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Jan 19, 2011Comments: 2 · Posts: 540 · Topics: 11
That is true.Point being if others read thher post before they comment,they get the picture.FYI,Page 3 Virgo Man ..what does this mean.To a Virgo a commitment is a commitment.Don't you have a shampooer to buy?
Do you unknowingly give off the "I don't give a F" attitude by keeping your nose in your book? Look disinterested in what is going on around you? Avoid eye contact with everyone? If so, then a man may be hesistant to approach you since you're not really giving off any signals of interest or availability.
Hell, being by yourself makes it easier for men to approach you. No cockblocking!
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Dec 22, 2009Comments: 438 · Posts: 33721 · Topics: 241
Well it seemed like AGES. *wiping nose on sleeve* Glad you're back woman.
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Feb 24, 2011Comments: 0 · Posts: 1394 · Topics: 61
my Sag has a Mars in Scorpio - gawd! well, he is successful at what he does, but it's all out, always.
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Jul 08, 2009Comments: 5 · Posts: 4081 · Topics: 4
But by the same token.. if you wanted anything to do with them, surely you would have reached out by now? See how that works both ways?
I understand that you feel distant and maybe a little resentful.. but you said yourself.. no one in your family talks about what happened, they just swept it under the rug. So did you ever consider that 'they' (especially your father) might have been wanting or trying to be in your life at one point, but were *ahem*.. discouraged from doing so, perhaps by your mother and her new husband wanting to have their little family together without interference from your dad? And if your dad chose to hold back, maybe he wanted to avoid complicating YOUR life or hurting YOU, and figured if you wanted to know them, you'd reach out to them, at least once you were grown. Every year that passes.. 26 now?.. that's one more year THEY probably figure you want nothing to do with them, so they just.. wait.
For both sides, yours and theirs... it's easy to be the one that waits.. waiting is safe, it doesn't make you face your fears or take a risk.. waiting doesn't risk rejection or disappointment.. and waiting allows one to sit on their high horse and decide it's someone else's job to make something happen... and to blame and resent the other for failing to care enough.
It's time to 'care enough' for yourself, and take responsibility for yourself and your own life. You were a child when all of this started, but you can no longer use that as a shield. Don't let fear rob you of the next 26 years. If you WANT to know them, you must now be proactive rather than passive. It could be the best thing you were ever brave enough to do. And even if it doesn't go very well.. isn't that better than the wondering, the not knowing, the left in the dark feeling?
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Jul 08, 2009Comments: 5 · Posts: 4081 · Topics: 4
*sigh* He's not a young Cap.. he's a Virgo.. and she's asked this question several times in the past few days... obviously she's not gotten the answer she was looking for, so she keeps asking again. :/