Scorpio Mirroring.
cheekyfaerie:
Correct, in the beginning it is in a way self-preservation and self-containment but all this self-control, is warranted to a degree, to keep ones heart under lock and key, to be aware of red flags as they come but think again, how much of that relentless self-control, in fact comes from fear. A lot. Therefore no worthwhile relationship will flourish under such circumstances, not a lengthy one at that.
It is fear driven, we are afraid to be in a state of vulnerability, to let others in, but the truth is this fear will also eventually drive us away from possible love, love requires us to jump. Let us take diving as an example, we may stand on the ledge of the dive board, we fear, we fear with every molecule of our being, of what may be, therefore to preserve ourselves from, hmm, let us say, embarrassment, we slowly back ourselves down the ladder. When in fact, we should have dived anyways, why? When we took the plunge we are not letting go of the fear, but surpassing our fear, we do not let it rule us, it does not disappear, it does not go away, it will always be there, but we can say we are the ones in control of those very fears that stricken us. Every time, there in afterwards, when we appear on the ledge, we still fear, but every dive, builds our courage up even more so, and 'that' we must learn to tackle and master.
If we let fear rule us, we lose out on the complete depth and breadth that comes with love, there is no guarantee, no security that comes with it, as you have evidently figured out but every loss will only teach us to get up on our own feet again, it should not dampen our hearts and its capability to swim entirely in love. By self-preservation, we are keeping those whom love us at arms length, eventually one will end up pushing those whom matter away.
Love is both selfish and selfless. Love hurts as much as it heals, we should not be afraid of pain but live with the knowledge that we can always strive pass the gates of hell and surpass every summit of the highest peaks, alive.
/ramblingmusings
Correct, in the beginning it is in a way self-preservation and self-containment but all this self-control, is warranted to a degree, to keep ones heart under lock and key, to be aware of red flags as they come but think again, how much of that relentless self-control, in fact comes from fear. A lot. Therefore no worthwhile relationship will flourish under such circumstances, not a lengthy one at that.
It is fear driven, we are afraid to be in a state of vulnerability, to let others in, but the truth is this fear will also eventually drive us away from possible love, love requires us to jump. Let us take diving as an example, we may stand on the ledge of the dive board, we fear, we fear with every molecule of our being, of what may be, therefore to preserve ourselves from, hmm, let us say, embarrassment, we slowly back ourselves down the ladder. When in fact, we should have dived anyways, why? When we took the plunge we are not letting go of the fear, but surpassing our fear, we do not let it rule us, it does not disappear, it does not go away, it will always be there, but we can say we are the ones in control of those very fears that stricken us. Every time, there in afterwards, when we appear on the ledge, we still fear, but every dive, builds our courage up even more so, and 'that' we must learn to tackle and master.
If we let fear rule us, we lose out on the complete depth and breadth that comes with love, there is no guarantee, no security that comes with it, as you have evidently figured out but every loss will only teach us to get up on our own feet again, it should not dampen our hearts and its capability to swim entirely in love. By self-preservation, we are keeping those whom love us at arms length, eventually one will end up pushing those whom matter away.
Love is both selfish and selfless. Love hurts as much as it heals, we should not be afraid of pain but live with the knowledge that we can always strive pass the gates of hell and surpass every summit of the highest peaks, alive.
/ramblingmusings
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Very close to activating my firey bits for sure! Though her mars in Aries can probably give me a run for my money! She gave me a heads up though, knew I needed some time to reflect which is +1 in my books!
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@Fire-Water.I dint say we are incapable of cheating, but labelling us,as cheaters through ones experince is incompetent.someone say "are" instead of saying the ones she saw or experienced.There is a difference.Dont put all the fishies in one basket n write a label on it "cheaters"
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@Fire-Water.I dint say we are incapable of cheating, but labelling us,as cheaters through ones experince is incompetent.someone say "are" instead of saying the ones she saw or experienced.There is a difference.Dont put all the fishies in one basket n write a label on it "cheaters"
Now we are arguing semantics, one persons experience maybe just that. I've seen plenty of pisces women who cheat who lie and manipulate, not all. When the criticism is leveled you guys way you can not handle it. Ive seen enough to say that it is a trait that pisces women have, although it is not exclusive to any one sign.
Labeling in general happens among all people.
When you call yourself a pisces, you are labeling yourself. When you say that you don't cheat, you are labeling all cheaters. Open your eyes. Wisen up. Don't get mad that I'm calling a spade a spade.
When you call yourself a pisces, you are labeling yourself. When you say that you don't cheat, you are labeling all cheaters. Open your eyes. Wisen up. Don't get mad that I'm calling a spade a spade.
I'm atracted to ladies who appear that need to be saved, but that must be my Libra midheaven talking.
I have a strong intuition that says to me when a person will turn into a soul-leecher sucking all my blood, and from that point on I just isolate from that person.
When I was younger I needed to be "saved" because I was so insecure, and my first "girlfriend" (a leo) made me feel like 5H1T pointing fingers to me all the time. Selfish bitch, die. Just die in a slow and painful way. LOL
But something strange happens, after I "save" the poor girl that needs to be saved, I just bet bored and look for the next mission. Everytime I wish I could just settle down but it's stronger than me.
I have a strong intuition that says to me when a person will turn into a soul-leecher sucking all my blood, and from that point on I just isolate from that person.
When I was younger I needed to be "saved" because I was so insecure, and my first "girlfriend" (a leo) made me feel like 5H1T pointing fingers to me all the time. Selfish bitch, die. Just die in a slow and painful way. LOL
But something strange happens, after I "save" the poor girl that needs to be saved, I just bet bored and look for the next mission. Everytime I wish I could just settle down but it's stronger than me.
For me, I think a gentleman is the whole holds the door open, pulls out the chair blah blah blah, and has manners, someone who isn't rude, but behaves like this naturally with no ulterior motives. But this doesn't mean whoever it is has no balls, because if they won't fight in your defense if and whenever it should happen, they're not worth it.
But what about this charm thing?
But what about this charm thing?
So while I'm trying to deal with the Aqua man and his unconventional ways, I'm trying to get out and just meet people so I don't focus so much on him and maybe I'll find someone else in the process. Through friends I met this one guy (not sure of his sign) and he's cute but he's also quiet. He's not shy...he very much is social but he just doesn't talk alot. He listens moreso.
As a Scorpio, I find this a tough thing to handle because I'm used to being that way. Because I'm introspective, I rely on the reactions, conversations and actions of others to guage what kind of person they are and how I should interact with them.
But with this gentleman...I don't know how to handle him or talk to him. He's very hard to read and I practically have to do 55-60% of the initiating. We have some things in common but I just find it weird that I don't know where I stand with him because of his minimal socializing. He probably is naturally introverted but he's initiated half the time before.
It's hard to describe but its driving me nuts. When we all hung out yesterday I asked a friend of mine to be my wingwoman if we find I'm having a hard time getting this to go from friends to a date. But she was so busy with her crush she didn't even help...so nothing happened, I barely even got to talk to him.
Any ideas on what I can do?
As a Scorpio, I find this a tough thing to handle because I'm used to being that way. Because I'm introspective, I rely on the reactions, conversations and actions of others to guage what kind of person they are and how I should interact with them.
But with this gentleman...I don't know how to handle him or talk to him. He's very hard to read and I practically have to do 55-60% of the initiating. We have some things in common but I just find it weird that I don't know where I stand with him because of his minimal socializing. He probably is naturally introverted but he's initiated half the time before.
It's hard to describe but its driving me nuts. When we all hung out yesterday I asked a friend of mine to be my wingwoman if we find I'm having a hard time getting this to go from friends to a date. But she was so busy with her crush she didn't even help...so nothing happened, I barely even got to talk to him.
Any ideas on what I can do?
She's seen my firey side before. I'll be one to admit I always feel slightly guilty afterwards even if it's justified so you can say she knows if I were to fire back it's for good reasons. I do think I need to compromise a bit though just given the track record of doing what I wanted maybe it's time for a change.
*thanks progressed* lol
and where are you hiding 911! And more importantly I miss you... (just a little bit)
*thanks progressed* lol
and where are you hiding 911! And more importantly I miss you... (just a little bit)