Are Cancers always spazzing out?
I don't raise my voice (unless the other pary already is and I've already asked nicely----not-so-nicely for them to calm down) and I can't stand people who find it necessary to do so...but that has a lot to do with my upbringing. I think its ghetto, dysfunctional, and uncivilized.
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and one more thing.....I like manners. 'Please' and 'thank you' take someone very far. Not even just in a man but in PEOPLE in general.
ginzette - let us know how it goes tonight and happy birthday!
VLL -
thanks!
you are right about the communication factor with virgos and aquas
i feel like i am giving him room to say anything he wants to me but he is shy and reserved and i think probably feels uncomfortable being direct about us which is ok, its still too early to even have any sort of serious discussion. he can barely answer a yes or no question....but i am working on it!
thank you for the advice....
have you called your aqua girl?
if she only has 30 min. to talk i don't know if i would bring up any serious issues (with any sun sign really...lol) because you need more time to discuss all of these things, and i know it's better in person and you would probably prefer it that way but you don't know when you will see her....
i wouldn't take her unsureness as a sign, she is most likely stepping back to see the whole picture and evaulating it on top of all the other stuff she has going on.
i think you should tell her that you want to see her, you shouldnt compromise to an extent where she makes all the decisions and your feelings are constantly hurt, its not fair to you. i think you should tell her that you want to see her and if she says she is not ready to, then leave it at that, but if she says "maybe" or "i'm so tired" try to ask her to set a date aside for you.
i will tell you this: i have noticed this in myself and in other aquas - we are completely flabergasted when you accuse us of something (even if we know that we do whatever it is we are being accused of) and completely get on the defensive, its terrible really and i have tried to work on it but everytime i react the same way nonetheless (which kind of ties in with the whole slow to change fixed personality) . this sort of ties in with how we can't handle rejection and have no idea what to do when it does happen.
i can't answer whether or not its clear that she doesnt want anything or does...about giving her more time....don't bring it up with her because i think that once she has made up her mind she will tell you, but do keep trying to push (lightly) the idea of getting together with her, once you see her you will know a lot more b/c of body language etc. and you can start to slowly bring up one issue at a time, the most important i guess being the state of your relationship and what she wants.
i know its hard to keep in touch with her everyday when you have no idea wahts going on....and its
VLL -
thanks!
you are right about the communication factor with virgos and aquas
i feel like i am giving him room to say anything he wants to me but he is shy and reserved and i think probably feels uncomfortable being direct about us which is ok, its still too early to even have any sort of serious discussion. he can barely answer a yes or no question....but i am working on it!
thank you for the advice....
have you called your aqua girl?
if she only has 30 min. to talk i don't know if i would bring up any serious issues (with any sun sign really...lol) because you need more time to discuss all of these things, and i know it's better in person and you would probably prefer it that way but you don't know when you will see her....
i wouldn't take her unsureness as a sign, she is most likely stepping back to see the whole picture and evaulating it on top of all the other stuff she has going on.
i think you should tell her that you want to see her, you shouldnt compromise to an extent where she makes all the decisions and your feelings are constantly hurt, its not fair to you. i think you should tell her that you want to see her and if she says she is not ready to, then leave it at that, but if she says "maybe" or "i'm so tired" try to ask her to set a date aside for you.
i will tell you this: i have noticed this in myself and in other aquas - we are completely flabergasted when you accuse us of something (even if we know that we do whatever it is we are being accused of) and completely get on the defensive, its terrible really and i have tried to work on it but everytime i react the same way nonetheless (which kind of ties in with the whole slow to change fixed personality) . this sort of ties in with how we can't handle rejection and have no idea what to do when it does happen.
i can't answer whether or not its clear that she doesnt want anything or does...about giving her more time....don't bring it up with her because i think that once she has made up her mind she will tell you, but do keep trying to push (lightly) the idea of getting together with her, once you see her you will know a lot more b/c of body language etc. and you can start to slowly bring up one issue at a time, the most important i guess being the state of your relationship and what she wants.
i know its hard to keep in touch with her everyday when you have no idea wahts going on....and its
Evil? Please...Let's get a grip here this is not the medevial times. Ppl kill me...What the hell is evil? Come on now.
I'm rarely in reality, even then it's only for a few minutes at a time.
not fair but you love her and i think you should definitely keep in touch with her...
when i have wanted to break off a relationship, its usually a struggle for me to talk to them, especially everyday, but i also don't really have the back and forth thing, when i know i don't want to be with someone, i need to break it off, and speak to them as least as possible until i have enough nerve to do it.
when i have wanted to get back with someone....if it was a mutual thing then i let them come to me more because i am scared of the potential rejection,
also, i would not call you if i didn't want to be with you because i probably wouldn't want to talk to you everyday, not in a mean way or anything but because i would need to step back and also i wouldnt want to hurt you.
so that is from my experience.
i know what you mean about her being tired and you not wanting to bring in heavier subject matter and overwhelm her, but i would say if things dont change in a week or two (however long you can wait) then you need some answers and you at least need to know what she is considering and/or what direction she is heading in respect to your relationship. and if freaks out a little if you bring it up eventually, you need to tell her that you are willing to wait (if you are, which is what it seems like) but you can't be completely in the dark about this and ask her to put herself in your shoes or just think about what it would be like if the situation was reversed, although try not to put her on the defensive...maybe by saying things like "i love you and i dont want to put pressure on you and i understand that you need time but...." (if you do feel that way)
so when is the last time you spoke to her about any of this and when is the last time that she told you she needed more time?
when i have wanted to break off a relationship, its usually a struggle for me to talk to them, especially everyday, but i also don't really have the back and forth thing, when i know i don't want to be with someone, i need to break it off, and speak to them as least as possible until i have enough nerve to do it.
when i have wanted to get back with someone....if it was a mutual thing then i let them come to me more because i am scared of the potential rejection,
also, i would not call you if i didn't want to be with you because i probably wouldn't want to talk to you everyday, not in a mean way or anything but because i would need to step back and also i wouldnt want to hurt you.
so that is from my experience.
i know what you mean about her being tired and you not wanting to bring in heavier subject matter and overwhelm her, but i would say if things dont change in a week or two (however long you can wait) then you need some answers and you at least need to know what she is considering and/or what direction she is heading in respect to your relationship. and if freaks out a little if you bring it up eventually, you need to tell her that you are willing to wait (if you are, which is what it seems like) but you can't be completely in the dark about this and ask her to put herself in your shoes or just think about what it would be like if the situation was reversed, although try not to put her on the defensive...maybe by saying things like "i love you and i dont want to put pressure on you and i understand that you need time but...." (if you do feel that way)
so when is the last time you spoke to her about any of this and when is the last time that she told you she needed more time?
"Besides, I'd hate to be another one of your victims"
OF COURSE they would have covered butt-kissing in those psychology classes of yours.
OF COURSE they would have covered butt-kissing in those psychology classes of yours.
Victims! HA!
Considering all the problems we had setting up this date ... I dunno. lol!
I feel like we could become very good friends as we share a lot of similarities of style . Generally speaking, I get along very well with Scorps. Although, he isn't typical Scorp. He seems too relaxed and detached to be a Scorp. He was also really light, playful, and not weighed under, if you know what I mean. He doesn't have that weird nervous energy they always have. I wonder what his rising is. I am guessing it is in an air sign.
I feel like we could become very good friends as we share a lot of similarities of style . Generally speaking, I get along very well with Scorps. Although, he isn't typical Scorp. He seems too relaxed and detached to be a Scorp. He was also really light, playful, and not weighed under, if you know what I mean. He doesn't have that weird nervous energy they always have. I wonder what his rising is. I am guessing it is in an air sign.
Your number is: 11
The characteristics of #11 are: High spiritual plane, intuitive, illumination, idealist, a dreamer.
The expression or destiny for #11:
Your Expression number is 11. The number 11 is the first of the master numbers. It is associated with idealistic concepts and rather spiritual issues. Accordingly, it is a number with potentials that are somewhat more difficult to live up to. You have the capacity to be inspirational, and the ability to lead merely by your own example. An inborn inner strength and awareness can make you an excellent teacher, social worker, philosopher, or advisor. No matter what area of work you pursue, you are very aware and sensitive to the highest sense of your environment. Your intuition is very strong; in fact, many psychic people and those involved in occult studies have the number 11 expression. You possess a good mind with keen analytical ability. Because of this you can probably succeed in most lines of work, however, you will do better and be happier outside of the business world. Oddly enough, even here you generally succeed, owing to your often original and unusual approach. Nonetheless, you are more content working with your ideals, rather than dollars and cents.
The positive aspect of the number 11 expression is an always idealistic attitude. Your thinking is long term, and you are able to grasp the far-reaching effects of actions and plans. You are disappointed by the shortsighted views of many of your contemporaries. You are deeply concerned and supportive of art, music, or of beauty in any form.
The negative attitudes associated with the number 11 expression include a continuous sense of nervous tension; you may be too sensitive and temperamental. You tend to dream a lot and may be more of a dreamer than a doer. Fantasy and reality sometimes become intermingled and you are sometimes very impractical. You tend to want to spread the illumination of your knowledge to others irrespective of their desire or need.
The characteristics of #11 are: High spiritual plane, intuitive, illumination, idealist, a dreamer.
The expression or destiny for #11:
Your Expression number is 11. The number 11 is the first of the master numbers. It is associated with idealistic concepts and rather spiritual issues. Accordingly, it is a number with potentials that are somewhat more difficult to live up to. You have the capacity to be inspirational, and the ability to lead merely by your own example. An inborn inner strength and awareness can make you an excellent teacher, social worker, philosopher, or advisor. No matter what area of work you pursue, you are very aware and sensitive to the highest sense of your environment. Your intuition is very strong; in fact, many psychic people and those involved in occult studies have the number 11 expression. You possess a good mind with keen analytical ability. Because of this you can probably succeed in most lines of work, however, you will do better and be happier outside of the business world. Oddly enough, even here you generally succeed, owing to your often original and unusual approach. Nonetheless, you are more content working with your ideals, rather than dollars and cents.
The positive aspect of the number 11 expression is an always idealistic attitude. Your thinking is long term, and you are able to grasp the far-reaching effects of actions and plans. You are disappointed by the shortsighted views of many of your contemporaries. You are deeply concerned and supportive of art, music, or of beauty in any form.
The negative attitudes associated with the number 11 expression include a continuous sense of nervous tension; you may be too sensitive and temperamental. You tend to dream a lot and may be more of a dreamer than a doer. Fantasy and reality sometimes become intermingled and you are sometimes very impractical. You tend to want to spread the illumination of your knowledge to others irrespective of their desire or need.
ladydane49...your Cancer's issues sound more like problems in his own personal values than anything to do with being a cancer. We have many faults but taking and not giving back is not one that is characteristic to us. If its astrological, that may be his ascendant sun or moon talking. Cancers are known to give a lot more than we expect back...and a lot of the "neediness" that we get a bad rap for happens when we don't stick to our own kind (pisces, scorpios, sometimes taurus) and we give and give and then want some of that back. If anything a cancer is more likely to be on the short end of the stick of giving in just about any relationship....unless its with another water sign. (This is on average everyone has their own valid experience)