The breakup. That escalated quickly...

Posted by evermour
My scorpio finally called it quits after 2 months ...........
I found out he cheated within the last few weeks.
..............................
Is it ok to ice out a scorpio?

Posted by tiziani
"I don't want to see him but I still do want to be friends eventually"

^ Manipulation. If you're not good at it, don't do it. Otherwise this is what happens.

Posted by xygeneration

Posted by evermour
My scorpio finally called it quits after 2 months of being mopey and in his shell.
still wanted to be friends but needed time.
I found out he cheated within the last few weeks.
Confronted him,
Denial, turns himself into the victim again.
Lies, drama, lies.
Said never speak to him again/see him/ go to his house.
texts me later says he wants a gift he gave me back and some clothes he left
and hes coming friday to pick it up.
I dont want to see him, I dont want to look at him.
I do still want to be his friend eventually,
but I dont feel like I owe him being here.
Is it ok to ice out a scorpio?
because any calm conversation I try to have with him, he just twists it into a victimized fight.

Yup. Apologizes and takes it right back? Dont say anything, let the guilt sink in deep. The more you talk, the more he'll find reasons to justify his actions.

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Posted by LunarMaiden

Posted by evermour
My scorpio finally called it quits after 2 months ...........
I found out he cheated within the last few weeks.
..............................
Is it ok to ice out a scorpio?

Are you seriously asking if it's okay to stop talking to someone who cheated on you and dumped you?
Are you a Ram or a Lamb?
Where is the fire?
At this point he should be quaking in his boots because you just held a knife to his genitals.
Delete, ignore and run!

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Posted by xygeneration
Ugh. post fail.
Dont bank on him realizing anything. The ego takes up a lot of space.

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Posted by LunarMaiden

Posted by evermour
My scorpio finally called it quits after 2 months ...........
I found out he cheated within the last few weeks.
..............................
Is it ok to ice out a scorpio?

Are you seriously asking if it's okay to stop talking to someone who cheated on you and dumped you?
Are you a Ram or a Lamb?
Where is the fire?
At this point he should be quaking in his boots because you just held a knife to his genitals.
Delete, ignore and run!

I guess I'm too old to be on here. It seems like today that sex is just . . . like a meal you share.
smh If my woman cheated on me, she would be dead in my eyes.
But I'm just an old fuddy-dud.

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Posted by evermour
Mr.Firebird- Yeah he was emotionally immature during the whole relationship.. I just thought logical and clear communication would be enough to level it all out.

Lol. How does he react?

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Posted by djbuck1

Posted by LunarMaiden

Posted by evermour
My scorpio finally called it quits after 2 months ...........
I found out he cheated within the last few weeks.
..............................
Is it ok to ice out a scorpio?

Are you seriously asking if it's okay to stop talking to someone who cheated on you and dumped you?
Are you a Ram or a Lamb?
Where is the fire?
At this point he should be quaking in his boots because you just held a knife to his genitals.
Delete, ignore and run!

I guess I'm too old to be on here. It seems like today that sex is just . . . like a meal you share.
smh If my woman cheated on me, she would be dead in my eyes.
But I'm just an old fuddy-dud.

how old are ya, djbuck???

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Posted by tiziani

Posted by evermour

Posted by tiziani
"I don't want to see him but I still do want to be friends eventually"

^ Manipulation. If you're not good at it, don't do it. Otherwise this is what happens.

I was ok to be friends the whole time. I care enough about him.
But after the cheating thing, and how he tried to justify it...
I probably need some space too.
I DO need it.
Still care, want to be able to just hang out someday.
But hes still just trying to pick fights with me.
No manipulation.. It just hurts for him to try and fight and play tug of war with me.
I dont need it right now.. I have finals next week

Sorry that "manipulation" is such a dirty word around here but that is what you're doing. Plea bargaining for a new relationship with the guy whilst asking him to accept responsibility for the fact that it's over.
Which one is it? That you identify yourself as someone who's friends stay loyal to them? Or that this is how you would like to be treated and see a future in it?
It would be emotional mature to accept his behaviour towards you for what it is and either decide whether it's over or not. The half and half stuff is plea bargaining. People do it to avoid a loss they see coming. I do too, even if I try to do so less and less nowadays.

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Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Immature + Egotistical = Move on out...STAT!
Bad, very bad. You might not see it as manipulative games, trust us Scorps, it could very well turn into one and it would never end nice, never. One word-------
RUN

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Posted by MrFirebird

Posted by djbuck1

Posted by LunarMaiden

Posted by evermour
My scorpio finally called it quits after 2 months ...........
I found out he cheated within the last few weeks.
..............................
Is it ok to ice out a scorpio?

Are you seriously asking if it's okay to stop talking to someone who cheated on you and dumped you?
Are you a Ram or a Lamb?
Where is the fire?
At this point he should be quaking in his boots because you just held a knife to his genitals.
Delete, ignore and run!

I guess I'm too old to be on here. It seems like today that sex is just . . . like a meal you share.
smh If my woman cheated on me, she would be dead in my eyes.
But I'm just an old fuddy-dud.

how old are ya, djbuck???

Three years older than dirt Firebird, and certainly old enough to be her father. My avatar is pretty accurate age-wise, though my Blues never looked that good on me!

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Posted by MrFirebird

Posted by djbuck1

Posted by LunarMaiden

Posted by evermour
My scorpio finally called it quits after 2 months ...........
I found out he cheated within the last few weeks.
..............................
Is it ok to ice out a scorpio?

Are you seriously asking if it's okay to stop talking to someone who cheated on you and dumped you?
Are you a Ram or a Lamb?
Where is the fire?
At this point he should be quaking in his boots because you just held a knife to his genitals.
Delete, ignore and run!

I guess I'm too old to be on here. It seems like today that sex is just . . . like a meal you share.
smh If my woman cheated on me, she would be dead in my eyes.
But I'm just an old fuddy-dud.

how old are ya, djbuck???

Three years older than dirt Firebird, and certainly old enough to be her father. My avatar is pretty accurate age-wise, though my Blues never looked that good on me!

Dirt's not that old. Of course, you know... Duke's blues only looked that good because he was a propaganda puppet.
Come now, how old are ya?

Maybe we should start a poll. Go look at my pic.

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Posted by tiziani
It's good to care but that doesn't make you his friend. Be careful about throwing the friend word around because it actually involves accepting someone for who they are right now, not who they could be.
"I accept that its over..
and could accept the new boundaries of friendship. and have once before before HE broke them."
^Reminds me of someone I once heard from 50 cent of all people
"I don't try and patch relationships because - when they fall apart and you have no idea what you did for them to be over - that means you wouldn't even have to be involved for them to fall apart all over again."

Posted by xygeneration
OH POOR HIM. YOU MIGHT AS WELL CUT HIS BALLS AND YOU WEAR IT.
He didnt give a shit about you. if you decide to keep him as a friend, keep him at arms length.

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Posted by evermour

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Immature + Egotistical = Move on out...STAT!
Bad, very bad. You might not see it as manipulative games, trust us Scorps, it could very well turn into one and it would never end nice, never. One word-------
RUN

He's been playing games from the minute he fell in love with me.
Immature+ Egotistical+ Insecure

No offense, but this isn't what love looks like.

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Posted by Nemesis

Posted by evermour

Posted by tiziani
It's good to care but that doesn't make you his friend. Be careful about throwing the friend word around because it actually involves accepting someone for who they are right now, not who they could be.
"I accept that its over..
and could accept the new boundaries of friendship. and have once before before HE broke them."
^Reminds me of someone I once heard from 50 cent of all people
"I don't try and patch relationships because - when they fall apart and you have no idea what you did for them to be over - that means you wouldn't even have to be involved for them to fall apart all over again."

HAHAHA thats why we need to be broken up.
And I do accept him.. When I found out about his immature bullshit he was pulling before the break up, I was sad, mad, and then accepted it at lightening speed.
I even told him. "call me, Im not mad, I still want to be your friend"
I think how calm I was about it is what enraged him even more...

thing is, you might be on that level of being able to be friends - don??t think scorpy is there yet....it??s misleading. i hate/love you kind of thing. ambivalent. ground for a lot of unexpected emotions.

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Posted by xygeneration
its going to look like you're the clinger and once he finds a fuck buddy or a gf he'll say you're the crazy one who wont leave his ass alone.

Posted by evermour

Posted by xygeneration
its going to look like you're the clinger and once he finds a fuck buddy or a gf he'll say you're the crazy one who wont leave his ass alone.

I doubt it. Ill probably have a bf or just not care by then.

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Posted by evermour

Posted by tiziani
"I don't want to see him but I still do want to be friends eventually"

^ Manipulation. If you're not good at it, don't do it. Otherwise this is what happens.

I was ok to be friends the whole time. I care enough about him.
But after the cheating thing, and how he tried to justify it...
I probably need some space too.
I DO need it.
Still care, want to be able to just hang out someday.
But hes still just trying to pick fights with me.
No manipulation.. It just hurts for him to try and fight and play tug of war with me.
I dont need it right now.. I have finals next week

Sorry that "manipulation" is such a dirty word around here but that is what you're doing. Plea bargaining for a new relationship with the guy whilst asking him to accept responsibility for the fact that it's over.
Which one is it? That you identify yourself as someone who's friends stay loyal to them? Or that this is how you would like to be treated and see a future in it?
It would be emotional mature to accept his behaviour towards you for what it is and either decide whether it's over or not. The half and half stuff is plea bargaining. People do it to avoid a loss they see coming.

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Posted by evermour

Posted by xygeneration
its going to look like you're the clinger and once he finds a fuck buddy or a gf he'll say you're the crazy one who wont leave his ass alone.

I doubt it. Ill probably have a bf or just not care by then.

You see, that is what he was, probably, foreseeing, ALREADY.
A Scorpio man can see things far ahead. Whereas he may be immature in one area, he may be quite developed in
another.

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Posted by CluelessCancer
Wait he cheated on you and you still want to be friends? Call me clueless, how is that possible?

Posted by LIBRA1234
Why do u want him as a friend? U should kick him out of his life completely. He was not nice to u, why do u want to have something toxic around. I would completely understand if he was nice to u and respected u as a friend, and u want to keep that, but your situation is different. He is not your friend, he is a douche

Posted by evermour

Posted by MrFirebird

Posted by evermour

Posted by xygeneration
its going to look like you're the clinger and once he finds a fuck buddy or a gf he'll say you're the crazy one who wont leave his ass alone.

I doubt it. Ill probably have a bf or just not care by then.

You see, that is what he was, probably, foreseeing, ALREADY.
A Scorpio man can see things far ahead. Whereas he may be immature in one area, he may be quite developed in
another.

Well when he broke up, I told him id wait for him. that i was still his.
When i found out he cheated... that offer was off the table.
and yeah I'll probably care when he finds a gf or something..
but by then I'll have already come to terms with everything.
it doesnt take clairvoyance, its just common sense.
Im not going to pine away for someone who doesnt deserve it.

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Posted by IntriguedScorp
I know you probably won't want to hear this, but I HIGHLY doubt it escalated quickly. From what I remember about your story, you did something that let the Scorp feel betrayed, right? Go back to that moment and recall everything this guy has said since then. Within it all you will see that he has been slowly letting you go. However, at one point, well HEY you gatta either shit or get off the pot so he's doing that and now it seems "quick." Just saying.
Carry on...

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Posted by xygeneration
its going to look like you're the clinger and once he finds a fuck buddy or a gf he'll say you're the crazy one who wont leave his ass alone.

I doubt it. Ill probably have a bf or just not care by then.

You see, that is what he was, probably, foreseeing, ALREADY.
A Scorpio man can see things far ahead. Whereas he may be immature in one area, he may be quite developed in
another.

Well when he broke up, I told him id wait for him. that i was still his.
When i found out he cheated... that offer was off the table.
and yeah I'll probably care when he finds a gf or something..
but by then I'll have already come to terms with everything.
it doesnt take clairvoyance, its just common sense.
Im not going to pine away for someone who doesnt deserve it.

I think you may have misunderstood. My bad for not clarifying. (was also writing elsewhere)
What I am saying to you is that some men are able to see so far ahead, in advance that the woman
would think he is crazy. Then... one day... it turns out to be true.
That's not to justify his cheating on you, but may explain why he didn't take you seriously.
You may have said or done something while you two were together, or, perhaps..., even before you
two became intimate. On the other hand... he may be one of those Scorpios who has written off
serious commitments altogether, for whatever reason.

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Posted by LunarMaiden

Posted by evermour
My scorpio finally called it quits after 2 months ...........
I found out he cheated within the last few weeks.
..............................
Is it ok to ice out a scorpio?

Are you seriously asking if it's okay to stop talking to someone who cheated on you and dumped you?
Are you a Ram or a Lamb?
Where is the fire?
At this point he should be quaking in his boots because you just held a knife to his genitals.
Delete, ignore and run!

Damn! the Ram looks weak. Thank god we got killers in our zodiac, cause I aint no punk man. I will shred your balls for breakfast.

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Posted by evermour

Posted by MrFirebird

Posted by evermour

Posted by MrFirebird

Posted by evermour

Posted by xygeneration
its going to look like you're the clinger and once he finds a fuck buddy or a gf he'll say you're the crazy one who wont leave his ass alone.

I doubt it. Ill probably have a bf or just not care by then.

You see, that is what he was, probably, foreseeing, ALREADY.
A Scorpio man can see things far ahead. Whereas he may be immature in one area, he may be quite developed in
another.

Well when he broke up, I told him id wait for him. that i was still his.
When i found out he cheated... that offer was off the table.
and yeah I'll probably care when he finds a gf or something..
but by then I'll have already come to terms with everything.
it doesnt take clairvoyance, its just common sense.
Im not going to pine away for someone who doesnt deserve it.

I think you may have misunderstood. My bad for not clarifying. (was also writing elsewhere)
What I am saying to you is that some men are able to see so far ahead, in advance that the woman
would think he is crazy. Then... one day... it turns out to be true.
That's not to justify his cheating on you, but may explain why he didn't take you seriously.
You may have said or done something while you two were together, or, perhaps..., even before you
two became intimate. On the other hand... he may be one of those Scorpios who has written off
serious commitments altogether, for whatever reason.

He was serious. But super insecure possessive sensitive and egotistical.
I tried to compromise and accommodate him but it just wasnt enough in the end.
So by the falling out he didnt care too much about keeping fidelity.
I understand, but he's blowing up over it.. Im very confused.

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