Have I completely lost Taurus male?
I??m on the outside now, cast aside though I can??t stop punishing myself with the photos ??? a stark reminder of what we once were, I learn. I see more clearly. See your smiling face that once blinded me, see you searching for yourself in every corner and I find myself letting go, trust that your journey will take you where it needs to, that our time together opened your eyes, opened some doors. My love for you has always been selfless and without expectation ??? I??ve only ever wanted you to be happy and it saddens me that the happiness you once found with me is no longer. You??ve bounced on ??? Gemini occupying your Venus. Fleeting.
What I??ve come realize though is that time is never ending and cyclical, patterns repeat until we break them, life continues on, past becomes the future, wrongs become right, seasons change and people grow and paths cross for reasons we??ll never understand. My heart now yearns for that place where we once started from, when you immersed yourself in my friends, my activities, my life. In me. That place you??ve put her into now. You got bored with me, with us ??? long before she came around and I can only guess it will happen again, with her, in time. You??ll continue to search in new faces, while I sit over here content with who I am, happy with this place I've found.
What I??ve come realize though is that time is never ending and cyclical, patterns repeat until we break them, life continues on, past becomes the future, wrongs become right, seasons change and people grow and paths cross for reasons we??ll never understand. My heart now yearns for that place where we once started from, when you immersed yourself in my friends, my activities, my life. In me. That place you??ve put her into now. You got bored with me, with us ??? long before she came around and I can only guess it will happen again, with her, in time. You??ll continue to search in new faces, while I sit over here content with who I am, happy with this place I've found.
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I believe the way you communicate has created the problem. You somewhat blurred the communication here with everyone as well as doing this with him as well.
Telling a man your "dating" about your health issues should be something divulged much later down the line. Yes the whole online thing can feel so real and make people open up more especially via text messaging, email, social networking but the rules of engagement still hold firm. Wait to give out personal information and the whole car thing is a bit creepy (to me) and he over stepped his boundaries so be careful about your boundaries.
Not sure what the status is between the both of you but my suggestion would be to start over again. Give him a pass on the situation and then learn how to communicate more effectively meaning if there is something you need to know, want to know, want to confirm then do so and be exact about it.
Your biggest problem will be your inability to communicate better. Next time just reconfirm the date. So for now let it pass, give it some time and start over with him.
Telling a man your "dating" about your health issues should be something divulged much later down the line. Yes the whole online thing can feel so real and make people open up more especially via text messaging, email, social networking but the rules of engagement still hold firm. Wait to give out personal information and the whole car thing is a bit creepy (to me) and he over stepped his boundaries so be careful about your boundaries.
Not sure what the status is between the both of you but my suggestion would be to start over again. Give him a pass on the situation and then learn how to communicate more effectively meaning if there is something you need to know, want to know, want to confirm then do so and be exact about it.
Your biggest problem will be your inability to communicate better. Next time just reconfirm the date. So for now let it pass, give it some time and start over with him.
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+1 million@"I hate to say this, but if it was me, if he did not give me an answer, then it's a NO."
His behavior is typical of a man with commitment issues. They burn hot and then cold and then hot and then cold and women stay confused in that kind of mess.
You cannot allow his burning hot behavior to deflect you from the bad stuff such as him not wanting to be intimate with you unless it's on HIS terms/his way.
You can talk to him until the rooster crow he will not change. He will love you more when he feel you are not a threat to his personal space and freedom and be more distant with you when he sense you being fully engaged with him/into him like it's LEADING into him LOSING his freedom which is typical CP behavior (commitmentphobic).
He has never married. DING DING DING. Huge red flag! He has displayed hot/cold behavior. DING DING DING. Huge red flag! He has RESET the relationship from being in a real committed cohabitating type of relationship to just friends/roommate. DING DING DING. Huge red flag!
If he hasn't ever committed himself to marriage, to having and rearing his own children then why in the hell would he commit to you when he clearly does not know how to do that, hence him being single all of his life.
There is no moving forward with a man like him. You will always be RESET into a friend or a roommate or friends with benefits type of situation.
When I was with my Mr.Unavailable many moons before marriage. I found this great site.
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/why-do-men-blow-hot-and-cold/
If you??re with a man who is emotionally unavailable (Mr Unavailable), it is rarely a good indicator of things to come. But why do they blow hot and cold?
They love the thrill of the chase. Men that turn on the hot and cold tap of attention have limited attention spans. They are quick out the gate in hot pursuit but as soon as they feel like they don??t have to chase anymore, you lose your shiny exterior. There is no incentive for them to throw all of their energy at you.
They are too cowardly to admit that they are not ready for a relationship. Instead they just p*ss off and withdraw and then blow hot when you kick up a fuss about their poor behaviour??_or they need some sex or attention.
His behavior is typical of a man with commitment issues. They burn hot and then cold and then hot and then cold and women stay confused in that kind of mess.
You cannot allow his burning hot behavior to deflect you from the bad stuff such as him not wanting to be intimate with you unless it's on HIS terms/his way.
You can talk to him until the rooster crow he will not change. He will love you more when he feel you are not a threat to his personal space and freedom and be more distant with you when he sense you being fully engaged with him/into him like it's LEADING into him LOSING his freedom which is typical CP behavior (commitmentphobic).
He has never married. DING DING DING. Huge red flag! He has displayed hot/cold behavior. DING DING DING. Huge red flag! He has RESET the relationship from being in a real committed cohabitating type of relationship to just friends/roommate. DING DING DING. Huge red flag!
If he hasn't ever committed himself to marriage, to having and rearing his own children then why in the hell would he commit to you when he clearly does not know how to do that, hence him being single all of his life.
There is no moving forward with a man like him. You will always be RESET into a friend or a roommate or friends with benefits type of situation.
When I was with my Mr.Unavailable many moons before marriage. I found this great site.
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/why-do-men-blow-hot-and-cold/
If you??re with a man who is emotionally unavailable (Mr Unavailable), it is rarely a good indicator of things to come. But why do they blow hot and cold?
They love the thrill of the chase. Men that turn on the hot and cold tap of attention have limited attention spans. They are quick out the gate in hot pursuit but as soon as they feel like they don??t have to chase anymore, you lose your shiny exterior. There is no incentive for them to throw all of their energy at you.
They are too cowardly to admit that they are not ready for a relationship. Instead they just p*ss off and withdraw and then blow hot when you kick up a fuss about their poor behaviour??_or they need some sex or attention.
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Parental Guidance, Beautiful Creatures, Hansel and Gretel, Austin Powers, This Is 40, Funny People, Click, GI Joe Rise of Cobra, Michael Moore movies, etc
Natalie has countless scenarios to our questions about men especially the ones that are emotionally unavailable etc etc.
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/why-theres-no-point-being-with-somebody-who-blows-hot-cold/
Why There??s No Point Being With Somebody Who Blows Hot & Cold
Blowing hot and cold is never a good sign and it is in fact a code red alert because you can never trust in this person enough to know what to expect from them. Your relationship will not be able to have balance, it can??t progress because they keep undermining it, they??re inconsistent (and if you stay around too long they become consistent at being inconsistent and train you to expect less from them), and as a result of all of these things, you cannot expect intimacy or commitment.
There??s no point in being with someone who blows hot and cold because it??s not a mutual relationship, it??s all on their terms, and you can never really know where you stand because they persist in undermining you and the relationship.This is unhealthy and demeaning.
The person who blows hot and cold thrives on control and equates feeling out of control with desire. They value what they don??t have and ???newness??, so you??re on borrowed time.
When you won??t give them the time of day or they don??t know if you??re interested or they don??t know if you??re ???buying?? what they??re ???selling?? (read: a relationship and a person that??s not actually available), the lack of control makes you very desirable. They get curious.
Blowing lukewarm or cold should be a wake-up call if not the exit bell ringing. At the very least, it is a sign that you need to step back, stop, look, listen and evaluate what the hell is going on. It??s question asking time (if the situation calls for it), but it??s highly likely to signal an exit.
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/why-theres-no-point-being-with-somebody-who-blows-hot-cold/
Why There??s No Point Being With Somebody Who Blows Hot & Cold
Blowing hot and cold is never a good sign and it is in fact a code red alert because you can never trust in this person enough to know what to expect from them. Your relationship will not be able to have balance, it can??t progress because they keep undermining it, they??re inconsistent (and if you stay around too long they become consistent at being inconsistent and train you to expect less from them), and as a result of all of these things, you cannot expect intimacy or commitment.
There??s no point in being with someone who blows hot and cold because it??s not a mutual relationship, it??s all on their terms, and you can never really know where you stand because they persist in undermining you and the relationship.This is unhealthy and demeaning.
The person who blows hot and cold thrives on control and equates feeling out of control with desire. They value what they don??t have and ???newness??, so you??re on borrowed time.
When you won??t give them the time of day or they don??t know if you??re interested or they don??t know if you??re ???buying?? what they??re ???selling?? (read: a relationship and a person that??s not actually available), the lack of control makes you very desirable. They get curious.
Blowing lukewarm or cold should be a wake-up call if not the exit bell ringing. At the very least, it is a sign that you need to step back, stop, look, listen and evaluate what the hell is going on. It??s question asking time (if the situation calls for it), but it??s highly likely to signal an exit.
It can be very tempting to play in the Hot & Cold Casino and keep betting on potential but it??s a false economy that will eat away at your soul. Once you end up playing this game and realising that cutting them off, threatening to end it, mentioning that you??re seeing others etc makes them step up, albeit only for a short time until they realise that you??re back under their control, you??re trying to mess with supply and demand. What are you going to do? Keep doing these things in order to get attention from them? It??s only a matter of time until they recognise the pattern and then they will even become half-hearted in chasing after you. They realise you??re not really that serious.
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