Getting bored with virgo!

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I am married to this virgo for almost 2 years and already feel like the relationship is dying. I feel so bored with him. What about your experiences aquas?
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Posted by geminicandle
What is so boring about him?
While virgos are nice and cool people, I find them insufferably boring too.


Ditto. I love my Virgo to death, but, geesh. Take a chance for once why don't cha? Work work work and then you die. Let's throw some bar fights, and rollercoasters in there somewhere!
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Posted by geminicandle
What is so boring about him?
While virgos are nice and cool people, I find them insufferably boring too.


My Gemini step mother in law is married to my Father in law DOUBLE virgo too, for many years.
She finds no boredom with him at all. She's a social butterfly too, but also a homebody as well.
weird dichotomy. She'll go off for a week or two to some country with a bunch of middle age to senior citizen women's club on some bike run. And then come back and be with her hubby. They love eachother through thick and thin.
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Posted by geminicandle
What is so boring about him?
While virgos are nice and cool people, I find them insufferably boring too.


Its the routine..HIS routine which kills me! i want to hear something new everyday or im like "okay" "hmm" "hmmm" "yeah". we are staying miles apart so we talk only on phone. He cribs a lot about people and things around him which after a point sounds too much of negative energy around..im tired as hell!
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Posted by geminicandle
Even people with Virgo placements quench my fire and cut my air. Just mundane and boring to death. Jeez...live a little! lol


yes..we had a courtship period of almost 5 yrs and we had lots to talk and discuss and laugh about initially but now it just doesn't go any further and any higher! And you are so right on the "cut my air" part...i honestly feel ive become earthy. i need my air back!
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Posted by geminicandle
This is gonna turn into Virgo bashing thread and we gonna get shit from Virgos! lolllllllDevil


what can i say "Truth is bitter" and for virgoes unacceptable if its about them Tongue
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Posted by geminicandle
What is so boring about him?
While virgos are nice and cool people, I find them insufferably boring too.


Ditto. I love my Virgo to death, but, geesh. Take a chance for once why don't cha? Work work work and then you die. Let's throw some bar fights, and rollercoasters in there somewhere!
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Yeah! like gimme a surprise now and then..don't be so predictable as hell!
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Posted by firywetair
I am married to this virgo for almost 2 years and already feel like the relationship is dying. I feel so bored with him. What about your experiences aquas?


Look in the mirror. If you find him boring, you're probably boring too.
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Posted by geminicandle
What is so boring about him?
While virgos are nice and cool people, I find them insufferably boring too.


My Gemini step mother in law is married to my Father in law DOUBLE virgo too, for many years.
She finds no boredom with him at all. She's a social butterfly too, but also a homebody as well.
weird dichotomy. She'll go off for a week or two to some country with a bunch of middle age to senior citizen women's club on some bike run. And then come back and be with her hubby. They love eachother through thick and thin.
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See no doubt he is EXTREMELY CARING something BEYOND ME!..but i do care for him a lot which is why im in a fix about what to do..when i think of the future i see myself rusting in the relationship..i just can't see an interesting life ahead.
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Posted by firywetair
Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by geminicandle
What is so boring about him?
While virgos are nice and cool people, I find them insufferably boring too.


My Gemini step mother in law is married to my Father in law DOUBLE virgo too, for many years.
She finds no boredom with him at all. She's a social butterfly too, but also a homebody as well.
weird dichotomy. She'll go off for a week or two to some country with a bunch of middle age to senior citizen women's club on some bike run. And then come back and be with her hubby. They love eachother through thick and thin.


See no doubt he is EXTREMELY CARING something BEYOND ME!..but i do care for him a lot which is why im in a fix about what to do..when i think of the future i see myself rusting in the relationship..i just can't see an interesting life ahead.
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First of all you come into a forum talking smack about your man. That's a no no. If you find yourself bored, then DO something about it. He is NOT your entertainment. Don't you have something to do with your time than talk smack about your man? If you enjoy routine then enjoy it. But coming in here talking smack is extremely lame.
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Posted by xvll27
I think you should leave him alone smile this could perhaps kill your boredom the divorce process the court stuff fee etc etc fun thing isn't it Tongue


yep! that sounds edgy Tongue lol. on a serious note..he should leave me alone and be happy..im sure he would be happier without me but damn the masochism of virgo doesn't permit him so..he is ready to live in pain with me rather than live a more peaceful life without me.
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Posted by geminicandle
Yeah lisabethur, I guess I could see it working in that sense. If she does her own thing and still comes back to "safe haven" (him).


Yes no doubt its a "safe haven" but too much safety bordering on suffocation is not good.
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Posted by tw1nk1e
I don't find Virgo men boring. They are very interesting to me. But the problem is that it always takes so much nagging for them to do anything!
My Cancer Mars tells me you should just go out and have fun on your own for a couple of weeks and see if he gets the hint.


Well i have done that..in fact i was a sort of person who knew how to have fun which now seems to be fading away with the negative energy around. he used to find fault with every single friend i had, male or female and slowly i cut those friendships not for him but i actually started sharing his ideas and his criticality seeped into me. He gets insecure when i go out my male friend and the fact that i enjoyed with them something which he knows i don't feel im getting with him.
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Maybe you should talk with him about it. Maybe he's bored too. Ya never know until you talk about it. Also do something to spice it up.
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Being a Virgo and having been with a Virgo for 2 decades... I can say that he was never "boring" but did get in to lifeless routines from time to time, as did I. When I saw this happening I made the effort to change it and he was right on board and honestly up for almost anything (most of the time lol)
There is never a such thing as "we've talked about everything" or "there's nothing left to learn about him" because being together and sharing a life is also about making new memories and things to talk about.
I can't tell you some of the off-beat things I "dragged" him to, only to have him thank me later because he had a good time.
Just give him the nudge.
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The friendship part of the relationship with Virgos is great b/c the loyalty & intellectual compatibility is def. there!
But when it's time to get the same satisfaction in an emotional way, sometimes things aren't mushy enough.
I'm sure Virgos & other signs have this same problem with us though. When they want us to be all affectionate, passionate & wear our hearts on our sleeves in order for an emotional connection to be strong, sometimes we just won't bend! But it's not b/c we don't love them deeply, just that when we're not in the mood, we're just not lol
I'd imagine that us Aquarians probably confuse Virgos moreso than they confuse us b/c Virgos assume that the serious, intellectual, not really mush persona we are in the beginning is how we'll be throughout the entire relationship, but that's not true.
It's not so much that they change, but moreso that we do. We just didn't realize how boring or non "spicy" things are until we're ready to take the emotional/sexual chemistry to the next level & we see Virgos at a standstill
The advantage of Virgos being content with what they have is that Aquarians don't have to worry about being abandoned or being flaked on
However, the disadvantage sometimes is that like Taurus, some Virgos are so content that they get too comfortable & are almost offended at any kind of requested change in "spice" in the relationship.
Virgos are not as ever-changing & unpredictable as we Aquarians are. Aquarians don't just stay in 1 phase/state of mind/or level of passion throughout. Sometimes we want it all (that passionate sh*t we see in the movies) like Pisces & other times we're just like meh!
The problem is....can Virgo KEEP up when Aquarian is ready for something "different?"
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Virgo: "Why fix what's not broken?"
Aquarius: "I see your point Virgo but just b/c it's not technically broken doesn't mean there's any harm in spicing/changing things up every blue moon! Why not, if there's nothing to lose, right?!"
Virgo: *Gives Aquarian blank look
Aquarius: Wamp wamp
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Posted by krysrenee7
The friendship part of the relationship with Virgos is great b/c the loyalty & intellectual compatibility is def. there!
But when it's time to get the same satisfaction in an emotional way, sometimes things aren't mushy enough.
I'm sure Virgos & other signs have this same problem with us though. When they want us to be all affectionate, passionate & wear our hearts on our sleeves in order for an emotional connection to be strong, sometimes we just won't bend! But it's not b/c we don't love them deeply, just that when we're not in the mood, we're just not lol
I'd imagine that us Aquarians probably confuse Virgos moreso than they confuse us b/c Virgos assume that the serious, intellectual, not really mush persona we are in the beginning is how we'll be throughout the entire relationship, but that's not true.
It's not so much that they change, but moreso that we do. We just didn't realize how boring or non "spicy" things are until we're ready to take the emotional/sexual chemistry to the next level & we see Virgos at a standstill
The advantage of Virgos being content with what they have is that Aquarians don't have to worry about being abandoned or being flaked on
However, the disadvantage sometimes is that like Taurus, some Virgos are so content that they get too comfortable & are almost offended at any kind of requested change in "spice" in the relationship.
Virgos are not as ever-changing & unpredictable as we Aquarians are. Aquarians don't just stay in 1 phase/state of mind/or level of passion throughout. Sometimes we want it all (that passionate sh*t we see in the movies) like Pisces & other times we're just like meh!
The problem is....can Virgo KEEP up when Aquarian is ready for something "different?"



listen, what IF the virgo has a full house 11th house huh? And the aquarius is conservative and boring? Think about that. Stop boxing them in one thing that Virgos can be one way and only ONE way.
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you've been learning astrology for much longer than any of us here, and you still thinking "in the box", krys. don't you research? There's an ENTIRE google/internet resource free for your liking.
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this is not a good reason to divorce! so if boredom is there, try to find ways to spice things up! He's your family now, not a suitor!
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Posted by BeautifulVirgo
Maybe you should talk with him about it. Maybe he's bored too. Ya never know until you talk about it. Also do something to spice it up.


I tried everything to the point that now im no more interested in spicing things up as one sided efforts can not go a long way n i also want to be entertained and not just be an entertainer. and i have asked a plenty of times in all sorts of ways..he really doesn't get bored opening and closing the same doors everyday..we r poles apart in that!
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Posted by firebunny
this is not a good reason to divorce! so if boredom is there, try to find ways to spice things up! He's your family now, not a suitor!


Not that i have decided to divorce but the thought keeps crossing my mind often.
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Posted by Herself
Being a Virgo and having been with a Virgo for 2 decades... I can say that he was never "boring" but did get in to lifeless routines from time to time, as did I. When I saw this happening I made the effort to change it and he was right on board and honestly up for almost anything (most of the time lol)
There is never a such thing as "we've talked about everything" or "there's nothing left to learn about him" because being together and sharing a life is also about making new memories and things to talk about.
I can't tell you some of the off-beat things I "dragged" him to, only to have him thank me later because he had a good time.
Just give him the nudge.



I guess it has to do with your virgo virgo tuning..in my case its an aqua virgo thing which is far more complicated and i really can't think "virgo" way my friend..i have too much air and fire in my charts and good amount of water but hardly any earth smile As i said earlier im just done with the need to put in any effort..if a relationship needs efforts to be at least dynamic then its not worth it i feel.
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Posted by JenLove
Umm you're married. Now you two have reached your "highest level of commitment". What's left? I mean just the idea of marriage is boring so what did you expect? lol After several years together people are going to fall into routines and not be the most fun individuals to be around all the time. Your partner is going to become somewhat predictable in certain aspects and guess what so will you! And things will run on a schedule the busier your lives get. Things will get boring sometimes. Marriage is all about consistency, that why it's also referred to as "settling down"....so settle down! lol I get that of course life shouldn't just get boring after that but, then you need to spice things up. People aren't meant to be your source of entertainment, go bungee jump off a bridge together or go find a damn hobby lol Don't just blame it all on your Virgo, find some new and interesting things to do and hope that he'll be interested!





yeah i expected that married life will become that in several years like 10 or 11 but just in 2years...that is strange i tell u..ii never expected that..yeah i do have lots of hobbies and stuff to do but there are lot of things i want to do with him which he is not so excited about..ive done crazy stuff outside but then i don't want to just do it all alone...i would love to do it with my husband..and honestly why im still surviving this marriage is coz of my own craziness and airiness that keeps me interested in myself at least if no one else smile
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Posted by KingVirgo
Maybe it's not the virgo, maybe it's you and you finally realize virgo's don't do it for you.


None of the guys i've been with ever thought so..in fact they had just the opposite view..and im too changeable to be boring..the fact that he doesn't feel bored with me and wants to stay with me is proof that im not the one who is boring!
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and he never complained of that either..
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Posted by KingVirgo
Maybe it's not the virgo, maybe it's you and you finally realize virgo's don't do it for you.


None of the guys i've been with ever thought so..in fact they had just the opposite view..and im too changeable to be boring..the fact that he doesn't feel bored with me and wants to stay with me is proof that im not the one who is boring!



No. It proves he's not the one who's selfish.
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Its easy to pass judgments about others when you hardly know them and have hardly been into their shoes!
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I thought there were more open-minded people here who did not just pass judgment about others and jumped on to verbally attack others on the fact that they are dissatisfied in a marriage..the world has come way ahead of that mindset and we are not in the century where people once married are expected to be imprisoned into it all their lives otherwise they are given names and labels outraging their character...how narrow and conservative such a mind set is!
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Posted by KingVirgo
Maybe it's not the virgo, maybe it's you and you finally realize virgo's don't do it for you.


None of the guys i've been with ever thought so..in fact they had just the opposite view..and im too changeable to be boring..the fact that he doesn't feel bored with me and wants to stay with me is proof that im not the one who is boring!



No. It proves he's not the one who's selfish.


Its easy to pass judgments about others when you hardly know them and have hardly been into their shoes!



You're on here slagging him off. You said before that you've gotten to the point (after 2 whole years) that you don't think it's worth trying anymore. Seems to me you're not here for advice as much as you are looking for someone to tell you it's ok to give up.
If that's what you wanna do, great. Sounds like you've already made up your mind. I'm divorced too. Shit happens. Doesn't change the fact you sound like a brat in this thread.

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You can think as you like..that doesn't make you any more right..you can have your opinion though..however, communication skills go a long way in getting your msg across..learn better skills than that.
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Posted by cheekyfaerie

You're on here slagging him off. You said before that you've gotten to the point (after 2 whole years) that you don't think it's worth trying anymore. Seems to me you're not here for advice as much as you are looking for someone to tell you it's ok to give up.
If that's what you wanna do, great. Sounds like you've already made up your mind. I'm divorced too. Shit happens. Doesn't change the fact you sound like a brat in this thread.


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Oh, you're divorced. No wonder there are hypocrites around!
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You're on here slagging him off. You said before that you've gotten to the point (after 2 whole years) that you don't think it's worth trying anymore. Seems to me you're not here for advice as much as you are looking for someone to tell you it's ok to give up.
If that's what you wanna do, great. Sounds like you've already made up your mind. I'm divorced too. Shit happens. Doesn't change the fact you sound like a brat in this thread.


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Oh, you're divorced. No wonder there are hypocrites around!


"Its easy to pass judgments about others when you hardly know them and have hardly been into their shoes!"
I said i'm bowing out. Don't push it.
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See thats how it exactly feels when someone judges you..Got it now. Good.
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Posted by feby16aqua
I was referring to engaging in arguing with people here as opposed to answering my questions Devil
I am empathetic dammit! Tongue
Ok so if you are looking for an astrological perspective, then I suggest that you post both of your charts. There are some really astrologically wise people here including Elle who can give you that.


Ok thanks ill do that.smile for now im not sure of his exact time of birth.
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Posted by ellessque
I don't feel real inspired to come back to this thread. Seems she already made up her mind that we are all a bunch of unempathetic, judgemental beeps!
I do wish the virgo the very best of luck, though!! Big Grin


Not all a few including you..do not overgeneralize! there are plenty clean fishes here along with a few who dirty the water!
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You're on here slagging him off. You said before that you've gotten to the point (after 2 whole years) that you don't think it's worth trying anymore. Seems to me you're not here for advice as much as you are looking for someone to tell you it's ok to give up.
If that's what you wanna do, great. Sounds like you've already made up your mind. I'm divorced too. Shit happens. Doesn't change the fact you sound like a brat in this thread.


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Oh, you're divorced. No wonder there are hypocrites around!


"Its easy to pass judgments about others when you hardly know them and have hardly been into their shoes!"
I said i'm bowing out. Don't push it.


See thats how it exactly feels when someone judges you..Got it now. Good.


Nope. I'm not the one airing my dirty laundry for all to see. I just called a spade a spade.
Like Elle said, good luck to the Virgo. For the sake of argument there is one.
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what are you doing here then..airing others laundry or dirtying them..anyways..you need to get a broader perspective on things..just open up your head..that will do you good!
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Posted by tiziani
I thought the point of a marriage is to take risks and be real, in what seems like the most boring moments.
Real talk:"hey, I have no idea what we're doing and I'm actually bored. Are you bored, too?"

Playing it safe: Twitter.com relationship:"Yeah having a great time, can't believe it's been two years already. Pics of our last holiday" Next year - divorce.

It's the little things, I think.
Also Aquarius = fixed. Virgo = mutable.


Hey i've done the real talk and it seems that he wasn't comfortable and wanted to avoid..r u virgo/aqua...any experience you had?
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I'm a very open minded person. There's a lotta grey in life. What i don't know is why you're here. Best i can tell it's to be argumentative.


R u telling me i am clapping with one hand..funny that is! anyways take my advice or leave it.

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Posted by tiziani
smile Funny thing is i wanted stability, family and children with this person when i decided to marry him..and that was some years back..have i regressed..lol
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I get exactly what ur telling..i guess thats the phase i am at too..
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Posted by tiziani
smile Funny thing is i wanted stability, family and children with this person when i decided to marry him..and that was some years back..have i regressed..lol



Think about this: If you divorce him, you'll quickly find out the single scene is not all its cracked up to be and before long you're going to be looking for a man who will give you.....guess what....."stability, family, children" and love, dependability, financial security, intellect, and status.
I hope you're not back here complaining "there aren't any good men out there"....

Really. Come on. Think about it. You're better off working on spicing things up, throwing some new adventures into the marriage and creating some fun situations. Why does he have to do all the work? It sounds like you've got a good man....try appreciating him.
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Posted by tiziani
smile Funny thing is i wanted stability, family and children with this person when i decided to marry him..and that was some years back..have i regressed..lol



Think about this: If you divorce him, you'll quickly find out the single scene is not all its cracked up to be and before long you're going to be looking for a man who will give you.....guess what....."stability, family, children" and love, dependability, financial security, intellect, and status.
I hope you're not back here complaining "there aren't any good men out there"....

Really. Come on. Think about it. You're better off working on spicing things up, throwing some new adventures into the marriage and creating some fun situations. Why does he have to do all the work? It sounds like you've got a good man....try appreciating him.
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No doubt he is a good man..he gives me security, stability..all that a woman would want from a stable, secure relationship...and losing all that is just what i fear and the reason why im in no haste to take impulsive decisions...i may sound selfish but one main reason y i havn't take any serious step is that he won't be able to take it and thats my biggest worry...
and i get you and most people here..guess i should not give up and continue trying to spice up things..which i had stopped doing.
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Posted by firywetair
I get exactly what ur telling..i guess thats the phase i am at too..


If you can trust him with that feeling and talk about it and if he can listen and understand, then you have yourselves a marriage, I guess. No relationship ever turns out how "it's meant to be" and that's the good thing about it. It's never predictable.

What you're challenged to do is never immediately obvious unless you give it time to really see where you both stand.
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yep..i get it..i got to do some thinking and rethinking now.
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Thanks people for your kind inputs..ill be putting up birth charts of both of us soon and would need the astro experts' help in helping me see things astrologically as well smile
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I went out with a Virgo, he bored me to death. I broke up with him 3 times.
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ceu ru a v i r g o?
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ceu i really appreciate the time, energy and efforts you have put into typing that whole thing. I agree with you on most points. Just to remind what i said before, the fact that you know he has those qualities is because i appreciated them in the posts, so i very well honor them, however, as you said i do have other important needs. I know not everything can be fulfilled and there are compromises but sometimes for a human being when the needs they value are not satisfied, the other qualities lose their essential value or so it appears.
One more thing, w.r.t me fulfilling his needs. yes there are a few things that i know he values and he communicates to me and i listen and understand and try to go out of my way to do so. I expect the same from him. And in fact, thanks to our open communication, i know well what his needs and desires are, and i have done everything to meet those, but, at some point, when it comes to some of my needs that i hold close, and when i try to express those he says that im making him feel guilty..thats where i hold myself back and just swallow it up...then on another occasion when i try to talk about it in a relaxed, gentle manner so as not to offend him, he again doesn't welcome it and all sorts of subtle emotional blackmailing begins which makes me feel choked as i end up feeling that i can't be understood. then what happens when a person feels she will not be understood, she never expresses her desires and frustration keeps building up inside and then at some point it just explodes.

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He's still in denial. Pretty soon he'd realize. I think you still have to bring it up to him in any way you can. Maybe a heart-to-heart talk will work...
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Posted by aquapiscescusp
I went out with a Virgo, he bored me to death. I broke up with him 3 times.


I had read about all those compatiblity between aqua n virgo saying things like it can be best or worst. i din't bother and chose to accept the best part and ignore the worst part since i valued our relation more than that. but now what i read seems more true than not since whats happening between us is just extremes of good and bad. the good part is the best and bad part is the worst. its a roller coaster!
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The thing is, you're already married with him. You have to focus on your long-term commitment rather than complain about these "worst" parts. There's a way to handle these things. The way I handle these is to reflect and ponder upon it deeply. Analyze the situations and try to understand things more. It's not that you have no choice but it's just that divorcing is just a bad choice...
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Posted by aquapiscescusp
I went out with a Virgo, he bored me to death. I broke up with him 3 times.


I had read about all those compatiblity between aqua n virgo saying things like it can be best or worst. i din't bother and chose to accept the best part and ignore the worst part since i valued our relation more than that. but now what i read seems more true than not since whats happening between us is just extremes of good and bad. the good part is the best and bad part is the worst. its a roller coaster!
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Find a good place in your relationship, avoid the conflicts for awhile, focus your energy on other things -- instead of on him or the relationship. Try that for awhile, see how you feel.
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Posted by firebunny
The thing is, you're already married with him. You have to focus on your long-term commitment rather than complain about these "worst" parts. There's a way to handle these things. The way I handle these is to reflect and ponder upon it deeply. Analyze the situations and try to understand things more. It's not that you have no choice but it's just that divorcing is just a bad choice...


The way i like to handle is to just retreat for sometime without any interaction with the concerned person..and let time and slow thought process bring clarity to how to deal with the situation..now retreating itself becomes another issue for him...what would happen when a person is already trying to solve a problem and a new problem in the same area crops up..isn't it overwhelming..but last night when we spoke i did not speak much he wanted to know y i did not say anything coz i have seen the consequences of expressing before..he was upset and said that i get back to him when i wish to talk..n disconnected..but i know that its easy for him to say that and if i actually take some days to get back..within those days ill have emotional blackmailing texts coming in..i can't have peace basically!
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