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Be unpolite, rude and primitive and you'll hear GOODBYE immediately. 
Posted by Europesaggy
My question: how to strike a balance between getting emotionally attached and keeping your cool,. How to deal with such stuff when it happens. What are your experiences? Is this more a female thing or do males experience the same?
How? Well you have to 1st ask yourself WHY you feel the need to attach so quickly
Is it b/c internal psychological issues encourage you to atleast be attached to SOMETHING/SOMEONE at all times?
Or is it b/c that person has actually told you, shown you & proven to you that they are worthy of such a great attachment so soon?
In other words, is that person really THAT great or is it that you have your "expectations meter" set to TOO HIGH in the beginning, thus that explains why falling easily for everybody (as opposed to that rare 1 or 2 people) is so easy?
Maybe you need to adjust that meter
What helped me was learning not to give someone credit for something unless I had proof that it was real!
For example, if a guy tells me he's faithful, nice, honest, trustworthy, fun, funny, etc. it may sound good BUT unless I've seen it for myself CONSISTENTLY, I don't allow myself to emotionally/psychologically believe it.
Only once I've seen it for myself CONSISTENTLY (keyword) will I allow my emotions to give someone credit for something.
It takes great mind control & discipline but it can work
Any advices anyone? 
Just to add. I've kept my class. When he left, I never contacted him. I moved on, and I didn't actually think much about him. Maybe because he already left me before, and just got used to it. Although there are times where I feel like crying because I do miss him.
Another info. When we were breaking up, I told him that if he were to leave, then he must NEVER come back. After I told him that, he seemed even more hesitant like a child saying "What?... I can never see you again?...." This is the reason why he stayed at my apartment for 3 hours just to have a proper closure, he didn't want to leave. He kept placing his head on my thigh.
Although he told his friend: "Do you know how it feels? In my head I know that I don't want to continue this anymore, but whenever I see him I want to be with him."
This just complicate a lot of things... Any tips from Capricorns out there?
Just to add. I've kept my class. When he left, I never contacted him. I moved on, and I didn't actually think much about him. Maybe because he already left me before, and just got used to it. Although there are times where I feel like crying because I do miss him.
Another info. When we were breaking up, I told him that if he were to leave, then he must NEVER come back. After I told him that, he seemed even more hesitant like a child saying "What?... I can never see you again?....
" This is the reason why he stayed at my apartment for 3 hours just to have a proper closure, he didn't want to leave. He kept placing his head on my thigh. Although he told his friend: "Do you know how it feels? In my head I know that I don't want to continue this anymore, but whenever I see him I want to be with him."
This just complicate a lot of things... Any tips from Capricorns out there?
My life path # is 11, which i guess is 2. i see im compatible with 2, 4, 8. mmmmh
What sets happy couples apart from miserable couples? What are the things happy people/couples are doing OR not doing that unhappy couples could learn from?
We see all the stories & hear all the complaints from unhappy couples who are probably even more unhappy today than yesterday b/c they're getting all their relationship advice from other UNhappy couples...
If you wanna be successful, observe & do what successful people do! You can't learn from an unsuccessful person how to be successful. Only successful people can teach that class! I believe the same is true for happy relationships...
And let's get deep...other than the obvious: lying, cheating, abuse, etc. what are things that you HAPPY couples do that saves you from being 1 step away from an UNHAPPY couple?
We see all the stories & hear all the complaints from unhappy couples who are probably even more unhappy today than yesterday b/c they're getting all their relationship advice from other UNhappy couples...
If you wanna be successful, observe & do what successful people do! You can't learn from an unsuccessful person how to be successful. Only successful people can teach that class! I believe the same is true for happy relationships...
And let's get deep...other than the obvious: lying, cheating, abuse, etc. what are things that you HAPPY couples do that saves you from being 1 step away from an UNHAPPY couple?
Display traits of low character or betray us and you'll hear good bye by a door being slammed shut or the sound an engine pulling out the driveway.
LOL I dunno, my experience with Libran females have been good. Might be because I'm a Libra, but who knows. tiz that is definitely a good one!
I've been happily married for many years & when I look back on my unhappy past relationships, I see a major difference!
And that difference started from the beginning with how you meet & judge a person when you 1st meet them allllllll the way to how you deal/don't deal with certain things once you're actually in the relationship
I've experienced for myself & observed from other happy couples that the things we all seem to have in common are:
1. From the beginning, we were BOTH ready to settle down...(Not 1 person whose fully ready & the other still dragging their feet)
2. From the beginning, we BOTH were very honest about who we were, what we wanted & what we expected from eachother...(Not telling eachother what we thought the other wanted to hear out of fear of judgement or rejection early on)
3. The 1st time we spotted a problem/red flag/flaw in eachother, we gently spoke up about it...(Not ignored it or put on denial glasses out of fear of ruining the good vibe we had going)
4. We BOTH learned how to pick our battles...(Everything doesn't have to be a big blow out argument. Some things are worth addressing & fixing NOW, others can wait later)
5. We BOTH communicate when it's needed even if we don't want to...(Not allowing pride, anger, ego, etc. to be an excuse for why we couldn't talk it out)
6. We BOTH established early on what we would not tolerate no matter what! We were also very clear what would happen if a deal breaker were to be committed...(He knew that if he committed the ultimate betrayal, I wouldn't go for lame excuses like "It just happened," or "I made a mistake." We both acknowledged that certain things are CHOICES & that if ever 1 of us decided to make certain devestating choices that it'd be over. And if a person takes you seriously when you warn them, they'll remember that 'warning' when they face temptation.)
And that difference started from the beginning with how you meet & judge a person when you 1st meet them allllllll the way to how you deal/don't deal with certain things once you're actually in the relationship
I've experienced for myself & observed from other happy couples that the things we all seem to have in common are:
1. From the beginning, we were BOTH ready to settle down...(Not 1 person whose fully ready & the other still dragging their feet)
2. From the beginning, we BOTH were very honest about who we were, what we wanted & what we expected from eachother...(Not telling eachother what we thought the other wanted to hear out of fear of judgement or rejection early on)
3. The 1st time we spotted a problem/red flag/flaw in eachother, we gently spoke up about it...(Not ignored it or put on denial glasses out of fear of ruining the good vibe we had going)
4. We BOTH learned how to pick our battles...(Everything doesn't have to be a big blow out argument. Some things are worth addressing & fixing NOW, others can wait later)
5. We BOTH communicate when it's needed even if we don't want to...(Not allowing pride, anger, ego, etc. to be an excuse for why we couldn't talk it out)
6. We BOTH established early on what we would not tolerate no matter what! We were also very clear what would happen if a deal breaker were to be committed...(He knew that if he committed the ultimate betrayal, I wouldn't go for lame excuses like "It just happened," or "I made a mistake." We both acknowledged that certain things are CHOICES & that if ever 1 of us decided to make certain devestating choices that it'd be over. And if a person takes you seriously when you warn them, they'll remember that 'warning' when they face temptation.)
I have one on my inner right arm....went thru a glass window...had to get like 15 stitches.
One on my shin...from shaving, yes shaving my legs lol. It was a brand new razor and I just wasnt paying attention.
A couple on my fingers from when I worked in a deli...those meat slicers can be a bitch..did it both while using it and cleaning it...got lucky I didnt lose a finger or two. I have another one on my finger from riding a bike and hitting a rock and flipping over the handle bars...my leo moon showed with that one...all dramatic about it..but I was also younger lol.
Then just some from random objects, fallings, animals etc
One on my shin...from shaving, yes shaving my legs lol. It was a brand new razor and I just wasnt paying attention.
A couple on my fingers from when I worked in a deli...those meat slicers can be a bitch..did it both while using it and cleaning it...got lucky I didnt lose a finger or two. I have another one on my finger from riding a bike and hitting a rock and flipping over the handle bars...my leo moon showed with that one...all dramatic about it..but I was also younger lol.
Then just some from random objects, fallings, animals etc
7. We didn't lie to ourselves about how important SEX is to a relationship...(Not purposely giving too little of it b/c we didn't wanna be perceived a certain way. Not purposely giving too much of it to gain more approval...but simply being true to your sexual needs, even if your sex drive is higher than theirs & even if you may want it more/less than them)
8. We BOTH understood early the importance of keeping others out of our relationship business...(Not bring the whole world in, watch the relationship fall apart, THEN realize that was a bad idea after the damage has already been done.)
9. We BOTH decided to dedicate atleast 1 or 2 nights a week to "JUST US" or a "DATE NIGHT." That way, no matter how stressful our jobs, careers, kids, family members or outside factors get us down, we can always say that we're still having fun! This allows for you to be your partner's outlet & go-to person when they are stressed, as opposed to seeking others--->leads down a slippery slope
10. We were BOTH more alike than we were different. Opposites do initially attract but they don't necessarily STAY together
And the list goes on & on! There's so much I did wrong in past relationships & I wish I had someone to tell me these things!
8. We BOTH understood early the importance of keeping others out of our relationship business...(Not bring the whole world in, watch the relationship fall apart, THEN realize that was a bad idea after the damage has already been done.)
9. We BOTH decided to dedicate atleast 1 or 2 nights a week to "JUST US" or a "DATE NIGHT." That way, no matter how stressful our jobs, careers, kids, family members or outside factors get us down, we can always say that we're still having fun! This allows for you to be your partner's outlet & go-to person when they are stressed, as opposed to seeking others--->leads down a slippery slope
10. We were BOTH more alike than we were different. Opposites do initially attract but they don't necessarily STAY together
And the list goes on & on! There's so much I did wrong in past relationships & I wish I had someone to tell me these things!