****AIRES Really confused with CAPPY male****
Hey ladies, thanks for your help. DD, any suggestions would be helpful. From what I can tell, everything that he hates about him self I like and he don't understand why. I can pretty much read him like a book, but I don't know how to express myself without being to direct and frank. The one and only time I was direct and frank he disappeared for a couple days and reappeared with new BS (lol). I'm so happy and FULL of energy almost all the time...and he can be so gloomy and moody BUT I like him. The problem is I scare him away, because when he thinks he's figured me out I change (kind of sort of his words)...and he associates that with dishonesty. So I told him if you feel like I am dishonest, then why continue to contact me. When he asks me a question about my personal life; he almost always includes "and please be HONEST?. This is the same guy that told me ?relationships are bogus?, and I responded ?people are bogus?. LMAO, this guy is a great mental exercise for me. BTW, he's a director of a mental health institution (yea the games keep coming). I think he should be the patient?.LMAO.
Well he's still playing his games. All he does is sends me texts with good morning, and if I don't respond couple hours later I'll get a good evening. The last text I sent him was?.All I get is a text message with good morning and good evening. Now I know EXACTLY where I stand. OMG he's been IMing me, and texting and had the nerves to tell me when he texts me it takes me like 8 hours to respond. I didn't respond, and I'm not going to respond. I don't have to tell him he's playing games because he know he is, and I darn sure don't have to tell him I'm not going to converse with him or play by his rules?.yadda yadda ya. Sometimes the best response to a question is silence. If I feel like talking to him I do?and if I don't I ignore him. The same way it's been since 2006.
OOOOH YEA LADIES! I've known he's a little off beat since I've met him. However I know where he lives, works, etc?.he doesn't know where I live and he doesn't know where I work. Those are privileges he has to earn. Besides he's definitely not the only guy I talk to?Yea rite. I have a Pisces (sweetin me up and think he'll get his way?NOT), Scorpio that's been trying for 4 years (wants to cook for me wind and dine me so I can be his dessert?NOT), then there is Mr. Taurus (he is my faith in God) Oh he is stubborn, Oooooh wait?the eccentric Aquarius this guy is more talk then any
Well he's still playing his games. All he does is sends me texts with good morning, and if I don't respond couple hours later I'll get a good evening. The last text I sent him was?.All I get is a text message with good morning and good evening. Now I know EXACTLY where I stand. OMG he's been IMing me, and texting and had the nerves to tell me when he texts me it takes me like 8 hours to respond. I didn't respond, and I'm not going to respond. I don't have to tell him he's playing games because he know he is, and I darn sure don't have to tell him I'm not going to converse with him or play by his rules?.yadda yadda ya. Sometimes the best response to a question is silence. If I feel like talking to him I do?and if I don't I ignore him. The same way it's been since 2006.
OOOOH YEA LADIES! I've known he's a little off beat since I've met him. However I know where he lives, works, etc?.he doesn't know where I live and he doesn't know where I work. Those are privileges he has to earn. Besides he's definitely not the only guy I talk to?Yea rite. I have a Pisces (sweetin me up and think he'll get his way?NOT), Scorpio that's been trying for 4 years (wants to cook for me wind and dine me so I can be his dessert?NOT), then there is Mr. Taurus (he is my faith in God) Oh he is stubborn, Oooooh wait?the eccentric Aquarius this guy is more talk then any
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she was probably arrested for lewd and lacivious behavior........
P-Angel: "Or perhaps, you mislead yourself .. and know not."
More smoke & mirrors from the slippery fish. In other words: "My bald-faced lies didn't mislead you, your own inability to recognize my bald-faced lies mislead you - you are solely responsible for my deceptive content."
AND, THERE'S MORE: "In here lies my problem with most Virgo's .. it has to be an absolute, for there's no room within themselves for another to have their own interpretation from their own perspective and if another persons perspective doesn't fit within their perceived interpretation, then it's dishonesty ...."
Bullsh1t!!
Virgos can entertain, debate, and explore all kinds of ideas from a variety of perspectives - a quality of mine that drives my ScorpWife nutz when she wants to know what my IS really IS...
Let me simplify it for you, Angelina...
1. Honest Person - truthful most of the time.
2. Liar - untruthful most of the time.
That's the way Virgos (and many other sane people!) view the distinction. But here's some examples...
If you tell me you're in a miserable marriage to a Virgo man when you're really as happy as a pig in dung, then you have lied.
If you tell me you've contacted Federal Marshals when you really haven't, then you have lied.
Ferghus: "So perhaps folks like P-Angel actually render a valuable service?"
Maybe. But I would contend that she does far more harm than good -- and I think I'd get a big AMEN!! from the DXP community if we were all gathered together in one big room when I made that statement...
Lies hurt. Deception and manipulation have hurt this forum. Yes, we should all maintain a discreet barrier (or firewall) between our deepest thoughts & feelings, and the other DXP members - like the antivirus protection on our computers. But there should still be some bare minimum level of decency and honesty, or the forum becomes truly meaningless. Many of the DXP members are operating at or above that minimum level, which is another reason why I continue to participate. Refuting some of the nonsense is yet another. Having a Virgo Male voice on the Virgo Board is important, too!
So Ferghus & Shaka need to hang around, 'cause the Ol' Dawg is busier than a one-armed paper hanger these days!
You're right there MsPisces -
I am condradictory. Thanks for picking up on that here. I reckon its in my nature to be..I cant help it.
What I meant was.. I would like him to remain Himself but just a little more positive. I am a very good listener and I understand him a great deal (He knows this), but to be honest..it drains me sometimes.
I do have a good listening ear but when I am in a low mood, I hide it (as most Scorpios do), so he doesnt know that I am feeling low, therefore he rants on anyway.
But if I tell him that Im not feeling up to listening to him -I dont im to feel offended or rejected. He will then ask me whats wrong and I cant talk to people about whats bothering me. I can handle my own problems and I hate being a burden on others. I just need time.
I am condradictory. Thanks for picking up on that here. I reckon its in my nature to be..I cant help it.
What I meant was.. I would like him to remain Himself but just a little more positive. I am a very good listener and I understand him a great deal (He knows this), but to be honest..it drains me sometimes.
I do have a good listening ear but when I am in a low mood, I hide it (as most Scorpios do), so he doesnt know that I am feeling low, therefore he rants on anyway.
But if I tell him that Im not feeling up to listening to him -I dont im to feel offended or rejected. He will then ask me whats wrong and I cant talk to people about whats bothering me. I can handle my own problems and I hate being a burden on others. I just need time.
P-Angel: "Again .. perspective .... if you choose to take my observations based off of my experiences personally, then sobeit .."
Well, what I've learned is to not take you at your word, that's for damn sure! Words like TRUTH, REALITY, FIDELITY, RELIABILITY, etc. have a far different meaning for you than they do for me - and lots of others I know.
I've also learned that DXP is like a Board Game to you - except... you don't share your rules of the game with newcomers - they have to discover those the hard way - and I suspect your play that way in the real world as well.
DearDiary: "You guys and girls are giving her way too much of the lime light."
Yes, but we're also exposing her past transgressions to new DXP'ers -- a Virgo public service -- so that the Newbies won't take her seriously.
Since I've been doing this, I've received several dozen PM's from new members thanking me for giving them a heads-up -- providing them with the P-Angel Rules Of The Game...
Thanks Roxi and Scorp in law,
Oh Roxi I am female and Im fairly new to this forum. Scorp in law summed it up well that I tend to 'feel' a rooms emotional energy. I can tell right away who is worth approaching and who isnt. Besides, I am VERY suspicious with strangers and I dont know why. I feel anxious around certain people too. I cant talk about superficial things to any person for more than lets say 5 minutes. My chats have to be meaningful and preferably deep.
Well, at my previous workplace when I first started, the girls would all go off for lunch and not invite me. I couldnt understand why. I was smiley and attempted to be friendly with them. Yet whenever they saw me, they would either subtley look away or start talking to other people.
We had 2 new girls then start work there...and they were both invited out to lunch on their first day! Why not me? I may seem bitter - but I am quite indifferent. Im just confused thats all - it doesnt make sense...
Oh Roxi I am female and Im fairly new to this forum. Scorp in law summed it up well that I tend to 'feel' a rooms emotional energy. I can tell right away who is worth approaching and who isnt. Besides, I am VERY suspicious with strangers and I dont know why. I feel anxious around certain people too. I cant talk about superficial things to any person for more than lets say 5 minutes. My chats have to be meaningful and preferably deep.
Well, at my previous workplace when I first started, the girls would all go off for lunch and not invite me. I couldnt understand why. I was smiley and attempted to be friendly with them. Yet whenever they saw me, they would either subtley look away or start talking to other people.
We had 2 new girls then start work there...and they were both invited out to lunch on their first day! Why not me? I may seem bitter - but I am quite indifferent. Im just confused thats all - it doesnt make sense...
Danke for the compliment.
I hope you get a good birthday BJ! Best of luck for year 2008...may the world not end, may you lay many hens...may your wallet be thick...as your dick and stand up proud.
hmm, well me privates are in good standing, wallet could use some fluffing. don't need many hens, just need one that is reliable and doesn't piss me the fuck off. o would help if she's actually interested(loves) me. >.> o that and to become omnipotent. always a life long dream of mine.
Thanks to Autumc * Sweet & Sour too for the wishes. Didn't realize this many people knew I existed. Hmm, guess I don't have to pinch myself to see if I am real.
well thanks again for all those wishes.
sigh, i still miss being jailbait. well sometimes.
I hope you get a good birthday BJ! Best of luck for year 2008...may the world not end, may you lay many hens...may your wallet be thick...as your dick and stand up proud.
hmm, well me privates are in good standing, wallet could use some fluffing. don't need many hens, just need one that is reliable and doesn't piss me the fuck off. o would help if she's actually interested(loves) me. >.> o that and to become omnipotent. always a life long dream of mine.
Thanks to Autumc * Sweet & Sour too for the wishes. Didn't realize this many people knew I existed. Hmm, guess I don't have to pinch myself to see if I am real.
well thanks again for all those wishes.
sigh, i still miss being jailbait. well sometimes.
Absolutely. Everything seemed so perfect, but it was all empty and hallow. The pressure was too much. It was all about appearances with him. Even after we broke up we had to pretend we were still together for another month because of his social engagements.
It took me forever to get over him.
It took me forever to get over him.
Ferghus: "what the hell do "they" mean by us V's being boring in bed??? Would someone please define "Boring" for me."
Most of the women who complain about VG's say we lack PASSION. We may be masters of bedroom technique, but it's mechanical; and not as inspired as when a Aries or Leo Guy spreads their legs and puts the pipe in the channel...
Yeah, right!
Given that most women honest to God don't know what they really want, I take these assertions about VG's with a BIG grain of salt.
A VG in love is every bit as capable of passion as any other man. The big difference I see is in how we express it. There tends to be more thought behind (and before!) our actions, and women interpret that as "controlled" -- and my Scorp is one of them. She's happiest with me when she can push me over the edge to where I'm no longer thinking -- just feeling and acting on the feeling. THAT is pure passion to her. But, she also would say that she feels the passion when I look at her with my big blue eyes - all open, and honest, and trusting...
Like I said: Women don't know what the hell they want, but I am damn glad they want us around (most of the time!)....
VK: "I love her brutally honest approach it brings all the darkness to light to a person."
OK, but how do you know when she's being honest with you??
"You need RAW CLARITY like P-Angel's or that one guy outcast I've seen some of his posts to smack some reality into you."
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