Loving/Wanting Someone You Can't "Have"?
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by sweetpea2977 on Friday, February 8, 2019 and has 17 replies.
I've never wanted or loved someone I couldn't have, until 3 months ago. I'm 41 and in love with a man who ignites me intellectually but would NEVER be able to give me what I need emotionally or physically. He's NOT emotionally-intelligent/connected or physically affectionate/romantic. Not to mention, evasive. Kinda sucks.
Have YOU ever been through this?
He revealed to me recently that he's considering more with me, but I know that he knows that he just wouldn't add up.
In a way, I wish we'd never met. But then, I feel excited about the new awakening inside of me from having met him.
But I can't even begin to play with the thought of a potential relationship because I know deep down inside, he would exhaust me.
I'm a SAG. He's an Aqua. Just a brand new experience that that truly touched my heart to it's core.
Have YOU ever been through this?
He revealed to me recently that he's considering more with me, but I know that he knows that he just wouldn't add up.
In a way, I wish we'd never met. But then, I feel excited about the new awakening inside of me from having met him.
But I can't even begin to play with the thought of a potential relationship because I know deep down inside, he would exhaust me.
I'm a SAG. He's an Aqua. Just a brand new experience that that truly touched my heart to it's core.
Posted by SkeletonI don't. Plus, I'm VERY new to astrology. He's the 1st Aqua I've met. Born Feb 9th. I'm Dec 8th.
do you have by any chance moon square venus? And whats the procent between them?
Posted by maidenYes. He and I are friends too. I'd rather have that than nothing at all.
Yes, since 2013.
We'll never be together, best I could hope for is some type of friendship.
I've accepted that the love will always be there, it's bigger than I am, like what I imagine you'd experience for a child.. I can't have what I want and I love them anyway, just because they exist.
Someone like that exists, that's what lights me up.
natal moon sq pluto... them too.
Posted by Schawq"Physically he's perfect and very loyal" WOW. Isn't that something!
Awww yes I’m in love with someone who cannot match me mentally and somewhat emotionally but physically he’s perfect and very loyal and we have similar interests and do so many fun things together.
Posted by PurplePassion38Good for you. Smart move. No day is the same for me. Some days I'm emotional with tears. Other days I simply chuckle to myself from something hilarious he's said. Other days I'm upset to even be-in-love. It's a battle that I want to just go away.
Been there. Cleared the slate in 2019. I'm all about that new new now.
Posted by sweetpea2977
I've never wanted or loved someone I couldn't have, until 3 months ago. I'm 41 and in love with a man who ignites me intellectually but would NEVER be able to give me what I need emotionally or physically. He's NOT emotionally-intelligent/connected or physically affectionate/romantic. Not to mention, evasive. Kinda sucks.
Have YOU ever been through this?
He revealed to me recently that he's considering more with me, but I know that he knows that he just wouldn't add up.
In a way, I wish we'd never met. But then, I feel excited about the new awakening inside of me from having met him.
" But I can't even begin to play with the thought of a potential relationship because I know deep down inside, he would exhaust me."
Yeahhhh ... oh yeah, I met this guy once he was peeeerfect ..... but he got bad breath. lol... from that day ... I really didnt like him anymore.
But now seriously speaking.. the way you say that is like " That food looks good, but im afraid to try it cuz I dont eat that" .... Dont judge a book by its cover... I dont think there is a way you could know what he can / cant give you when you are looking at things over the edge. And you are not allowing him to go forward even tho he revealed he would like more of you.... remember, aquas, we can sense other people..... is like we can sense there is a line we cannot trespass and some of us are really respectful of other people boundaries. We know when someone is holding off to whatever feelings or thoughts. I think you should chill and relax and slowly see what he has to offer. cuz until you dont let your guards down... we wont try.
Idk this are just my thoughts.
Posted by PurplePassion38Love, love, love this ♥️♥️♥️Posted by sweetpea2977Posted by PurplePassion38Good for you. Smart move. No day is the same for me. Some days I'm emotional with tears. Other days I simply chuckle to myself from something hilarious he's said. Other days I'm upset to even be-in-love. It's a battle that I want to just go away.
Been there. Cleared the slate in 2019. I'm all about that new new now.
I am focused on being healthy this year, and part of that was removing clutter, both physical and emotional. Unrequited attraction is emotional clutter that takes up space which could be filled by something real and meaningful with someone who wants you. Sag and aqua seems star crossed, I hope it works out for you though.click to expand
Star crossed? Elaborate please.
Posted by PurplePassion38I understand and agree. Better as friends. Just hoping in the next 3-4 weeks this love will fade. I want to make room for an amazing man who will give me intellectual stimulation and MORE ☺️Posted by sweetpea2977Posted by PurplePassion38Love, love, love this ♥️♥️♥️Posted by sweetpea2977Posted by PurplePassion38Good for you. Smart move. No day is the same for me. Some days I'm emotional with tears. Other days I simply chuckle to myself from something hilarious he's said. Other days I'm upset to even be-in-love. It's a battle that I want to just go away.
Been there. Cleared the slate in 2019. I'm all about that new new now.
I am focused on being healthy this year, and part of that was removing clutter, both physical and emotional. Unrequited attraction is emotional clutter that takes up space which could be filled by something real and meaningful with someone who wants you. Sag and aqua seems star crossed, I hope it works out for you though.
Star crossed? Elaborate please.
I've just rarely seen it work between Sag and Aqua, though these are two signs which are magnetically attracted to one another. Maybe both signs are too much alike, and need balance. I feel like these two signs are better off as friends.click to expand
hahaha funny... I keep telling you kinda the same thing.... Im defending my fellow aqua to my teeth. lol...
Listen, Im having issues understanding you..... when he wants you you reject him and tell him your body is off the equation with you.... but then you complain that he is not physically or emotionally affectionate,... Girl, this guy is as confuse as I am right now!
Listen, Im having issues understanding you..... when he wants you you reject him and tell him your body is off the equation with you.... but then you complain that he is not physically or emotionally affectionate,... Girl, this guy is as confuse as I am right now!
Posted by Onimusha01
hahaha funny... I keep telling you kinda the same thing.... Im defending my fellow aqua to my teeth. lol...
Listen, Im having issues understanding you..... when he wants you you reject him and tell him your body is off the equation with you.... but then you complain that he is not physically or emotionally affectionate,... Girl, this guy is as confuse as I am right now!
Apparently its true, Sag dont know what they want. omg lol girl just decide..... you want, you dont want... what do you want? ahahahah
Posted by Onimusha01It's really NOT confusing. He's EXTREMELY difficult to read because he doesn't VERBALIZE what I ask of him. Yes, my body is out of his reach because I'm NOT the FWB type. It's EASY for men to bang. Fore, that's NOT a prerequisite to LOVE and COMMITMENT. I've asked him DIRECT questions. He claims my questions are too INTENSE 🤷 So what am I to do? He KNOWS I love him and he knows that I'm in love with him. I'm not going to chase him. I know I'm GREAT for him but is he great for me? I don't think so, emotionally and romantically speaking. Intellectually, he is EVERYTHING.
hahaha funny... I keep telling you kinda the same thing.... Im defending my fellow aqua to my teeth. lol...
Listen, Im having issues understanding you..... when he wants you you reject him and tell him your body is off the equation with you.... but then you complain that he is not physically or emotionally affectionate,... Girl, this guy is as confuse as I am right now!
"But I can't even begin to play with the thought of a potential relationship because I know deep down inside, he would exhaust me."
This is how I feel, I can't keep up with the communication expectations, but I do love Aqua men.
Good luck, though. I have nothing to add cause I fail miserably with this sign
This is how I feel, I can't keep up with the communication expectations, but I do love Aqua men.
Good luck, though. I have nothing to add cause I fail miserably with this sign
Posted by saggurl88Yes, what a battle 😞
"But I can't even begin to play with the thought of a potential relationship because I know deep down inside, he would exhaust me."
This is how I feel, I can't keep up with the communication expectations, but I do love Aqua men.
Good luck, though. I have nothing to add cause I fail miserably with this sign
TFS nevertheless 🙂
Posted by Onimusha01What do I want? A man who can give me, is willing to give me any WANTS TO give me, ALL OF HIM ♥️Posted by Onimusha01
hahaha funny... I keep telling you kinda the same thing.... Im defending my fellow aqua to my teeth. lol...
Listen, Im having issues understanding you..... when he wants you you reject him and tell him your body is off the equation with you.... but then you complain that he is not physically or emotionally affectionate,... Girl, this guy is as confuse as I am right now!
Apparently its true, Sag dont know what they want. omg lol girl just decide..... you want, you dont want... what do you want? ahahahahclick to expand
My love is fire. I'd like to see it matched ☺️
Yes.
His Sun square my mars
Mercury square mercury
We communicate so differently, I often have my head in the clouds and he’s always the one getting frustrated that I don’t talk enough. He’ll ask me something and I’ll keep it short, he always says “good talk” 😂 our sun mars isn’t aspected badly though, I’ve read into it and Im never bossy with him. He directs me and I’m a-ok with it. I could never see us dating though.
His Sun square my mars
Mercury square mercury
We communicate so differently, I often have my head in the clouds and he’s always the one getting frustrated that I don’t talk enough. He’ll ask me something and I’ll keep it short, he always says “good talk” 😂 our sun mars isn’t aspected badly though, I’ve read into it and Im never bossy with him. He directs me and I’m a-ok with it. I could never see us dating though.
Posted by sweetpea2977They are sweet men, I adore the men and women of the sign.Posted by saggurl88Yes, what a battle 😞
"But I can't even begin to play with the thought of a potential relationship because I know deep down inside, he would exhaust me."
This is how I feel, I can't keep up with the communication expectations, but I do love Aqua men.
Good luck, though. I have nothing to add cause I fail miserably with this sign
TFS nevertheless 🙂click to expand
Yep 😒
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