Capricorn man ignorning me after lying to me

This topic was created in the Relationships & Astrology forum by yolieoladyo52 on Saturday, April 26, 2008 and has 40 replies.
I met this Capricorn man who I was really attracted to and liked, but he is ignoring me know after a whole week of sending him text messages. He was mad at me before but came back to me. We were passionate with each other but after about the third time this second time around, he started complaining about my kisses. He complained that I kissed too long and he couldn't breathe. Than he would stay just for a little while and leave after he had something to eat or we talked for a awhile. He was not intimate with me anymore, but he told me he was going to take me out to dinner in two weeks that's friday, which is today. He ignored me this whole week now and he doesn't answer my text messages. In the past he told me he deserved better and told me I was insecure, clingy when I didn't act that way with him.That was the first time. Now I think he broke up with me for good and is igorning me. I really liked him alot and I was crazy for him but he is hurting me now. I think he is too judgemental and wants the perfect woman, which I'm not. I accepted him and liked hm just the way he is but he even mentioned in the past that he deserved better. I guess he rather be alone now than be with me because I notice he is home all the time. I think he thinks he can find better than me, but I just wonder why he thinks he deserves better if he can't be nice to me or at least courteous to me after I always treated him good. I wonder this guy he is now 40 and I am 49 years old. He accepted my age in the past and even told me I looked younger than my age. I think he will end up alone until he is 50 or maybe end up with a very strong, confident, bitchy woman. I am a libra. Can you help me and advice me as to what to do now. I am stopping the text messages. It is out of the question to call him, because I know he will just be annoyed or not even anwer my calls. What do you think is best for me? I am really hurt by this.
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He did not take me to dinner after all. Guess he didn't keep his promise for a reason, but he doesn't even call me. He really hurt me in the past when he told me he deserved better. Like what am I, chopped liver. Like if I don't deserve better myself. I was patient and nice with him and I took him back. I baked him a pie, a lemon cake, made him salsas, but he completely ignores me now. PS, I don't know if he is having personal problems or what he won't talk to me, and sometimes I need to talk to him, but he wouldn't stick around much. I know he is trying to find a job right now because he has been reclocated from his work and was living out of state, but I took that into consideration. I gave him space and I respected him for pursuing a good career and job, but he came to me first and now I really want him. The only thing is I don't want him to hurt me and he has hurt me. I guess dinner was out of the question now. If he has problems why doesn't he talk to me about them, or is he just being a Capricorn and a jerk?
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When I mentioned the past that was about about 6 weeks ago I'm talking about. We knew each other for a week and than he ignored me for 3 weeks when he was upset about something he accused me of which I didn't do to him. I was already crazy about him.
When I proved him wrong he came back to me. So now this time around it looks like he is breaking up with me for good, I think. I don't like on and off relationships, they don't feel good in fact they hurt. It makes me feel very sad and I just wish I could stop thinking about this capricorn man hurting me this way. I think it is mean for any man to treat a lady this way who was good to him. So why is he this way and thinks he deserves better than I. Does he deserve better?
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another POV that may help you to understand why Mr. Cappy or any man for that matter is responding the way he is...is-
Let's say YOU met a guy and were attracted to him and wanted to get to know him better. You meet, feel a connection and he calls you. You get together with him and enjoy whatever is that you chose to do (hopefully not the "sex thing"). He begins to text you - for a whole week. Right here....*how are you feeling?
Ah...not much now going on at the moment in your life so you may reconnect with him, he brings you gifts, he cooks for you, has floweres delivered - EVERYDAY! You have a "nookie night" during your time together. During your time with him...you discover for some reason or another that you do not really care for the way he kisses you - so you tell him. Not wanting to hurt his feelings you stay with him for awhile and say that you will have dinner with him in 2 weeks. *how are you feeling?
So.....he has not heard from you in awhile and he again he begins to text you and you have him on "ignore" ~ in the past you have told him that he is insecure and that he deserves better - *why would you choose to tell someone this?
2 weeks later and you have not called him about the dinner you promised him - *why?

Maybe in your past you have felt this way with a man - if so, think back on his behaviour and why you chose not to engage with him. You may find your answer to all of your questions.


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"I don't like on and off relationships, they don't feel good in fact they hurt." -----> You have just experienced a "feeling" you now understand a bit more about YOU. You know what you do not like. GOOD - write that down and stick to it.
At this point, this IS what the relationship is about - you cannot change him so accept it. Find the courage within yourself to move ahead - if you stay in this relationship, you will be settling - do you deserve that?
"It makes me feel very sad and I just wish I could stop thinking about this capricorn man hurting me this way." ------> you can. Why are you choosing to put yourself in the role of a victim? You have a mind and it is yours, change your thought. He is not hurting you, YOU are hurting you. All thougts are nothingness until we attach a belief to them.

"So why is he this way and thinks he deserves better than I. Does he deserve better?"
----> Truthfully, it does not matter why he thinks this way - he just does and he can. My question to you is, Why are you acting and thinking the way you are? don't you deserve better?
Take the focus off of him and put it on you where it needs to be - he came into your life as a teacher so that you are able to grow and become more of who you are. Be very grateful for this incredible gift and see yourself as blessed.
What is very very cool about living here on Earth is that everything in each moment is perfect - it is happening as it needs to otherwise, it would not have happened.
Wishing you the best~
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Thank you for your replys. I guess I did feel insecure but that was because he made me feel that way. I just wanted him so bad and I was willing to take him back. I miss him now because he was such good company to me and he made me laugh. I rarely attracted to any men and this is probably the best looking one I have met so far. I wanted to keep him and build a relationship with him. I am still hoping he will come back to me but this time treat me better. I know he was attracted to me, I could tell by his eyes and the way he looked at me and smiled. Why does it have to be so hard to have a relationship with a capricorn. The hardest part is that he lives two houses down from me with his father, temporalily living om his dad's motor home. I can see when his home and he can see when I'm home. That's what makes it so hard just knowing and thinking that he's there. I want him to back. Am I wrong for wanting him? He seemed like such a good fit. I love his Texas accent, his charm and his humor, but I don't like his subborness. What can I do now if he sees me outside or if I see him outside?
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"I guess I did feel insecure but that was because he made me feel that way."
NO ONE makes you FEEL anything - You chose to feel insecure. You are blaming him for your own problems - it is not his fault. You need to work on correcting them yourself.
"Am I wrong for wanting him?" ----> in my opinion, under the current circumstances, YES.
"What can I do now if he sees me outside or if I see him outside?" what do you want to do?

ya know...I may be totally off here but me thinks by your questions that you are just messin' on these here boards. Winking
Good day buck-a-roo
::hops on loyal horse and rides off with hand in air::
Higho Silver!
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You're right that's the problem I don't read those books about dating, but I should to help myself. I'm just the old fashioned hopeless romantic type. Your replies have helped me I have been hurt before by a man and maybe that's my problem. When I met this capricorn man from Texas who doesn't cheat and play the field I thought I was set. I guess I was wrong and I take to heart very seriously what you all wrote to me and I definetly don't want to contact him now. I want a good relationship and want someone to treat me with love and respect as I treat them. When he told me he deserved better that was because he was sore and thought I did something to him that I didn't do. When he came back we both didn't want to talk about it and just wanted to hug and kiss. that's why I was confused, since I got him back and loved having him back. Yes he was good looking butlooks weren't the only thing that drew me to him. I don't deserve to be treated bad, and waste my time on someone who plays me like a yoyo. It's just that I'm tired of being alone and wanted this man after a bad marriage and after my last boyfriend. I thought he was right for me. I kept trying to be positive. It didn't work. Thank you, hope we talk again soon. I will not contact him now. Thanks for your help. That was the reason for joining the site. I cried all day yesterday and this has helped.
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Thank you leokitten, latinaindia, freebird, your opinions help. I just needed to hear from somebody else. Libras like myself are lovers and want relationships to work. It's just not easy for me to be strong. I know alot of therapist and counselor will tell you all that love yourself therapy. But I'm very giving and loving, it's just hard to change.
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Thanks leokitten, you are so thoughtful and caring. A vacation sounds nice, but I think because of the state I'm in right now I would be depressed alone. I need people right now, and again I want to thank you for your support. I just came home after visiting my daughter and all of a sudden Im sad again because I see his car in front of his dad's house where it is always parked. I guess he won't try to call me, and Im not going to call him no way. I know better now. Just wish he would call me instead. At least to talk. I'm not texting him anymore either, because he just ignores me anyways. It's obvious he doesn't want me. Your messages gave me the strength I needed to stop trying anymore with him. I can date other men but haven't really found any I was interested in lately. I think the good ones are taken already. Any ideas?
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Hey Yolieolady, i dated a capricorn once and i had another scorpio friend who dated a carpicorn and we both said that we would never do it again and i mean that. Don't feel too bad. My capricorn was weird and this guy that you're talking about is weird too. Their feelings are easily hurt and they can't tolerate anything that they perceive as being rejection. Rejection to them is like kryptonite to superman. He would always come around but never for too long. For about the first week after we met he called me everynight and we had wonderful conversations, until one night he came to my house (we didn't have sex) and after that night he stopped calling me and ignored my calls, then he told me that i was playing games...well after awhile we started talking again and for about another year it was just full of nonsense...his lack of intimacy and lack of committment was too much for me, i was looking for much more..i always dated other people but i would always want to be with just him....but enuff was enuff and i moved on...two years after we met, he finally got real with me and told me that he thought that i wanted to be with my exhusband, because that night that he came over, he saw some of my husbands things there (we were going thru a divorce)...and he didn't want to get hurt...but instead of him being honest and communicating that with me, he kept that inside for all that time..and at that point i was in love with someone else. And now i treat him like crap and he's still always in my face..he got to the point of leaving letters on my windshield becuz i wouldnt return his phone calls. So maybe you did something to this guy that really hurt his feelings....They always have a problem apologizing...and its not just the male capricorns, the females are just as wacky...i say just move on to someone better, becuz those caps aren't worth it....It'll be a lifetime of headaches.
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Hi exoticsropion. You are probably right. I did try to make him jealous the last time I saw him right before he left, because he didn't really want to kiss me or be intimate with me anymore. So I told him I had a date tonight. He just said if that's what you want to do. He didn't left empty handed though, I gave him a small lemon cake I baked him to take home and gave him a kiss and held his hand before he left. He hasn't called or text me since then. I text message him the day after he left though and told him I broke the date because I wasn't in the mood to date any other men right now. Also I told him I would rather be with him. But he didn't respond. In fact I send him messages all week and not one phone call or respond from him. Till today this morning about 10:00 am he called but only let it ring one time and hung up. I didn't call him back figuring he would call again, but he didn't. I think he just wants me to chase him or he's playing games. I want him badly but I want him to be steady with me and stop playing hard to get. I'm sticking to the advice I got here and I'm not calling him back, even though I can't get him off my mind. I think I fell in love with him. which was too soon. I don't want to get hurt.
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Freebird I think you gave me very good advice and latinaindia I read that thread decodding scorpio and I believe it is very good advice. Thank you for that. As you see I got another message from exoticscorpion and I answered it back if you want to read it. Please keep in touch.
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You see, that's what did. And to be honest with you it was probably something that you did unconciously that set him off. It more than likely was something very very small and insignificant that hurt his feelings. Something that you won't know unless he tells you. this is how they are. And i don't care what anyone says, actions always speak louder than words. if he doesn't like you, why is he still coming around. It doesn't do any good to try and make things better with them because once they get something in their head, they stick with it. the cap guy that i was talking about once told me that he doesn't get mad, he gets even. So that is what this guy is doing to you. Just treat him like crap, find someone else, and i bet that he'll be back in your face and one day he'll get real.
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Everyone thinks that they have the love thing down pat. if it was that easy than why isn' everyone happy and married and all that. People act different when they love. and sometimes people will say hurtful things to you to protect themselves and it doesn't mean that they don't care. sometimes people care so much that they are afraid to show it for fear of being hurt. think about the little boy that hits or punches the little girl because he likes her. well grown men are the same way.
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I know but why do I still have this yearning inside for this man? I know I need to find someone else, but it's not easy. They don't have the love part down pat, they hold out for their dream girls, a fantasy movie star or barbie.
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Because you still like him. Maybe you just remember the good parts of him and you're still holding onto that, hoping he'll get back to being the great guy that you met. He just has some issues and he needs to express it to you instead of being cruel..None of us truly know what we're doing when it comes to relationships..And why can't you be someone's dream girl..sometimes even when men get what they want they just don't know how to handle it....do you go out? once you start meeting new people, he won't be so important.
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I go out on weekends with my girlfriend sometimes. We go to a nightclub because she loves to dance and guys will ask us to dance. But I always get the young guys 25 or so who ask me or one or two 40 year old and none of which I was really interested in having a relationship with. The 25 year olds just want a one night stand and the one 40 year olds were already in a relationship but just broken up. It's basically just dancing and then we leave. I don't really know where else to go to meet someone. I met a few on line but their was nobody I was interested in. currently a 51 year old keeps calling me and sending me text messages after I went to the movies with him once,but I don't really find him attractive and he looks older than his age. So when I met the capricorn I went head over heels. I guess I blew it with him and he is not coming back because Just yesterday I contacted Capricorn again, and sent him a text message yesterday to ask him if he called me, because he did call me and only let it ring one time unless it was an accident. He didn't respond soI called him and he didn't answer. Then later that evening I walked up to his door and he came out to the front porch. He was cold with me. He kept putting his hand on the doornob like he wanted to go back inside and didn't want to talk to me. We just had a very brief converstation. He didn't even tell me if he called me. I didn't ask him all the questions I wanted to ask him. The only questions I was able to ask him in person were did you get my text messages and he just said he got a couple, when I had sent him about 6 text messages and one voice message. He said he was busy and not feeling good.
Said he was working, but he was very short with me. He's dad was inside and said hi to me. While I stood there talking I could sense capricorn did not want to talk to me when he kept reaching for the doorknob, so I said ok just checking to see that you are ok. What an idiot I am. I was nervous and didn't know what to say because the moment I saw him I was lost. He didn't ask me anything. I didn't get to talk to him much he didn't want to anyways and he didn't tell me that he tried to call me. Going up to his door was a mistake, it didn't help at all. I wan't stong enough and I went ahead and called and went to him and it didn't make me feel any better. I know he will igonore me all over again is there any hope left now? I know I was weak.
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You have to stop...I know that it's hard but you have to for your sake...He sees that you care and that he can keep jerking you around...He calls you and hangs up probably to see if you'll call him back and you do..You keep giving in to him...You have to stop...Don't contact this man at all, he's going to keep hurting your feelings...When you go out, you can't think "i need to meet a man"..you just have to go out just to have fun and it will happen...you're in a tough spot right now and i know where you're coming from..i've been there before myself..but you have to draw the line somewhere...if you keep letting him know that he has you like this, he will keep on acting foolish...he's being mean and hurtful and you sound like a nice person so you deserve better...when you feel the urge to call or see him, just do something else..call one of your friends or read a book..you have to find an outlet and use it..get yourself in a zone and don't let him take you out of it...and eventually when he sees that you don't give a F, he'll be wondering why...you have to flip this thing around...
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And for some reason i could never say what was in my heart to the cap that i was dealing with either...
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Yes its hard to talk to them when they ignore us on purpose. Why do they leave us speechless. I just wanted him like a stupid little girl. I want to stop thinking of him. He was the most attractive man I ever met in my life. He wasn't stuck up though, and I don't even think he liked compliments about his looks. Whenever I told him he looked good, he just said you always tell me that. I felt i was right for him, he acted so good at first. I liked his smile and the way he looked at me. He took my breath away. My heart skipped a beat when I saw him. I see his car when he's home. We are so close but yet so far away. Why was I so stupid?
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ours was the same way..for some reason is was just a lot of distance and i think that it was just the challenge that made me want him so bad and nothing more..i thought that i loved him but i didn't..
i don't think they know how to accept compliments, they certainly don't know how to give any...
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Yes they don't know how to take compliments and he never gave me any except the first two days after I met him. He said I had a lot back their to hold when he held me and squeezed my butt. He also said I looked alot younger than my age but that was about it as far as compliments. He looked at me with those eyes that told me he liked what he saw me but he wouldn't say much. He said we are both attracted to each other and their is no reason to wait to have sex. I wanted to wait but he wanted to rush into it. I gave into him too soon. He was all gunhoe in the beginning and than he just seemed to lose interest in me. What is wrong with him. I will never figure it out. He never got real with me like you said. I wanted to talk but you can see he treated me like the plague or a germ standing at his door when I saw him yesterday. I took off all his phone numbers voice mails text messages and everything with his number on my cell phone today. That will keep me from calling him or texting him. It was painful because I had saved every call he made to me. I think it's best to take him out of my head for good now. It is best this way for my own health.
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Good for you..it's another post on here in the cancer section about a woman who's having trouble with her capricorn boyfriend. He's just as twisted as these other two..you should look at it...these caps can be pretty nasty indeed...
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go into the Capricorn board and read my posts.
My advice to you is RUN.
Trust me, it does not get any better. I just dumped my Cap finally for good.
He's 34, still acts like a 18 year old.
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hi exoticscropion can you tell me the name of that thread so I can read it. I need to read it to help me farther. I still feel this ache in my gut for this man thinking about how much I wanted him and still think he will want me someday. I don't know why. Maybe they have somekind of power to hurt you for long time.
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Ok Lawyer82 I will read it right now if I can find it. Thanks for your advice.
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i think that ES is talking about cancergirl18 post in the capricorn section....that guy sounds like a creep...
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Thanks MScorpion I read the posts. All these capricorn sound alike they like to leave us helpless and alone. Sometimes they come back even just to mess me up for a day or two again. Which he already did the second time. I think Im ready to fight him this time. I will just guard myself and the question I will ask him if he ever comes back will be "So tell me now, what type of woman do you respect?" I'd like to see his reaction to that question.
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Tell us what he says because i would like to know too...
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Yolieo, i posted a new topic on the capricorn board about a new one that i met. In my opinion it's already starting off weird, but read it and tell me what you think.
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MsSrorpion I posted a reply to you on the capricorn board.
Yolie
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Caps are cautious by nature. They don't communicate their feelings until they are sure and sure you are sure. Sounds like this kind of behavior provokes insecurity in others. With insecurity comes manipulation, game playing etc. How about a honest conversation with the cap wherein you state your honest feelings....your feelings NOT your feelings about his behavior. Too much focus on what the cap is doing/not doing and not enough focus on where or why you are feeling insecure. If you "feel" he likes you but are not sure, ask.
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cap men suck.
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i just got back to this post. good to know that i'm not the only one. a friend of mine recently started seeing a cap and guess what, same thing, foolishness. i keep saying it time and time again caps are really weird and i don't know how they ever have relationships. And you know what it's their loss.
@Ferdy
the one that i was "seeing" (if you can even call it that) never bought me anything either, never took me out or anything...and he acted so stunned and surprised when he found out that i was seeing other people.
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YEAH JIS CONCENTRATE ON YOU FOR NOW ...ALL HES DOING IZ JUST CAUSING YOU HURT AND PAIN AN NOBODY WANTS TO FEEL THAT WAY..BECUZ IT DOESNT FEEL GOOD I KNOW SO I SAY JIS CONCENTRATE ON THNGS THAT ARE MORE POSITIVE AND CONCENTRATE ON THINGS THAT MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD..WHATEVER THAT MAY BE....AND BEFORE YOU KNOW IT HE WONT EVEN BE CROSSING YOUR MIND ANYMORE..HE PROBALY WILL BUT YOU CAN JIS BLOW IT OFF AND BE LIKE "WHATEVER"..AN MOVE ON BUT DEFINATLEY DO NOT MAKE THE MISTAKE AGAIN JUST LEARN FROM IT...AND KNOW THAT YOU ARE WORTHY AN THAT YOUR HERE FOR A REASON...AND ITS DEFINATLEY NOT TO BE TREATED LIKE THAT BY ANY MAN UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE THAT WAZ JUST FLAT OUT WRONG WRONG WRONG WHAT THAT MAN DID TO YOU AN HE REALLY DIDNT CARE WHICH MAKES THE SITUATION EVEN MORE SAD...TRUST ME TIME WILL PASS AN YOU WILL FIND SUMBODY THAT REALLY TRULY CARES ABOUT YOU!!!!
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Poor Caps. When it comes to love & romance, everyone always treats them like some punching bag.
WhyNot2008, can't you see he WANTS you open up to him?
**Yea I've noticed when he tries to talk to me his eyes always look sad and tense. No kidding. Especially when I'm not really open or giving him my all in the conversation. Probably just the way they look....**
His eyes look sad because he KNOWS you're not opening up to him...or giving him your all in the conversation. The Caps are highly intuitive (they just keep it better hidden than the water signs). He probably senses your guardedness and lack of openness with him.
That bi-polar thing? That's what happens when you're a Mer-Goat: half-fish, half-goat. They can't help being pushed AND pulled by these 2 different but related elements.

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**Are you a Cap?**
You'll see me post quite a bit on the Water & Earth forums ( & occasionally on the Fire/Air ones too). I grew up with a lot of them.
I grew up with & am COMPLETELY surrounded by Earth & Water sign folks. I come from a large family where everyone is either a Taurus, Scorpio, Capricorn, Pisces or Cancer. A couple of Libras thrown in too. My closest friends are either Water or Earth signs. I'm a keen observer of human interactions/behavior and that's why I know quite a bit about Caps (my best friend is one), scorps, the bulls, the fishes & the crabs. Can't say much about Virgos as I don't know too many of them (tho' the Virgin females have that chic Audrey Hepburn thing going for them smile
From what I've observed over the years, among guys, scorps & mer-goats tend to form a solid male-bond & will often back each other up...with the mer-goat coolly keeping the scorps unstable emotions in check while the scorps introduce new business opportunities to the goats. Scorp females seem intrigued by the Earthy laidbackness of Taurus & Capricorns. Like as if they recognize that under all that earth, lies molten hot lava Big Grin
Fishy pisces guys and cap guys tend to have a love-hate relationship (whether as friends, co-workers, brothers, cousins, etc) but both somehow end up in similar situations (eg same religious functions, same taste in music, movies, same guy-type activities). Fishy girls, however, bond right away with the guy Goats. Somehow or other, they always seem to find one another. Same with Cancer women and Cap men.
Taurus guys click well with both Cap guys and Cap girls; while Taurus women tend to look up to both genders of Caps as bigger brothers/sisters....someone they can count on. There is an easy report between these hoofed creatures although the Caps, being half-fish, tend to be spiritually deeper...often introducing new spiritual venues to the bulls (Caps seem to be deeply interested in dark, mystical stuff too but I noticed they seem to keep that part of themselves well hidden)
One thing I gotta say about Libras (from observing my own family) is that both male & female Librans are willing to make sacrifices for their loved ones, especially for their children.
My Libran uncle raises 6 children and no matter how late he comes back from a hard day at work, he makes sure that at least 3 of his children are by his side while he has his dinner and while they tell him how their day went.
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Looks like Cap men are universally hated. LOL! smile

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