover....
I personally have discovered enough stuff about men over the last 10-20 years to know that regardless of what I do for a living and or the community I am going to still hold my own and he needs to be a man and except that and he should look at me as a person that wants to achieve success just as much as he wants it and that maybe if we put our heads together and work towards it we both can achieve success together and not just achieve because society has put in a man heads that he should be the bread winner and not the women.
I think society should stop making us women look like me are the problem and look at the role that men and the women play in keeping the relationship together and the faults with us both and not just one.
"He told me I was the kind of girl he could marry, and he tried to keep in contact with me after I moved. I, however, didnt keep in contact with him b/c of personal reasons, but I still wonder to this day what could have been..."
Oh,you didn't keep in contact with the Taurus guy. He's going to feel so sad. I'm sure he still wants to be friends even though if there is no outcome between the two of you.
Well, these two signs can be good friends. But I'm not very sure if they are a very good match as couple. From my experience as a Taurus loving a Pisces, Taurus people may not be that sensitive enough to meet Pisces' emotional needs. They may be there for their Pisces and could be trying very hard to meet their emotional needs. But you know trying very hard doesn't mean that things will work out. It's very difficult for them to be on par with the Pisces' emotion level and understand their needs.
Then for Pisces people, they may not be able to satisfy Taurus' need for security. Pisces are friendly people, they are bound to have a lot of friends. And that may make Taurus feel insecure in the long run and even jealous. More so if their Pisces mate didn't show adequate, tangible care (i.e hugs) to them...they may get insecure easily. Taureans needs constant assurance, which I don't Pisces is constant changing.
Not trying to be discourage, but just being realistic since these are the things/problems that both will need to face or compromise (for long term relationship.) I guess Taureans get attracted by Piscean rather easily. If Pisces only treats Taurus as a friend, please do be clear with them right from the beginning, otherwise they will misunderstand. Taurus people are not so clever sometimes. haha =p I'm talking about myself, don't trash me. Must be straightforward and clear from the start, otherwise if they are in it, they are really in it...will be very hard for them to get out of it.
You hear all these from a naggy Taurus. haha.
Oh,you didn't keep in contact with the Taurus guy. He's going to feel so sad. I'm sure he still wants to be friends even though if there is no outcome between the two of you.
Well, these two signs can be good friends. But I'm not very sure if they are a very good match as couple. From my experience as a Taurus loving a Pisces, Taurus people may not be that sensitive enough to meet Pisces' emotional needs. They may be there for their Pisces and could be trying very hard to meet their emotional needs. But you know trying very hard doesn't mean that things will work out. It's very difficult for them to be on par with the Pisces' emotion level and understand their needs.
Then for Pisces people, they may not be able to satisfy Taurus' need for security. Pisces are friendly people, they are bound to have a lot of friends. And that may make Taurus feel insecure in the long run and even jealous. More so if their Pisces mate didn't show adequate, tangible care (i.e hugs) to them...they may get insecure easily. Taureans needs constant assurance, which I don't Pisces is constant changing.
Not trying to be discourage, but just being realistic since these are the things/problems that both will need to face or compromise (for long term relationship.) I guess Taureans get attracted by Piscean rather easily. If Pisces only treats Taurus as a friend, please do be clear with them right from the beginning, otherwise they will misunderstand. Taurus people are not so clever sometimes. haha =p I'm talking about myself, don't trash me. Must be straightforward and clear from the start, otherwise if they are in it, they are really in it...will be very hard for them to get out of it.
You hear all these from a naggy Taurus. haha.