Presents/Gifts

Posted by Tinxy
Ermmmm I think it's kinda extreme !!!

He will think that extreme , he will thank you but think it's a bit much.


Were you bribing him?

Why didn't you get him a small thoughtful gift ? But a laptop !!! Not judging just wondering why ?

Posted by engagement_hotdog
He might feel like he would have to put out.

Posted by Romancelives
Hi Aquas,

Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!

Posted by Palerio

Posted by Romancelives
Hi Aquas,

Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!

Why are refusing to admit that you like him?

Like a lot.

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Posted by Palerio

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Posted by Romancelives
Hi Aquas,

Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!

Why are refusing to admit that you like him?

Like a lot.

are you*

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Posted by Palerio

Posted by Romancelives
Hi Aquas,

Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!

Why are refusing to admit that you like him?

Like a lot.

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Posted by Romancelives

Posted by Palerio

Posted by Palerio

Posted by Romancelives
Hi Aquas,

Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!

Why are refusing to admit that you like him?

Like a lot.

are you*

Like I said we are close and he is a good friend. Stands to reason I like him a lot. However, I am cool as we are. I just wanted to do something amazing and useful for someone equally amazing...

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Posted by Tinxy

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Posted by Romancelives
Hi Aquas,

Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!

Why are refusing to admit that you like him?

Like a lot.

She wants this alien so bad shed slit her veins and give him a pint of her blood .

No joke

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Posted by Palerio

Posted by Romancelives

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Posted by Palerio

Posted by Romancelives
Hi Aquas,

Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!

Why are refusing to admit that you like him?

Like a lot.

are you*

Like I said we are close and he is a good friend. Stands to reason I like him a lot. However, I am cool as we are. I just wanted to do something amazing and useful for someone equally amazing...

Let me summarize this for you:

1) you're deeply into him;
2) he's amazing;
3) you bought a state of the art laptop so he will remember you once you're off.

Then you're trying to convince us he's a good friend and you don't wan't him. You do realize what you're saying it's butterty right?

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Posted by Tinxy

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Posted by Romancelives
Hi Aquas,

Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!

Why are refusing to admit that you like him?

Like a lot.

She wants this alien so bad shed slit her veins and give him a pint of her blood .

No joke

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Posted by Romancelives

Posted by Tinxy

Posted by Palerio

Posted by Romancelives
Hi Aquas,

Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!

Why are refusing to admit that you like him?

Like a lot.

She wants this alien so bad shed slit her veins and give him a pint of her blood .

No joke

What happened to not judging? I gave my honest answer think what you like!

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Posted by aquasnoz
Me personally, because I do graphics design and a lot of my paperwork for hospitality management on the go, if a close friend of mine bought me a laptop I would love them forever!!

It depends on the aquarius and their placements. I often do these things for my friends too, whether it be because it meant something or to help them out and help them succeed at what they are passionate about. I just bought one of my friends the new surface pro so she could doodle and build up her portfolio for her graduation year.

I think anyone would be a bit nervous about accepting such gifts, I know I would but secretly super happy about it.

You are a good friend

Posted by Tinxy

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Posted by Romancelives
Hi Aquas,

Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!

Why are refusing to admit that you like him?

Like a lot.

She wants this alien so bad shed slit her veins and give him a pint of her blood .

No joke

What happened to not judging? I gave my honest answer think what you like!

Sorry if I came across mean I wasn't being so.

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Posted by justagirl
How long have you guys been friends?

That can have an immpact- it's this is fairly new it's a tad extreme. If this is someone you have known for years. it would be something that would make my heart swell.

I myself give my close friends grand gifts if i can. I love gifting something that means alot to them.

However that said, yes it's extreme, the better "friendship" approach would have been to get him a certificate to a place so he could purchase his own, since he is just a friend.

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Posted by justagirl
How long have you guys been friends?

That can have an immpact- it's this is fairly new it's a tad extreme. If this is someone you have known for years. it would be something that would make my heart swell.

I myself give my close friends grand gifts if i can. I love gifting something that means alot to them.

However that said, yes it's extreme, the better "friendship" approach would have been to get him a certificate to a place so he could purchase his own, since he is just a friend.

We've been friends for long enough that I can do this without blinking. However, I worry how he may take it. He's actually been so helpful in helping me with my actual love interest. Also an aqua *sigh* what can I say, I'm an aqua magnet.

Anyway, I hope he likes it, I bought it with genuine care and thought.

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Posted by justagirl
How long have you guys been friends?

That can have an immpact- it's this is fairly new it's a tad extreme. If this is someone you have known for years. it would be something that would make my heart swell.

I myself give my close friends grand gifts if i can. I love gifting something that means alot to them.

However that said, yes it's extreme, the better "friendship" approach would have been to get him a certificate to a place so he could purchase his own, since he is just a friend.

We've been friends for long enough that I can do this without blinking. However, I worry how he may take it. He's actually been so helpful in helping me with my actual love interest. Also an aqua *sigh* what can I say, I'm an aqua magnet.

Anyway, I hope he likes it, I bought it with genuine care and thought.

Well, hope it turns out okay. Just be prepared that it may mkae things weird between you.

I have a life long friend that we get each other extravgant gifts, it's never weird between us- but i have known him for close to 25 years.

A laptop would not even phase him, after knowing him so long. if i had done that the first year- he would have been deer in headlights.

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Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
In this day and age nothing comes for free, that's a principle my mother has ingrained into my head. I think she taught me that with such force that she knew I was a sucker for nice gestures from when I was a young age, I used to give my toys away that I got for Christmas or my birthday and would get the shit smacked out of me when she found out.

now days if someone gave me something I'll be thinking "ok what the fuck does this nigga want from me" it's just a principle that has gotten me this far in life without DRAMA because it's where acts like this lead to, I have watched too many judge Judy and dr phil episodes to know that you just don't do that sort of shit unless you're a rich bitch and money is no object to you, but as an Aquarian if I thought someone needed a laptop and I had the money, I'd buy it for them and made sure it got to them without them knowing it was from me so I wouldn't have to deal with the awkwardness of gratitude.

Some people do nice things for me for a reaction and I can't even give them that, I do give them a reaction but it's always the obligatory normal reaction you get, nothing genuine or real.

Posted by Palerio
@aquasnoz

Precisely because an heirloom can hold more value than a laptop, considering how much you value any gesture coming from the other person, I would find it, not unreasonable, but definitely odd to receive such an expensive gift from someone I'm not romantically involved with.

He would appreciate the two of you going on a hike just as much, that is being there for him too; moreover, he would have bought it himself if he could so the fact you're buying it for him would probably make him feel, and I'm trying to put myself in his shoes, very uncomfortable, it’s like you’re indirectly telling him “you’re not doing great in your life if you can’t afford to buy a laptopâ€, which doesn’t mean he won’t love it. A new piece of equipment or furniture for your new place are usually small things that anyone would like to buy himself that give you an extra boost of confidence, I see them as small achievements.

Besides, I told you a brief version of my adventure just to underline, trust me on this one, that in Australia is way different, not just because you can earn potentially more money (not saying it’s easy but I had the impression you get rewarded if you’re good at something) but because of the mentality many of you have. Aussies are more generous by default and I’m telling you this because I felt more generous myself with people I didn’t even know, I can only imagine what I would have done, in this environment, if they happened to be very good friend of mine too. You breathe, compared to other countries, a different air when you walk down the street, it’s fresh as you rarely feel the rush of the contemporary society even though there might be hundreds of people around you.

It’s a weird feeling.

Now I don’t know about the US but in Europe? You make a survey asking people if they consider that kind of gift appropriate for a friend and probably 90% will tell you “you’re nutsâ€.

It's sad but we're kind of forced to believe generosity doesn't exist.

Posted by Palerio
@Romancelives
If you feel like doing something, just do it, you don’t have to justify yourself in a forum. The answers many of us gave you were not judgemental just honest; also it’s not a matter of being materialistic, I believe there’s a fine line between showing gratitude and buying a really expensive laptop (4-5k?) for a friend, you’re making it look like they’re just the same when they’re not.

Gift aside, you know what bothers me the most about your words?
When I hear people saying “I’m deeply into someone, he’s amazing†but that is not enough for them to give it at least a try or trigger their desire to be WITH them.

Is he that ugly-looking that amazing is not enough to start? Damnn…that would be depressing, not being materialistic...

Most people would kill to find a person with whom they share such an intense connection, while you find it and you don’t even consider the remote possibility of something more, this really goes beyond fucking him.

I'd probably want to marry someone who, just by being my friend, can push me to the point where I buy her such an expensive gift, it's a matter of proactivity. If I had that drive for someone it would mean she's good for me long-term, as a wife. I know she'll push my boundaries to the point where I will excel in life, therefore, If I'll ever feel, like amazing is not enough to at least give it a thought, I may seriously want to reconsider my own judge, maybe there's something I'm refusing to accept, which could be the case here considering you have a boyfriend already.

Posted by Palerio
@Romancelives
If you feel like doing something, just do it, you don’t have to justify yourself in a forum. The answers many of us gave you were not judgemental just honest; also it’s not a matter of being materialistic, I believe there’s a fine line between showing gratitude and buying a really expensive laptop (4-5k?) for a friend, you’re making it look like they’re just the same when they’re not.

Gift aside, you know what bothers me the most about your words?
When I hear people saying “I’m deeply into someone, he’s amazing†but that is not enough for them to give it at least a try or trigger their desire to be WITH them.

Is he that ugly-looking that amazing is not enough to start? Damnn…that would be depressing, not being materialistic...

Most people would kill to find a person with whom they share such an intense connection, while you find it and you don’t even consider the remote possibility of something more, this really goes beyond fucking him.

I'd probably want to marry someone who, just by being my friend, can push me to the point where I buy her such an expensive gift, it's a matter of proactivity. If I had that drive for someone it would mean she's good for me long-term, as a wife. I know she'll push my boundaries to the point where I will excel in life, therefore, If I'll ever feel, like amazing is not enough to at least give it a thought, I may seriously want to reconsider my own judge, maybe there's something I'm refusing to accept, which could be the case here considering you have a boyfriend already.

Posted by Palerio
@Romancelives

It's not difficult for me to process it, it's just what my piscean intuition is telling me.

I gave you my genuine imput because my Aqua Venus/Mars used to be strong and would like that gift so much that the patina of air/ice wrapping me could break, it's a delicate equilibrium and I can tell you the biggest challenge you have to face growing up with these two placements is learning how to be not platonic, so when you say "I love this guy to the moon and back... but in a platonic way" I feel like I know what you're talking about.

In most cases when you feel the way you do towards someone of the other gender it's mental masturbation and you want more.

It's painful every time I hear similar stories, even though I'm not like that anymore, but maybe it's just me and hopefully it's not your case :-)

Posted by Spooky926
In my comment, I'm going to go back to the fundamentals. You want to know what his reaction might be specifically as an Aqua, yes?
I'm Aqua moon and have studied up a LOT on Aquas due to getting entangled with one a few months ago. Keep in mind that they're generally allergic to emotions. They don't like having expectations placed upon them because they view even that as a restriction of their freedom. An expensive gift *might* make an Aqua man feel obligated to provide a specific reaction in order to please you, or to reciprocate in some way. And God knows Aquas don't like feeling obligated to anyone or anything. I think the important thing here in order for you to get the reaction you're looking for is to emphasize the utilitarian aspect of the gift (I saw that you needed this, so I'm simply providing a resource), and take any emotion out of it--even if it's just deep friendship as you say--by making clear that you would have done something like this for another close friend in need. Many Aquas do like techie gadgets, so I'm sure he'll love the laptop itself. It's the perceived implications behind the giving of it as a gift that I think he *may* focus on more, if at all.

Posted by WaterBearerer
just get him the laptop lol fuck what they say

Posted by SassyKiwi
AWWW omg look at these Aquas getting so touchy and jumping to protect one of their owns' feelings. You all are a bunch of

Posted by Romancelives

Posted by SassyKiwi
AWWW omg look at these Aquas getting so touchy and jumping to protect one of their owns' feelings. You all are a bunch of

Lol, nobody has attacked one of their own! Wow, imagine I had? I just want to do something good and have it received as such. You cute to SassyKiwi...

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Posted by Palerio
What placements of yours you think make you an Aqua magnet? I'm curious to know.

Posted by Romancelives
Hi Aquas,

Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!

Posted by truecap

Posted by Romancelives
Hi Aquas,

Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!

I'm an aqua mars and that expensive gift would make me extremely uncomfortable. I'd feel like you were bribing me or trying to buy my love. It'd give me an icky feeling.

I don't think aquas put a lot of impact on expensive things. My impression is they'd rather have something meaningful (a.k.a something that represents a private joke or something that comes from the heart) or something cool, inexpensive but exotic/weird/odd.

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Posted by Romancelives

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Posted by Romancelives
Hi Aquas,

Just a quick question, aimed at the Aqua males in particular. How would you react to getting a state of the art laptop with all the trimmings, from someone deeply into you that you may not be in a relationship with, but have a bond with? Do Aqua translate gifts into bribery, or do they see them as just gifts?
Admittedly, such an expensive gift can make an impact, but would it make a good or bad one on an Aqua?
Asking a Christmas has been upon us and gifts have been exchanged!!!

I'm an aqua mars and that expensive gift would make me extremely uncomfortable. I'd feel like you were bribing me or trying to buy my love. It'd give me an icky feeling.

I don't think aquas put a lot of impact on expensive things. My impression is they'd rather have something meaningful (a.k.a something that represents a private joke or something that comes from the heart) or something cool, inexpensive but exotic/weird/odd.

Even if the expensive gift means you can now continue with studies and plans for the future?

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