I feel betrayed. Am I being irrational?

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Hello. I'm a Scorpio (F) married to an Aquarius (M). I feel disappointed at my husband for some things he did in the past. We've only been married for 2 1/2 years and on our first year of marriage he used to message women on Facebook frequently and tried to make new female friends. He had like 4 new female friends that he communicated with while being married to me. He was always the initiator in their conversations. It's not that he can't talk to women but I don't think its appropriate to constantly message a lot of women, especially if you're married. Being an Aquarius, he's very social and I was okay if he talked to old female friends when we dated but now he's committed and I don't think he should look for new friendships with the opposite sex. The problem is that now when he makes love to me, I feel disgusted by him. Even though he never slept with any of these women, I feel betrayed because I'm supposed to be his ONE AND ONLY and his actions don't match his words. You can't say you love someone and feel the need to bond with other girls. It just doesn't make sense. I'm an ALL OR NOTHING type of person.

Now he wants to touch and kiss me as if nothing happened. And he expects me to be sweet and passionate too. I told him to stop talking to these women and he has stopped since December of last year (that's what I assume) but I feel like I won't be able to forget and move on. Now kissing him doesn't feel the same anymore. I literally have to force myself to give him a kiss or hug him because I feel deceived. When he makes love to me I just think: "He's such a liar. He wants a wife but at the same time have women on the side to connect with." I feel like I can't be myself anymore. I'm usually a happy, passionate lover but now I don't have the desire to give myself completely to him after what he did. What can I do because I have to move forwards and try to work things out for the sake of my marriage but I feel like I won't forget easily. The other day he told me that it bothered him that I was always so serious and never happy so I told him I still felt disappointed for his past actions but he said I need to relax, be happy and move on. So he wants me to act as if nothing happened and put a smile on my face. How can I do this? It's not easy for me. I don't know if my love and trust for him has died. Am I being irrational for feeling betrayed? How can I forget and move on?
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If he didn't bang and the conversations weren't like hey let's hook up, then it might be you. Maybe some emotional trust issues but it looks like you're not being very social with him. He's aching and longing for that social connection and you're just not there. I suggest you get more familiar with what he's doing to add transparency rather than have him go against his nature.
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whoa i was just writing about Betty Broderick (scorpio) and her ex husband, he has aquarius moon (he actually has an grand air trine)

and he seemed so non-chalant and just not take her seriously at all.

well for me, i would NOT like that, so i would just seriously get pissed off too and say something. i dont hold back. i'm surprised you are keeping it in..i wouldnt. I would tell him i dont like it at all and it's making me very very unhappy. Infact i would even POUT and make him see too on top of being upset that i dont approve of that behaviour.


also, there's no detail in why he has facebook and talking to these plenty of women, maybe it is for work and he is setting up a social network for $ $ $ ?

getting more social networking so to bring in more people. is it just for social talk? curious to see how other women live and gossip? sounds womanly to me.


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also, you married this guy, soooo......... if it upsets you and you're NOT going to change.

only thing you can do is tell him straight how you feel.

if he isn't taking you seriously, there's going to be hell to pay cause you are not going to take that lying down.
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Posted by Astrology101
Hmm well it is in aquas nature to talk a lot.

They also seek friends... But they are committed people.

How old are you both?

Why are you feeling disappointed? Is it because he chose to talk with other girls... or is there more to it?

Plus he has already told he won't talk to other girls...

You should try and forgive him.


It's his nature to talk about things and ideas.. and telling him not to do that would be like telling him not to be himself. And for that he might hold some grudge against you... maybe. He might not too.. but there is a possibility he could.

But I can see he is trying... so try and build that trust.

Has he given you some reason to believe that he might cheat on you?

well i dont seek friends, for a female,

but i like intelligent and deep conversations of analyzing and dissecting characters. of books/plays and motives/motivations.

so if this guy isn't getting that from her...but then again WHY only women???

that is the weird part. If he's talking and chatting up with his guy friends.

about fishing or mechanical work or manly stuff.

but he's talking to women!!

what about?? Confused their monthly periods?

edit - i mean if it's not for work, or just a general thing, why only women? wouldnt you be suspicious??
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If it wasn't a problem in the past for him to have female friends maybe he wasn't aware of what lines to not cross. Like maybe he didn't know you were just okay with him talking to women in his past and not new women.

Sounds to me like you are feeling and thinking a lot of things, yet not communicating, which is moving him even further to communicate with others.

Communicate. Let him know what makes you comfortable and uncomfortable.
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1) You have trust issues

2) the thought process that he can't make new female friends and only keep old ones is illogical.

3) Unless he was speaking inappropriately, it is illogical to relegate this as cheating and to punish him as such.

4) If this was such an issue before hand, then it should have been brought up during the dating phase.

Divorce could happen, as you have essentially required him to put blinders on to more than half the population based on anatomy. This type of behavior is rarely appreciated and being punished for something that most people see as mundane innocence would get obnoxious real soon for most.
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1) You have trust issues

2) the thought process that he can't make new female friends and only keep old ones is illogical.

3) Unless he was speaking inappropriately, it is illogical to relegate this as cheating and to punish him as such.

4) If this was such an issue before hand, then it should have been brought up during the dating phase.

Divorce could happen, as you have essentially required him to put blinders on to more than half the population based on anatomy. This type of behavior is rarely appreciated and being punished for something that most people see as mundane innocence would get obnoxious real soon for most.
And that's coming from a Scorpio... Now I feel like a lunatic for sharing similar feelings with OPLaughing

From my point of view and likely hers as well, naturally meeting people is one thing, but seeking people out on the internet doesn't seem all that innocent to me.. But I do have trust issues and I fully admit to that. I am also not one to punish someone for it, I am open and will tell them that it bothers me. And I do realize that it is my own insecurities and my own issues that make me fret such things, it's just the way I am wired I guess Sad
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No you aren't a lunatic, but you are aware of you internal conflicts and would discuss issues prior to getting married. I have a feeling this isn't the case for the OP.

But for me, as long as my partner was open about the communication, talks appropriately, and allows me to be privy to his dealings, I don't see an issue.

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There are a lot of nuances missing here.....


This.


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I don't think you're being irrational if it's a case of him seeking out new women out of the blue online, and it's eating away at your emotional connection/time spent together....
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There are two types of relationships for Aquas:

1 - when they are really in love, case in which they totally merge with their SO, when nothing/nobody else has any importance; this happens either at a young age and when the Aqua has no bad experience, so they become perfect life mates.

2 - when they only get attached in a certain extent, case in which they do look around, but not romantically speaking. I know Aquas that never loved, but had relationships/ marriages.

There is nothing wrong for them to speak to other females, as long as they do not send wrong signals. Even in this case, they are faithful to their partner and have all their attention on her. Also, mind that the Aqua wants also full attention. so playing cool/detaching as a measure of punishment is not working. Boundaries should have been established before the marriage. Also, playing possessive will lead to erosion. You have not even known him in full until now.
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Definitely need a bit more info into the "looking for female friends"...

I'm not jealous unless the SO gives me a reason. If he has cut off the relationships he made for you then maybe you should try looking at yourself in the mirror and asking why you can't let it go.

There's obviously trust issues within yourself if you can't even kiss your SO anymore without feeling disgusted. Have you had previous relationships where you've been cheated on? Maybe you just assume that's where this is heading so you're already preparing for the worst?

If you can't let it go then you need to talk, if you don't talk it's going to lead to cheating and/or divorce. It is unfair of you to withhold his need for connection, love, and communication because you can't let go of this.
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Okay, sorry I haven't responded but I was busy yesterday. As I said before he can talk to other females but what concerns me is that he talks to them frequently. And this could lead to an emotional affair if he doesn't control himself. Let me give you some examples of things he has done. We went out with some friends and there was a random girl who we didn't know. She took a picture of us with her professional camera that she brought with her that day. She exchanged Facebook with my husband to send him the picture. After she send it now my husband says hi to her on the messenger and wants to get to know her more. Why?? Can't he just be more serious and only contact her when there's a need to do it. But he wants to establish a connection with her. Another day he also found a random girl online that gave him some work information. He never met her in person and he told me he wanted to add her on Facebook. I became suspicious because I know he's very social and outgoing and I didn't agree. But he insisted and insisted. To me it's not normal. In the end I let him be friends with her so I didn't seem like a freaky wife and I was right!!!!! He started messaging her and creating a friendship with this woman too. So this is why I feel betrayed. I feel like he wants to have a bond with every woman he meets. Then why is he with me? I thought I was enough for him.

If he wants female friends he can have them but I deserve to have male friends too. So far he's been the only man in my life. There hasn't been anyone else! But if I'm not expecting the same thing in return then I don't feel valued and respected.

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It's his outgoing nature, that's all. Contradicting with your possessive nature. Aquarians are extremely social and curious. I am too. But once committed, they will not cross any line. Do not worry. But never expect him to behave like a Scorpio. They are unique. Open. Social. Friendly. Non jealous. If you have not acknowledged this part of him yet, you should. He is fixed on you anyway. otherwise he would not have married you in the first place. Let the worries aside and be proud of your man.
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It's his outgoing nature, that's all. Contradicting with your possessive nature. Aquarians are extremely social and curious. I am too. But once committed, they will not cross any line. Do not worry. But never expect him to behave like a Scorpio. They are unique. Open. Social. Friendly. Non jealous. If you have not acknowledged this part of him yet, you should. He is fixed on you anyway. otherwise he would not have married you in the first place. Let the worries aside and be proud of your man.
Not true my sister Aquarius in a relationship and she doesn't behave like a single social woman. She doesn't go to strangers ask them to add him on Facebook and disrespect her relationship by continuing to establish a friendship with complete strangers. This is a complete disrespect of a relationship on the guise of socializing? Bullshit my aqua sister Knows how to respecther relationship
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Posted by Astrology101
Hmm well it is in aquas nature to talk a lot.

They also seek friends... But they are committed people.

How old are you both?

Why are you feeling disappointed? Is it because he chose to talk with other girls... or is there more to it?

Plus he has already told he won't talk to other girls...

You should try and forgive him.


It's his nature to talk about things and ideas.. and telling him not to do that would be like telling him not to be himself. And for that he might hold some grudge against you... maybe. He might not too.. but there is a possibility he could.

But I can see he is trying... so try and build that trust.

Has he given you some reason to believe that he might cheat on you?

well i dont seek friends, for a female,

but i like intelligent and deep conversations of analyzing and dissecting characters. of books/plays and motives/motivations.

so if this guy isn't getting that from her...but then again WHY only women???

that is the weird part. If he's talking and chatting up with his guy friends.

about fishing or mechanical work or manly stuff.

but he's talking to women!!

what about?? Confused their monthly periods?

edit - i mean if it's not for work, or just a general thing, why only women? wouldnt you be suspicious??
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Because guys only talk about fishing and women only talk about how they bleed once a month. Are women not allowed to like fishing of mechanical work in your mind??
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Okay, sorry I haven't responded but I was busy yesterday. As I said before he can talk to other females but what concerns me is that he talks to them frequently. And this could lead to an emotional affair if he doesn't control himself. Let me give you some examples of things he has done. We went out with some friends and there was a random girl who we didn't know. She took a picture of us with her professional camera that she brought with her that day. She exchanged Facebook with my husband to send him the picture. After she send it now my husband says hi to her on the messenger and wants to get to know her more. Why?? Can't he just be more serious and only contact her when there's a need to do it. But he wants to establish a connection with her. Another day he also found a random girl online that gave him some work information. He never met her in person and he told me he wanted to add her on Facebook. I became suspicious because I know he's very social and outgoing and I didn't agree. But he insisted and insisted. To me it's not normal. In the end I let him be friends with her so I didn't seem like a freaky wife and I was right!!!!! He started messaging her and creating a friendship with this woman too. So this is why I feel betrayed. I feel like he wants to have a bond with every woman he meets. Then why is he with me? I thought I was enough for him.

If he wants female friends he can have them but I deserve to have male friends too. So far he's been the only man in my life. There hasn't been anyone else! But if I'm not expecting the same thing in return then I don't feel valued and respected.

You need to let go of your all or nothing mentality.

I may like mint chip ice cream the most, but occasionally I'll have rocky road or chocolate chip...but mint chip is still my favorite flavor. Him talking to other females isn't going to make your conversations less meaningful. If anything he will now have more to talk about with you.

It would be a different story if he was operating under lies and deceit but he is literally asking for permission from you for every one of his moves!

Don't punish him for your insecurity. Unless you have a real reason for feeling this way. Has he cheated on you in the past??
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Also can I ask how old you both are?

How long did you date before getting married?

Did you live together prior to marriage??
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it's not that uncommon that facebook can ruin marriages / relationships

is he as eager making new male friends lol? if the answer is yes, i may stop judging lol



of course his behavior is not acceptable. do you think my marriage will be happy ever after if i'm PMing guys here lol

you should talk to him as direct and raw as possible at this point before it's too late. the last attempt to save the marriage. i know when i feel disgusted by a partner, that'd be the beginning of the end



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Scorpio-Aquarius

There's tons of things that are gonna make each other upset.

I don't wanna be negative but I have a few Scorpio placements and yeah we like to socialize

It's all about trust and integrity

I have to hold back sometimes when flirting with other women because I'm in a relationship

But it's gonna happen . So it's very tough with these two signs, it takes some rock hard integrity from both people
How are you with that behavior from your SO though - if she's flirtatious with other men socially, or actively seeks out new relationships with men that are more intimate?
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It is human nature to flirt, whether you are monogamous or not. It almost just comes naturally. There is however, a line in which I think no one should cross. If my significant other, had an individual that was placing expectations on him that is what I feel is something a spouse should be providing, then that is an issue for me. I would then let him know that, though I can and cannot tell him what he should do, that the situation is inappropriate to me.

Couples should be able to voice concerns to each other in a productive way that doesn't diminish each individual's feelings, but is stated in a fashion that doesn't result in a defensive stance. When an individual adopts a defensive stance, it usually leads to feelings of ill-will, and neither party feeling as if they have been heard. I find most people have a lack of good communication skills and it usually results in disaster.

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As a female aqua I can tell you now you need to communicate your true feelings to him. My ex scorp and I had problems in this same area because he didn't want me having or even thinking to befriending any firends of the opposite sex while we were together. I can honestly tell you that aquas once commited are very loyal. We are very sociable people and enjoy having a good time. I can tell you from my point of view you scorps definitely have a tendency to create a buzz kill when you come off so serious when you don't have to be at times. We love you with all our hearts but we just want you guys to be more welcoming to some great fun. even if its just the two of us just add some fun and i promise seeking this outside of it won't be the case. I can tell you he was seeking what was lacking.. friendship wise.
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Maybe there wasn't a deep connection from the beginning.

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Posted by SillyScorp89
Okay, sorry I haven't responded but I was busy yesterday. As I said before he can talk to other females but what concerns me is that he talks to them frequently. And this could lead to an emotional affair if he doesn't control himself. Let me give you some examples of things he has done. We went out with some friends and there was a random girl who we didn't know. She took a picture of us with her professional camera that she brought with her that day. She exchanged Facebook with my husband to send him the picture. After she send it now my husband says hi to her on the messenger and wants to get to know her more. Why?? Can't he just be more serious and only contact her when there's a need to do it. But he wants to establish a connection with her. Another day he also found a random girl online that gave him some work information. He never met her in person and he told me he wanted to add her on Facebook. I became suspicious because I know he's very social and outgoing and I didn't agree. But he insisted and insisted. To me it's not normal. In the end I let him be friends with her so I didn't seem like a freaky wife and I was right!!!!! He started messaging her and creating a friendship with this woman too. So this is why I feel betrayed. I feel like he wants to have a bond with every woman he meets. Then why is he with me? I thought I was enough for him.

If he wants female friends he can have them but I deserve to have male friends too. So far he's been the only man in my life. There hasn't been anyone else! But if I'm not expecting the same thing in return then I don't feel valued and respected.

So does he not do the same thing with males? He doesn't message ANY male "potential friends" either? Just wondering...

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@SillyScorp89

Get out before you have kids. He broke you.

My heart goes to you. Be strong!
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Posted by Infinite8
He was like that before you were married, therefore his behavior is consistent.

People don't change because of marriage license.

It sounds like you just had some hidden expectations of what marriage was and it is a completely different definition for him.

Aquarians LOVE their freedom. It just sounds like you two are very different at the core.
Men and women are hunters before marriage and entitle to do whatever they feel like with their FB.

When they meet person they want to marry - they MUST stop hunting!

Marriage or living together must change people. Hunting is over! Hang that rifle on the wall!!!
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Posted by shellyBwell
As a female aqua I can tell you now you need to communicate your true feelings to him. My ex scorp and I had problems in this same area because he didn't want me having or even thinking to befriending any firends of the opposite sex while we were together. I can honestly tell you that aquas once commited are very loyal. We are very sociable people and enjoy having a good time. I can tell you from my point of view you scorps definitely have a tendency to create a buzz kill when you come off so serious when you don't have to be at times. We love you with all our hearts but we just want you guys to be more welcoming to some great fun. even if its just the two of us just add some fun and i promise seeking this outside of it won't be the case. I can tell you he was seeking what was lacking.. friendship wise.
Oh, really? Scorpios are fun killers?

Only when someone rips their skin off!

It's no fun because it hurts!!!

Aqua need to find another 'fun loving' Aqua who will be happy to find a real date while he is on FB befriending women.

When he wakes up - I hope they'll have a laugh together!!!
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Posted by Infinite8
He was like that before you were married, therefore his behavior is consistent.

People don't change because of marriage license.

It sounds like you just had some hidden expectations of what marriage was and it is a completely different definition for him.

Aquarians LOVE their freedom. It just sounds like you two are very different at the core.
Men and women are hunters before marriage and entitle to do whatever they feel like with their FB.

When they meet person they want to marry - they MUST stop hunting!

Marriage or living together must change people. Hunting is over! Hang that rifle on the wall!!!
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Marriage didn't change you, isn't it? Faithfulness to your husband is totally relative. Hmm... At least her Aqua is not cheating in her!
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@SillyScorp89

Get out before you have kids. He broke you.

My heart goes to you. Be strong!


lol you said what i was thinking but didn't want to say it because many people would be like oh marriage is sacred can't give up easily


well, marriage of two hearts is sacred. marriage on paper is not. indeed, get out before you have kids
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Before we were married he was also social but I thought he was gling to be more serious once committed. Because once married things are supposed to change and there are boundaries when it comes to the opposite sex. It's common sense! But I guess he's mentality is different than mine. He talks to males too. It's not just females but I still don't understand the need to talk to many women, especially new women he doesn't know. I guess him and I are completely different people with different mindsets. I might have to work on communicating more with him. If that doesn't work I'll try counseling. I'm 28 and my husband is 36
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How long have you been dating before marriage? Who proposed?
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Posted by Infinite8
He was like that before you were married, therefore his behavior is consistent.

People don't change because of marriage license.

It sounds like you just had some hidden expectations of what marriage was and it is a completely different definition for him.

Aquarians LOVE their freedom. It just sounds like you two are very different at the core.
Men and women are hunters before marriage and entitle to do whatever they feel like with their FB.

When they meet person they want to marry - they MUST stop hunting!

Marriage or living together must change people. Hunting is over! Hang that rifle on the wall!!!
Marriage didn't change you, isn't it? Faithfulness to your husband is totally relative. Hmm... At least her Aqua is not cheating in her!
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Not for 20 years!
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You are not being irrational

Your gut feeling is never wrong, if things don't feel right for you, then they ain't right for you despite what anyone else says

I am a Scorpio women who had rships with two Aqua men....I never felt particularly secure with them, their cool detachment just didn't do it for me. One of them was a compulsive liar, the other into the idea of threesomes ...

It sounds like you aren't very compatible with the guy.
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Posted by Infinite8
He was like that before you were married, therefore his behavior is consistent.

People don't change because of marriage license.

It sounds like you just had some hidden expectations of what marriage was and it is a completely different definition for him.

Aquarians LOVE their freedom. It just sounds like you two are very different at the core.
Men and women are hunters before marriage and entitle to do whatever they feel like with their FB.

When they meet person they want to marry - they MUST stop hunting!

Marriage or living together must change people. Hunting is over! Hang that rifle on the wall!!!
Marriage didn't change you, isn't it? Faithfulness to your husband is totally relative. Hmm... At least her Aqua is not cheating in her!
Not for 20 years!
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Your eggs are not on the same basket as your husband's.
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Posted by Gemitati
@SillyScorp89

Get out before you have kids. He broke you.

My heart goes to you. Be strong!


lol you said what i was thinking but didn't want to say it because many people would be like oh marriage is sacred can't give up easily


well, marriage of two hearts is sacred. marriage on paper is not. indeed, get out before you have kids
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High 5!

Out of torture before it's too late!

It's most horrible feeling when he touches you and your skin crawling. ?
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As a female aqua I can tell you now you need to communicate your true feelings to him. My ex scorp and I had problems in this same area because he didn't want me having or even thinking to befriending any firends of the opposite sex while we were together. I can honestly tell you that aquas once commited are very loyal. We are very sociable people and enjoy having a good time. I can tell you from my point of view you scorps definitely have a tendency to create a buzz kill when you come off so serious when you don't have to be at times. We love you with all our hearts but we just want you guys to be more welcoming to some great fun. even if its just the two of us just add some fun and i promise seeking this outside of it won't be the case. I can tell you he was seeking what was lacking.. friendship wise.
Oh, really? Scorpios are fun killers?

Only when someone rips their skin off!

It's no fun because it hurts!!!

Aqua need to find another 'fun loving' Aqua who will be happy to find a real date while he is on FB befriending women.

When he wakes up - I hope they'll have a laugh together!!!
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Yes, scorps tend to be too freaking serious! She's upset at him messaging other women which I'm not saying is wrong at all! She has a right to feel that way but she also needs to let it go if it has been addressed and he understood that that was and never will be acceptable.once it has been addressed,talk to him about the real root of the issue which Is not those women but why he feels like he has to reach out to other women the way he has. Every action in a relationship causes a reaction and it's about how you communicate to fix it. Scorps hold grudges which cause even more issues which leave us aquas confused as to why you are acting as if you hate us. We make mistakes just like y'all do.. only difference we know when to let go when y'all don't. He didn't cheat on her and I'm pretty sure he realizes it was wrong esp. if he loves her. Like a said aquas once committed arebvery loyal.When a scorp and Aquarius get together the sparks fly positively and negatively because we hold different pov's in everything.

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As a female aqua I can tell you now you need to communicate your true feelings to him. My ex scorp and I had problems in this same area because he didn't want me having or even thinking to befriending any firends of the opposite sex while we were together. I can honestly tell you that aquas once commited are very loyal. We are very sociable people and enjoy having a good time. I can tell you from my point of view you scorps definitely have a tendency to create a buzz kill when you come off so serious when you don't have to be at times. We love you with all our hearts but we just want you guys to be more welcoming to some great fun. even if its just the two of us just add some fun and i promise seeking this outside of it won't be the case. I can tell you he was seeking what was lacking.. friendship wise.
Oh, really? Scorpios are fun killers?

Only when someone rips their skin off!

It's no fun because it hurts!!!

Aqua need to find another 'fun loving' Aqua who will be happy to find a real date while he is on FB befriending women.

When he wakes up - I hope they'll have a laugh together!!!
Yes, scorps tend to be too freaking serious! She's upset at him messaging other women which I'm not saying is wrong at all! She has a right to feel that way but she also needs to let it go if it has been addressed and he understood that that was and never will be acceptable.once it has been addressed,talk to him about the real root of the issue which Is not those women but why he feels like he has to reach out to other women the way he has. Every action in a relationship causes a reaction and it's about how you communicate to fix it. Scorps hold grudges which cause even more issues which leave us aquas confused as to why you are acting as if you hate us. We make mistakes just like y'all do.. only difference we know when to let go when y'all don't. He didn't cheat on her and I'm pretty sure he realizes it was wrong esp. if he loves her. Like a said aquas once committed arebvery loyal.When a scorp and Aquarius get together the sparks fly positively and negatively because we hold different pov's in everything.

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It's easy to keep Scorpio happy.

Just love them. And you will get more than you give. 24/7

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Posted by SillyScorp89
Before we were married he was also social but I thought he was gling to be more serious once committed. Because once married things are supposed to change and there are boundaries when it comes to the opposite sex. It's common sense! But I guess he's mentality is different than mine. He talks to males too. It's not just females but I still don't understand the need to talk to many women, especially new women he doesn't know. I guess him and I are completely different people with different mindsets. I might have to work on communicating more with him. If that doesn't work I'll try counseling. I'm 28 and my husband is 36
i wish you the best. please don't have kids before you two are 1000% on the same page. kids will not make problems go away but worse

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Before we were married he was also social but I thought he was gling to be more serious once committed. Because once married things are supposed to change and there are boundaries when it comes to the opposite sex. It's common sense! But I guess he's mentality is different than mine. He talks to males too. It's not just females but I still don't understand the need to talk to many women, especially new women he doesn't know. I guess him and I are completely different people with different mindsets. I might have to work on communicating more with him. If that doesn't work I'll try counseling. I'm 28 and my husband is 36
Did you tell him your position on his flamboyance? Doesn't he feel your skin crawling when he touches you?

Is he totally unaware?

Will you be able to go back loving him if counseler will make him stop his actions?

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btw, my farther is an aqua. he is a fantastic farther and i love him so much but i don't respect that his bffs are always women, younger women lol. i'd never partner up with a man like that lol
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You lost me at Scorpio married to an Aquarius, Why? Sounds very painful
Sounds kinky
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Could be........except for the 'marriage' part

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Posted by SillyScorp89
Before we were married he was also social but I thought he was gling to be more serious once committed. Because once married things are supposed to change and there are boundaries when it comes to the opposite sex. It's common sense! But I guess he's mentality is different than mine. He talks to males too. It's not just females but I still don't understand the need to talk to many women, especially new women he doesn't know. I guess him and I are completely different people with different mindsets. I might have to work on communicating more with him. If that doesn't work I'll try counseling. I'm 28 and my husband is 36
If you trusted him, honestly it wouldn't be an issue. Both my current boyfrienf and I have friends of the opposite sex, it's about trust.
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Her gut feeling is what she needs to listen to

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btw, my farther is an aqua. he is a fantastic farther and i love him so much but i don't respect that his bffs are always women, younger women lol. i'd never partner up with a man like that lol
and yes 100% there are emotional connections with the bffs lol. please. i have an aqua moon lol

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As a female aqua I can tell you now you need to communicate your true feelings to him. My ex scorp and I had problems in this same area because he didn't want me having or even thinking to befriending any firends of the opposite sex while we were together. I can honestly tell you that aquas once commited are very loyal. We are very sociable people and enjoy having a good time. I can tell you from my point of view you scorps definitely have a tendency to create a buzz kill when you come off so serious when you don't have to be at times. We love you with all our hearts but we just want you guys to be more welcoming to some great fun. even if its just the two of us just add some fun and i promise seeking this outside of it won't be the case. I can tell you he was seeking what was lacking.. friendship wise.
Oh, really? Scorpios are fun killers?

Only when someone rips their skin off!

It's no fun because it hurts!!!

Aqua need to find another 'fun loving' Aqua who will be happy to find a real date while he is on FB befriending women.

When he wakes up - I hope they'll have a laugh together!!!
Yes, scorps tend to be too freaking serious! She's upset at him messaging other women which I'm not saying is wrong at all! She has a right to feel that way but she also needs to let it go if it has been addressed and he understood that that was and never will be acceptable.once it has been addressed,talk to him about the real root of the issue which Is not those women but why he feels like he has to reach out to other women the way he has. Every action in a relationship causes a reaction and it's about how you communicate to fix it. Scorps hold grudges which cause even more issues which leave us aquas confused as to why you are acting as if you hate us. We make mistakes just like y'all do.. only difference we know when to let go when y'all don't. He didn't cheat on her and I'm pretty sure he realizes it was wrong esp. if he loves her. Like a said aquas once committed arebvery loyal.When a scorp and Aquarius get together the sparks fly positively and negatively because we hold different pov's in everything.

It's easy to keep Scorpio happy.

Just love them. And you will get more than you give. 24/7

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You talk as if it's a sure walk in the part when it surely is not. I pretty much went above and beyond for my ex scorp to keep him happy 24/7 but the moment he started holding grudges and allowing his bad vibes and extremely high expectations for no reason to control how he interacted with me pushed me away. If She continues to do that towards him he will become even more defensive towards her. I honestly can't speak if he'd cheat but it will push the room and space for him to fantasize outside their relationship because this will make him miserable to be around her

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As a female aqua I can tell you now you need to communicate your true feelings to him. My ex scorp and I had problems in this same area because he didn't want me having or even thinking to befriending any firends of the opposite sex while we were together. I can honestly tell you that aquas once commited are very loyal. We are very sociable people and enjoy having a good time. I can tell you from my point of view you scorps definitely have a tendency to create a buzz kill when you come off so serious when you don't have to be at times. We love you with all our hearts but we just want you guys to be more welcoming to some great fun. even if its just the two of us just add some fun and i promise seeking this outside of it won't be the case. I can tell you he was seeking what was lacking.. friendship wise.
Oh, really? Scorpios are fun killers?

Only when someone rips their skin off!

It's no fun because it hurts!!!

Aqua need to find another 'fun loving' Aqua who will be happy to find a real date while he is on FB befriending women.

When he wakes up - I hope they'll have a laugh together!!!
Yes, scorps tend to be too freaking serious! She's upset at him messaging other women which I'm not saying is wrong at all! She has a right to feel that way but she also needs to let it go if it has been addressed and he understood that that was and never will be acceptable.once it has been addressed,talk to him about the real root of the issue which Is not those women but why he feels like he has to reach out to other women the way he has. Every action in a relationship causes a reaction and it's about how you communicate to fix it. Scorps hold grudges which cause even more issues which leave us aquas confused as to why you are acting as if you hate us. We make mistakes just like y'all do.. only difference we know when to let go when y'all don't. He didn't cheat on her and I'm pretty sure he realizes it was wrong esp. if he loves her. Like a said aquas once committed arebvery loyal.When a scorp and Aquarius get together the sparks fly positively and negatively because we hold different pov's in everything.

It's easy to keep Scorpio happy.

Just love them. And you will get more than you give. 24/7

You talk as if it's a sure walk in the part when it surely is not. I pretty much went above and beyond for my ex scorp to keep him happy 24/7 but the moment he started holding grudges and allowing his bad vibes and extremely high expectations for no reason to control how he interacted with me pushed me away. If She continues to do that towards him he will become even more defensive towards her. I honestly can't speak if he'd cheat but it will push the room and space for him to fantasize outside their relationship because this will make him miserable to be around her

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I'd Scorpio doesn't love you - you can't keep him happy. A lot of men of all signs just park anywhere until closer parking spot will become available. If he is with you at the moment it doesn't mean he is with you forever.
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btw, my farther is an aqua. he is a fantastic farther and i love him so much but i don't respect that his bffs are always women, younger women lol. i'd never partner up with a man like that lol
So he is young at heart!

How is Mom reacting?
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Posted by iCloud9
btw, my farther is an aqua. he is a fantastic farther and i love him so much but i don't respect that his bffs are always women, younger women lol. i'd never partner up with a man like that lol
So he is young at heart!

How is Mom reacting?
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dad is lucky to have my mom. she is no pushover though. she took control of most of the assets in case he loses his mind ( $ to young women. we have seen signs) and i support her lol. don't mess with capricorns lol
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Just because you're fucked up doesn't mean you need to take it out on your relationship.

I do understand where you're coming from, to an extent. Yes, it's weird as shit he's obsessed with making friends with new women. I have never understood people who are obsessed with meeting new people and hoarding "friends."

However, all this crazy bitch logic of how he's "betrayed" you and all this other controlling bitch behavior is ridiculous.

Fix yourself. He's not the major part of the problem here.
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As a female aqua I can tell you now you need to communicate your true feelings to him. My ex scorp and I had problems in this same area because he didn't want me having or even thinking to befriending any firends of the opposite sex while we were together. I can honestly tell you that aquas once commited are very loyal. We are very sociable people and enjoy having a good time. I can tell you from my point of view you scorps definitely have a tendency to create a buzz kill when you come off so serious when you don't have to be at times. We love you with all our hearts but we just want you guys to be more welcoming to some great fun. even if its just the two of us just add some fun and i promise seeking this outside of it won't be the case. I can tell you he was seeking what was lacking.. friendship wise.
Oh, really? Scorpios are fun killers?

Only when someone rips their skin off!

It's no fun because it hurts!!!

Aqua need to find another 'fun loving' Aqua who will be happy to find a real date while he is on FB befriending women.

When he wakes up - I hope they'll have a laugh together!!!
Yes, scorps tend to be too freaking serious! She's upset at him messaging other women which I'm not saying is wrong at all! She has a right to feel that way but she also needs to let it go if it has been addressed and he understood that that was and never will be acceptable.once it has been addressed,talk to him about the real root of the issue which Is not those women but why he feels like he has to reach out to other women the way he has. Every action in a relationship causes a reaction and it's about how you communicate to fix it. Scorps hold grudges which cause even more issues which leave us aquas confused as to why you are acting as if you hate us. We make mistakes just like y'all do.. only difference we know when to let go when y'all don't. He didn't cheat on her and I'm pretty sure he realizes it was wrong esp. if he loves her. Like a said aquas once committed arebvery loyal.When a scorp and Aquarius get together the sparks fly positively and negatively because we hold different pov's in everything.

It's easy to keep Scorpio happy.

Just love them. And you will get more than you give. 24/7

You talk as if it's a sure walk in the part when it surely is not. I pretty much went above and beyond for my ex scorp to keep him happy 24/7 but the moment he started holding grudges and allowing his bad vibes and extremely high expectations for no reason to control how he interacted with me pushed me away. If She continues to do that towards him he will become even more defensive towards her. I honestly can't speak if he'd cheat but it will push the room and space for him to fantasize outside their relationship because this will make him miserable to be around her

I'd Scorpio doesn't love you - you can't keep him happy. A lot of men of all signs just park anywhere until closer parking spot will become available. If he is with you at the moment it doesn't mean he is with you forever.
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Yea, sure.. lol I know for a fact that it was a forever thing with me.. he got pissed I broke up with and after talking to you I have gained a full scope and understanding of it all now. My scorp doesn't plan on returning to be out of fear that I'll hurt him again. The main reason he reached out was because his heart didn't want to completely be separate from me not knowing whether I hated him or even looked at him funny after I left because of him flirting outside our relationship! Now that he knows I still love him and even think about reuniting this has boosted his ego and made him feel better about his self and the breakup so now in a sick way he wants me to feel some type of way but guest what I no longer care and in due time when it's hits him when he reaches out agin it will be a done deal... my ex scorp was there for years and even yelled at me how hurt he was that I left because this was forever for so I'm not worried about what your saying you don't know shyt about my life lol...✌️
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Reading this thread makes me super appreciative that I'm dating the one millennial that doesn't have a Facebook, instagram, /any social media. Thank fictional baby Jesus!!
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He was like that before you were married, therefore his behavior is consistent.

People don't change because of marriage license.

It sounds like you just had some hidden expectations of what marriage was and it is a completely different definition for him.

Aquarians LOVE their freedom. It just sounds like you two are very different at the core.
I will never understand stupid bitch logic like that. Some women create these invisible expectations of guys, ones they don't know if he's capable of reaching, and then take it out on him when he doesn't live up to it. "Girl logic" is full of so much fail and based on utter stupidity.

I've been dealing with a lot of this garbage from a friend of mine and it all is based on the fact she lives in lala land. I'm guessing the OP does too because she jumped from point a to z with her "logic" and created this insane scenario that may not be as extreme as she's making it (Scorp drama hoes). She had her head up her ass with who this dude really was and thought it would change how??

Now that it hasn't, well it's all HIS fault.

I will be forever amazed that women like her and my friend manage to find relationships. Some of the most fucked up people I've met are in relationships/married and it always baffles me. I know of many who are single, decent people, struggling to find another decent person, and then I see shit like this and it's like

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As a female aqua I can tell you now you need to communicate your true feelings to him. My ex scorp and I had problems in this same area because he didn't want me having or even thinking to befriending any firends of the opposite sex while we were together. I can honestly tell you that aquas once commited are very loyal. We are very sociable people and enjoy having a good time. I can tell you from my point of view you scorps definitely have a tendency to create a buzz kill when you come off so serious when you don't have to be at times. We love you with all our hearts but we just want you guys to be more welcoming to some great fun. even if its just the two of us just add some fun and i promise seeking this outside of it won't be the case. I can tell you he was seeking what was lacking.. friendship wise.
Oh, really? Scorpios are fun killers?

Only when someone rips their skin off!

It's no fun because it hurts!!!

Aqua need to find another 'fun loving' Aqua who will be happy to find a real date while he is on FB befriending women.

When he wakes up - I hope they'll have a laugh together!!!
Yes, scorps tend to be too freaking serious! She's upset at him messaging other women which I'm not saying is wrong at all! She has a right to feel that way but she also needs to let it go if it has been addressed and he understood that that was and never will be acceptable.once it has been addressed,talk to him about the real root of the issue which Is not those women but why he feels like he has to reach out to other women the way he has. Every action in a relationship causes a reaction and it's about how you communicate to fix it. Scorps hold grudges which cause even more issues which leave us aquas confused as to why you are acting as if you hate us. We make mistakes just like y'all do.. only difference we know when to let go when y'all don't. He didn't cheat on her and I'm pretty sure he realizes it was wrong esp. if he loves her. Like a said aquas once committed arebvery loyal.When a scorp and Aquarius get together the sparks fly positively and negatively because we hold different pov's in everything.

It's easy to keep Scorpio happy.

Just love them. And you will get more than you give. 24/7

You talk as if it's a sure walk in the part when it surely is not. I pretty much went above and beyond for my ex scorp to keep him happy 24/7 but the moment he started holding grudges and allowing his bad vibes and extremely high expectations for no reason to control how he interacted with me pushed me away. If She continues to do that towards him he will become even more defensive towards her. I honestly can't speak if he'd cheat but it will push the room and space for him to fantasize outside their relationship because this will make him miserable to be around her

I'd Scorpio doesn't love you - you can't keep him happy. A lot of men of all signs just park anywhere until closer parking spot will become available. If he is with you at the moment it doesn't mean he is with you forever.
Yea, sure.. lol I know for a fact that it was a forever thing with me.. he got pissed I broke up with and after talking to you I have gained a full scope and understanding of it all now. My scorp doesn't plan on returning to be out of fear that I'll hurt him again. The main reason he reached out was because his heart didn't want to completely be separate from me not knowing whether I hated him or even looked at him funny after I left because of him flirting outside our relationship! Now that he knows I still love him and even think about reuniting this has boosted his ego and made him feel better about his self and the breakup so now in a sick way he wants me to feel some type of way but guest what I no longer care and in due time when it's hits him when he reaches out agin it will be a done deal... my ex scorp was there for years and even yelled at me how hurt he was that I left because this was forever for so I'm not worried about what your saying you don't know shyt about my life lol...✌️
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Oh and by the way when I say I 'hurt' him I mean when I broke up with him not cheating just invade you want to be slick with a smart ass comment lol. I was very loyal and committed in that relationship

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Posted by SillyScorp89
Before we were married he was also social but I thought he was gling to be more serious once committed. Because once married things are supposed to change and there are boundaries when it comes to the opposite sex. It's common sense! But I guess he's mentality is different than mine. He talks to males too. It's not just females but I still don't understand the need to talk to many women, especially new women he doesn't know. I guess him and I are completely different people with different mindsets. I might have to work on communicating more with him. If that doesn't work I'll try counseling. I'm 28 and my husband is 36
Ah, 28. The most common age to get married because of "the clock."

So you chose to ignore the obvious and married dude anyway and are now crying about it. Mkay.
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