Reasons to being single

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by PurtyWingzFly2 on Wednesday, February 13, 2019 and has 34 replies.
What be reasons why you don’t want a relationship ? I swear I encounter with a few Taurus men seems like they are always single or never really been in relationships but they got kids tho ! What’s up with this ?
Being able to fart unabashedly in your sweatpants in the comfort of your own home.
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Being able to fart unabashedly in your sweatpants in the comfort of your own home.



What’s up with the ignorant comments
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Being able to fart unabashedly in your sweatpants in the comfort of your own home.



What’s up with the ignorant comments
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That's legit one of my reasons for being single.

I'm not comfortable enough with anyone to leave my body alone with them while I sleep. What if I make some noise or start some shit.. will they tell me or just slow fade and then stop calling?

Idk. Bc im not putting myself in that position.
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Yea, I do notice alot of Taurus men like this, including my uncle and i think I'm following honestly lol..

Its truly an investment to go half on a baby and on life..

Posted by PurtyWingzFly2

What be reasons why you don’t want a relationship ? I swear I encounter with a few Taurus men seems like they are always single or never really been in relationships but they got kids tho ! What’s up with this ?
You just know yye wrong type of people
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What be reasons why you don’t want a relationship ? I swear I encounter with a few Taurus men seems like they are always single or never really been in relationships but they got kids tho ! What’s up with this ?
You just know yye wrong type of people
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I swear it’s even some Taurus people in general that I have seen. I always get told Taurus wants to be pursued and you won’t know if they liked you. I’m just curious how come some I talk to are always saying they single
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Being able to fart unabashedly in your sweatpants in the comfort of your own home.



What’s up with the ignorant comments
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That's legit one of my reasons for being single.

I'm not comfortable enough with anyone to leave my body alone with them while I sleep. What if I make some noise or start some shit.. will they tell me or just slow fade and then stop calling?

Idk. Bc im not putting myself in that position.
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Yea, I do notice alot of Taurus men like this, including my uncle and i think I'm following honestly lol..

Its truly an investment to go half on a baby and on life..

See smh. My bd is a Taurus he states he doesn’t want a relationship but I’m fine with I’m just confused why he says mushy things and says he loves me if he doesn’t mean it. He acts like we are in a relationship and he states he’s not ready like that’s so inconsistent bs I don’t understand. If he doesn’t want anything to do with me I told him he doesn’t have to come around but it should be bout my daughter. It’s like he has some hold on me for some reason I don’t try to think things. I just try to act accordingly and I just don’t seem to get it at this point.
Also I have this guy that hmu I dk if he’s bored or what but he hmu then when I reply when I do he stops replying altogether. He calls me then it seems like we are only on the phone for a few minutes before he goes. That’s what my bd does as well. What’s up with this bs I hate dealing with that type of behavior so I began to ignore it.
I enjoy being alone, when you have been single for a while it becomes more difficult to let someone into your bubble. Taurus are usually in love with the thought of love but in reality they are afraid of falling in love. But once I meet someone I really like, it's an easy decision. If he/she is flaky is probably because they are not that interested or feel that you are not a potential partner
Being single isn't a negative or bad thing, so some people actually choose singlehood like me.

Relationships are a lot of work at times. A lot of work. It's easier to become pregnant or a parent than it is to maintain healthy, sound relationships at times.

I've been single for the past 6 years, and although I recently decided to get into the dating scene again, there is far less I'd tolerate in a relationship because of the growth and reflection I experienced while single and DRAMA free 🙂
Freedom is nice. I can sit and do DXP completely naked. Plus, I can run with scissors and nobody yells at me.
The degree of selfishness and dysfunction present in society. My Divine Compliment will always be welcomed, but other than that, I'm good.
Posted by HippeeGem

Sometimes it’s kind of nice knowing you don’t need someone to get through every day. And having amazing days without anyone. Although it’d be nice to find that one who makes the days even better. I’m so not helping, lol.


LoL, it's true though.
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Also I have this guy that hmu I dk if he’s bored or what but he hmu then when I reply when I do he stops replying altogether. He calls me then it seems like we are only on the phone for a few minutes before he goes. That’s what my bd does as well. What’s up with this bs I hate dealing with that type of behavior so I began to ignore it.
I'm guessing that the two of you are not a good match. Taurus is a sign of desire, persistence and determination. When they want something, they can focus in trying to get that. If your guy is flaky, he's perhaps, unsure of what he wants and is just being nice, a Venus thing. Don't accept mixed signals from dudes. You'd do well with a resolute guy.
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We just started talking. He says something like he wants someone to pursue him and wine & dine him. I know some Taurus love to pursue them. I was just curious why I always hear they single.
Posted by maychild86

I enjoy being alone, when you have been single for a while it becomes more difficult to let someone into your bubble. Taurus are usually in love with the thought of love but in reality they are afraid of falling in love. But once I meet someone I really like, it's an easy decision. If he/she is flaky is probably because they are not that interested or feel that you are not a potential partner

That sounds bout right. I rejected one and I don’t understand why he comes back around. I just see him as friends but I don’t see where he gets this relationship talk from. I never give him no relationship talk. He’s the one mushy and all that. I act accordingly because I’m not getting myself into something that’s not going to be anything.
They take commitment very seriously. Like marriage serious. My dude was single for 5 years before he got with me. He was single for so long because he didn’t like how people nowadays don’t take relationships seriously.

Couples too eager to break up over small matters rather than communicate and work it out.

“Oh you didn’t respond to my text? Welp, time to find a new boo!”

“Did I just see you like some instah0? Boy, bye.”

Even spouses cheating out of cowardness…made him rethink arranged marriage at some point. I told him if we break up then it’s finito. It ain’t going to be one of those breakup then get back togetherships. And he loved how I shared the same mindset. So yea when a Taurus chooses to be with you he’s already envisioned a future with you. You really do need lots of patience with these guys cause if you don’t have it you’re better off with a fire sign.
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They take commitment very seriously. Like marriage serious. My dude was single for 5 years before he got with me. He was single for so long because he didn’t like how people nowadays don’t take relationships seriously.

Couples too eager to break up over small matters rather than communicate and work it out.

“Oh you didn’t respond to my text? Welp, time to find a new boo!”

“Did I just see you like some instah0? Boy, bye.”

Even spouses cheating out of cowardness…made him rethink arranged marriage at some point. I told him if we break up then it’s finito. It ain’t going to be one of those breakup then get back togetherships. And he loved how I shared the same mindset. So yea when a Taurus chooses to be with you he’s already envisioned a future with you. You really do need lots of patience with these guys cause if you don’t have it you’re better off with a fire sign.
Could you explain the patience part a bit more? I started dating a Taurus and i can already see why you would say that but i’m curious and want to know more.
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Don’t rush them into a relationship-let it happen naturally. They’re very observant; this sussing out period is why it takes time because they want to see if you’re a good fit for them and they’re a good fit for you; they consider everything. They want to see if you’re true to who you are and not putting on an act…It’s why they say it’s better to be friends with a Taurus first because they don’t have the expectation of impressing you and vice versa. Something bothering you? Say it, they appreciate directness. Don’t like something he does? Call him out, don’t be passive aggressive hoping he’ll notice because it won’t solve anything. Lay it out on the table and if he sees you as a keeper trust you’ll know, there are no mixed signals. But don’t try to mindplay him into thinking you’re the best thing ever and if he doesn’t get with you then it’s his loss. Because even if you do succeed through this tactic, chances are he’ll see you as a placeholder and won’t stay long.

How long have ya’ll been dating?
Me and my bd just had a sit down bout our type of relationship. I got clarification from him where we going forward. We just friends and trying to co parent the best way we can. Our worlds don’t combine together so we figure we can just move on and be happy. We admit it was just sex on both of our ends so we totally can to agreement to stop sex altogether.
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I enjoy being alone, when you have been single for a while it becomes more difficult to let someone into your bubble. Taurus are usually in love with the thought of love but in reality they are afraid of falling in love. But once I meet someone I really like, it's an easy decision. If he/she is flaky is probably because they are not that interested or feel that you are not a potential partner

That sounds bout right. I rejected one and I don’t understand why he comes back around. I just see him as friends but I don’t see where he gets this relationship talk from. I never give him no relationship talk. He’s the one mushy and all that. I act accordingly because I’m not getting myself into something that’s not going to be anything.
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You're doing the right thing. We Taurus are also hunters and like the chase of getting what we can't have. He is behaving that way because you set clear boundaries and it makes it more interesting to win over you. If it's just because of the chase he likes or if it really is that he genuinely wants you, it´s up to you to judge by his behavior
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Posted by maychild86

I enjoy being alone, when you have been single for a while it becomes more difficult to let someone into your bubble. Taurus are usually in love with the thought of love but in reality they are afraid of falling in love. But once I meet someone I really like, it's an easy decision. If he/she is flaky is probably because they are not that interested or feel that you are not a potential partner

That sounds bout right. I rejected one and I don’t understand why he comes back around. I just see him as friends but I don’t see where he gets this relationship talk from. I never give him no relationship talk. He’s the one mushy and all that. I act accordingly because I’m not getting myself into something that’s not going to be anything.
You're doing the right thing. We Taurus are also hunters and like the chase of getting what we can't have. He is behaving that way because you set clear boundaries and it makes it more interesting to win over you. If it's just because of the chase he likes or if it really is that he genuinely wants you, it´s up to you to judge by his behavior
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Well clearly I was his just other option he just seen me for sex and tbh I’m over the situation. He wants to be friends but I just want to move forward with my life I don’t want to deal with no more drama or bs from that man. We just got a baby together.
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They take commitment very seriously. Like marriage serious. My dude was single for 5 years before he got with me. He was single for so long because he didn’t like how people nowadays don’t take relationships seriously.

Couples too eager to break up over small matters rather than communicate and work it out.

“Oh you didn’t respond to my text? Welp, time to find a new boo!”

“Did I just see you like some instah0? Boy, bye.”

Even spouses cheating out of cowardness…made him rethink arranged marriage at some point. I told him if we break up then it’s finito. It ain’t going to be one of those breakup then get back togetherships. And he loved how I shared the same mindset. So yea when a Taurus chooses to be with you he’s already envisioned a future with you. You really do need lots of patience with these guys cause if you don’t have it you’re better off with a fire sign.
Could you explain the patience part a bit more? I started dating a Taurus and i can already see why you would say that but i’m curious and want to know more.


Don’t rush them into a relationship-let it happen naturally. They’re very observant; this sussing out period is why it takes time because they want to see if you’re a good fit for them and they’re a good fit for you; they consider everything. They want to see if you’re true to who you are and not putting on an act…It’s why they say it’s better to be friends with a Taurus first because they don’t have the expectation of impressing you and vice versa. Something bothering you? Say it, they appreciate directness. Don’t like something he does? Call him out, don’t be passive aggressive hoping he’ll notice because it won’t solve anything. Lay it out on the table and if he sees you as a keeper trust you’ll know, there are no mixed signals. But don’t try to mindplay him into thinking you’re the best thing ever and if he doesn’t get with you then it’s his loss. Because even if you do succeed through this tactic, chances are he’ll see you as a placeholder and won’t stay long.

How long have ya’ll been dating?
Yeah the Taurus i’m seeing right now was single for almost 5 years as well! It really crossed my mind to stay friends first but our chemistry was kind of crazy every time we would meet so the friendship thing kind of flew out the window😬. Whenever big things bother me i’m very vocal about it so that’s not the issue. The thing i’m more worried about is the communication part of it all. Don’t find our conversations very stimulating or challenging. So i don’t know if i should be patient and let him open up more on his terms or that it’s not coming at all. I’m a Gem and communication is very important to us and it can be difficult to be patient when it comes to this.


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girrrrl I feel you, sistah sign Virgo here! we share the same planet Winking. You could bring up how communication is important or instead of having an actual talk show it yourself. Pick his brain with topics that interest you and see how he responds to them. When my guy first started staying at my place, he’d make my bed and I wouldn’t know it until I arrived home. Simple gesture, but was the sweetest thing! Then one day he stopped. I made a comment how much I loved when he did this and how it’d made me feel coming home and seeing it…didn’t make a big deal about because I didn’t think much of it…and then the next day he made my bed again and hasn’t stopped to this day. Sometimes an actual talk isn’t necessary. The patience part comes from giving them time to act and respond to what you’re saying. They really do listen when they care and show it in their own time.
Why would this Taurus be mad I don’t want to be friends with him after our lil hook ups. Like I don’t see no point tbh.
I was single for a long time. Like 12 years, and before that I dated a handful of people for a few months. I’ve had one night stands with many people though. I felt it was great, but truth be told it’s amazing to have someone in your life every day. It makes one feel less insecure and alone. Even if things aren’t always 100% perfect, just to have someone you can lay with at night and be with when you wake up just brings a sense of confidence and meaning to life.

It’s a cold fucked up world out there. Might as well have someone to spend your time with. Someone to make some good memories with, and someone to tread through the darkness with.
I’m a Leo my bd is a Taurus why would he be mad I don’t want to be friends ? I just want to be civil and everything about my daughter not else really. He just did somethings that I just can’t seem to get over until time allows it to heal. I just don’t understand what is his issue why he’s so upset he even told me he would sign his rights over on our daughter and everything all because I said I didn’t want to deal with him less it has to do with my daughter. We came to agreement to stop sex and I wanted to move on with my life.
Posted by maychild86

I enjoy being alone, when you have been single for a while it becomes more difficult to let someone into your bubble. Taurus are usually in love with the thought of love but in reality they are afraid of falling in love. But once I meet someone I really like, it's an easy decision. If he/she is flaky is probably because they are not that interested or feel that you are not a potential partner

That sounds like mr.taurus rn for me on my end. He said he doesn’t see us a potential relationship so he wanted to be friends but I don’t want to be friends. I just want to move on with my life. I don’t want to be reminded of the past when we are together.
Reasons why I would want to be single (which I'm not)....

But I will still speak from an astrological perspective...

1. Not having to compromise my beliefs, values, morals.

2. Predictability...I can always predict MY actions, someone else's? No.

3. Fear of I may no longer feel safe with someone, or never finding someone to feel safe with.

4. No drama. Peace and tranquility.

5. Being corny, and having no one there to witness it.
Posted by PurtyWingzFly2

Posted by maychild86

I enjoy being alone, when you have been single for a while it becomes more difficult to let someone into your bubble. Taurus are usually in love with the thought of love but in reality they are afraid of falling in love. But once I meet someone I really like, it's an easy decision. If he/she is flaky is probably because they are not that interested or feel that you are not a potential partner

That sounds like mr.taurus rn for me on my end. He said he doesn’t see us a potential relationship so he wanted to be friends but I don’t want to be friends. I just want to move on with my life. I don’t want to be reminded of the past when we are together.
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Then that´s what you should do, move on and block him from your life. It´s not fair of him and not fair to you if you have deeper feelings that he does not respond to
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Being able to fart unabashedly in your sweatpants in the comfort of your own home.



What’s up with the ignorant comments
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That's legit one of my reasons for being single.

I'm not comfortable enough with anyone to leave my body alone with them while I sleep. What if I make some noise or start some shit.. will they tell me or just slow fade and then stop calling?

Idk. Bc im not putting myself in that position.
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Everyone wants to land on their feet somewhere nice, but if you dont even jump you cant even land anywhere.

And you didnt even need to eat carb and sugar loaded fortune cookies for this valuable insight. 😆
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Posted by maychild86

I enjoy being alone, when you have been single for a while it becomes more difficult to let someone into your bubble. Taurus are usually in love with the thought of love but in reality they are afraid of falling in love. But once I meet someone I really like, it's an easy decision. If he/she is flaky is probably because they are not that interested or feel that you are not a potential partner

That sounds like mr.taurus rn for me on my end. He said he doesn’t see us a potential relationship so he wanted to be friends but I don’t want to be friends. I just want to move on with my life. I don’t want to be reminded of the past when we are together.
Then that´s what you should do, move on and block him from your life. It´s not fair of him and not fair to you if you have deeper feelings that he does not respond to
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I cut ties and he didn’t see it coming it’s not doing me any good I think he’s trying to find reasons to come around and really don’t have much to say to him. He states he wants to sign his rights over all because I said I don’t want to be friends. That’s insane to me plus he’s hardly around he wants more to do bout me than our child. That’s the sad part. Why can’t he move on and leave me alone.