My ex stripper BF

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Ever since I found out the Virgo used to be a professional stripper I can't stop fantasizing about him giving me a strip tease. But he said he never would. Yeah, I've seen him naked obviously and yes he has on occasion swung it in my face... but that was b4 I knew he did it professionally lol now I want the whole show.

How can I convince a Virgo dom to give me the strip tease I've always wanted. Yes, I've had a lap dance from a male stripper b4, my sisters arranged one for a birthday one year, but that was some stranger and I was on stage drunk in front of a crowd of ppl. This would be more intimate and with someone I actually have feelings for so way more of a turn on.

Any suggestions? My Leo bits love a challenge so this could be a fun game.
Ask him
Posted by DMV

Ask him
I did. His exact words were "never". So I gotta find a way to convince him otherwise.
Posted by Arinoaqua

I don’t understand the question lol. How do you get someone to do something they don’t want to do.....
Convince them some how. Throw hints? I dunno this post is mostly me venting but open for suggestions.
Give him one first 🤷🏼‍♀️
Get him drunk and dance sexy with him...then kinda back off and see if it brings it outta him?
Posted by LostinmyMind11

Give him one first 🤷🏼‍♀️
I thought about that but I'm so fucking awkward. Knowing me I'd trip on my bra or something. 😂
Posted by MadTwins80_

He's a dom?

Start with flattery about his body .Obviously if he thinks you want something from him then he won't give it easily as that's not dominant. So drop little hints about how you are helpless against his seductive dancing. He has to feel he has the power, right? Not that he's dancing for you but that he's dancing to have power over you

My guess
Yes exactly you understand what I'm trying to say. I know he has to think he is doing it on his own. That's usually what he does when he swings it in my face, it's like a power thing. He has no problem denying me.
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Posted by DMV

Ask him


I did. His exact words were "never". So I gotta find a way to convince him otherwise.


Or maybe just respect him.
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I asked. He said no. I have not mentioned it again. But that does not mean I can't convince him.
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Posted by LostinmyMind11

Give him one first 🤷🏼‍♀️


I thought about that but I'm so fucking awkward. Knowing me I'd trip on my bra or something. 😂
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I totally feel you there. I have no rhythm and I just know I'll start acting goofy and start laughing 😆.

Maybe try to find something with less movement... like all lap stuff ...so there no chance of you tripping, or kicking him in the face etc etc...less is more...maybe? 🤷🏼‍♀️😆
Posted by blackphvse

You guys are funny. That would be awkward af for me. I'd definitely have a hard time not laughing at a guy if he did that in front of me. Lmao
Ikr? I'm laughing now. And a Virgo dude at that too......bwahahahahaha

Dxp doesn't get any better than this
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Posted by DMV

Ask him


I did. His exact words were "never". So I gotta find a way to convince him otherwise.


Or maybe just respect him.


I asked. He said no. I have not mentioned it again. But that does not mean I can't convince him.


It’s all fun and games for you, but have you thought that maybe he might have had a bad experience at some point or feels shame about that?

Anyway I’m just gonna say it... it sounds borderline rapey that you want to coerce him to do something you clearly know he doesn’t want to do.

I’m gonna bounce now because I don’t think this subject is healthy. You know my opinion.
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Nah we have had a whole open conversation about his stripper days and he was very open and honest about what went down and why he stopped doing it. It wasn't anything like that. He just got tired of the drugs and wanted to get out b4 it got to late and he was stuck in that life.

There is nothing rapey about it. I just think its been years since he did it and he is older now. He has already exhibited some part of it to me during our intimate times together, I'm just asking for the whole show.

There is nothing wrong with telling your lover about things that will turn you on. I've always had open communication with lovers. He has been begging me to do anal with him for years and I haven't yet but I'm open to it eventually when I become more comfortable with the idea..and I've told him that. Yet he still asks. I'm just doing the same thing with something I want. There is nothing wrong with that.
Posted by LostinmyMind11

Get him drunk and dance sexy with him...then kinda back off and see if it brings it outta him?
We don't drink. He's not aloud to anymore.
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Posted by Arinoaqua

I don’t understand the question lol. How do you get someone to do something they don’t want to do.....


Convince them some how. Throw hints? I dunno this post is mostly me venting but open for suggestions.


Quid pro quo? Lol. What is something he wants from you that you can compromise
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Anal. He wants anal. I have yet to concede to his begging.
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Posted by blackphvse

You guys are funny. That would be awkward af for me. I'd definitely have a hard time not laughing at a guy if he did that in front of me. Lmao


Ikr? I'm laughing now. And a Virgo dude at that too......bwahahahahaha

Dxp doesn't get any better than this
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He's a Virgo but he has a Scorpio moon and a Libra rising. Sexy AF. Plus, he did it professionally so it's not like he'd be just making shit up as he went along, he knows what he is doing.

Yeah I'd probably laugh but I'd love it too.
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Posted by blackphvse

You guys are funny. That would be awkward af for me. I'd definitely have a hard time not laughing at a guy if he did that in front of me. Lmao


Ikr? I'm laughing now. And a Virgo dude at that too......bwahahahahaha

Dxp doesn't get any better than this


He's a Virgo but he has a Scorpio moon and a Libra rising. Sexy AF. Plus, he did it professionally so it's not like he'd be just making shit up as he went along, he knows what he is doing.

Yeah I'd probably laugh but I'd love it too.
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Ohhh so that's where he get this from I see. Scorpio moon. That pretty much explains it all. I'm a Libra rising too btw. All my soft shy and feminine cancer placements gets in my way for pursuing a male model career.

Also I wasn't laughing to insult you or trying to take a dig at you or anything. I just find Virgo men in general to be funny. I know tons of them that are hilarious, but in a good way. I rolls with Virgo men not so much the women of that sign. This thread just made my day complete.
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Posted by LostinmyMind11

Get him drunk and dance sexy with him...then kinda back off and see if it brings it outta him?


We don't drink. He's not aloud to anymore.
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Probably a good thing ..Scorp mooners and alcohol don't mix well.
Didn’t you end the it with him?
so since he has no issue denying you.... what if you do the opposite.. like yea i dont know if i'd ever get turned on by a male striptease.... I guess reverse psychology
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Posted by LostinmyMind11

Get him drunk and dance sexy with him...then kinda back off and see if it brings it outta him?


We don't drink. He's not aloud to anymore.


Probably a good thing ..Scorp mooners and alcohol don't mix well.
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He used to drink a lot when we first met. I remember one time he called me from Texas drunk off his ass and had me on the phone for like 2 hours. It was hilarious. I told him the next day that he asked me to marry him and I said yes....he didn't believe me 😂

If u remember me talking about how he got jumped and put in the hospital back in 2019..he was on dialysis for a month. They fucked up his kidneys he still has a huge black scar on his back from it. I dont know If they punched/kicked him there or they stabbed him(I haven't gotten the full story out of him but he claims he can't remember anything) but yeah that's why he doesn't drink anymore. 😔 It is a blessing in disguise tho cause yeah he is not pleasant to be around when he is fucked up. One of the reasons I stopped talking to him for a year and why I just wanted to be FWB when we first met.
Hire a stripper and pretend it's him?

Never seems pretty clear cut to me.
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Posted by Arinoaqua

I don’t understand the question lol. How do you get someone to do something they don’t want to do.....


Convince them some how. Throw hints? I dunno this post is mostly me venting but open for suggestions.


Quid pro quo? Lol. What is something he wants from you that you can compromise


Anal. He wants anal. I have yet to concede to his begging.


🙃 sounds like you already know then
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Yeah didn't think about it until this post tho lol.
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Posted by blackphvse

You guys are funny. That would be awkward af for me. I'd definitely have a hard time not laughing at a guy if he did that in front of me. Lmao


Ikr? I'm laughing now. And a Virgo dude at that too......bwahahahahaha

Dxp doesn't get any better than this


He's a Virgo but he has a Scorpio moon and a Libra rising. Sexy AF. Plus, he did it professionally so it's not like he'd be just making shit up as he went along, he knows what he is doing.

Yeah I'd probably laugh but I'd love it too.


Ohhh so that's where he get this from I see. Scorpio moon. That pretty much explains it all. I'm a Libra rising too btw. All my soft shy and feminine cancer placements gets in my way for pursuing a male model career.

Also I wasn't laughing to insult you or trying to take a dig at you or anything. I just find Virgo men in general to be funny. I know tons of them that are hilarious, but in a good way. I rolls with Virgo men not so much the women of that sign. This thread just made my day complete.
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Yes, Libra rising ppl are very pretty I have found. Helps that I have a lot of Leo placements so Libra and Leos have a good connection as far as finding each other attractive. I used to be obsessed with this Libra sun guy and this other Virgo who had a lot of Libra placements. Both signs appreciate beauty.

I also get the shyness keeping you away from modeling. I dabled in modeling and acting when I was a teenager but my shyness really stopped me from pursuing it. I went as far as getting accepted to a modeling and acting agency and getting professional photo shoots for my portfolio but my shyness really kept me from going further. I kick myself a lot for that. Ah well. Such is life. You gotta go where it takes you.
Watch magic Mike with him and talk shit on channum, male strippers, etc. Just be like, this is goofy. Idk why women get off on this.

Posted by stillstillwater

so since he has no issue denying you.... what if you do the opposite.. like yea i dont know if i'd ever get turned on by a male striptease.... I guess reverse psychology
I dont want to make him feel ashamed or embarrassed by it. I feel like if I told him I wouldn't get turned on by male strippers that he would feel like I am disgusted by them and in turn by him. I want him to know I feel comfortable with the fact that he used to do it and that I'm 💯 ok with it. We just had a convo about how he doesn't want a woman who is neg and puts him down, making him feel bad about himself....had nothing to do with stripping, we were fighting about something else and I said some hard truths that he didn't like.
Posted by LadyNeptune

Watch magic Mike with him and talk shit on channum, male strippers, etc. Just be like, this is goofy. Idk why women get off on this.
Lol. I'm trying to stay away from any negativity about it.
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so since he has no issue denying you.... what if you do the opposite.. like yea i dont know if i'd ever get turned on by a male striptease.... I guess reverse psychology


I dont want to make him feel ashamed or embarrassed by it. I feel like if I told him I wouldn't get turned on by male strippers that he would feel like I am disgusted by them and in turn by him. I want him to know I feel comfortable with the fact that he used to do it and that I'm 💯 ok with it. We just had a convo about how he doesn't want a woman who is neg and puts him down, making him feel bad about himself....had nothing to do with stripping, we were fighting about something else and I said some hard truths that he didn't like.
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ok ok...back to the drawing board...
Respect boundaries. Stop trying to get him to do what he doesnt want to do.
Tell him you will give him a lap dance if he gives you one first.

And come over dressed in lingerie , sit down in front of him and don’t let him touch you until he does it
That's easy GUILT!."you did it for complete strangers but not for me?"
Posted by MyStarsShine

Didn’t you end the it with him?
Seriously? Lol
Posted by Weeds

That's easy GUILT!."you did it for complete strangers but not for me?"
This must be why Virgos work so well with Cancers 🤔🧐😏
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Posted by MyStarsShine

Didn’t you end the it with him?


Seriously? Lol
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Yes seriously lol ...
Posted by OnigenZ

Respect boundaries. Stop trying to get him to do what he doesnt want to do.
I will when he stops trying to get me to do anal with him.
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Posted by Weeds

That's easy GUILT!."you did it for complete strangers but not for me?"


This must be why Virgos work so well with Cancers 🤔🧐😏
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BLASPHEMY!!!
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Didn’t you end the it with him?


Seriously? Lol


Yes seriously lol ...
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What does that have to do with wanting him to strip?

And if she’s talking about it, it clearly hasn’t ended. 🤨
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Didn’t you end the it with him?


Seriously? Lol


Yes seriously lol ...
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No, I said I was thinking about it. We were in the middle of a big fight and things were said.
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Posted by Weeds

That's easy GUILT!."you did it for complete strangers but not for me?"


This must be why Virgos work so well with Cancers 🤔🧐😏


BLASPHEMY!!!
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Makes me wish I was good at it! 😝
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Posted by saggurl88
Posted by Weeds

That's easy GUILT!."you did it for complete strangers but not for me?"


This must be why Virgos work so well with Cancers 🤔🧐😏


BLASPHEMY!!!
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Lmao
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Didn’t you end the it with him?


Seriously? Lol


Yes seriously lol ...


No, I said I was thinking about it. We were in the middle of a big fight and things were said.
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Okay...I thought I’d imagined it 😀
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Posted by MyStarsShine

Didn’t you end the it with him?


Seriously? Lol


Yes seriously lol ...


What does that have to do with wanting him to strip?

And if she’s talking about it, it clearly hasn’t ended. 🤨
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I

Was just asking a question lol
Posted by OnigenZ

Respect boundaries. Stop trying to get him to do what he doesnt want to do.
If the genders in this scenario were reversed then OP would be a creepy rapist.
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Posted by OnigenZ

Respect boundaries. Stop trying to get him to do what he doesnt want to do.


If the genders in this scenario were reversed then OP would be a creepy rapist.
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Why? Because I want a lap dance? I feel if the roles were reversed and I was a guy asking for a lap dance everyone would be OK with it and tell me to break up with her since she's a prude and can't satisfy my sexual desires and to find someone who I'm more sexually compatible with.

Its a lap dance. I'm not forcing him to go down on me or strapping on a dildo so I can ass rape him. I'm asking him, and trying to convince him to do it since it is a fantasy. Just like he has fantasies that he has asked me to fulfill. He has to convince me to do some of them too.
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Ever since I found out the Virgo used to be a professional stripper I can't stop fantasizing about him giving me a strip tease. But he said he never would. Yeah, I've seen him naked obviously and yes he has on occasion swung it in my face... but that was b4 I knew he did it professionally lol now I want the whole show.

How can I convince a Virgo dom to give me the strip tease I've always wanted. Yes, I've had a lap dance from a male stripper b4, my sisters arranged one for a birthday one year, but that was some stranger and I was on stage drunk in front of a crowd of ppl. This would be more intimate and with someone I actually have feelings for so way more of a turn on.

Any suggestions? My Leo bits love a challenge so this could be a fun game.


Pay him
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Ever since I found out the Virgo used to be a professional stripper I can't stop fantasizing about him giving me a strip tease. But he said he never would. Yeah, I've seen him naked obviously and yes he has on occasion swung it in my face... but that was b4 I knew he did it professionally lol now I want the whole show.

How can I convince a Virgo dom to give me the strip tease I've always wanted. Yes, I've had a lap dance from a male stripper b4, my sisters arranged one for a birthday one year, but that was some stranger and I was on stage drunk in front of a crowd of ppl. This would be more intimate and with someone I actually have feelings for so way more of a turn on.

Any suggestions? My Leo bits love a challenge so this could be a fun game.


Pay him


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I was thinking the same thing and the English man beat me to it lol

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Posted by blackphvse

You guys are funny. That would be awkward af for me. I'd definitely have a hard time not laughing at a guy if he did that in front of me. Lmao


Ikr? I'm laughing now. And a Virgo dude at that too......bwahahahahaha

Dxp doesn't get any better than this


He's a Virgo but he has a Scorpio moon and a Libra rising. Sexy AF. Plus, he did it professionally so it's not like he'd be just making shit up as he went along, he knows what he is doing.

Yeah I'd probably laugh but I'd love it too.


Ohhh so that's where he get this from I see. Scorpio moon. That pretty much explains it all. I'm a Libra rising too btw. All my soft shy and feminine cancer placements gets in my way for pursuing a male model career.

Also I wasn't laughing to insult you or trying to take a dig at you or anything. I just find Virgo men in general to be funny. I know tons of them that are hilarious, but in a good way. I rolls with Virgo men not so much the women of that sign. This thread just made my day complete.


Yes, Libra rising ppl are very pretty I have found. Helps that I have a lot of Leo placements so Libra and Leos have a good connection as far as finding each other attractive. I used to be obsessed with this Libra sun guy and this other Virgo who had a lot of Libra placements. Both signs appreciate beauty.

I also get the shyness keeping you away from modeling. I dabled in modeling and acting when I was a teenager but my shyness really stopped me from pursuing it. I went as far as getting accepted to a modeling and acting agency and getting professional photo shoots for my portfolio but my shyness really kept me from going further. I kick myself a lot for that. Ah well. Such is life. You gotta go where it takes you.
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Well. The only thing I did close to pursuing it was cross dress as a little kid where I slipped on one of my Gemini sister dresses. In fact all us boys did that to be funny. Kids of course do the darnedest things. But I'm not gonna cross dress now and sure as hell won't make a career out of it either.
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Posted by blackphvse

You guys are funny. That would be awkward af for me. I'd definitely have a hard time not laughing at a guy if he did that in front of me. Lmao


Ikr? I'm laughing now. And a Virgo dude at that too......bwahahahahaha

Dxp doesn't get any better than this


He's a Virgo but he has a Scorpio moon and a Libra rising. Sexy AF. Plus, he did it professionally so it's not like he'd be just making shit up as he went along, he knows what he is doing.

Yeah I'd probably laugh but I'd love it too.


Ohhh so that's where he get this from I see. Scorpio moon. That pretty much explains it all. I'm a Libra rising too btw. All my soft shy and feminine cancer placements gets in my way for pursuing a male model career.

Also I wasn't laughing to insult you or trying to take a dig at you or anything. I just find Virgo men in general to be funny. I know tons of them that are hilarious, but in a good way. I rolls with Virgo men not so much the women of that sign. This thread just made my day complete.


Yes, Libra rising ppl are very pretty I have found. Helps that I have a lot of Leo placements so Libra and Leos have a good connection as far as finding each other attractive. I used to be obsessed with this Libra sun guy and this other Virgo who had a lot of Libra placements. Both signs appreciate beauty.

I also get the shyness keeping you away from modeling. I dabled in modeling and acting when I was a teenager but my shyness really stopped me from pursuing it. I went as far as getting accepted to a modeling and acting agency and getting professional photo shoots for my portfolio but my shyness really kept me from going further. I kick myself a lot for that. Ah well. Such is life. You gotta go where it takes you.


Well. The only thing I did close to pursuing it was cross dress as a little kid where I slipped on one of my Gemini sister dresses. In fact all us boys did that to be funny. Kids of course do the darnedest things. But I'm not gonna cross dress now and sure as hell won't make a career out of it either.
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I'm sure a lot of guys have done that but won't admit it.
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Posted by blackphvse

You guys are funny. That would be awkward af for me. I'd definitely have a hard time not laughing at a guy if he did that in front of me. Lmao


Ikr? I'm laughing now. And a Virgo dude at that too......bwahahahahaha

Dxp doesn't get any better than this


He's a Virgo but he has a Scorpio moon and a Libra rising. Sexy AF. Plus, he did it professionally so it's not like he'd be just making shit up as he went along, he knows what he is doing.

Yeah I'd probably laugh but I'd love it too.


Ohhh so that's where he get this from I see. Scorpio moon. That pretty much explains it all. I'm a Libra rising too btw. All my soft shy and feminine cancer placements gets in my way for pursuing a male model career.

Also I wasn't laughing to insult you or trying to take a dig at you or anything. I just find Virgo men in general to be funny. I know tons of them that are hilarious, but in a good way. I rolls with Virgo men not so much the women of that sign. This thread just made my day complete.


Yes, Libra rising ppl are very pretty I have found. Helps that I have a lot of Leo placements so Libra and Leos have a good connection as far as finding each other attractive. I used to be obsessed with this Libra sun guy and this other Virgo who had a lot of Libra placements. Both signs appreciate beauty.

I also get the shyness keeping you away from modeling. I dabled in modeling and acting when I was a teenager but my shyness really stopped me from pursuing it. I went as far as getting accepted to a modeling and acting agency and getting professional photo shoots for my portfolio but my shyness really kept me from going further. I kick myself a lot for that. Ah well. Such is life. You gotta go where it takes you.


Well. The only thing I did close to pursuing it was cross dress as a little kid where I slipped on one of my Gemini sister dresses. In fact all us boys did that to be funny. Kids of course do the darnedest things. But I'm not gonna cross dress now and sure as hell won't make a career out of it either.


I'm sure a lot of guys have done that but won't admit it.
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Yeah that's what I don't understand about people. So scared and ashame to admit anything. If maybe I had some fire in my chart I probably would pursue a career in comedian. I really do love to make people laugh and love to see people have a good time.

And I'm not ashame to admit I would love to follow in the shadow of my idol martin Lawrence where he made a successful career as a cross dressing comedian. If I was extrovert and fiery.
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Posted by OnigenZ

Respect boundaries. Stop trying to get him to do what he doesnt want to do.


If the genders in this scenario were reversed then OP would be a creepy rapist.


Why? Because I want a lap dance? I feel if the roles were reversed and I was a guy asking for a lap dance everyone would be OK with it and tell me to break up with her since she's a prude and can't satisfy my sexual desires and to find someone who I'm more sexually compatible with.

Its a lap dance. I'm not forcing him to go down on me or strapping on a dildo so I can ass rape him. I'm asking him, and trying to convince him to do it since it is a fantasy. Just like he has fantasies that he has asked me to fulfill. He has to convince me to do some of them too.
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I'm just saying, if a dude came on here asking for advice on how to get his ex to fulfill a fantasy he's already said no to the women on this site would clown his ass.
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