never thought I'd get to say this...
This topic was created in the Sagittarius forum by jru2 on Monday, May 6, 2013 and has 14 replies.
to the Aires ... "that's kinda funny that I'm hanging out with you while some other dudes fiance is asleep on my couch back at the house"
Sounds pretty confusing, jru. I don't think you are getting plus points for that.
perfectly innocent explanation, but yeah I think I bombed with her last night. the torture for me continues
Sounds to me like an epiphany. "Why am I hanging with you who teases and lures me in when I've got a babe at home that'll give it up to me?" That's you stepping outside of yourself and knowing you on your ass for being stupid.
What I'm about to tell you I learned the hard way and the solution I'm presenting I no longer practice but I have in a former life lol.
Dude, stop pining after unavailable women who could give a fuck less about you. They play the friend because they know you'll be accommodating. I know. I've been there. You think that by proving you're a good guy in the hopes that she'll get it and see that and then drop her hubby and run off with you is going to work? Why are you torturing yourself?? What will happen is either she goes back to him or she leaves...alone and without you. Probably with the next hot asshole who strikes her fancy and will forget all the times you were there for her. Why? Because ultimately she could care less about your feelings. Not all women are like that so find one who's worth your time.
In the meantime...you play the piano!!! Do you know how hot that is to a woman?! Get up off your ass, head down to the local bar with a piano, hop on that shit and play it like you own the place! You will have no less than five women after you. Live for once! When you do that, the special lady you want will come to you.
It's ok to be evolved and nice. Love people. But at some point you have to realize you're over reaching and enabling. Leaving doesn't mean you don't care. But if she ain't picking up what you're putting down...find someone who will. _???
What I'm about to tell you I learned the hard way and the solution I'm presenting I no longer practice but I have in a former life lol.
Dude, stop pining after unavailable women who could give a fuck less about you. They play the friend because they know you'll be accommodating. I know. I've been there. You think that by proving you're a good guy in the hopes that she'll get it and see that and then drop her hubby and run off with you is going to work? Why are you torturing yourself?? What will happen is either she goes back to him or she leaves...alone and without you. Probably with the next hot asshole who strikes her fancy and will forget all the times you were there for her. Why? Because ultimately she could care less about your feelings. Not all women are like that so find one who's worth your time.
In the meantime...you play the piano!!! Do you know how hot that is to a woman?! Get up off your ass, head down to the local bar with a piano, hop on that shit and play it like you own the place! You will have no less than five women after you. Live for once! When you do that, the special lady you want will come to you.
It's ok to be evolved and nice. Love people. But at some point you have to realize you're over reaching and enabling. Leaving doesn't mean you don't care. But if she ain't picking up what you're putting down...find someone who will. _???
^definitely good points
believe me, I've decided many times to stop seeing her ... then she calls, and we make plans, and I look forward to it like nothing else in the world
i do have a plan, don't want a gf right now. I'm making transition to self employment and i will have to work my ass off for a bit to make that work. the Aries does keep me just the right amount of company ... and she dresses me well
i know, excuses, justifications, more excuses
believe me, I've decided many times to stop seeing her ... then she calls, and we make plans, and I look forward to it like nothing else in the world
i do have a plan, don't want a gf right now. I'm making transition to self employment and i will have to work my ass off for a bit to make that work. the Aries does keep me just the right amount of company ... and she dresses me well
i know, excuses, justifications, more excuses
Get busy with your other plans then you don't be lying when you tell her you're tied up. You're wasting your energy and focus on her. Put it to a better use.
Like you said...excuses. Yeah she does good things, but at what cost? From what you've said, the bad outweighs the good. That's the hard part. It's never 100% one way. It's how I said she lures you in. But is she investing in you like you're investing in her? It doesn't have to be match for match but I'm talking in terms of how she treats you overall. She's also a cardinal sign. Did you ever consider the fact that she's making you into what she wants and not accepting you for who you are?
Like you said...excuses. Yeah she does good things, but at what cost? From what you've said, the bad outweighs the good. That's the hard part. It's never 100% one way. It's how I said she lures you in. But is she investing in you like you're investing in her? It doesn't have to be match for match but I'm talking in terms of how she treats you overall. She's also a cardinal sign. Did you ever consider the fact that she's making you into what she wants and not accepting you for who you are?
Well, you are absolutely correct. ...still, I enjoy being in her presence. If that ever changed, there wouldn't be much loyalty on my part either.
lol, she's a player ... pretty sure she has at least two other guys that will be making visits this week while the hubby is out of town. no worries, next week i'm going on sex-cation road trip to see the only sag I've ever dated. lol, she's married too, but at least she puts out ... haven't seen her in 3 yrs now, so not sure what to expect although she was pretty blunt about being hot for me still.
I do need to figure out why i'm hanging with un-available women. It's terrible; i met a preacher and his wife the other day ... god was she hot, and I'm sure my eyes told her that I'm available for anything she might want to witness to me about
lol, she's a player ... pretty sure she has at least two other guys that will be making visits this week while the hubby is out of town. no worries, next week i'm going on sex-cation road trip to see the only sag I've ever dated. lol, she's married too, but at least she puts out ... haven't seen her in 3 yrs now, so not sure what to expect although she was pretty blunt about being hot for me still.
I do need to figure out why i'm hanging with un-available women. It's terrible; i met a preacher and his wife the other day ... god was she hot, and I'm sure my eyes told her that I'm available for anything she might want to witness to me about
Curious, what is it about her that keeps you there?
fucking married people? must be hot.
Posted by beautifulsoul74
Curious, what is it about her that keeps you there?
ok, I'll be completely honest:
1. physically, she is the most attractive woman that has ever shown any interest in me.
2. she has a cold heart, and yet sensitive, in just the right ways ... that's more difficult to explain, but we are like minded in a way that is not common. I don't meet many people that think like that ... especially not women.
so, i may have messed up yet again ... at HH she went out of her way to say how she had been spending the evenings since I came over last alone ... while I was blabbing about how excited I am about the up-coming fuck-fest in SC.
...didn't get invited over last night
...oopsPosted by Sag89
fucking married people? must be hot.
lol, yeah ... I would prefer single girls, but I am absolutely no good at getting a girl interested in me for no strings sex. The only thing i've figured out is full on dating relationship or married girls ... it's like, what's the trick I'm missing?
Posted by jru2Posted by Sag89
fucking married people? must be hot.
lol, yeah ... I would prefer single girls, but I am absolutely no good at getting a girl interested in me for no strings sex. The only thing i've figured out is full on dating relationship or married girls ... it's like, what's the trick I'm missing?click to expand
The trick to this is how you present in the initial interaction. Latest girl said to me 'Are you here alone' my response was "Yeah i was out with some girls from work but they've gone home with various blokes, you must know what blokes want with single girls.'
She asked me to touch her tattoo's which i did and it escalated from there. If you don't go in with the plan of simply finding someone to have sex with the girl set's the frame that she wants - i.e. You buy me drinks, chat me up and *maybe* you'll get my number. Hell no, that's no good to me at all. I'll set the frame and the frame is i'm only talking to you because i want one thing with you. If you can't fulfil that for me i'll go find another single girl to do it with. There are soo many around. The current frame you're operating within is with women that would probably cheat with anyone, not just you.
I have to admit however that the example above with with a woman that had a promise ring on. What the promise was i don't know so i guess she wasn't technically single.
lol, my real strategy now is to just make a butt load of money, buy a nice car ... already buying more expensive clothes.
agreed, there's no point in buying drinks for women at bar unless it's just for fun.
agreed, there's no point in buying drinks for women at bar unless it's just for fun.
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